Why Do Men Get Cold Feet??

**Karding** · June 1st, 2006 07:17 AM

M54, natotorta na utak ko sa school work, dibersyon ko tsikot.com

sasakalin ka ni missZ dahil hindi ka nag suggest nyan noon pa :twak:

**margaux** · June 1st, 2006 07:29 AM

Originally Posted by oldblue

ma'm nagpapakatotoo naman kami kaya lang talaga matindi mga girls/wives magpaikot. unbearable na * times.

oops, I am trying to address the people who have the kind of attitude na hindi masyado nagpapkatotoo sa mga partners nila..... peace....

**Flagg** · June 1st, 2006 07:30 AM

Haha ok yan a. Blue Z n Black Z. Pag nabasa nila ito e black & blue kayo...

**tinky** · June 1st, 2006 07:34 AM

thank you guys for making me smile

**ogpro** · June 1st, 2006 07:36 AM

Originally Posted by missZ

The thing is he never got a chance to know not only my mother but my whole family.
it's strange that not even I have a good relationship with my mom. I think they only saw each other twice.

Why did you ask? is that a filipino thing?

Miss Z, I think he may be referring to the old (and sometimes accurate) principle na, if you want to know how your wife will look like (and I guess BE like) when she gets older, look at her mother. He might have seen something about her he didn't like.

As for why he might have ended the relationship, I can't say anything now to assuage your pain, that will have to take it's course to heal, but I can give you some bright spots. One is, as much as the guy seemed like an assh*le for breaking up with you and cancelling the wedding, you have to give it to him for being honest about it and giving you your freedom before any knots were tied. Things could have been worse, divorces are ugly. He could have just realized that he wasn't the one for you and you weren't the one for him. It is better that he sets you free now to find that right person than keep a bad thing going. It would really suck if he told you this 5 years down the road diba? Some guys are such p*ssies that they can't even tell a girl to her face how they really feel. Some end up cheating, using their unhappiness as an excuse. There never is a good enough excuse for that, so try and be glad that he was upfront about it at least. I am pretty sure you want answers to your "whys", but you're probably going to have to settle with silence for the meantime. Maybe one day you'll understand why he did that, maybe never, but the important thing is that you move on. One day it won't matter anymore.

Once again, there's nothing any of us in here can say or even do to ease your pain, but I can tell you that time does heal all wounds. I just hope it doesn't scar you in a way that will make you think badly of the rest of us guys out there. May matitino naman jan, maski konti hehe. Just take it an hour at time, it gets more bearable with each passing day.

**margaux** · June 1st, 2006 07:40 AM

you're welcome, missZ...

alam mo naman kasmi, we're all friends here at tsikot..damayan talaga. be happy and think about this:

now you can finally say............

:freedom:

**ogpro** · June 1st, 2006 07:44 AM

Originally Posted by oldblue

question sir *flagg, do you always tell your wife that she's pretty or hot? kasi sabi ng ibang friends ko baka yun daw pagkukulang ko. kaya lang pag sinasabihan ko naman sya yun. ang sasagot sakin "sipain kita dyan eh, labas sa ilong!" pano ka ba naman gaganahan nun to the point na maging cold ako. tapos pang medyo hindi nako excited sa kanya, mag-mamaamong mukha na: "malambing ka lang sa'kin pag gusto mo na. kiss mo naman ako!"

Paksh!t! i cant live like these. recently, pinag-aaralan ko na history ng mom and dad ng wife ko. kasi may kasabihan daw that na "girls become like their mothers in time".

and siguro ito na din siguro i-a-ask ko sa'yu *missZ, how's the relationship between your bf and your mother? mayroon ba signs na parang pinag-aaralan ng bf mo ang movements/gestures/decision-making ng mother mo? baka kasi isa ito sa cause kaya sa nagkaron ng cold feet.

Pareng OldBlue...

There was something that my uncle told me before I got engaged. I remember it clearly because that is how I treat my wife now. Sabi nya,

"Never stop courting your wife. Never stop dating and never stop reminding her why you love her. Do this every day, and you will have a long and happy marriage."

So...yeah, hangang ngayon niligawan ko pa rin sya. Even tho I know I have her forever. When i remind her of why I love her, it reminds ME too.

And to add a short anecdote:

When we got married, I told her jokingly while touching her wedding band, "You know what this means? It means you're mine forever."
She took my ring finger and replied in the same manner, "You know what this means? Akin din ang BMW mo!"

Talo ata ako dun.

**oldblue** · June 1st, 2006 07:48 AM

Originally Posted by missZ

The thing is he never got a chance to know not only my mother but my whole family.
it's strange that not even I have a good relationship with my mom. I think they only saw each other twice.

Why did you ask? is that a filipino thing?

no it's not a filipino thing or not that I'm aware of. but as a male, naging instinct ko na yun mag-observe kung ano type of mother ng kahit kakilala ko lang ng girl.

for example,

* if her mom is the type na mahilig pumustura, mag-make-up, buy lavish gowns, chances are the daughter is somewhat a carefree, picture lover, cherishes memories gal.

* an opposite of which are moms that are too conservative/religious but at same time can turn into a self-righteous monster, paranga ganun din the daughter nya strikto na pa-importante, pa hard to get.

* another would be a smart, sophisticated, workaholic, non-judging mom, tapos ma-amaze ka na yun daughter nya sobrang accomodating pero wag ka, galing magsalita and seems to command an audience regardless kahit saan mapunta.

sort of like that. we males are humans too. kahit papano we evolve naman. siguro hindi lang naman ako ang ganito mag-isip sa mundo kasi nabasa ko din ito eh hehehe.

we have our own "barometers/thermometers" to measure what the future has in store for us. and baka lang isang factor yun with you and your mom. a housewife/caring mother is not always a good thing ... can be viewed differently by each of us.

**BoEinG_747** · June 1st, 2006 07:51 AM

sad to know what happen to missZ naman
(akala ko nga dati ay kasal at magkakababy na kayo non )

if u love somebody set it free,if he decided to come back ,kayo na talaga

dami pa lalaki diyan ,baka nasa paligid mo lang
sa una masakit talaga divert mo lang isip mo sa ibang bagay or tao

naalala ko tuloy sabi sa akin ni EX sa txt
there are many Fishes in the ocean naman daw ,sa aasar ko sinabi ko ayaw kko ng isda lang ang gusto ko balyena kagaya mo!!!!