How do you deal with being alone?

[uls]

Cathy

you are scared to death of the possibility of disappointing your parents so you imposed all those limitations on yourself

you limit your behavior so much that you barely take any risks

you are way too careful

[_Cathy_]

i was being rational

what you're doing (avoiding meeting new people to avoid emotional attachment) is counterproductive, even self destructive

what you should be doing is meeting more people

I'm a very shy person. It takes a while for me to get comfortable with anyone eh.

[uls]

so your solution is NOT to meet people?

[shadow]

ilan taon ka na ba cathy?

[_Cathy_]

oo nga! mukhang something's wrong sa iyo Cathy...tsk tsk tsk

Yung BF ko naman ako nakipag break saka yung friends ko di naman nila ko gustong iwan eh

[deathlance]

go out cathy, meet new people, thats what im doing now, its making me smile :D maybe thats what you need, tip lang try going on trips alone, a lot of times you meet new people..

maybe itl work for you, dont be afraid to leave your comfort zone.. i was like that before, build confidence its great

[gnoj666]

anung MLM?

[_Cathy_]

Cathy

you are scared to death of the possibility of disappointing your parents so you imposed all those limitations on yourself

you limit your behavior so much that you barely take any risks

you are way too careful

Of course I hate disappointing my parents. They are so good to me and the least that I could do is not give them disappointments.

Risk Averse talaga ako

[MXFX]

share ko lang nung dumating ako dito sa u.s. mga ilang taon din ako malungkot. laking tundo ako, lagi maraming kasama, tambay, at kaibigan. dito wala lahat. kaaway pa ng kapatid ko kapitbahay namin. kanya kanya. mahirap nung una napapaiyak pa ako minsan kahit may kasama. heto activities na ginawa ko: basketball, metallica fan club via mail, sulat sa mga kaibigan, long distance calls, at inom. nag simula din internet at nakipagchat ako sa mga pinoys via irc (philippines and manila channel). pagtapos ng ilang taon nasanay din.

i wish i can disagree with uls, but i sense the same things when reading the threads...how about limiting those limits (i.e. stop caring about pleasing other people when you do things, etc)?

[_Cathy_]

so your solution is NOT to meet people?

I wanna meet people kaya lang it's hard for me to go to parties and ebs. Easier for me talk to a new person on the phone but not in person. hehee.