Do you believe in second chances?

[_Cathy_]

I am getting mixed signals because he makes time to call me. So he just likes to talk to me?

Another problem is I TRIED SO HARD to like other men in those 3 yrs, pero wala talaga. I am so fixated on him

[Egan101]

I am getting mixed signals because he makes time to call me. So he just likes to talk to me?

Another problem is I TRIED SO HARD to like other men in those 3 yrs, pero wala talaga. I am so fixated on him

Fixation is different from reality. Move on. Let him do the effort to want you and be confident with his intentions. The last thing you want is a guy with low confidence and nil conviction. There is nothing alpha about that.

If i am this successful guy with money and power, I can be confident enough to tell someone I want them in whatever way I want it to be.


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[shadow]

Fixation is different from reality. Move on. Let him do the effort to want you and be confident with his intentions. The last thing you want is a guy with low confidence and nil conviction. There is nothing alpha about that.

If i am this successful guy with money and power, I can be confident enough to tell someone I want them in whatever way I want it to be.


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Agree! Lalong tumatagal ewan ko kung alpha talaga...

I'm beginning to question na talaga yun pagka alpha niya.

Alpha diba kung ano gusto gagawin, whatever the cost? Saka wala na paligoy-ligoy pa.

Meron pa ba ganun na Greek God na kumakanta ng please be careful with my heart.

Naalala ko tuloy yun thor na tumaba nawalan ng.gana sa buhay naging alcoholic. [emoji23] Thor is alpha!
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[_Cathy_]

Eh bakit parang naging basang sisiw nun iniwan mo siya? Nagka phobia?

Eh kaya nga nawala bilib ko eh.

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hindi nga ko tinawagan in those 3 yrs, in the end ako pa rin "sumuko"

Agree! Lalong tumatagal ewan ko kung alpha talaga...

I'm beginning to question na talaga yun pagka alpha niya.

Alpha diba kung ano gusto gagawin, whatever the cost? Saka wala na paligoy-ligoy pa.

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Yun nga masaklap, ayaw na sakin. I know matanda na ako, but I think I have something to offer din naman. Iningatan ko naman sarili ko. I'm not after his money or looks. It's more on how he makes me feel, I feel safe and protected when I am with him, saka yun nga, tiklop ako sa kanya, bihira lalaki nakakagawa nyan sakin.

Hindi na issue pagka alpha niya, wala ako magagawa kung ayaw mo maniwala, ang issue kung magkakaron pa ba ng "love is lovelier the second time around"

[shadow]

hindi nga ko tinawagan in those 3 yrs, in the end ako pa rin "sumuko"



Yun nga masaklap, ayaw na sakin. I know matanda na ako, but I think I have something to offer din naman. Iningatan ko naman sarili ko. I'm not after his money or looks. It's more on how he makes me feel, I feel safe and protected when I am with him, saka yun nga, tiklop ako sa kanya, bihira lalaki nakakagawa nyan sakin.

Hindi na issue pagka alpha niya, wala ako magagawa kung ayaw mo maniwala, ang issue kung magkakaron pa ba ng "love is lovelier the second time around"

Nasaktan Pride kaya hinde na tumawag. Wala connection sa pagka alpha.

Eh para que pa tumawag eh wala.na nga kayo?


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[shadow]

hindi nga ko tinawagan in those 3 yrs, in the end ako pa rin "sumuko"



Yun nga masaklap, ayaw na sakin. I know matanda na ako, but I think I have something to offer din naman. Iningatan ko naman sarili ko. I'm not after his money or looks. It's more on how he makes me feel, I feel safe and protected when I am with him, saka yun nga, tiklop ako sa kanya, bihira lalaki nakakagawa nyan sakin.

Hindi na issue pagka alpha niya, wala ako magagawa kung ayaw mo maniwala, ang issue kung magkakaron pa ba ng "love is lovelier the second time around"

Hinde ko naman question dati naniniwala.naman ako pero ngayon since nag lockdown at nababasa ko mabuti post mo eh I'm beginning to question na talaga...

Hinde ko talaga maintindihan naging basang sisiw tapos please be careful with my heart/feelings na ngayon?

Kasi for me pag alpha. Tapos nakipah break babae. Fine her lost not mine. Move on to the next woman.

Diba he's the type na he knows what he wants and he will get it by whatever means necessary.

He's in his position now sa work.because he's the man

Hinde mag mokmok na lang

Teka lang after ng break up niyo. Nagka GF pala.ba siya? Ano nangyari break na rin sila?

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[_Cathy_]

Nasaktan Pride kaya hinde na tumawag. Wala connection sa pagka alpha.

