Why Do Men Get Cold Feet??

[lakay]

I thought we we're heading that way..................




We've been engaged since February and we decided to move in together after the proposal.Things were going great until last night.

We were having dinner when out of the blue he told me that he's calling the wedding off. I thought it was just one of his stupid pranks that he pulls on me every now and then so I just ignored him. He kept quiet for about a minute or so and then he brought it up again.He said he had been thinking about moving out and would like to think things over. He looked me dead in my face and told me that he loves me so much but he is not sure If I am the person that he would like to share the rest of his life with. He was telling me that all he need is some time away from me. He doesn't know how long it would take, 2 days, 2 months, 2 years ....only God knows how long...

Some of you would ask me if I ever saw a sign. I wish I did but it happened so fast.I never saw it coming.

In the meantime all I could do is just sit, cry, and pray that one day, this man would show up at my doorstep and ask me again to marry him.

I'm a man, and this I can tell you. No man is worth your tears, if he leaves you for whatever reason he got in his tiny mind then so be it. If he meant for you then he'll be back, hopefully begging and in his knees. If not, time to move on and get on with your life. Don't hold back and be stagnant, life is too short for that. Just my opinion.

[Flagg]

Ms. Z, maybe your boylet needs to read this thread if the best he can come up with is... eh, kasi si kuya nag-divorce e, takot ako... WTF?

To be fair though, maybe you guys just gotta know each other better. Maybe am old fashioned but 2 yrs is a bit too quick for me... at 2 yrs bf/gf, my wifey was in the habit of whacking me with her shoe. Btw, I haven't been whacked since... Anyway pls refer to my magnum opus on page 1...

[smalltimer]

I was not expecting to get this much replies from you guys. Well I feel so much better. Yesterday I called each and every single friend who I lost in touch with since I started getting busy with my ex. I didn't know how to break the sad news to them because I have a history of getting out of a relationship when I see that it's getting serious. But with this man, eveything changed. To be honest this has been the longest relationship I've ever had and I thought everything was going great. Last night I got up the courage to call him not to beg him to come back but just to ask him why. Just as you know,he is 25 and I am pushing 30. I used not to think about getting married and having kids but my whole world changed when I met this guy and got to know his family. He taught me how to enjoy life,that there is more to life than a great car, a big house, jewelries and all of those material things that money can buy. My grandma used to tell me that you have to observe how a man treats his mom because that's how he would treat his wife. He is I guess the kind of a son any mother could wish for. His family accepted and embraced the fact that we have cultural diferences. They welcomed me into their world and treated me as a family member. For the first time in my life I had a family. Last night I asked him what went wrong. All I needed was straight answers. He said that he got scared because 2 of his brothers are now in the process of getting a divorce and they were telling him that it could happen to anyone. He asked if I was still willing to share my life with him without getting married. I froze and couldn't say anyting. How in the world did this happen? He was the one who convinced me to get married and now he's trying to talk me out of it. This is really hard, I'm not giving up on him yet, maybe all he need is time to think about what he really wants. I am not giving it a timeline. I am not ready to move on ,not today, not tomorrow but I hope it would be soon enough. Today is a new day and I will try to live a brand new chapter of my life. I know it's all up to me ....after all life is what we make it.

hmmm bat kaya biglang nagbago isip nya? mukhang positive thinker naman yung guy. Maybe the divorce thing is only one of the reasons...

[oldblue]

I He taught me how to enjoy life,that there is more to life than a great car, a big house, jewelries and all of those material things that money can buy. .

:gulp: this guy sounds like the perfect guy. alam ko lang i-entertain past girls ko and my wife eh thru materials things and all the money can buy.

well ma'm *missZ, seems like you've got a special guy out there. a rare breed indeed. why not do the unpredictable? fight for him. win his heart back for a change. nasa states naman kayo d'ba? so wala gano cultural taboo unlike dito na parang ang sama tignan for a woman to chase a man ...

"when in rome, ....."

[margaux]

Kaw naman sarah... sunod-sunuran nga sya sayo o. Di pa kami tapos pagusapan yung mutual food addiction namin e tayo na sya nung say mo go home na...

hehehe..... parang reminisce the eb sa may UCC. Di pa ba kayo tapos mag-usap nun? wow ha.... dapat pala mas hinabaan pa natin yung time.....

[wren]

i was just wondering...what do you call it when eskimo men get cold feet?

[chieffy]

hayaan mo na siya missz...siguro sign iyan na meron pang mas nararapat para sa iyo...kung ako nasa katayuan mo at nalaman ko na di pala siya handa pagkatapos ng lahat eh talagang mas mabuti pang di na matuloy...madami pa naman dyang iba...

maglibang libang na lang muna kayo...malay nyo nandyan lang pala sa board este sa paligid yung gwuapitong para sa inyo...

