Is Life Harder for Physically Unattractive People?

[_Cathy_]

I've tried to analyze why people like hating on people blessed with physical gifts, and the simplest answer is envy.

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I agree. Maybe that is why my officemate is hating on our cute officemate. He is so mistaken in saying that our cute officemate is favored for his looks. Cute officemate is favored because he really is hardworking. I don't even work with cute officemate in the same team, but once he heard me complain/talk to myself aloud about the busted light bulb near my area. Next thing I know, he sent an email (me on cc) to our building admin requesting for the replacement. That's initiative! And that's why I am not surprised he is one of the favorites of our VP. This is what dr d is saying, people with looks + brains + good attitude will go a long way

I don't hate good looking people, but I hate good looking people from lower income backgrounds (starlets, gold diggers, man whores, social climbers) who use other people for material gain. And I lose respect for their "victims" as well eg lawyer marrying a bold star/ fhm"model". It blows my mind when intelligent successful men fall for these types.

Naalala ko lang yung cashier sa parking near my office, ang cute and she is very nice to me. Around 5' tall, small face and feminine features. We always small talk. Bibigyan ko nga siya ng make up kasi natutuwa ako kanya I think she could be an fhm "model" or car show "model" if she wanted to but she chose to have a respectable job.

[dr. d]

one thing i have learned.
never assume that what i think is guwapo, is also guwapo to the females.
ilang beses na akong sinabihan ng, "yan yung guwapo sa iyo? bulag ka ba!"... or something to that effect.

[_Cathy_]

one thing i have learned.
never assume that what i think is guwapo, is also guwapo to the females.
ilang beses na akong sinabihan ng, "yan yung guwapo sa iyo? bulag ka ba!"... or something to that effect.

may kilala ako sa tsikot na bulag din hahaha!

[uls]

meron din ung maganda para sa babae pero walang appeal o dating sa lalake

[Jun aka Pekto]

I hate good looking people from lower income backgrounds (starlets, gold diggers, man whores, social climbers) who use other people for material gain. And I lose respect for their "victims" as well eg lawyer marrying a bold star/ fhm"model". It blows my mind when intelligent successful men fall for these types.

Why hate them at all when they didn't do anything to you personally? There are some Filipinas here who look like they could have been prostitutes in their past. Most are well-behaved and responsible. I treat them nice because they're nice to me and my family. The only thing I might grumble about is when they eat dried fish at our home. But, in the end, I let them have their fun.

[Wh1stl3r]

people will always look for a reason why some succeeded where they themselves, could not.
"and it's not a down-side, because i know i worked for it."

Yeah envy I guess. And it's easy to make a judgement call based on appearances. And most of the time the hardest thing to see is who the person is behind that body, that face. More so when we have to look at ourselves.

Admittedly, I didn't think very highly of people who achieved success because of their looks. But I've had an epiphany and realized that looks are a gift, just like brains, interpersonal skills, and whatnot.

And if we celebrate the success of a smart kid who was successful in school and eventually reached the top of the corporate ladder, we should also celebrate the success of a fair young lady who skyrocketed to fame.

I've tried to analyze why people like hating on people blessed with physical gifts, and the simplest answer is envy.

We all have our gifts, we all have our privileges (or lack thereof). It's what we do with the cards we've been dealt with that determines our success. We all have our own races to run.

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True. But it takes true strength of character to rise above personal biases, call every spade a spade, give credit where due and let your work speak for itself. A lot of people seem to get some false satisfaction from putting other people down one way or another just so they can feel better about themselves.

OT:
Somehow this thread reminded me of some credit grabbing corporate people I knew in the past who faked their way up the corporate ladder by putting their subordinates/coworkers under the bus.

[Wh1stl3r]

meron din ung maganda para sa babae pero walang appeal o dating sa lalake

Yan ba yung girl-crush or man-crush? Baka di lang nila type. Or conflicting signals sa gay-dar. Hehe.

[CVT]

may kilala ako sa tsikot na bulag din hahaha!