Eh para que pa tumawag eh wala.na nga kayo?

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Ngayon lang ako nakaranas ng binreak ko na hindi man lang tumawag to talk about it or ask what happened

Hinde ko naman question dati naniniwala.naman ako pero ngayon since nag lockdown at nababasa ko mabuti post mo eh I'm beginning to question na talaga...

Hinde ko talaga maintindihan naging basang sisiw tapos please be careful with my heart/feelings na ngayon?

Kasi for me pag alpha. Tapos nakipah break babae. Fine her lost not mine. Move on to the next woman.

Diba he's the type na he knows what he wants and he will get it by whatever means necessary.

He's in his position now sa work.because he's the man

Hinde mag mokmok na lang

Teka lang after ng break up niyo. Nagka GF pala.ba siya? Ano nangyari break na rin sila?

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That was exactly what he did, I broke up with him, hinayaan ako Hindi naman siya nag mokmok. You think he is not alpha just because he is talking to me now? Thankful nga ko dahil hindi niya ko "pinersonal", even after I hurt him, disappeared for 3 years, he still helped me when I asked him to, and his help costs time and money, I think that is as alpha as one can get, inate sa kanya to be protective.

I never asked him what happened in those 3 yrs, ayoko pa magtanong, I want to keep things light

And I do believe may soft spot ang alpha, bakit yung boss ko na suplado, wala pilipino makapag usap dun, pag hindi ko pinansin yun he would chat me, "are you mad at me", "why so silent", "what's wrong" Hindi naman cold and heartless pag alpha male, I think mas sweeter nga when they show a soft spot.

[_Cathy_]

Hinde ko naman question dati naniniwala.naman ako pero ngayon since nag lockdown at nababasa ko mabuti post mo eh I'm beginning to question na talaga...

Hinde ko talaga maintindihan naging basang sisiw tapos please be careful with my heart/feelings na ngayon?


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Assumption yan ng mga tao, na baka kaya may distance siya sakin, kasi I did him wrong in the past

I think alpha or not, human nature na yan? Or you mean dapat hindi siya careful with me?

[_Cathy_]

Fixation is different from reality. Move on. Let him do the effort to want you and be confident with his intentions. The last thing you want is a guy with low confidence and nil conviction. There is nothing alpha about that.

If i am this successful guy with money and power, I can be confident enough to tell someone I want them in whatever way I want it to be.


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It hurts to say it but I don't think he still wants me the same way he used to. Consistent with being alpha because our relationship moved fast, I could not believe that a guy like him wanted me too, stupid me because I ruined it. I want to make amends but I am not sure if he will let me. I don't want to have what ifs lang in my life, that I did not even try to win him back

Pero yun nga, gaano katagal at hanggang saan? I don't want to lose my self respect naman.

[shadow]

It hurts to say it but I don't think he still wants me the same way he used to. Consistent with being alpha because our relationship moved fast, I could not believe that a guy like him wanted me too, stupid me because I ruined it. I want to make amends but I am not sure if he will let me. I don't want to have what ifs lang in my life, that I did not even try to win him back

Pero yun nga, gaano katagal at hanggang saan? I don't want to lose my self respect naman.

Grabe ka naman cath, hinde pa.ba enough yun halos gawin mo na siyang diyos and you're very vocal about it sa kanya.

Come to think of it. Pag yun mga post mo dito eh ganun Karin pag kausap mo siya and lahat post mo sinasabi mo rin.

Matagal na wala self respect mo. At least in my opinion, maybe mali ako and others don't think the same way.


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[_Cathy_]

Grabe ka naman cath, hinde pa.ba enough yun halos gawin mo na siyang diyos and you're very vocal about it sa kanya.

Come to think of it. Pag yun mga post mo dito eh ganun Karin pag kausap mo siya and lahat post mo sinasabi mo rin.

Matagal na wala self respect mo. At least in my opinion, maybe mali ako and others don't think the same way.


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He knows I worship him hahaha! Hihimatayin talaga mga ex ko if they knew how I was with crush.

I think ang wala self respect yun sinabihan ka na ng ayaw pero hahabol habol pa or those who allow casual s3x hoping that the guy will fall for them, hindi naman ako aabot sa ganun.

[shadow]

He knows I worship him hahaha! Hihimatayin talaga mga ex ko if they knew how I was with crush.

I think ang wala self respect yun sinabihan ka na ng ayaw pero hahabol habol pa or those who allow casual s3x hoping that the guy will fall for them, hindi naman ako aabot sa ganun.

