What Do You Do To Overcome Sadness?

[_Cathy_]

Nakikiramay ako sayo Ms. Cathy..

Ngayon lang ako nag mourn ng ganito sa hindi ko relative. Ever since I knew of his passing, I couldn't function na. Hindi ako makakain, tulog, ligo etc. I have documents I need to review that my whole family and lawyers are waiting for, hindi ko magawa. Tonight I slept on my bed without sheets because I TRIED to do things I normally do like change my sheets pero I just end up crying and that's when I fell asleep sa pagod ng iyak. Kapag hindi ako umiiyak parang sasabog dibdib ko, like now wala ako kausap so I am posting here and crying.

It is so sudden. Yun ang masakit. He was still young at marami pa siyang matutulungan. Seeing posts about him, nakikita ko how consistent he was with people - yung pagiging helpful, humble and generous. He is close to being a saint sa bait. He was so perfect. Looking back, it was sacrilege to even compare him to crush. Kay crush I was deeply disappointed dahil mali pagkaka kilala ko sa kanya. Kay Dr Cutie, he was consistent in words and actions, when he tells me not to worry and he will take care of it - he did. He really had a heart of gold. Daming posts ng mga natulungan niya, and his batchmates in HS and COllege really looked up to him because he was so generous in sharing his talent and intelligence. I mourn not just for myself and family but for everyone else and the people he could have helped with a longer life.

I would look at his photo and I still could not believe he is gone. Kausap ko lang siya a few weeks ago and this week I was supposed to contact him pero wala na siya

Plenty of quotes about worry being a waste of time, the best i like is " worry is like paying a debt you never owed". However, i am still a worrier

Losing him, I am not just worried but I am scared. I only look up to 4 men in my life and that is my Dad, ex Kuya, Dr Cutie and my boss. Sila lang kasi yung could make me feel safe, protected and secure tapos nawala pa si Dr Cutie.

Si Dr Cutie recent lang sa buhay ko but he made such an impact. Yung family friend dr namin passed away a few months ago, siya yung takbuhan ng Mom and Tita ko and I cried when he passed din but they said not to worry I have Dr Cutie. Si Dr Cutie, he's a big shot surgeon pero ang BILIS MAG REPLY SAKIN. He NEVER disappointed me. Ang sakit sakit talaga, just how important and expensive is his time and yet he never dismissed me or my hypochondria. I told him naman e na bakit kapag marami ako mararamdaman I would text him and all he needed to say was I'd be okay nawawala agad symptoms ko (eg palpitations or shortness of breath). Yung ibang doctors ko, pag magtatanong ka, you need to set up online appointment (of course bayad yan) Nahihiya na rin kasi ako minsan kulitin si Dr Cutie. Si Dr Cutie he never made us pay PF, alam ko PF niya nasa 2.5k-4k. Pag punta ako sa clinic niya, I don't even appointment na, basta text ko siya na pupunta ako. I will also miss pag nasa Ortigas office ako and I would drop by his clinic to chat with him. Hindi ko talaga maintindihan bakit kinuha siya agad. Yung sakit na nararamdaman ko, ilang yrs ko pa lang kilala, paano pa his family and friends who he has known his whole life? I can't imagine their pain

Appreciating a loved one's time with us in life is equally important as mourning their loss. If I feel like I haven't done enough for the person while he/she was still alive, I just try to pay the influence he/she had on me forward to his family and close friends. Remembering the good times spent with them somehow takes the sting off.

That's what I told my MOm nga, I wanted more time with him. I have no regrets because Dr Cutie knows how much I look up to him and appreciate him. But our time together was not enough, he is so young and everyone was shocked at how sudden it was. Wala mag iisip na mawawala siya, he was not sick, he did not have cancer, kidney disease or covid etc. I see so much of my Dad in him (even physically), shadow is probably right that I have Daddy issues, because very few men can give me that feeling of security. Sa family and friends ko, parati sinasabi masyado malakas personality ko, that is because I have NO CHOICE. Kaya I cherish the few people where I can show my vulnerability. Tama yung friend ni Dr Cutie that when you are with him he gives a warm and re-assuring presence

[_Cathy_]

Ako lang bata sa meeting for Dr Cutie, puro sila 50s and seniors. I turned off my cam and audio. Okay lang wala ako kilala I want to go Dr Cutie's wake but my Mom won't let me. I'm surprised he was cremated because he is Opus dei. Wala na palang use I go to the wake because I won't see him anymore. My heart hurts so much, I wasn't even able to see him one last time

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[_Cathy_]