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[_Cathy_]

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Ha ha ha

Yan ba yung girl-crush or man-crush? Baka di lang nila type. Or conflicting signals sa gay-dar. Hehe.

Showed uls pics of my prettiest friends and cousins (which included a print ad model and college muse) None of them he found pretty. Mga mukhang boring daw. Hehehe.

Wala ako friend na mukhang malandi e [emoji14]

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[uls]

Ha ha ha

Showed uls pics of my prettiest friends and cousins (which included a print ad model and college muse) None of them he found pretty. Mga mukhang boring daw. Hehehe.

Wala ako friend na mukhang malandi e [emoji14]

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haha malandi

girls you find pretty are boring-looking eh

parang Lucy Torres

you know what i mean... maganda sa maganda... pero wala dating eh

[niky]

Speaking from both sides of the coin...

When I was a kid, I had decent looks. Well... I think I was cute... and life was good. When I grew older, I grew fat. By thirteen I was 200 pounds. Picked on, discriminated against, bullied, etcetera. My genes kicked in, and I got big, fleshy lips (at the time, Filipinos had a thing against ethnic negros, so big lips were a big disadvantage) and a big nose. I was actually able to go to bars that would turn away my older cousins.

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I was depressed, angry and feeling isolated.

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So I went to the gym, dropped fifty pounds and improved myself. I still wasn't classically handsome, but I found more favor with the girls than before, I was in with the popular crowd and my personality changed... improved. Nowadays, I'm back to the 200+ pound range, but that improvement in personality and outlook stayed... I find making friends easier, and I make a better impression on the ladies. Also helps that my face finally looks my age.

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A lot of how you look and how people treat you for that shapes your personality. The Philippines is a cruel, cruel place. People will call you "negro" or "intsik" or "pandak"... sometimes to your face. If you're overweight, they'll be bluntly insulting about it. They'll comment on your looks and make decisions based on them. Of course, if you have a good personality you can make up for that, but if you are never given a chance to develop that personality... well...

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I'll admit, I used to be shallow like that... when I was a kid. As a teenager, growing from an unattractive tween into a decent-looking teen (and if you ask certain girls, like my wife, handsome daw... hahaha... never saw it), I learned how to look beyond looks to see personality. of people. But a lot of people don't. Which is why we have celebrity culture centered around pretty looking but pretty shallow people.

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Life IS harder for unattractive people. It's not something you realize until you've been one.

[MR_BIG18]

Speaking from both sides of the coin...

When I was a kid, I had decent looks. Well... I think I was cute... and life was good. When I grew older, I grew fat. By thirteen I was 200 pounds. Picked on, discriminated against, bullied, etcetera. My genes kicked in, and I got big, fleshy lips (at the time, Filipinos had a thing against ethnic negros, so big lips were a big disadvantage) and a big nose. I was actually able to go to bars that would turn away my older cousins.

-

I was depressed, angry and feeling isolated.

-

So I went to the gym, dropped fifty pounds and improved myself. I still wasn't classically handsome, but I found more favor with the girls than before, I was in with the popular crowd and my personality changed... improved. Nowadays, I'm back to the 200+ pound range, but that improvement in personality and outlook stayed... I find making friends easier, and I make a better impression on the ladies. Also helps that my face finally looks my age.

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A lot of how you look and how people treat you for that shapes your personality. The Philippines is a cruel, cruel place. People will call you "negro" or "intsik" or "pandak"... sometimes to your face. If you're overweight, they'll be bluntly insulting about it. They'll comment on your looks and make decisions based on them. Of course, if you have a good personality you can make up for that, but if you are never given a chance to develop that personality... well...

-

I'll admit, I used to be shallow like that... when I was a kid. As a teenager, growing from an unattractive tween into a decent-looking teen (and if you ask certain girls, like my wife, handsome daw... hahaha... never saw it), I learned how to look beyond looks to see personality. of people. But a lot of people don't. Which is why we have celebrity culture centered around pretty looking but pretty shallow people.

