Have you ever been alone? No GF/BF/wife/husband, family and friend? If so, how did you deal with it?
I just found out that my good friend who is my constant companion on weekends is leaving for Australia permanently on April. With her I never really felt alone even though my whole family is abroad and I broke up with my BF of several years. I know I should be happy for her but I cannot help but feel depressed since she's the only one I hang out with during my free time. I have other friends also but we don't live close to each other. Iba talaga pag malapit lang ang bahay. She is practically like family to me and she "adopts" me on family occassions.
My other close friend left for Kuwait a few years ago and this friend of mine helped me recover/ siya pumalit. hehe. Now that she is leaving also I don't know how I am supposed to deal with it. I really enjoy her company since we share the same values and we enjoy doing things together. I am also afraid that I will look for companionship from other people. I try to avoid that since I try not to get emotionally attached to a lot of people.
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February 5th, 2009 01:09 PM #1
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February 5th, 2009 01:33 PM #2hindi ba that's what makes us happy? by having people to depend on?I am also afraid that I will look for companionship from other people. I try to avoid that since I try not to get emotionally attached to a lot of people.
if you avoid depending on people for your happiness, what will you depend on?
things?
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February 5th, 2009 01:38 PM #3mahirap... naalala ko tuloy yung 1 post mo nung nagbreak kayo ng bf mo, na you lost a daily diary. nung nabasa ko yan, naalala ko tuloy yung mga time na andyan ang gf ko, may napagkwekwentuhan ako ng mga nangyayari sa araw araw. lalo na, only child ako sa family namin at hindi naman ako madalas magshare ng buhay ko sa parents ko. sa ngayon, how i deal with it, naglalaro nalang ako ng playstation2 hanggang sa tamaan nalang ng antok. ok lang naman din sa akin pero iba pa rin yung andyan ang gf mo, handang makinig sa yo anytime
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February 5th, 2009 01:38 PM #4Wow ULS you have a soft side din pala.
I like to keep my circle small kasi the less people I get attached to, the lesser my chances of getting hurt. Konti na nga lang friends ko iniiwan pa ko
Testament, pareho pala tayo na walang kapatid. Pero buti parents mo nandito, sakin nasa US. I broke up with my BF recently tapos ngayon naman yung friend ko na constant companion ko ang aalis. Kaya pala may mga tao na naglalasing para antukin no?Last edited by _Cathy_; February 5th, 2009 at 01:41 PM.
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February 5th, 2009 02:03 PM #6Reminds me of the thousands of filipino maids working as housemaids here in the middle east. Imagine working in a foreign land, living with a foreign family, eating foreign food, plus not able to socialize with fellow filipinos (since bawal dito makipagusap men and women), enduring that for 2 years...(parang modern day slavery). For me...that's just one step away from being alone in a prison.
When I think of those less fortunate sisters of ours, I always thank the lord for what I have have now...I could be in a worse situation. Be thankful of what you have. Make the most out of it.
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February 5th, 2009 02:06 PM #7oo, totoo yan ate cathy. in my case, hindi ko gawain yun. mas gusto ko pa makatulugan ang nilalaro ko kesa maglasing. pointless yun! wala ka bang close relatives dito? in my case kasi, pag hindi ko na gusto ang nilalaro ko, punta ko sa mga pinsan ko na malapit lang sa house namin tapos usap usap kami.
wag mo masyado isipin ate cathy na you're left alone. i know madami pa naman dyan na pwede mo makausap.
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February 5th, 2009 02:19 PM #9masyado naman yatang na trauma yun "friend" mo doon sa stolen kiss, alisna siya papuntang Australia? hehehe
anyway, go out more often, malaki ang mundo Cathy.
I just noticed na parang ang lungkot parati ng buhay mo, maybe you're not counting your blessings enough puro yun negative lang ang napapansin mo.Last edited by shadow; February 5th, 2009 at 02:41 PM.
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February 5th, 2009 02:20 PM #10Cathy, you shouldnt limit the number people you form relationships with
alam mo, you have hedgehog's dilemna
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The hedgehog's dilemma, or sometimes the porcupine dilemma, is an analogy about the challenges of human intimacy. It describes a situation in which a group of hedgehogs all seek to become close to one another in order to share their heat during cold weather. However, once accomplished, they cannot avoid hurting one another with their sharp quills. They must step away from one another. Though they all share the intention of a close reciprocal relationship, this may not occur for reasons which they cannot avoid.
Both Schopenhauer and Freud have used this situation to describe what they feel is the state an individual will find themselves in relation to others. The hedgehog's dilemma suggests that despite goodwill, human intimacy cannot occur without substantial mutual harm, and what results is cautious behavior and weak relationships. With the hedgehog's dilemma one is recommended to use moderation in the affairs with others both because it is in self-interest, and also out of consideration for others. The hedgehog's dilemma is used to justify or explain introversion and isolationism.
Originally Posted by Cathy_for_you
