Is Life Harder for Physically Unattractive People?

[niky]

Speaking from both sides of the coin...

When I was a kid, I had decent looks. Well... I think I was cute... and life was good. When I grew older, I grew fat. By thirteen I was 200 pounds. Picked on, discriminated against, bullied, etcetera. My genes kicked in, and I got big, fleshy lips (at the time, Filipinos had a thing against ethnic negros, so big lips were a big disadvantage) and a big nose. I was actually able to go to bars that would turn away my older cousins.

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I was depressed, angry and feeling isolated.

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So I went to the gym, dropped fifty pounds and improved myself. I still wasn't classically handsome, but I found more favor with the girls than before, I was in with the popular crowd and my personality changed... improved. Nowadays, I'm back to the 200+ pound range, but that improvement in personality and outlook stayed... I find making friends easier, and I make a better impression on the ladies. Also helps that my face finally looks my age.

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A lot of how you look and how people treat you for that shapes your personality. The Philippines is a cruel, cruel place. People will call you "negro" or "intsik" or "pandak"... sometimes to your face. If you're overweight, they'll be bluntly insulting about it. They'll comment on your looks and make decisions based on them. Of course, if you have a good personality you can make up for that, but if you are never given a chance to develop that personality... well...

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I'll admit, I used to be shallow like that... when I was a kid. As a teenager, growing from an unattractive tween into a decent-looking teen (and if you ask certain girls, like my wife, handsome daw... hahaha... never saw it), I learned how to look beyond looks to see personality. of people. But a lot of people don't. Which is why we have celebrity culture centered around pretty looking but pretty shallow people.

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Life IS harder for unattractive people. It's not something you realize until you've been one.

[MR_BIG18]

Speaking from both sides of the coin...

When I was a kid, I had decent looks. Well... I think I was cute... and life was good. When I grew older, I grew fat. By thirteen I was 200 pounds. Picked on, discriminated against, bullied, etcetera. My genes kicked in, and I got big, fleshy lips (at the time, Filipinos had a thing against ethnic negros, so big lips were a big disadvantage) and a big nose. I was actually able to go to bars that would turn away my older cousins.

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I was depressed, angry and feeling isolated.

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So I went to the gym, dropped fifty pounds and improved myself. I still wasn't classically handsome, but I found more favor with the girls than before, I was in with the popular crowd and my personality changed... improved. Nowadays, I'm back to the 200+ pound range, but that improvement in personality and outlook stayed... I find making friends easier, and I make a better impression on the ladies. Also helps that my face finally looks my age.

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A lot of how you look and how people treat you for that shapes your personality. The Philippines is a cruel, cruel place. People will call you "negro" or "intsik" or "pandak"... sometimes to your face. If you're overweight, they'll be bluntly insulting about it. They'll comment on your looks and make decisions based on them. Of course, if you have a good personality you can make up for that, but if you are never given a chance to develop that personality... well...

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I'll admit, I used to be shallow like that... when I was a kid. As a teenager, growing from an unattractive tween into a decent-looking teen (and if you ask certain girls, like my wife, handsome daw... hahaha... never saw it), I learned how to look beyond looks to see personality. of people. But a lot of people don't. Which is why we have celebrity culture centered around pretty looking but pretty shallow people.

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Life IS harder for unattractive people. It's not something you realize until you've been one.

200lbs doesnt seem too bad

[_Cathy_]

200lbs doesnt seem too bad

300 lbs cute pa nga e

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[Wh1stl3r]

Ha ha ha

Showed uls pics of my prettiest friends and cousins (which included a print ad model and college muse) None of them he found pretty. Mga mukhang boring daw. Hehehe.

Wala ako friend na mukhang malandi e [emoji14]

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Read somewhere that guys will always want a good girl who will be bad only for him (if you know what I mean), and girls will always want a bad guy who will be good only for her.

Mukhang ang type ni uls is yung girl na mukhang bad na kaagad.

[lowslowbenz]

Kaya pala ang hirap ng buhay ko ngayon ............

[uls]

Read somewhere that guys will always want a good girl who will be bad only for him (if you know what I mean), and girls will always want a bad guy who will be good only for her.

Mukhang ang type ni uls is yung girl na mukhang bad na kaagad.

haha

totoo naman na, physically, ang type ng lalake sa babae ung mukhang makasalanan hehe

or yung mukhang anghel pero makasalanan

[unmarked]

harder in what way ba?

The vast majority of people fit in the "normal" range. Maybe life can be easier for them attractive/artistahin, but unless nakakatakot talaga ang hitsura mo, then pasok ka sa norm. Out of a hundred na nakita mo na so far today, how many would you consider attractive? 5? 10? Attractive is the minority.

Unless you are missing a limb, a facial feature, midget, morbidly obese, have excess body parts, you are going to be fine. Its these people I mentioned that are suffering talaga, and it is sad and infuriating at the same time.

[uls]

Speaking from both sides of the coin...

When I was a kid, I had decent looks. Well... I think I was cute... and life was good. When I grew older, I grew fat. By thirteen I was 200 pounds. Picked on, discriminated against, bullied, etcetera. My genes kicked in, and I got big, fleshy lips (at the time, Filipinos had a thing against ethnic negros, so big lips were a big disadvantage) and a big nose. I was actually able to go to bars that would turn away my older cousins.

-

I was depressed, angry and feeling isolated.

-

So I went to the gym, dropped fifty pounds and improved myself. I still wasn't classically handsome, but I found more favor with the girls than before, I was in with the popular crowd and my personality changed... improved. Nowadays, I'm back to the 200+ pound range, but that improvement in personality and outlook stayed... I find making friends easier, and I make a better impression on the ladies. Also helps that my face finally looks my age.

-

A lot of how you look and how people treat you for that shapes your personality. The Philippines is a cruel, cruel place. People will call you "negro" or "intsik" or "pandak"... sometimes to your face. If you're overweight, they'll be bluntly insulting about it. They'll comment on your looks and make decisions based on them. Of course, if you have a good personality you can make up for that, but if you are never given a chance to develop that personality... well...

-

I'll admit, I used to be shallow like that... when I was a kid. As a teenager, growing from an unattractive tween into a decent-looking teen (and if you ask certain girls, like my wife, handsome daw... hahaha... never saw it), I learned how to look beyond looks to see personality. of people. But a lot of people don't. Which is why we have celebrity culture centered around pretty looking but pretty shallow people.

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Life IS harder for unattractive people. It's not something you realize until you've been one.

i like this post

[CruzeR911]

Life is easier to attractive people but I think looks have expiry date. Teens And early 20s you will prioritize good looks. As you grow older and wiser looks starts to weigh less than personality and financial capabilities..lol


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[uls]

pag attractive ka (regardless kung babae o lalake)...

people treat you better

people smile more at you

people are kind to you and assume you're nice

pag pangit ka...

people don't smile at you

people tend to be rude to you

people think may masama kang balak

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pag attractive ka, kahit may masama kang balak, hindi iisipin ng tao may masama kang balak

pag pangit ka, kahit may mabuti kang intensyon, iisipin ng tao may masama kang balak