What Do You Do To Overcome Sadness?

[jut703]

I already inquired on psychiatrists but the consultation fee is too high I can't afford it now because I am jobless AND the source of sadness now is my joblessness. It's like a catch 22!

My Tita is a nurse pala for patients that have mental conditions (depression and bipolar etc) and they always have issues with the medications because sometimes the patient becomes zombie like na, parang spaced out? Some of the meds I often hear from them depakote, seroquel and diazepam (used to take this)

Being jobless is making me depressed. Wala kasing purpose for the day. I am sick and tired of my routine of watching youtube, lumabo na eyesight ko. I cook more now but that's not good because it will get us fat. I hate to see my bank account puro debit walang credit! Also, it's so embarrassing when I have to say that I don't work My career was one of the few aspects in my life where everything was perfect and I lost it pa I was planning on going back but the management in Manila that I like left na last Dec 2021! I have nobody to endorse me anymore and it's them I like to work with, so what's the use in going back to my old company

Psych sessions are worth the cost. There are a lot of things you can cut down on so you can spend on your mental health. Worst case you can ask financial help from your family.

Btw, how are you? I’ve been out of the loop, last I remember you were deciding between keeping your job vs moving to the US. I assume you took the US route? Then now you’re back in Manila tama ba?


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[StockEngine]

I already inquired on psychiatrists but the consultation fee is too high I can't afford it now because I am jobless AND the source of sadness now is my joblessness. It's like a catch 22!

My Tita is a nurse pala for patients that have mental conditions (depression and bipolar etc) and they always have issues with the medications because sometimes the patient becomes zombie like na, parang spaced out? Some of the meds I often hear from them depakote, seroquel and diazepam (used to take this)

Being jobless is making me depressed. Wala kasing purpose for the day. I am sick and tired of my routine of watching youtube, lumabo na eyesight ko. I cook more now but that's not good because it will get us fat. I hate to see my bank account puro debit walang credit! Also, it's so embarrassing when I have to say that I don't work My career was one of the few aspects in my life where everything was perfect and I lost it pa I was planning on going back but the management in Manila that I like left na last Dec 2021! I have nobody to endorse me anymore and it's them I like to work with, so what's the use in going back to my old company

Go back to the US... there are so many jobs there.

[EQAddict]

Have youbtried LinkedIn or started sending your CV around? You might get inquiries.

I think that is one thing you can remedy without the help of medical practitioners.




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[papi smith]

Being jobless is making me depressed. Wala kasing purpose for the day. I am sick and tired of my routine of watching youtube, lumabo na eyesight ko. I cook more now but that's not good because it will get us fat. I hate to see my bank account puro debit walang credit! Also, it's so embarrassing when I have to say that I don't work My career was one of the few aspects in my life where everything was perfect and I lost it pa I was planning on going back but the management in Manila that I like left na last Dec 2021! I have nobody to endorse me anymore and it's them I like to work with, so what's the use in going back to my old company

I went exactly through this phase. I thought that I would be proud to say that I retired early, but pag may get together, parang nangangapa kung ano sasabihin when they ask, so what are you doing now and answer them wala. I was not the dream retiree who plays golf and spends coffee time with friends, so I went back to work, went thru 2 jobs but found it difficult to hold on, deep inside me, tamad na rin pala ako. So over time, I got over that feeling and I'm more at peace with myself now.

I agree with Sir EQ that you need to take another job to find your inner self. The only problem with getting another job is that most likely, you will find it hard to get one with a company the same level as your previous, especially when you apply and you're no longer holding on to your current job. So pay and benefits will not be at par, and that's a major source of discontent. I observed this with myself and other early retirees (aka voluntary separation) from big companies. So you either embrace it or hate it.

[dr. d]

psychiatric consults will work, only if the client wishes it to work.
it takes intelligence and insight for these sessions to work.

the difficult client is the one who thinks "there's nothing wrong with me".
i asked a colleague in the field, "what's your most difficult patient?"
"yung ayaw magpagamot."

when we were students,
the workings of the human mind were mysterious and many psychiatric abnormalities were "illnesses without an organic cause".
today, a number of these abnormalities are believed to be caused by one part of the brain failing to communicate with (fire signals to, or receive signals from) other parts of the brain. some of the responsible/defective brain cells have been identified.

