Do you believe in second chances?

[ray_noel]

Oo nga. No point delaying the inevitable. If two adults like each other, just get it on. Strike while metal is hot!

On the other hand, if there is no indication that things will work, just move on. It is fruitless waiting for someone who’s not in any way interested to go thru life with you.


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Is that what they called TOTGA?


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[Gumusut_Amige]

Sa text, lightheartedly. Takot ako itanong sa phone, baka masaktan ako pag hindi na naman sinagot. Parang sa I miss you na hindi nag I miss you too [emoji24]

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ito talaga ang paghandaan mo! hindi talaga pwedeng pakiramdaman lamang kayo.
habang inihahanda ang sarili physically, emotionally and psychologically try to bridge the gap before the d-day.

[uls]

I don't know his intentions nga, sabi ni uls and shadow hindi na romantic, but I still want him

ano sinasabi ni stockengine "his intentions are clear"?

di mo nga alam saan patungo ung pag uusap niyo araw araw

[Egan101]

ito talaga ang paghandaan mo! hindi talaga pwedeng pakiramdaman lamang kayo.
habang inihahanda ang sarili physically, emotionally and psychologically try to bridge the gap before the d-day.

Yep, you’re not like teenagers anymore. You have to be confident and tell the other person how you feel.


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[uls]

malinaw naman sa lalake how Cathy feels for him

pero di alam ni Cathy ano feelings nung lalake para sa kanya

[EQAddict]

Hey Cathy.

If I knew the girl was head over heels over me...it would be the utmost form of cruelty to string her along.

So either he is cruel (which we know he isnt), or he is being kind by consciously, conspicuously and firmly keeping it on the friendzone level.

If he did have feelings for you NOW, i would question his manhood if he didnt take advantage of the situation.

So yeah Ocham's razor....painful as it may seem...he just isnt into you.

Having said that... you still have NOT tried hard enough. Go out with guns blazing. You might hit a soft spot. But you cannot win if you dont try. Die trying damnit. Hope is not a strategy.








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[jut703]

Yeah likely walang gusto sayo yan. If anything he's just being nice by still talking to you everyday on the phone.

You're both in your 30s and 40s right, wala nang point magpaligoy ligoy pa. If you're both single and you both like each other, then progress into a relationship. If it's one sided, then just DTR and live with the unrequited feelings - you've known each other for so long so either he likes you or he doesn't. If he's with someone else, leave him alone.

Sorry for the straight talk but it's better than fantasizing over nothing.

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[_Cathy_]

Hey Cathy.

If I knew the girl was head over heels over me...it would be the utmost form of cruelty to string her along.

So either he is cruel (which we know he isnt), or he is being kind by consciously, conspicuously and firmly keeping it on the friendzone level.

If he did have feelings for you NOW, i would question his manhood if he didnt take advantage of the situation.

So yeah Ocham's razor....painful as it may seem...he just isnt into you.

Having said that... you still have NOT tried hard enough. Go out with guns blazing. You might hit a soft spot. But you cannot win if you dont try. Die trying damnit. Hope is not a strategy.


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How do I do that? I am posting here because I want the perspective of men (all my girl friends boto sa kanya and think I should wait). I don't want to give up not having tried my best since it was my fault why I lost him before. I thought I would be fine without him but I had 3 years of misery.

He knows that I want him back e either cute laugh or change subject, may mga nagsasabi kasi na he might be taking it slow kasi after what I did, it will take some time to cozy up again. I'm thinking how long shall I try to win him back, I don't want to waste years (I already did 3 years) and not have him in the end

[shadow]

Wala na nga pagasa. Tagal ko na sinasabi.

Ano pa ba dapat mong gawin? Eh pag sinasabi mo nga you want him back eh either deadma or iniiba usapan diba? "Cute laugh" for me it's a nice way of saying awkward laugh.
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[_Cathy_]

Yeah likely walang gusto sayo yan. If anything he's just being nice by still talking to you everyday on the phone.

You're both in your 30s and 40s right, wala nang point magpaligoy ligoy pa. If you're both single and you both like each other, then progress into a relationship. If it's one sided, then just DTR and live with the unrequited feelings - you've known each other for so long so either he likes you or he doesn't. If he's with someone else, leave him alone.

Sorry for the straight talk but it's better than fantasizing over nothing.

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Ganun na lang ba talaga pwede mawala feelings when I felt so loved 3 yrs ago, It was probably one of my intense relationships. Sa 13 yrs ko sa Tsikot, I have been in several relationships (and break ups) but none that I've been so vocal about than when I was with him, it was the most intense, I was just so in love.

