Why Do Men Get Cold Feet??

[tinky]

I thought we we're heading that way..................




We've been engaged since February and we decided to move in together after the proposal.Things were going great until last night.

We were having dinner when out of the blue he told me that he's calling the wedding off. I thought it was just one of his stupid pranks that he pulls on me every now and then so I just ignored him. He kept quiet for about a minute or so and then he brought it up again.He said he had been thinking about moving out and would like to think things over. He looked me dead in my face and told me that he loves me so much but he is not sure If I am the person that he would like to share the rest of his life with. He was telling me that all he need is some time away from me. He doesn't know how long it would take, 2 days, 2 months, 2 years ....only God knows how long...

Some of you would ask me if I ever saw a sign. I wish I did but it happened so fast.I never saw it coming.

In the meantime all I could do is just sit, cry, and pray that one day, this man would show up at my doorstep and ask me again to marry him.

[the_wildthing]

I'm sorry to hear that, missZ.

Maraming rason. Maaring natakot siya. Yung sinasabing "afraid of commitment". And then you said, you moved in together, so it could be na na-isip niya na ayaw nya nung ganun for the rest of his life. But I don't know him so I'm just venturing a guess.

To be optimistic about it, you probably deserve someone better.

[oldblue]

hmm... that's so ..... direct. I wish I had his courage.

kidding aside, baka naman prank din yan. but this time, the prank will take longer (in a matter of days) tapos isang matinding surprise to the max. a new house maybe ...

anyways, just cheering you up. sabi mo nga he's that kind of person mahilig sa surprises/pranks. give it a day or two ...

[margaux]

hey, the only thing I can say is that the guy has a problem. A matter of choosing something that would be really important for him and for his future. And the cause might be fear. He might be afraid of commitment and never get out of it. Or maybe he's in a situation wherein he doesn't want you to get involved with it. If he loves you that much then he is just keeping you away from something that might hurt you. But if he said he wanted to make sure if you'll be the right person for him, then it's possible that a third party is entering the story. Just pray and whatever happens God will always make you understand why things had happened this way. Be strong.

[tinky]

. But if he said he wanted to make sure if you'll be the right person for him, then it's possible that a third party is entering the story. .

How I wish there was a third party, I think it would be bearable pero wala talaga

[Rediesel]

commitment. Sometimes men needs to think about it really hard, mas mahirap namang pag married na kayo dun siya makakahanap ng iba.

Ika nga kasabihan sa atin sa Pinas kung ukol bubukol. Try to think it over kung bumalik siya, gugustuhin mo pa ba ang lalaking ganito ang ugali, Siguro its a sign that both of you might not be compatible in the long run.

Married life is such a complicated matter, everything is a bed of roses UNTIL the kids comes along then the bills then family problems, thats where you will be tested kung talagang mahal mo siya, men by nature titingin at titingin sa iba yan, kahit pang ms universe ang beauty mo eventually titingin sa iba yan.

Maybe just maybe meron siyang nakitang iba ngayon.

[empy]

sorry to hear

speaking only for myself, getting cold feet is a sign of fear. fear of many things - making a big mistake, knowing my own feelings, the cost of the wedding (j/k!!)....and maybe a little bit of cowardice as well.

sometimes we men come to our senses and come back (and hope it's not too late). but other times, it's better that you're not wasting your time and tears on us.

[Jun aka Pekto]

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-The fear of the leash being too tight.
-The fear of losing our carefree ways.
-The fear of her having two sides like a coin. While engaged, she's an angel. After the wedding, she transforms into a female tyrant.

-The fear of life as we know it ending only to be replaced by predictability and humdrum.

Went through all the above. As soon as my wife arrived here, she took charge and before I knew it, I was on an awfully short leash. But, meh. I'm taken and kept.

[Rediesel]

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-The fear of the leash being too tight.

-The fear of her having two sides like a coin. While engaged, she's an angel. After the wedding, she transforms into a female tyrant.

Natumbok mo kapatid !!!

Hindi umiimik nung mag syota palang kayo pero nung maging asawa mo di lang BUNGANGERA BASAGULERA pa.

[oldblue]

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-The fear of the leash being too tight.
-The fear of losing our carefree ways.
-The fear of her having two sides like a coin. While engaged, she's an angel. After the wedding, she transforms into a female tyrant.

-The fear of life as we know it ending only to be replaced by predictability and humdrum.