OT.

[EQAddict]

I went exactly through this phase. I thought that I would be proud to say that I retired early, but pag may get together, parang nangangapa kung ano sasabihin when they ask, so what are you doing now and answer them wala. I was not the dream retiree who plays golf and spends coffee time with friends, so I went back to work, went thru 2 jobs but found it difficult to hold on, deep inside me, tamad na rin pala ako. So over time, I got over that feeling and I'm more at peace with myself now.

I agree with Sir EQ that you need to take another job to find your inner self. The only problem with getting another job is that most likely, you will find it hard to get one with a company the same level as your previous, especially when you apply and you're no longer holding on to your current job. So pay and benefits will not be at par, and that's a major source of discontent. I observed this with myself and other early retirees (aka voluntary separation) from big companies. So you either embrace it or hate it.

Thanks for this insight. One of my fears as well if I retire (which happens to most of us employed folks).

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[papi smith]

Thanks for this insight. One of my fears as well if I retire (which happens to most of us employed folks).

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Maniniwala sana ako if I don't read your posts [emoji16]

You can retire anytime and not worry about having the problems I and Cathy have [emoji56]

[EQAddict]

Oh we all have problems hehe.

And money isnt infinite. I have passive income na but the active income and pride from having a good job is hard to replace. And my kids are growing up. So have to think of that too.


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[dr. d]

we understand.
when one gets... ahead of the other rats in the rat race,
one exchanges one's set of problems for another set of problems that are equally as stressful.

[gearhead000]

I went exactly through this phase. I thought that I would be proud to say that I retired early, but pag may get together, parang nangangapa kung ano sasabihin when they ask, so what are you doing now and answer them wala. I was not the dream retiree who plays golf and spends coffee time with friends, so I went back to work, went thru 2 jobs but found it difficult to hold on, deep inside me, tamad na rin pala ako. So over time, I got over that feeling and I'm more at peace with myself now.

Almost the same phase that I am in now, though I still haven't gotten through to trying out another job. Pero feeling ko nga di rin ako magtatagal if I work again but with another company. As with you I am having doubts and insecurities with not having anything else to do right now. But I am quite enjoying the laid back lifestyle and may not be up to the demands of the workplace already. So still weighing my options right now, and thankfully still haven't got into the self-pity mode which can bring in the sadness and depression.

[Little Missy]

Almost the same phase that I am in now, though I still haven't gotten through to trying out another job. Pero feeling ko nga di rin ako magtatagal if I work again but with another company. As with you I am having doubts and insecurities with not having anything else to do right now. But I am quite enjoying the laid back lifestyle and may not be up to the demands of the workplace already. So still weighing my options right now, and thankfully still haven't got into the self-pity mode which can bring in the sadness and depression.

Bakit nag stop ka magwork if you don't mind me asking.

Baliktad ako sa inyo, ayoko na magwork. Or maybe ayoko na ng corporate life. May iba akong gustong gawin if money is not an issue.

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[Sweetlucious]

Bakit nag stop ka magwork if you don't mind me asking.

Baliktad ako sa inyo, ayoko na magwork. Or maybe ayoko na ng corporate life. May iba akong gustong gawin if money is not an issue.

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Go for it, while you’re young.

Esp. kung passion mo.

Money? Start small.

[CVT]

Oh we all have problems hehe.

And money isnt infinite. I have passive income na but the active income and pride from having a good job is hard to replace. And my kids are growing up. So have to think of that too.


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Agree bro... For me, in whatever form it is, "work is dignity"...

[gearhead000]

Bakit nag stop ka magwork if you don't mind me asking.

Baliktad ako sa inyo, ayoko na magwork. Or maybe ayoko na ng corporate life. May iba akong gustong gawin if money is not an issue.

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Short answer is that we were forced to.

