Do you believe in second chances?

[EQAddict]

He didn't talk to you for over 2 (two) years and you were still in love with him. Don't kid yourself that it will be easier for you to fall out of love.

Your obsession with Mr Perfect is legendary already. Soon it will become mythical.

I think you expect too much and it is your expectations that are dragging you down. If you expect a little bit less, you will be much happier. Seriously.

Also, A guy can't live his life at your beck and call with your emotions always in mind. As you said he is in high demand and maybe he is busy or tired. Give him some slack if you love him.

And let's face it, you get very emotional for the smallest things. As ULS said you have drastic swings of emotional ups and downs. And you have to be aware of that. Thats an imbalance that many of us here have noticed and it can be a turn off for Mr. Perfect.

I mean being disappointed that he didn't text you speaks more about your insecurity and emotional needyness rather than him. He HAS helped you a lot already hasn't he? He does give you a lot of time from his busy days hasn't he? He hasn't shoved your clingy personality away hasn't he?

So why (as usual) is it his fault all of a sudden? Look in the mirror Cathy. You demand so much from others and do so little for yourself. You are in constant regression mode or indecisive mode. You are always caught in a spin cycle of doing absolutely nothing. Did you even follow our advice?

I hate to say it but you don't exactly present yourself as worthy of someone as good as Mr. Perfect. You are indecisive, like to talk about plans of treating him like royalty but don't do jack about it. You are clingy, needy, emotionally distraught and high strung most of the time . You are always expecting him to solve your problems and fill the hole in your heart. But you don't do diddly squat to see what you can do for him. Nadda. Zilch. Zero.Thats a one way selfish dead end street in my book.

Fix those and maybe he will see the change and confidence in you . Till then, you will fill up these forums with more emotionally charged moaning and rambling.

I give harsh but good advice. And you know it.

For heaven's sake, you begged for a 2nd chance with this guy and you finally have it after years of crying and pining away... and you are doing absolutely NOTHING with your opportunity. Kakainis na!














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[ray_noel]

Girls would always be girls... dont get affected with her bai EQ... hehehe... she’s just one of those girl classmates during your high school na O.A when it come to their crushes attention... kinikilig pag nag eye contact or na didisnaya oag hindi nakita in a day.... i know you’ve been one of those crushes during your high school, please understand ms cath...hahaha... stay cool bruh!!!


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[EQAddict]

Haha i was a nerd in school. No social life.

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[uls]

He didn't talk to you for over 2 (two) years and you were still in love with him. Don't kid yourself that it will be easier for you to fall out of love.

Your obsession with Mr Perfect is legendary already. Soon it will become mythical.

I think you expect too much and it is your expectations that are dragging you down. If you expect a little bit less, you will be much happier. Seriously.

Also, A guy can't live his life at your beck and call with your emotions always in mind. As you said he is in high demand and maybe he is busy or tired. Give him some slack if you love him.

And let's face it, you get very emotional for the smallest things. As ULS said you have drastic swings of emotional ups and downs. And you have to be aware of that. Thats an imbalance that many of us here have noticed and it can be a turn off for Mr. Perfect.

I mean being disappointed that he didn't text you speaks more about your insecurity and emotional needyness rather than him. He HAS helped you a lot already hasn't he? He does give you a lot of time from his busy days hasn't he? He hasn't shoved your clingy personality away hasn't he?

So why (as usual) is it his fault all of a sudden? Look in the mirror Cathy. You demand so much from others and do so little for yourself. You are in constant regression mode or indecisive mode. You are always caught in a spin cycle of doing absolutely nothing. Did you even follow our advice?

I hate to say it but you don't exactly present yourself as worthy of someone as good as Mr. Perfect. You are indecisive, like to talk about plans of treating him like royalty but don't do jack about it. You are clingy, needy, emotionally distraught and high strung most of the time . You are always expecting him to solve your problems and fill the hole in your heart. But you don't do diddly squat to see what you can do for him. Nadda. Zilch. Zero.Thats a one way selfish dead end street in my book.

Fix those and maybe he will see the change and confidence in you . Till then, you will fill up these forums with more emotionally charged moaning and rambling.

I give harsh but good advice. And you know it.

For heaven's sake, you begged for a 2nd chance with this guy and you finally have it after years of crying and pining away... and you are doing absolutely NOTHING with your opportunity. Kakainis na!

