Telling a Lie to your partner

[ghosthunter]

If a girl broke up with a guy and the guy doesn't call the girl for 2 weeks, does that mean that the guy forget about the girl already and that the girl could start dating other guys?

Kasi what if the guy and girl always "break up" but the guy ALWAYS calls before a week passes by eh how will the girl know that the guy had it with her na/he won't call anymore?

Depends on how they "understand" each other.

It because one time I had a girl break up with me with the understanding I will not be calling her or any other means of contact with her since she was the one who wanted it. I am not going to beg her or similar to ask her to "come back". Four months later, I suddenly got a call from her asking if I still liked to get back with her.

[Lucius]

To my understanding, the guy has already moved on and found someone better or more attractive

There were girls in the past I didn't bother calling after a breakup, whether in a good or bad way. Like GH said, situation was like understood na. But in some cases like I usually encounter, nawalan ako ng gana and will just suddenly get out of their lives.

Pero pag may namiss ako, syempre text text :D

[_Cathy_]

Kasi naman in the 3 years that we were together I'd always break up with him but he doesn't let a week pass without calling me. It's been more than 2 weeks already and he didn't even call to greet a Merry Christmas. I never thought it would end this way. I even bought gifts for his family during our break up period. Nakakainis lang kasi the reason I broke up with him was because I wanted him to find a job. It's for his own good naman eh. So ngayon siya pa galit???

Naalala ko tuloy yung sabi ni ULS about your BF/GF being like a daily diary. SO hard that I have nobody to share my thoughts with anymore. Sometimes I feel retarded coz I would just imagine that I am talking to him.

[Lucius]

Seems like the unemployed guy already got tired. Your intentions were good, same case with my barkada and his ex-girlfriend.

Ex-gf kept pushing him, he got tired out of it and broke up with her. Now they're just FB's and the girl, of course still head over heels to him.

[_Cathy_]

Ang hindi ko matanggap ay mukhang minasama pa niya yung kagustuhan ko na magka trabajo siya. Sayang talaga naghintay ako ng halos 4 na taon akala ko magbabago siya, mapupunta din pala sa wala.

[Lucius]

Same thing happened with my friends. I'm close even with the ex. I really see her effort, but there are certain things you can't change and that doesn't mean the other person doesn't love you. Accept it that way. The more pushy you get, the more the partner will get pissed and then get tired and leave you.

Happened to you, happened to my friends. Pag pinilit talagang may masamang mangyayari. Sad but true. Tignan mo ngayon, ung girl ung iyak ng iyak.

[ab_initio]

Let her be the villain for him forever. At least she got what she wanted.

Move on, but don't do it again, okay?....

5909:burn:

+1.

when you lie stick to it, til the last drop of your blood. unless of course, your friend wants the man back...the possibility of them together again. otherwise, the guy's rage or hatred would just die down...time heals. the guy would eventually forget the pain. once you turn your back don't ever go back...IMO lang po.

[ghosthunter]

Ang hindi ko matanggap ay mukhang minasama pa niya yung kagustuhan ko na magka trabajo siya. Sayang talaga naghintay ako ng halos 4 na taon akala ko magbabago siya, mapupunta din pala sa wala.

Even with good intentions, if the guy doesn't want to follow your "advise", more "incentives" would just go to the "nagging" basket. Once he gets full of your "advise" and "incentives", he would find a way to get out of the relationship.

Your intentions might be for the best but you can't make a guy like to work if he doesn't have the inner drive to work. He would just resent it everyday he would be working and would be worst if he really hates the job because it would end up with him resenting you.

[ab_initio]

Kasi naman in the 3 years that we were together I'd always break up with him but he doesn't let a week pass without calling me. It's been more than 2 weeks already and he didn't even call to greet a Merry Christmas. I never thought it would end this way. I even bought gifts for his family during our break up period. Nakakainis lang kasi the reason I broke up with him was because I wanted him to find a job. It's for his own good naman eh. So ngayon siya pa galit???

a man, a partner for that matter, must embark on some undertakings that would make you see him as an empowered partner. one source of his empowerment is the fact that he is able to bring in more money to his purse. it's always important that you're dealing with an empowered man. empowered men make good husbands. no issues e. but when you are already with him, try helping him build his capabilities, not just nag him to find a job. expose him to these opportunities.

empowerment, as i see it, emanates from one's self-confidence, self-respect, and self-worth. IMO lang...