Eh paano kung hinde din sinasabi na gusto ka pa rin niya paranf pareho lang sa sinabihan ng ayaw na.


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[_Cathy_]

Eh paano kung hinde din sinasabi na gusto ka pa rin niya paranf pareho lang sa sinabihan ng ayaw na.


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Kaya nga ko ganito kasi may mixed signals and for some reason I think kahit konti he still cares for me.

Sabi nga ng girl friend ko, until hindi nang galing sa bibig niya na ayaw na niya sakin at may wife or gf na siya, then it can still work.

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[EQAddict]

I want to make amends but I am not sure if he will let me. I don't want to have what ifs lang in my life, that I did not even try to win him back

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Cathy. You keep saying you WANT. You Want him. You want to make amends. You want him to try. Etc.

But hanggang dyan na lang. WANTING is not a strategy. Same way that Hope isnt a strategy.

You arent doing anything except pining away on these forums and with your friends. The only result that will give you is a big fat zero.

Do something. You are adults. And as you say he is the most alpha male ever. So he shouldnt be cowering in fear if you ask him out for lunch. Yes restaurants are opening next week. Be brave. Dont find an excuse not to do anything and then come crying here in the boards all wistful and lonesome.

Doing nothing gets you nothing. As your recent resurgence of communication with him has proven. Yeah he talks to u. Yeah he helps you. But there is no magic, no passion, no intimacy, no promises of the future. Its friendzone or pityzone.

And you havent answered Jut703's question. What is the root cause analysis ? What did u both possess 3 yrs ago? Do u still have it? Does he still recognize it? Have things changed? Etc. What are you gonna do about it? Answer those questions.

Personally i cant believe the super hero greek god adonis elon musk roger federer michael jordan keannu reves that you paint him to be still has no GF or partner at his life stage. Sorry. If he is all that, he probably has one already and isnt man enough to tell you cause he feels sorry for you and your situation. And if he doesnt have one....then Alpha my a$$.

Eh lahat kami dito , we are nowhere near that level of achievement or greatness or uberness or alphaness or manliness or bossingness but we all have life partners . And more are trying to knock on our doors pa! Hehehhehehe.







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[misseksaherada]

I am getting mixed signals because he makes time to call me. So he just likes to talk to me?

Another problem is I TRIED SO HARD to like other men in those 3 yrs, pero wala talaga. I am so fixated on him

Ma'am Cathy, nalilito na ako kung ano po gusto nyo mangyari.. I support you sa feelings mo kay crush pero at the same time it makes you sad din.. Based sa description mo kay crush, slight naiinis na ako sa kanya.. Sya yung isang version ng guy na ayaw ko..
Yung guy na too nice sa lahat ng tao dahil craving sya lagi na maganda tingin sa kanya ng tao.. Lahat na lang tutulungan kahit wala na sa lugar.. Nakakainis! Dahil sa kabaitan na yan parang na misled ka.. Kung di niya mareciprocate yung "I miss you" mo isa lang ibig sabihin niyan.. Mabait sya ayaw nya sabihin directly na hindi kayo same ng feelings kaya tinatawanan ka lang.. Ayaw ka lang nya magalit.. Pero di ba mas nakakalungkot na di mo alam kung ano ibig sabihin vs. kung naging honest na lang sya..
Tsaka kung alpha sya Ma"am Cathy.. I"ll be honest po.. Harsh na kung harsh.. Yung past nyo po past na yun sa kanya.. Once na nag move on na alpha there's no going back.. Natuto na sya sa experience na yun bakit niya pa babalikan..
Ito na lang po huling advice ko.. Iwan mo na yang lingering feelings na yan.. Instead hope for someone na mamahalin ka for what you deserve.. Hindi siya worth it.. Ang dami naman dyan na alpha din naman na tingin ko interested din na mahalin ka.. Natural sa atin na mga babae ang madevelop sa taong nagki-care satin.. Kaya look for a guy na head over heels sayo not the other way around.. Masyado mo lang iniisip na good catch si crush.. Pero ikaw good catch ka din naman.. Kaya move on ka na lang.. Bahala sya pinakawalan ka pa niya ulet.. Kapag nag move on ka hinabol ka nya then dun ka na lang mag-isip ulet..
Move on and be happy.. Dahil hindi ka na mabibigo sa expectations na habang tumatagal nagapahirap at nagpapalungkot sayo.. Napaka ikli ng buhay para mag focus sa bagay na parang walang patutunguhan.. Wag ka na umiyak Ms. Cathy... Ayoko umiiyak ka ng dahil lang kay crush.. Ang tagal na nyan.. Di ka ba napapagod?