[badkuk]

He asked if I was still willing to share my life with him without getting married.

...but didn't you guys already move in together for quite some time already? Did he mention any specific aspect of divorce that scared him?

[sarahbaby]

Kaw naman sarah... sunod-sunuran nga sya sayo o. Di pa kami tapos pagusapan yung mutual food addiction namin e tayo na sya nung say mo go home na...

sorry ha... kala ko tapos na. hehe! tska sobrang antok na talaga ako nun...

Nabasa ko na po...

mabuti naman. :twak:

[Flagg]

i was just wondering...what do you call it when eskimo men get cold feet? grin:

Frostbite.

Mam sarah, ayos lang, pinapagutom nya ako nun e...

[margaux]

He asked if I was still willing to share my life with him without getting married.

yeah, I think he's really scared of this word..... D I V O R C E
So how are you feeling right now, missZ?? I hope what I sent you through PM was enough to comfort you.

[scarab]

....sorry.

[vhenok]

Ano yun? He wants you back pero no more marriage because of the divorce thing....dyan ka talo, and the guy is showing how coward he is. I may not be in the position to say so pero that's the way I see it. Kung ngayon pa lang di ka nya kayang panagutan o harapin mga responsibilities eh what more?

Pero whatever your decision, be it moving on or hoping he will come back, huwag mo pabayaan sarili mo. Keep yourself happy, i know easy for me to say, but hey! you deserve to be happy, IMO!

Keep it always here in Tsikot.....coz we're with you wherever you are!

Naks! drama ba?

OT: so happy to read yung mga ibang humorous post dito, can't control myself to laugh. i for one is a happily married guy for the last 7 years. and it was not perfect, i stumbled once but am proud to get up twice (para bang Dwyane Wade?). seriously, problems really abounds in a married life, but the most important thing is to face these problems together. when you talk, the words "i" and "me" should be eliminated, you should be talking about "us" and "we". It takes two to tango, remember?!!!!

[Karding]

Last night I asked him what went wrong. All I needed was straight answers. He said that he got scared because 2 of his brothers are now in the process of getting a divorce and they were telling him that it could happen to anyone. He asked if I was still willing to share my life with him without getting married.

magsasama kayo ng hindi kasal? what the F is the difference? baka akala nya kapag hindi kayo kasal iwas child support sya? he just want an easy way out kaya ayaw ng kasal. baka magastusan pa sya kapag sya ang nag-file ng divorce kaya tinanong ka nya ng ganun.

bakit kse hindi pa sabihin na lalaki na ang gusto nya ngayon? :evillaugh tangna, hindi na lang kse maging honest kunyare pa asking kung willing ek-ek. Sorry missZ, mainit lang talaga betlog ko sa mga lalaking walang betlog. juskudai, duduguin ako sa galet!!!

let him go, and make him pay for F'n 18-years.

[Flagg]

Aba itnit betlog si sir Karding a... need mo mag-relax sir, try mo yung female companion na di kasal... ehehe.

[tinky]

Day 5 and I am still breathing.
Gone are the days of moping , sitting around searching for answers.
After all those sleepless nights, not eating, and losing almost 5 lbs,
I think I've had enough.....

I was reading everyone's posts all day yesterday and it really helped me
understand why certain things happen..


Maybe I am getting a taste of my own medicine.Yeah I've heard that many times.
"What goes around comes around!" ouch! I say this is karma at it's finest!!

Maybe 2 years wasn't enough. Maybe we should've given it more time to get to know each other better.

Maybe age was a big factor. Maybe all of a sudden, he realized that he was not ready to give up his singlehood yet.

Maybe he got scared of the cost of the wedding? that was never an issue. The bride pays for the wedding here. So if there was one person who should worry about the bill, that would be my father..
but that one cracked me up M54!!!

DIVORCE --I think this where it all comes down to. He could lie for all he wants and use his brothers'
situation as an excuse to call off the wedding but I don't care anymore.I think should even thank him for
showing his true color this early. At least he grew some balls and had the guts to tell me about it
before the wedding preparations.

There are other minor things that were mentioned but they don't even matter to me anymore.


I am still sad about the whole thing but I don't wanna get stuck in a situation that I know in the end
is going to be very hard to get out of. So yeah even though it's really hard and painful, I am moving on.

[GlennSter]

WE LOVE YOU MISS Z!!! =)

(ayan gwapito..para dika masyado halata=p)

[Flagg]

Ehehe sir glenn... tulisan talaga.

Eto lang masabi ko Ms. Z... get to know your friends again and parteeeiiy! (I did... )

[creepy]

The guy's probably too young (and immature) still...

[uls]

everyone here has been trying to figure out what's wrong with the guy but what if it isnt the guy... what there's something about the girl?