[_Cathy_]

I never nagged him. That's why we went on for almost 4 YEARS and he never found a job despite my telling him that it would be good for him and his future. He would also ask me to submit his resume to companies that he likes (mukhang pakitang tao lang) but then he has so many conditions like he has to like the nature of the job, the company, the location and the list goes on.

I guess GH is right, even if he finds a job, he might just end up resenting me. Sayang lang. He's a good guy but he's lazy. He probably doesn't want to work talaga kasi right after college he worked for 2 years only to get qualified for master's then after he finished, he never worked again. It's been more than 10 years. What a terrible waste of talent and intellect.

It also hurts for me to know that he loves his lifestyle (sleep til 12 pm then eat then work out then read books then sleep) more than he loves me. I am also worried about his future. All his siblings have jobs and he's the only one who still depends on his parents (he's in his mid 30s). His parents won't live forever and even if he gets an inheritance from his parents, that money could only last for so long. I wouldn't want him to live a miserable life when he grows old. I really do not get him at all.

[ab_initio]

^^when you are in love, you're just too willing to struggle with your man. but with that kind of guy, brace yourself...life's gonna be a painful struggle. if there's anything, be grateful that you got out of love alive. imo.

[uls]

tama lang naman na i-nag ni Cathy ang ex nya para maghanap ng trabaho

ang panget kaya tingnan ang isang couple na ang babae may trabaho at ang lalake tambay

oo sige, may Masters yung lalake.

So what?

imagine... in a social gathering,

Cathy introduces her BF...

"Hey guys, this is _________"

"what does he do?"

"He's not really doing anything right now... pero may Masters degree sya"

haha

[_Cathy_]

So I should just let him go without closure?

Nagaalala lang talaga ako sa kanya, kung hindi siya magbabago kawawa siya at ang parents niya.

[uls]

he's a freaking educated grown man

don't worry about his future

he won't end up on the sidewalk begging for money

he probably has a "plan"

hehe

as for his parents, don't worry about them...

may ibang anak naman parents nya na pwede asahan

[_Cathy_]

He's an educated man in his mid-30's with no work experience. He refuses to work for a call center or any job that is clerical in nature. I cannot think of a company who would hire a man in his mid 30s for an entry level job unless he has a backer. He doesn't want to ask help from his friends and family because he has too much pride. But then again, where's the pride in being jobless?

So should I just let him go? I don't wanna call him up since I broke up with him. I never realised that losing my daily diary would be excruciating.

[uls]

He's an educated man in his mid-30's with no work experience. He refuses to work for a call center or any job that is clerical in nature. I cannot think of a company who would hire a man in his mid 30s for an entry level job unless he has a backer. He doesn't want to ask help from his friends and family because he has too much pride. But then again, where's the pride in being jobless?

So should I just let him go? Hassle naman if I'm the one who broke up with him tapos I'll be the one to call diba?

diba you already broke up with him?

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So should I just let him go? I don't wanna call him up since I broke up with him. I never realised that losing my daily diary would be excruciating.

but you will get over it

[ab_initio]

So I should just let him go without closure?

Nagaalala lang talaga ako sa kanya, kung hindi siya magbabago kawawa siya at ang parents niya.

IMO lang. don't ever believe in closure, don't ever ask for it. time heals...only time gives you a graceful closure.

go back to the dating tracks...IMO

[shadow]

cathy, I re-read this thread and sa start yun "friend" mo ang sabi mo meron problema about her jobless Bf, now ikaw na yun girl sa story mo?

[ab_initio]

tama lang naman na i-nag ni Cathy ang ex nya para maghanap ng trabaho

ang panget kaya tingnan ang isang couple na ang babae may trabaho at ang lalake tambay

oo sige, may Masters yung lalake.

So what?

imagine... in a social gathering,

Cathy introduces her BF...

"Hey guys, this is _________"

"what does he do?"

"He's not really doing anything right now... pero may Masters degree sya"

haha

hahaha!rofl....^^TRUE, Miss Cath.

mahirap siyang i defend sa circle mo kung sakali...siyempre mga kamag anak mo magtatanong...what a big blow to his ego...tis gonna eat him,,,

[ab_initio]

cathy, I re-read this thread and sa start yun "friend" mo ang sabi mo meron problema about her jobless Bf, now ikaw na yun girl sa story mo?

hahaha!shadow! rofl!!! magiging daddy na siya!!!!