Went through all the above. As soon as my wife arrived here, she took charge and before I knew it, I was on an awfully short leash. But, meh. I'm taken and kept.

almost broke into tears after reading this. I can relate. especially this one:

-The fear of her having two sides like a coin. While engaged, she's an angel. After the wedding, she transforms into a female tyrant.

sorry *missZ for this OT reply. cant help reacting to sir *Jun aka Pekto's words. like him I'm entering this phase na din. recently, i feel like i'm being held back. right now, i'm particularly sensitive on wife control schemes na directed towards us husbands.

[margaux]

almost broke into tears after reading this. I can relate. especially this one:





sorry *missZ for this OT reply. cant help reacting to sir *Jun aka Pekto's words. like him I'm entering this phase na din. recently, i feel like i'm being held back. right now, i'm particularly sensitive on wife control schemes na directed towards us husbands.

dapat kasi magpakatotoo lahat noh... kasi naman.....you'll really know the true colors of your partner kapag tumagal na kayo ng sobra..

[oldblue]

dapat kasi magpakatotoo lahat noh... kasi naman.....you'll really know the true colors of your partner kapag tumagal na kayo ng sobra..

ma'm nagpapakatotoo naman kami kaya lang talaga matindi mga girls/wives magpaikot. unbearable na * times.



i'll cite a recent experience:

recently, napapadalas sa gym si Diana Zubiri. my wife excitedly told me: "hoy, nakita mo ba si diana zubiri? ayan o. ang ***y ***y no! talaga! hmmpfff kunwari ka pa di mo nakita eh pagpasok pa lang natin dun na nakatutok mata mo"

then 2 days later sa gym ulit. my wife got out of the locker and approached me sa treadmill. "kasabay ko si diana kanina sa locker. nagbihis din sya and lahat kami kahit mga matatanda napatingin. grabe pala talaga, lahat ng mga lalaki ma-aatract sa kanya. we saw her with bra and panties lang, and lahat ng parte ng katawan nya ***y talaga! voluptous body! " sagot na lang ako: "ah ganun ba"

then just about 2 days ago "oh bakit nandyan ka pa (pointing to the treadmill), kala ko ba kanina pagod ka na at tinatamad ka mag-gym." then she looked at my front. "kaya naman pala eh, may pang-motivate ka" diana zubiri is in front of me. "o sige aalis na ako, enjoy!" pero nakasimangot. then nagkita kami after ng gym, nakasimangot hanggang sa pag-uwi.

wtf! nagawan na kagad ako ng istorya and to think this diana zubiri person doesn't even know we exist or even fighting coz of her.

i really cant understand women or wives.

[margaux]

ma'm nagpapakatotoo naman kami kaya lang talaga matindi mga girls/wives magpaikot. unbearable na * times.

oops, I am trying to address the people who have the kind of attitude na hindi masyado nagpapkatotoo sa mga partners nila..... peace....

[skyglider]

i'll cite a recent experience:

recently, napapadalas sa gym si Diana Zubiri. my wife excitedly told me: "hoy, nakita mo ba si diana zubiri? ayan o. ang ***y ***y no! talaga! hmmpfff kunwari ka pa di mo nakita eh pagpasok pa lang natin dun na nakatutok mata mo"

then 2 days later sa gym ulit. my wife got out of the locker and approached me sa treadmill. "kasabay ko si diana kanina sa locker. nagbihis din sya and lahat kami kahit mga matatanda napatingin. grabe pala talaga, lahat ng mga lalaki ma-aatract sa kanya. we saw her with bra and panties lang, and lahat ng parte ng katawan nya ***y talaga! voluptous body! " sagot na lang ako: "ah ganun ba"

then just about 2 days ago "oh bakit nandyan ka pa (pointing to the treadmill), kala ko ba kanina pagod ka na at tinatamad ka mag-gym." then she looked at my front. "kaya naman pala eh, may pang-motivate ka" diana zubiri is in front of me. "o sige aalis na ako, enjoy!" pero nakasimangot. then nagkita kami after ng gym, nakasimangot hanggang sa pag-uwi.

wtf! nagawan na kagad ako ng istorya and to think this diana zubiri person doesn't even know we exist or even fighting coz of her.

lam mo sir oldblue, ganyan talaga mga wife, mahilig mag test yan mga yan kaya ako ginagawa minsan tatawa na lang ako ng malakas, minsan psywar naman ang approach.

