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July 14th, 2007 09:19 PM #21But, I've seen more than one adult living with their parents who were treated like they were still a kid.
Rather than teaching their kids how to handle life, the parents seem to want to never let the child leave. No one teaches them how to talk to other people (a representative from their business would always transact on their behalf for even the simplest things like LTO, BIR, SSS, etc.). Up to now they have to wait for an 'electrician' to replace busted lightbulbs. :lol:
I really appreciate growing up in an environment where my parents were just like good pals. When kimpOy saw my dad, he though my dad was my kuya.
Even my wife seems to think it's better to be away from the parents.
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July 14th, 2007 09:54 PM #22
Well you know, they're parents. They will do what they think is best. It could be a pain sometimes like in my case. Even so, I know my mom only wanted to do what she thinks is best for me. I do have her blood. So, I'm equally stubborn in living my own life.
Being a parent myself, I may see myself in my parents' shoes years from now. I keep telling my daughter, "When you're 18, you're out the door". Of course, I'm just saying that. She can stay with us as long as she wants once she becomes an adult. But, we'll always be ready to help her out when she does move out.
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July 14th, 2007 10:00 PM #23its ok naman for a single guy to live with his parents as long as he knows to share certain responsibilities like bills, chores...etc..well if the family is well-off na may mga maids mas ok.
pero ang di ko ma-stomach is yung may sarili ka nang pamilya e nakatira ka pa sa kanila..
it could be the other way around tho..at least ikaw ang tumatayong padre de pamilya..
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July 16th, 2007 07:26 PM #24
This is exactly what my friend feels inside. His father is dictatorial. His mother is very controlling. He feels he cannot live his own life. His parents are always meddling with his decision still treating him like a 10 yr old boy. Also his mother is a prima donna type who loves the high and the mighty. She would always question who his friends are if they are rich enough to be worthy of his son's friendship. She keeps on pushing a friend's girl for him to court and marry because the girl is rich.
My friend feels quite suffocated in this setup but there are perks or tradeoffs. You let them control you, you follow their rules and be an obedient boy and you would be rewarded with material perks ..say a nice Porsche cayeanne for him to drive around + another 5million car of his choice, a comfortable house with maids and driver at your beck and call, trip to the US and EUrope and other countries of his choice at least 3 times a year, sumptuous and delicious food eat out at the classiest resto in town, no worries about money, taxes, obligations everything would be taken cared off. The thing however for my friend is that he needs to hand them his balls in exchange for all these.
Lets consider the opposite. Get out and live his own life he would be able to buy himself a second hand corolla, he needs to pay his electric water phone internet cable bills on his own. He would have to budget 300/day for his fastfood meals. Wash his own laundry, clean his car, clean the house Probably get out of the country once a year to hongkong through budget airfares. When he needs to leave his car in the casa would need to take a taxi back home. But he would be more fullfilled and happy I believe thats what I advised him.
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July 16th, 2007 07:54 PM #25
Sounds like my life story except we're not that rich plus my Dad has been a really good influence to me and backed up every decision I've made thus far. Needless to say, I chose the harder course and haven't regretted a second of it. That's just me though. I have had a very strong sense of independence even when I was young. It's up to him if he wants to stay with his folks. Who knows? It may not turn out all bad. But if one wants to live life to the fullest, one has to go out on his own. I did that and experienced so many things that money cannot replace. And I'm still relatively young. If I died today, I'd die a happy man because I've done a lot of things I wanted to do which wouldn't have been possible if I still lived with my folks.
Last edited by Jun aka Pekto; July 16th, 2007 at 07:57 PM.
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July 16th, 2007 08:45 PM #26
that's even way more than what most people have! pasensya na if i'm insensitive but it's hard to imagine na kawawa naman siya if he has to live this way.
but what i can imagine is that making that step out that door or even just telling the parents of his decision would be very difficult. Hope he finds himself and does what he believes is right.
on a side note, if he decides to leave, he shouldn't have to burn bridges unless he has enough moxy to do so if it's the only way to be himself. good luck to him.
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July 16th, 2007 09:04 PM #27Get out and live his own life he would be able to buy himself a second hand corolla, he needs to pay his electric water phone internet cable bills on his own. He would have to budget 300/day for his fastfood meals. Wash his own laundry, clean his car, clean the house Probably get out of the country once a year to hongkong through budget airfares. When he needs to leave his car in the casa would need to take a taxi back home. But he would be more fullfilled and happy I believe thats what I advised him.
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July 16th, 2007 09:22 PM #28
Wealth aside for a moment...... What difference would it make if the guy lived in his own apartment/condo rather than at home with his parents unless the parents want to maintain control? I can see it happening if he's a young adult with no job or is still studying. But, if the guy has the means to support himself even if it means enduring some hardships, by all means, he should live his own life. The parents can help if they want. But, they should let their son stumble a bit because how else is he going to learn the facts of life? I mean look at my Dad. His method of teaching me how to swim was to throw me bodily into the shark-infested (at least I thought it was) waters of the South China Sea. If I didn't start floating, I'm going down. of course, I'm sure he must've been ready to bail me out in case I couldn't hack it. His Dad should give him the opportunity to try living on his own. And he should give room for failure because no one's perfect.
Last edited by Jun aka Pekto; July 16th, 2007 at 09:29 PM.
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July 17th, 2007 12:07 AM #29
kung kaya naman, live alone. kung kaya financially, get a condo.
and like what others said, dalaw sa folks every now and then. dun na dalhin yung labahin.. hehehehe
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July 17th, 2007 12:25 AM #30nothing wrong with this scenario. masyado atang rich kid ang kaibigan mo, nawalan tuloy ng spine. napaisip tuloy ako: ganun ba talaga ka-importante ang porsche cayenne? nasa pangalan ba niya ang cayenne? o hinihiram lang niya sa magulang niya? at the end of the day, e sasakyan lang din yun (at hindi pa kanya -- pag naisipan ng may-ari ibenta yun, anong magagawa niya?). pardon me pero medyo mababaw ata kaligayahan niya.
there was a time i had this really great suv for a day. british made. full options. start mo ang engine, umaangat ang sasakyan. ang ganda talaga. then i got stuck in traffic. 45 minutes in traffic and guess what? you're still in traffic like the average dude. the novelty of this great suv dropped like a rock really quick.
watch the kids selling garlands on the street when they are playing amongst themselves. their smiles and laughter are truly authentic. will your friend get that from a cayenne? poor rich kid. if he can find happiness in material possessions, then i'm happy for him. tell him to stay with his folks. at least siya, nabibili ang kaligayahan niya. madaling abutin.
from francisco balagtas: "ang laki sa layaw karaniwa'y hubad."
note: what's wrong with flying budget? ang ganda kaya ng budget terminal ng singapore. does he regularly fly business class or, gasp!, first class? i honestly didn't find any difference between PAL's coach and cebu pac's seats (except for the snacks). but if you're going to hongkong, what's the use? isang oras lang ang flight. baka hindi pa niya matapos basahin ang magazine e pa-landing na ang eroplano.
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