I appreciate the honesty, pero pure fantasy pa rin ba to try to get back the way things were, we did have a relationship, it's not like he's brad pitt na he does not even know that I exist.

It kills me and I am so frustrated because it's him that I want and nobody else I dunno why with other men it's easy for me to let go, but with him I just can't

[_Cathy_]

Wala na nga pagasa. Tagal ko na sinasabi.

Ano pa ba dapat mong gawin? Eh pag sinasabi mo nga you want him back eh either deadma or iniiba usapan diba? "Cute laugh" for me it's a nice way of saying awkward laugh.
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Masokista yata ko, bakit kanina pa ko umiiyak sa sama ng loob, post pa rin ako ng post I appreciate ALL of you *crying*, even with all my drama, there are tsikoteers who have never given up on me.

So he just calls me dahil naawa siya sakin? I can't say na wala siyang magawa because he really makes time for it. I can hear him in calls, pati names ng ibang staff niya kilala ko na kasi I hear them reporting to him.

[_Cathy_]

Oo nga. No point delaying the inevitable. If two adults like each other, just get it on. Strike while metal is hot!

On the other hand, if there is no indication that things will work, just move on. It is fruitless waiting for someone who’s not in any way interested to go thru life with you.

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He knows how I feel about him but I don't know how he feels about me because he won't tell me. I don't know where I stand. But I'm happy every time we talk and he helps me with my problems (such as my issue with my family and that costs time and money)

ito talaga ang paghandaan mo! hindi talaga pwedeng pakiramdaman lamang kayo.
habang inihahanda ang sarili physically, emotionally and psychologically try to bridge the gap before the d-day.

This time I am really motivated to be my best, kasi what it suddenly nga he asks me out

malinaw naman sa lalake how Cathy feels for him

pero di alam ni Cathy ano feelings nung lalake para sa kanya

Yeah

[Egan101]

Females have the control in a relationship. Guys make ligaw and girls wait till they are good to date exclusively the guy. Guys ask the girl to marry him, not the other way around.

If the guy is calling you and not asking to move forward, either he is torpe or he has no interest whatsoever. Go look for a guy who’s head over heels for you.


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[jut703]

Ganun na lang ba talaga pwede mawala feelings when I felt so loved 3 yrs ago, It was probably one of my intense relationships. Sa 13 yrs ko sa Tsikot, I have been in several relationships (and break ups) but none that I've been so vocal about than when I was with him, it was the most intense, I was just so in love.

I appreciate the honesty, pero pure fantasy pa rin ba to try to get back the way things were, we did have a relationship, it's not like he's brad pitt na he does not even know that I exist.

It kills me and I am so frustrated because it's him that I want and nobody else I dunno why with other men it's easy for me to let go, but with him I just can't

So naging kayo dati? Tapos bakit kayo nagbreak?

If you look at it objectively like a business challenge - context is that you were market leader (of his heart) 3 years ago. There's a reason why you're not market leader anymore now. What is the why-why-why-why-why of that?

If you identify the RCA - is it something you can still change or revert back to? Is the formula for success today still the same as it was 3 years ago?

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[shadow]

Females have the control in a relationship. Guys make ligaw and girls wait till they are good to date exclusively the guy. Guys ask the girl to marry him, not the other way around.

If the guy is calling you and not asking to move forward, either he is torpe or he has no interest whatsoever. Go look for a guy who’s head over heels for you.


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Sa description ni cath, epitome of alpha male, super successful, super pogi, dami pera, highest paid sa industry niya tapos as in Greek God perfect Dami may gustong babae Pero.bakit habanf tumatagal hinde na pang alpha?

Let's face it, kung he's all that. Eh bakit daig pa pimply faced, skinny HS student kung makipag telebabad, alpha pa ganun?

I'm seriously beginning to question kung alpha ba talaga.

Doon pa rin ako sa analogy ko na college dude meron nakabola ng HS kaya feeling pogi, magaling pero sa totoo pala walang binatbat sa mga kolihilaya. Sa mga bata na mabilis bolahan lang umuubra saka na striked yun ego niya sa mga barkada ng HS syota niya. Siyenore siya bida doon.


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[_Cathy_]

I am getting mixed signals because he makes time to call me. So he just likes to talk to me?