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Life IS harder for unattractive people. It's not something you realize until you've been one.

200lbs doesnt seem too bad

[_Cathy_]

200lbs doesnt seem too bad

300 lbs cute pa nga e

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[Wh1stl3r]

Ha ha ha

Showed uls pics of my prettiest friends and cousins (which included a print ad model and college muse) None of them he found pretty. Mga mukhang boring daw. Hehehe.

Wala ako friend na mukhang malandi e [emoji14]

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Read somewhere that guys will always want a good girl who will be bad only for him (if you know what I mean), and girls will always want a bad guy who will be good only for her.

Mukhang ang type ni uls is yung girl na mukhang bad na kaagad.

[lowslowbenz]

Kaya pala ang hirap ng buhay ko ngayon ............

[uls]

Read somewhere that guys will always want a good girl who will be bad only for him (if you know what I mean), and girls will always want a bad guy who will be good only for her.

Mukhang ang type ni uls is yung girl na mukhang bad na kaagad.

haha

totoo naman na, physically, ang type ng lalake sa babae ung mukhang makasalanan hehe

or yung mukhang anghel pero makasalanan

[unmarked]

harder in what way ba?

The vast majority of people fit in the "normal" range. Maybe life can be easier for them attractive/artistahin, but unless nakakatakot talaga ang hitsura mo, then pasok ka sa norm. Out of a hundred na nakita mo na so far today, how many would you consider attractive? 5? 10? Attractive is the minority.

Unless you are missing a limb, a facial feature, midget, morbidly obese, have excess body parts, you are going to be fine. Its these people I mentioned that are suffering talaga, and it is sad and infuriating at the same time.

[uls]

Speaking from both sides of the coin...

When I was a kid, I had decent looks. Well... I think I was cute... and life was good. When I grew older, I grew fat. By thirteen I was 200 pounds. Picked on, discriminated against, bullied, etcetera. My genes kicked in, and I got big, fleshy lips (at the time, Filipinos had a thing against ethnic negros, so big lips were a big disadvantage) and a big nose. I was actually able to go to bars that would turn away my older cousins.

-

I was depressed, angry and feeling isolated.

-

So I went to the gym, dropped fifty pounds and improved myself. I still wasn't classically handsome, but I found more favor with the girls than before, I was in with the popular crowd and my personality changed... improved. Nowadays, I'm back to the 200+ pound range, but that improvement in personality and outlook stayed... I find making friends easier, and I make a better impression on the ladies. Also helps that my face finally looks my age.

-

A lot of how you look and how people treat you for that shapes your personality. The Philippines is a cruel, cruel place. People will call you "negro" or "intsik" or "pandak"... sometimes to your face. If you're overweight, they'll be bluntly insulting about it. They'll comment on your looks and make decisions based on them. Of course, if you have a good personality you can make up for that, but if you are never given a chance to develop that personality... well...

-

I'll admit, I used to be shallow like that... when I was a kid. As a teenager, growing from an unattractive tween into a decent-looking teen (and if you ask certain girls, like my wife, handsome daw... hahaha... never saw it), I learned how to look beyond looks to see personality. of people. But a lot of people don't. Which is why we have celebrity culture centered around pretty looking but pretty shallow people.

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Life IS harder for unattractive people. It's not something you realize until you've been one.

i like this post

[CruzeR911]

Life is easier to attractive people but I think looks have expiry date. Teens And early 20s you will prioritize good looks. As you grow older and wiser looks starts to weigh less than personality and financial capabilities..lol


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[uls]

pag attractive ka (regardless kung babae o lalake)...

people treat you better

people smile more at you

people are kind to you and assume you're nice

pag pangit ka...

people don't smile at you

people tend to be rude to you

people think may masama kang balak

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pag attractive ka, kahit may masama kang balak, hindi iisipin ng tao may masama kang balak

pag pangit ka, kahit may mabuti kang intensyon, iisipin ng tao may masama kang balak