Sabihin mo kaya sa wife mo, ano ba nato-tomboy ka na naman kay Diana?

o kaya

Binabantayan lang kita kasi baka ma-inggit sayo si Diana dahil mas maganda ka sa kanya.

Ako kasi nung gf ko palang sya inamin ko na ang crush ko eh si Lilet (Yung kumanta ng "I am future of the world, I am the hope of my nation).

i really cant understand women or wives.

Gusto ko nga mag-sulat ng book na "How to understand wowen/wives" kung wala pa nito.

Baka naman meron na kayo mga fellow tsikoteers, pahiram na lang.

[Jun aka Pekto]

sorry *missZ for this OT reply. cant help reacting to sir *Jun aka Pekto's words. like him I'm entering this phase na din. recently, i feel like i'm being held back. right now, i'm particularly sensitive on wife control schemes na directed towards us husbands.

Actually, I'm quite happy right now. Yeah sure. She's got all my money (plus her own), most of our house except the den I'm in right now, and I can't just go anywhere without her permission like visiting home in Nevada or ever setting foot in Oklahoma again. On the flip side, she does take care of me, family, and home. She makes sure there's always food on the table even if it's leftovers. Plus, on any big event or holiday, I'm assured of having a companion/date with me........ That's what married life is all about: settling down and being best friends.

We're not the sentimental romantic types. That's for the birds and a myth. We genuinely like each other's company although we do argue a lot and yet, we do have that unspoken bond.....

Maybe the guy in MissZ's life isn't quite ready yet to settle down. MissZ will have to make decision on whether to be more patient with him or dump him.

I do recall my wife saying,"Marry me or lose me". Nothing like an ultimatum to get me going....... Of course, I married her.

[wren]

sorry to hear missz. you mentioned that you've been living together since february. could it be that he found something(s) he didn't like during this time? ka nga nila, you never really get to know a person until you live with him or her. i hope this isn't the case and he's just going through major insecurities, but if it is, maybe it's a blessing in disguise. it would be worse if you get married and then find out later that you can't live together. but in either case, you deserve an explanation. i hope he's just mulling things over and come to his senses and come groveling back to you. if he does, make him sweat.

[margaux]

sorry to hear missz. you mentioned that you've been living together since february. could it be that he found something(s) he didn't like during this time? ka nga nila, you never really get to know a person until you live with him or her. i hope this isn't the case and he's just going through major insecurities, but if it is, maybe it's a blessing in disguise. it would be worse if you get married and then find out later that you can't live together. but in either case, you deserve an explanation. i hope he's just mulling things over and come to his senses and come groveling back to you. if he does, make him sweat.

yeah...:evillaugh ooops...hindi....wag naman masyado...

[Flagg]

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-The fear of the leash being too tight.
-The fear of losing our carefree ways.
-The fear of her having two sides like a coin. While engaged, she's an angel. After the wedding, she transforms into a female tyrant.

-The fear of life as we know it ending only to be replaced by predictability and humdrum.

Went through all the above. As soon as my wife arrived here, she took charge and before I knew it, I was on an awfully short leash. But, meh. I'm taken and kept.

Hmm... ako naman I didn't go through any of the above. Was it because in the several years na bf/gf kami e we fought so intensely na we straightened everything out? Yung kiss and make-up intense din... ehehehe.

One thing I'm sure of though, we made it a point never to go to sleep without talking it over and making up some rules to keep the problem from recurring. Naks parang Quality Management...

[Karding]

sorry to hear that missZ. Seems to me that it isnt "cold feet," could be a "change of heart"

amf, nag test drive lang pala. sana sinabi mo "no cooling off period" j/k, just trying to make you smile...ehehe

and yes, you deserve someone better *cough gwapito69 cough*

[empy]

and yes, you deserve someone better *cough gwapito69 cough*

ahehehe...eto gusto kong sabihin kaso baka sakalin ako ni missz through my computer

nabuhay ka pala....tamang-tama at malapit na ang 6-6-06 (june 6, '06)...sabi ko na nga ba at ikaw si "The Omen"


oldblue - hang in there dude. maybe your wifey just doesn't know how to take a compliment - maraming taong ganun. just keep at it and she'll come around. maganda yung suggestion ni flagg na chancingan mo palagi...i'm a firm believer in that strategy!