Cathy, EQ has good points here

Sir EQ, i can explain Cathy's behavior

Cathy makinig ka rin

Cathy was bred to be a queen, a master

pinagsisilbihan siya ng mga tao her whole life

parang siya Jupiter or Saturn where many moons revolve around her

mga tao around her are at her beck and call

i'm not only talking about servants

to her, boys are supposed to be kinda like servants too

when she wants a boy to entertain her, the boy should call or text agad

she hates to be kept waiting

pero pag sawa na siya sa boy, bye

she'll ghost him (she ghosted many guys)

To understand why kahit in love si Cathy sa crush niya why isn't she going all out

i mean if she wants him back so badly, why doesn't Cathy do anything?

Coz meron limit si Cathy how far she'll go

pag hindi convenient sa kanya she won't do it

Like Sir EQ's suggestion to send food to the crush

Knowing how crazy some women can get when they're in love... there are women who will not only send a guy food, they'll bring the food personally

they'll stalk the guy... sit in the car and wait for the guy to leave work and approach him "hey i was in the neighborhood..."

EQ's wondering why Cathy's not doing much despite her professed love for the guy

COZ she won't go that far

it's inconvenient

She's a queen remember?

EQ figured Cathy out

I figured Cathy out coz i knew other queens before i met Cathy

I'm sure in EQ's circle there are lots of queens

[uls]

coz Cathy's crush made her feel a certain way noong sila pa

hinahanap hanap ni Cathy ung feeling

kaya gusto niya bumalik ung dati

so totoo, i don't think it's coz love niya si crush

it's coz he serves a purpose

he's the only on who can make her feel whatever she felt before that's why she wants him back

not only want him back but balik sa dati

kasi kahit nag uusap na sila uli, di pa kontento si Cathy

kasi di pa niya nakuha ung feeling na hinahanap niya

See that Sir EQ?

keep in mind Cathy's a queen

everything else falls into place

[Egan101]

It’s irritating to hear or read these self-entitled people talk too much about not getting what they want. Jeez! No wonder the world has left them as others moved on.


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[shadow]

Stop It Uls! We all now girls like that na sinasabi mo. We, you and me basically grew up with those type of girls diba? But they eventually matures and act like adults.

But this is different, immature and can't leave the past behind. Everybody has to move on.

Cath if you don't realized it the world around you is moving. Ikaw na lang na stuck sa place mo wherever it is.

Iniisip mo na wala nangyayari sa buhay mo eh wala ka naman ginagawa, you keep on holding on to sometime na everybody says wala na talaga.


Sa work, lovelife and everything else with your life. Ikaw na rin nagsabi yun mga BFF mo either nagaswa na nag moved na abroad and hinde mo ba tinatanong sarili mo bakit ikaw na lang parang naiawan.

Start now! Act now! Stop dreaming about fairly tales ending. Live your life before it's too late, antay ka ng antay sa tao na for me wala naman na ibang intention but just to be civil with you dahil meron naman kayo pinagsamahan. Konting galaw or hinde ginawa pinapalaki mo. You're just residing too much sa ginagawa niya. Sa work mo naman you can't decide ano ba talaga gusto lagi takot na wala ka na mahahanap na ganyan kagsnfsng work? Well, welcome to the real.world. Eh ayaw mo naman lahat ng offer nila sayo?




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[uls]

Stop It Uls! We all now girls like that na sinasabi mo. We, you and me basically grew up with those type of girls diba? But they eventually matures and act like adults.

yes shadow madami

[shadow]

Cath, you have more to offer to the world that you think.

Stop with this BS with your crush na, it's holding you back.

He's dragging you down unintentionally but it's your owndoing naman.

Don't sit there and fantasized about everything while the world is passing you by.

Imaging mo sarili mo 5 years from now? Ganito pa rin?

And I'll be honest I don't believed he's the freaking Greek God, the perfect man in the world as you described him

If he is then why is he still not committed with anyone? He's a middle aged man na diba? And I don't believed that he's maybe busy with his work and all kaya wala, Come on!

Baka hinde naman talaga siya ganun as you depict him kaya walang ibang babae na may gusto sa kanya.

Baka ikaw lang kaya niyang bolahin?

Just shooting from the hip.


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[EQAddict]

Thx Uls for helping me understand this and Shadow for the real honest hardworking advice for our fellow Tsikot member.

Diagnosis (uls) and medicine (shadow) can sometimes be not what we want to hear or take....but take it we must!




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