How do you deal with being alone?

[_Cathy_]

I'm thinking of joining social networking sites but the thought of putting my pic for all to see is a huge step..

That is so true!!! I don't feel comfortable posting pictures of myself for everyone to see. Parang wala na talagang privacy. I also hate it when people post group pictures online without asking permission from the other people in the picture. Tina tag pa yung pangalan! The horror! Eh pano kung ang pangit ng kuha???

I have one conservative friend who only wears a bathing suit around her girl friends and family only. Eh pinost ng girl friend niya yung group picture nila sa facebook ata na naka bathing suit. She was so offended talaga and I totally understood her.

[_Cathy_]

haha

Cathy, wala ka ba imaginary friend?

Wala pero may secret past time ako that none of my friends know about except my BF.

[uls]

ya pwede naman you're alone pero di ka lonely diba?

Cathy didnt make the distinction

Cathy, lonely ka ba?

[_Cathy_]

i can be your friend always...

Thanks you're too nice. But I hope I could get a replacement for my friend who is leaving for Australia. SOmeone I could talk to on the phone and easily ask out for gimmicks or what we call kaladkarin. haha. Yung madaling yayain sa lakad. hhaha.

[_Cathy_]

ya pwede naman you're alone pero di ka lonely diba?

Cathy didnt make the distinction

Cathy, lonely ka ba?

I enjoy moments when I am alone but not all the time.

I'm not just lonely, I am depressed. I didn't call my friend nga kanina kasi baka maiyak lang ako eh Siya lang friend ko na madali hatakin and she's so nice talaga!!! She kinda spoils me.

[redorange]

Like you I am also an only child and when we moved to the US when I was 7 made it worst, I was in a fight at least twice a week in second grade. I didn't have any real close friends growing up since most of my classmates would leave after a year or two because they were military kids. It also didn't help that we moved to different neighborhoods as I was growing up. When I got to high school I had maybe two close friends but they also had other social circles. College meant moving back to the Philippines, that was hard because I didn't know anyone other than my family. I would go out with my nephews to watch movies instead of meeting new people in school because like you I was shy and I couldn't relate to them since I didn't grow up there. I would see girls in class that I liked but would be too shy to do anything. After a few years I moved back to the US and decided I wanted to change, being shy and an introvert wasn't going to get me anywhere in life. I looked for a job that required me to talk to and meet people, long story short I ended up in law enforcement. Now my job requires me to talk to people if I want to do anything in my job. Slowly the shyness faded and I became more confident in meeting and talking to people. Meeting women also became easier and eventually I met my wife. But if I had remained that shy introverted person I probably would have never had the guts to ask my wife out on a date.

What's my point? You have to make a consicous effort to make that change from being an introvert. I am not saying be the life of the party but be open to possiblities in meeting people. There is a whole world out there that you are missing by being a loner. There is also a lot you can be learning from the people that you meet. Don't limit the world in which you move by being shy and introverted. Who knows that next person you meet may be your next best friend or even boyfriend.

[alwayz_yummy]

its up to you madaming people, you have to go out muna para to meet people.

madali akong yayain (lalo na kung illebre ako )

open ako for all, pero dont confuse me sa "carenderia ha".... caffe' to hehehe

seriously, dito sa tsikot, friends tayong lahat, mas ok kung attend ka ng EBs...marami kang makikilala...harmless naman kami,e....lalo na ako...


edit: loner ako by nature..pero sa line ng business ko, di pwede ipairal ko pagiging loner ko..wala mangyayari kung nagiisa ka lang.

[_Cathy_]

^Dyaje naman magyaya ng lalaki eh.

Di ka pala pwede dalhin sa aysee's. hahaha.

[Gumusut_Amige]

bilis humaba thread na ito... 4 pages na kaagad.
cathy, so many advises laid by fellow tsikoteers here. now its your turn to put them into action. kung puro theory lang tayo na walang application, ang masasabi sa ngayon pa lang ay failure ang outcome sa paghingi mo ng opinion.
go and explore life... good luck sis!

[redorange]

^Dyaje naman magyaya ng lalaki eh.

Di ka pala pwede dalhin sa aysee's. hahaha.

You have to change your line of thinking, it's now 2008 not 1908. Women can vote, own property, and can ask guys out. If it's not a romantic date why the need to get dressed up for the guy.

[uls]

hahaha

kahit may makilala na girl si Cathy, kelangan pa dumaan sa strict standards nya bago pwede maging friend nya

dapat pareho sila ng values

dapat educated, may breeding

all those rules, limitations, etc

amazing

[_Cathy_]

You have to change your line of thinking, it's now 2008 not 1908. Women can vote, own property, and can ask guys out. If it's not a romantic date why the need to get dressed up for the guy.

People always tell me that I was born at the wrong era. hehe. Should have been in the 1940's. hehehe.

[alwayz_yummy]

wag ka mahiya. it doesnt matter what *** your friend will be..

kay eto, baka gusto mo lang din, niyayaya kita sa megamall bukas, 5pm, grand launching ng company namin. malay mo magustuhan mo.. (plugging pa tuloy ako)

anyways, kung sinara mo na ang pinto mo, paano pa kami gustong pumasok as your friend diba? sa bintana nalang(ms windows)?di pwede yun...kailangan buksan mo front door mo....

[chua_riwap]

Mahirap maging friend ni Cathy.....kinukuwento nya lahat about her "friends".. Ha-ha!

(Peace, Cathy)

[redorange]

People always tell me that I was born at the wrong era. hehe. Should have been in the 1940's. hehehe.

The 1940's may be too liberal for you, maybe the 1840's. My mom was born in 1932 and my grandmother 1890 and they were both not as conservative as you seem to be.

[tsupermario]

That is so true!!! I don't feel comfortable posting pictures of myself for everyone to see. Parang wala na talagang privacy.

get a nice group picture taken from afar then blur it a bit. that'll do the trick

[_Cathy_]

hahaha

kahit may makilala na girl si Cathy, kelangan pa dumaan sa strict standards nya bago pwede maging friend nya

dapat pareho sila ng values

dapat educated, may breeding

all those rules, limitations, etc

amazing

I don't set standards for the people I make friends with.

It's just that I become close to people who share the same values as I do.

ULS it's like you know me so well. Am I that predictable?

Dati I'd get offended by people who would ask the wrong questions but I've learned how to understand that some people just don't know that some questions are not meant to be asked.

Maganda dun sa friend ko na aalis she never asked the wrong question and she's so sensitive (in a good way) An example would be on who would bring the car when we go out. When I don't feel like driving I would text her "I am so tired. I was out the whole day". then she'll text me "I'll bring the car na lang". It's nice na she already knows what I mean (that I don't feel like driving) and she doesn't let me ask her anymore if she could pick me up instead.

[_Cathy_]

Mahirap maging friend ni Cathy.....kinukuwento nya lahat about her "friends".. Ha-ha!

(Peace, Cathy)

Anonymous naman eh

[alwayz_yummy]

the more you talk to people, da more nababawasan ang insecurities mo sa buhay..


see, bilis ng thread mo madami gusto maging ka-fwens ka :D

[_Cathy_]

The 1940's may be too liberal for you, maybe the 1840's. My mom was born in 1932 and my grandmother 1890 and they were both not as conservative as you seem to be.

I am really not that conservative. I think I've done some wild things na rin. hehe.