Another problem is I TRIED SO HARD to like other men in those 3 yrs, pero wala talaga. I am so fixated on him

[_Cathy_]

So naging kayo dati? Tapos bakit kayo nagbreak?

If you look at it objectively like a business challenge - context is that you were market leader (of his heart) 3 years ago. There's a reason why you're not market leader anymore now. What is the why-why-why-why-why of that?

If you identify the RCA - is it something you can still change or revert back to? Is the formula for success today still the same as it was 3 years ago?

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yeah, I broke up with him, I woke up feeling like he wasn't in love with me anymore kasi he got busy with work. I think gulat na gulat siya sa ginawa ko. Unfortunately, I have that pattern on breaking up kaya most of my exes sinusumpa ako. I think I need a psychiatrist because there is a pattern already and I am too old and so so tired of heartbreaks, I am determined na, I want to make it work with him. I just want a loving and stable relationship.

Sa description ni cath, epitome of alpha male, super successful, super pogi, dami pera, highest paid sa industry niya tapos as in Greek God perfect Dami may gustong babae Pero.bakit habanf tumatagal hinde na pang alpha?

Let's face it, kung he's all that. Eh bakit daig pa pimply faced, skinny HS student kung makipag telebabad, alpha pa ganun?

I'm seriously beginning to question kung alpha ba talaga.

Doon pa rin ako sa analogy ko na college dude meron nakabola ng HS kaya feeling pogi, magaling pero sa totoo pala walang binatbat sa mga kolihilaya. Sa mga bata na mabilis bolahan lang umuubra saka na striked yun ego niya sa mga barkada ng HS syota niya. Siyenore siya bida doon.


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c'mon shadow, you know why... hindi naman malaki age gap namin. I have all the "receipt" to prove that he is all that I say he is but I want to protect his identity. Maloloka ba ko ng ganito for a beta? I know alpha when I see one, like I said I was never the boy crazy type, but I threw it all out the window, because he is just so exceptional. He is everything I want and so much more. Kilala mo naman si UF, you know her family is known for their looks, all praises kay crush, even my spanish group, all my girl friends thinks he is such a winner, specs pa lang, even before they saw him, lalo na nung nakita pa

[Egan101]

I am getting mixed signals because he makes time to call me. So he just likes to talk to me?

Another problem is I TRIED SO HARD to like other men in those 3 yrs, pero wala talaga. I am so fixated on him

Fixation is different from reality. Move on. Let him do the effort to want you and be confident with his intentions. The last thing you want is a guy with low confidence and nil conviction. There is nothing alpha about that.

If i am this successful guy with money and power, I can be confident enough to tell someone I want them in whatever way I want it to be.


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[shadow]

yeah, I broke up with him, I woke up feeling like he wasn't in love with me anymore kasi he got busy with work. I think gulat na gulat siya sa ginawa ko. Unfortunately, I have that pattern on breaking up kaya most of my exes sinusumpa ako. I think I need a psychiatrist because there is a pattern already and I am too old and so so tired of heartbreaks, I am determined na, I want to make it work with him. I just want a loving and stable relationship.



c'mon shadow, you know why... hindi naman malaki age gap namin. I have all the "receipt" to prove that he is all that I say he is but I want to protect his identity. Maloloka ba ko ng ganito for a beta? I know alpha when I see one, like I said I was never the boy crazy type, but I threw it all out the window, because he is just so exceptional. He is everything I want and so much more. Kilala mo naman si UF, you know her family is known for their looks, all praises kay crush, even my spanish group, all my girl friends thinks he is such a winner, specs pa lang, even before they saw him, lalo na nung nakita pa

Eh bakit parang naging basang sisiw nun iniwan mo siya? Nagka phobia?

Eh kaya nga nawala bilib ko eh.


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[shadow]

Fixation is different from reality. Move on. Let him do the effort to want you and be confident with his intentions. The last thing you want is a guy with low confidence and nil conviction. There is nothing alpha about that.

If i am this successful guy with money and power, I can be confident enough to tell someone I want them in whatever way I want it to be.


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Agree! Lalong tumatagal ewan ko kung alpha talaga...

I'm beginning to question na talaga yun pagka alpha niya.

Alpha diba kung ano gusto gagawin, whatever the cost? Saka wala na paligoy-ligoy pa.

Meron pa ba ganun na Greek God na kumakanta ng please be careful with my heart.

Naalala ko tuloy yun thor na tumaba nawalan ng.gana sa buhay naging alcoholic. [emoji23] Thor is alpha!
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