A bit longer reason is that the company have gone on to laying off workers... and I'm one of the many retrenched employees.
It's good that we've received quite a comfortable separation package so I haven't gotten the initiative as yet to try and reintegrate to the work force.

It hasn't put me in great sadness naman since it was getting toxic na at that time with our new bosses when it happened.
As such, most of my officemates had been thinking of an early out already... like a transfer or an early retirement.
In fact our direct boss, one of our more reasonable officers, had filed his the year prior making us feel much more vulnerable.
Having received more than I expected has softened the blow of the job loss and has afforded me a clear mind at the moment.

As with you, I dread reentering the corporate hustle. I'm not sure I can still hack it if it's with another company.
I am still doing research on other alternative source of income though.
I have to be judicious with any investment that I might get myself into now or in the future.
Most that are available kasi are MLM or MLM-like, so plenty of chances to get burned.

BTT
Sadness is closer to depression for me, so I just avoid things that make me sad.
A song, a smell, or thoughts of a place makes me sad... or gets me in a depressive mood.
So at the onset I just try to get them off my mind quickly. I try not to dwell on it... like the emos do.
If I'm listening to a song that I like, but which gets me to that sinking feeling, I just stop and listen to a more upbeat one.

[Akky M]

My sister took the early retirement last year, she told me she is no longer happy and complaining to me for a few years with what she is doing and wanted to get out of the corporate life and do something different. Tingin ko sobrang ayaw na din nya and no longer healthy for her mentally to continue.


She did put up a small farm to start with , free range chicken at intensyon nya is to produce and sell eggs ( yung light brown color) and go into as much as natural and organic way of farming. So far sobrang na enjoy nya although maliliit pa yung mga chicken nya.

First time I see her so excited for so many years as she keep googling to check those reputable breeders and visit them around. They prepare food and feed the chicken themselves (her and husband), she now enjoy being hands on.

I see farming as a good way to de-stress and get your mind back on track and enjoy the slow life sa province.


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[StockEngine]

My sister took the early retirement last year, she told me she is no longer happy and complaining to me for a few years with what she is doing and wanted to get out of the corporate life and do something different. Tingin ko sobrang ayaw na din nya and no longer healthy for her mentally to continue.


She did put up a small farm to start with , free range chicken at intensyon nya is to produce and sell eggs ( yung light brown color) and go into as much as natural and organic way of farming. So far sobrang na enjoy nya although maliliit pa yung mga chicken nya.

First time I see her so excited for so many years as she keep googling to check those reputable breeders and visit them around. They prepare food and feed the chicken themselves (her and husband), she now enjoy being hands on.

I see farming as a good way to de-stress and get your mind back on track and enjoy the slow life sa province.


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man i want zero stress!

[dr. d]

I see farming as a good way to de-stress and get your mind back on track and enjoy the slow life sa province.


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it really depends.
some find it a respite, but do not intend to do it for a long time. pang weekends lang.
others see it as a change in career.
still others see it as something they would rather get away from.

[uls]

My sister took the early retirement last year, she told me she is no longer happy and complaining to me for a few years with what she is doing and wanted to get out of the corporate life and do something different. Tingin ko sobrang ayaw na din nya and no longer healthy for her mentally to continue.


She did put up a small farm to start with , free range chicken at intensyon nya is to produce and sell eggs ( yung light brown color) and go into as much as natural and organic way of farming. So far sobrang na enjoy nya although maliliit pa yung mga chicken nya.

First time I see her so excited for so many years as she keep googling to check those reputable breeders and visit them around. They prepare food and feed the chicken themselves (her and husband), she now enjoy being hands on.

I see farming as a good way to de-stress and get your mind back on track and enjoy the slow life sa province.


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no need for corporate job -- stress lang yan

farm -- stress-reducing

companion (husband) -- someone to lean on emotionally (not lonely)

ok na yan

[papi smith]

Leaving something you hate and doing something you love is a great way to de stress, only if you make enough money.

This is the lesson being taught in the book, Follow your Heart.

[uls]

naka ipon naman siguro yan galing sa corporate job

kung na-invest mabuti meron na passive income yan