Mom ordered one of my favorite fast food to comfort me. She has been bribing me with Pizza, Chinese and desserts but I really have no appetite Fck this china virus talaga. It pains my heart thinking that the last year of Dr Cutie's life was spent on lockdown. He admitted to me during the peak that he was also getting anxiety (of course he got over that na) Now, who will I turn to when I get anxiety attack again, when it's Dr Cutie that gives me comfort and reassurance. I miss him so much already. I don't want to go through grief again, kaya I always pray that my loved ones are given good health and long life. The loss of Dr Cutie was so sudden because he did not have a lingering illness. Yung mga kups dyan 70s or 80s na ang hahaba ng buhay, while Dr Cutie who is such a good man had to go early. My Mom and Tita said nga, the good die young. But why Dr APS he was a good man and he died at 96. Sana man lang kahit 70 naabot ni Dr Cutie at na enjoy niya pagiging senior. HIndi ko talaga maintindihan. Another testament that he is a good man, close pa rin siya sa grade school and high school friends niya even his college friends (I was told na one indicator ng kups walang long time friends) Hindi lang barkada but the whole batch looks up to him as seen in his testimonials. I miss you Dr Cutie I hope I see you again even in my dreams.

[misseksaherada]

Mag-grief ka lang Ms. Cathy.. It's ok to feel sad.. Post mo na lang here mga nararamdaman mo para may outlet ka which I think makakatulong din sa pag cope mo for the sudden loss of someone important sa life mo.. *virtual hug*

[TsekwangBakla]

Nagdadasal lang ako pag may ganyang pangyayari. Walang dahilan para magdalamhati pag nawaln ng mahal sa buhay. Masakit pero yan ay isa lang sa dalawang bagay na hindi kontrolado sa buhay.

Kamatayan at tax.

[_Cathy_]

Siguro may mga tao lang talaga na mabilis mag detach sa loved ones but not everyone is built that way. May iba nga dyan sumusunod sa loved ones either self inflicted or giving up on life (slow death/self destruction). I know that is not normal but you can't fault people and just tell them to move on. Ilang beses ko na naranasan mamatayan ng loved one and it almost destroyed me physically and mentally lalo na at sunod sunod nangyari. This is the first time in 15 yrs na may taong I care so deeply about na nawala. He is not family but I highly respect him and look up to him and Dr Cutie knew that. He changed my life by curing my second Mom - and for that I will forever be grateful. For 3 yrs I spent most of my weekend at doctors clinics at kahit out of town hindi ko magawa dahil ang isipan ko nasa bahay and if something goes wrong. It went as far as I sleep with myself ready to rush at the hospital anytime. Only those that experienced being a main caregiver will be able to relate to this.

I guess some people are thinking I am crazy and easily dismiss my grief dahil hindi ko naman family, or asawa or anak si Dr Cutie but the help he gave me, was more than some of my own blood (who wish me ill slash dead) could ever do. Now that he is gone, yung fear and anxiety ko are at an all time high again kasi wala na yung tao na alam kong matatakbuhan ko when it comes to health concerns. Yung family friend namin (who was the mentor of Dr Cutie) who has been helpful to us din passed away about 6 mos prior and my Mom told me not to worry because I still have Dr Cutie. This is really a shock to me, I know he is not in best health but I did not expect him to go this soon

[ninjababez]

totoo kaya ito? nung bata ako lagi ako depress (kasi poor) pero di naman ako kulang sa s3x, pero madalas empty feeling.

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[_Cathy_]

Now that Dr Cutie is gone, I took the BP of my second Mom just to make sure that all is okay. Kamalas malasan naman at 140/90 I have no Dr Cutie to call. Eto na nga ba sinasabi ko, pag wala si Dr Cutie ang hirap hirap. I have to go through other doctors na secretary lang nakakausap ko then I have to set up an appointment. Ang direct namin nakakausap si Dr APS and Dr Cutie and we don't need to set up appointment and now they are both gone

[dreamur]

Stress reliever...

[ninjababez]

Stress reliever...

ako stress reliever ko .. call a friend
or manggulo sa group chat hahaha

[Egan101]

ako stress reliever ko .. call a friend
or manggulo sa group chat hahaha

Alam ko gusto mong guluhin si Bossing Vic sa group chat! Hahahaha

BTT: for me, I don’t worry too much so that I don’t get stressed. On my free time, I just dive right into the confines of the multiplayer world of Call Of Duty.


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[dr. d]

Stress reliever...

hmmm...
sugar and salt.
jabetish and altapresyon.

i'm a Lay's fan, myself.
have to finish the entire pack at one sitting, else it un-crackle...

[_Cathy_]

Mom went inside my room and saw me crying She knew it was over Dr Cutie. I can't get over the sudden unexpected loss talaga. They tried to save him for 2 hrs pala, akala ko parang sa pelicula na ilang minutes lang...

Is that why most doctors may DNR because they know how hard it is on the body?

[shadow]

Mom went inside my room and saw me crying She knew it was over Dr Cutie. I can't get over the sudden unexpected loss talaga. They tried to save him for 2 hrs pala, akala ko parang sa pelicula na ilang minutes lang...

Is that why most doctors may DNR because they know how hard it is on the body?

Stop it.

Tawagan mo na si uls kasi


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[_Cathy_]

Stop it.

Tawagan mo na si uls kasi


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Valid naman ang grief ko kay Dr Cutie. He's more than family to me, even more than my own blood na puro sakit ng ulo bigay sakin. There are deaths that you never really heal from, you just learn to live with the pain.

I am not sad over a BF that can be replaced that I could just move on from...

[_Cathy_]

I don't know what is happening to me. There are days when I would sleep so much, and when I am awake I feel like crying lang. Good thing I have the board to entertain me, but mostly I reject calls and seen zone my friends. Yung isa lang talaga makulit so I would end up answering her calls at nae entertain din naman ako. She said she noticed something is wrong with me kasi I don't reply to her messages na. I am so thankful to my friends who refuse to leave me even when I push them away

It's my Lola's birthday nga and she asked me why I did not visit her. Naiiyak na lang ako kasi I feel bad that I missed it but I don't wanna socialize talaga. I feel so doomed na ewan. I am just really really sad and fearful at the same time

[EQAddict]

You have clinical depression. Everyone can see that from the combined history of your writings and musings.

You need to get help. Acknowledging it is the first step. There is no shame in that.

Getting help can really transform your life, self image, outlook, energy levels, self confidence etc. I mean its a medical science that has supported millions of patients already. Dont let your mom's skepticism prevent you from seeking help.



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[bugsmobile]

You have clinical depression. Everyone can see that from the combined history of your writings and musings.

You need to get help. Acknowledging it is the first step. There is no shame in that.

Getting help can really transform your life, self image, outlook, energy levels, self confidence etc. I mean its a medical science that has supported millions of patients already. Dont let your mom's skepticism prevent you from seeking help.



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Yes I agree. I’m no psychologist but I think most of us here would seem to agree that you have one I was also diagnosed with clinical depression & I’m currently taking anti depressant pills. So far I would say it’s working. Kaya start doing something about it. I’m sure there are psychologists that can accept online medical consultations.

[_Cathy_]

I already inquired on psychiatrists but the consultation fee is too high I can't afford it now because I am jobless AND the source of sadness now is my joblessness. It's like a catch 22!

My Tita is a nurse pala for patients that have mental conditions (depression and bipolar etc) and they always have issues with the medications because sometimes the patient becomes zombie like na, parang spaced out? Some of the meds I often hear from them depakote, seroquel and diazepam (used to take this)

Being jobless is making me depressed. Wala kasing purpose for the day. I am sick and tired of my routine of watching youtube, lumabo na eyesight ko. I cook more now but that's not good because it will get us fat. I hate to see my bank account puro debit walang credit! Also, it's so embarrassing when I have to say that I don't work My career was one of the few aspects in my life where everything was perfect and I lost it pa I was planning on going back but the management in Manila that I like left na last Dec 2021! I have nobody to endorse me anymore and it's them I like to work with, so what's the use in going back to my old company

[sean-archer]

I already inquired on psychiatrists but the consultation fee is too high I can't afford it now because I am jobless AND the source of sadness now is my joblessness. It's like a catch 22!

My Tita is a nurse pala for patients that have mental conditions (depression and bipolar etc) and they always have issues with the medications because sometimes the patient becomes zombie like na, parang spaced out? Some of the meds I often hear from them depakote, seroquel and diazepam (used to take this)

Being jobless is making me depressed. Wala kasing purpose for the day. I am sick and tired of my routine of watching youtube, lumabo na eyesight ko. I cook more now but that's not good because it will get us fat. I hate to see my bank account puro debit walang credit! Also, it's so embarrassing when I have to say that I don't work My career was one of the few aspects in my life where everything was perfect and I lost it pa I was planning on going back but the management in Manila that I like left na last Dec 2021! I have nobody to endorse me anymore and it's them I like to work with, so what's the use in going back to my old company

Com'on mam cath, you've done a lot. Kahit 10 years ka maging jobless, Yung dedication mo and fulfillment sa mga naging work mo compensates. Time to take a break and do what you really wanna do

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