Telling a Lie to your partner

[ghosthunter]

What's my type ba GH? hehe

you answered your own question already. Someone who is responsible for himself and people around him. Someone who would listen to you and your daily download of events in your life. Someone who would be there for you when you need him. Someone who is intelligent and skilled with his hands. Maybe even an easy going personality. It also doesn't hurt to look good as well.

2 years for a goodnight kiss? I am not that prude. As long as the guy is my BF huh! haha.

exactly... so how long would it be for a guy dating you to upgrade to bf status?

[ghosthunter]

I don't use facebook, multiply and friendster. I don't like posting pictures and updating everyone about what's going on in my life. hehe.

why is it I am not surprised with your admitted paranoia?

[_Cathy_]

you answered your own question already. Someone who is responsible for himself and people around him. Someone who would listen to you and your daily download of events in your life. Someone who would be there for you when you need him. Someone who is intelligent and skilled with his hands. Maybe even an easy going personality. It also doesn't hurt to look good as well.

Wow good memory and I like a guy that is chivalrous. I really have no standards when it comes to looks. Although my Mom said that she'd want a tall guy for me like my Dad daw.

exactly... so how long would it be for a guy dating you to upgrade to bf status?

I guess it depends on how good the guy is at panliligaw? Kasi if things don't work out on the first date, for me there's no second time anymore. If I let the guy pick me up from home, it means I am already dating him exclusively so I won't entertain other suitors anymore. BF status once I let the guy kiss me so the guy has to be really attuned to me kasi he has to know when to attempt to kiss me.

[ab_initio]

lagi ko naririnig sa girls "baka magbago sya"

"baka magbago sya pag kasal na kami"

ya right

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do guys need rescuing?

in the first place, if a guy needs rescuing, doesnt his character come into question?

this will find its way to the stenographic notes...the woman is asking for her freedom by having the marriage annulled for reasons of psychological incapacity, among others. it's a useless expense...tsk!! hijo de poocha! it's hard to feed someone who's tamad, i guess...isusubo mo na nga lang, he can't even manage to chew...tsk! nakapagtrabaho na din ako sa hospital noon, mabuti pa i feed yung comatose, i was aided by the naso-gastric tube...hehehehe. pag buhay, at di niya gusto, he'll spit it out to your face...what are you gonna get? heartaches, resentments, depreciating self-esteem...the nega vibe will be sent out; hence, your quality of life is adversely affected.

[_Cathy_]

exactly... so how long would it be for a guy dating you to upgrade to bf status?

There was only one instance when I wanted a guy to be my BF after less than 2 months of knowing him. My good friend and I even went out to celebrate because I'd finally have a BF after a century. hehe. That guy also found out where I lived without my telling him my address. He surprised me at work although I never told him our office building. I guess he was just really attuned with me and he listens to everything that I say so he was able to piece things together. He's good with cars, funny and he OFFERS to pick me up everyday from school and work. He'd pass our street almost everyday and call me using his cell phone. I slept early then and he goes home late so he'd just let me hear his bike (dulo pa lang kasi ng kanto pa lang kasi rinig na). He said just passing by our house is enough for him (nabola naman ako)

I couldn't forget that guy because I think it was only the chase that he wanted. I think when he noticed that I liked him already after just 2 months so he started to lose interest. He's good looking pala. I think I was lethargic for a week after that happened. First time I wanted to break my rules and that was what I got. Lesson learned for me. Never again. So now I am wary of guys that are too "perfect".

TUnay nga na ang pinaghihirapan pinagiingatan.

[_Cathy_]

this will find its way to the stenographic notes...the woman is asking for her freedom by having the marriage annulled for reasons of psychological incapacity, among others. it's a useless expense...tsk!! hijo de poocha! it's hard to feed someone who's tamad, i guess...isusubo mo na nga lang, he can't even manage to chew...tsk! nakapagtrabaho na din ako sa hospital noon, mabuti pa i feed yung comatose, i was aided by the naso-gastric tube...hehehehe. pag buhay, at di niya gusto, he'll spit it out to your face...what are you gonna get? heartaches, resentments, depreciating self-esteem...the nega vibe will be sent out; hence, your quality of life is adversely affected.

I also thought about how I'd be able to tolerate my BF's being jobless if we do get married. He told me several times that we could get married anytime I wanted to but his parents will pay for the wedding which I refuse to. I told him that if we were to get married it has to be his money. He said kasi that he'll get motivated to work once he has a child but then I couldn't take that risk eh.

[vito corleone]

I don't use facebook, multiply and friendster. I don't like posting pictures and updating everyone about what's going on in my life. hehe.

then don't use it for that purpose. . .keep this in your mind' "i'm not creating this facebook/friendster/multiply to update everyone about what's going on in my life; i'm setting up this antenna to increase the probability of catching the signal that could be coming from the guy that is right for me". . .
because, accept it or not, you have to advertize to increase your chance of hooking up with your ideal guy that is somewhere out there. . .nothing wrong with exhibiting yourself for others to see as long as it is done in a decent manner and, besides, it's a natural thing. . .plants, long ago, invented sweet-smelling and colorful flowers to attract pollinators. . .

just be confident about and not be too hard on yourself, ab_initio's earlier post is worth repeating

i guess self-confidence is something that you need to work on the hardest for now. if you think you're ugly, then the world will see you as ugly; if you think that you have what it takes to be the town's prettiest woman, then the world will see you just that. it's about directing the energy of the universe...


“If I have lost confidence in myself, I have the universe against me.”
-ralph waldo emerson


c'mon, girl, chin up =)

[ghosthunter]

There was only one instance when I wanted a guy to be my BF after less than 2 months of knowing him. My good friend and I even went out to celebrate because I'd finally have a BF after a century. hehe. That guy also found out where I lived without my telling him my address. He surprised me at work although I never told him our office building. I guess he was just really attuned with me and he listens to everything that I say so he was able to piece things together. He's good with cars, funny and he OFFERS to pick me up everyday from school and work. He'd pass our street almost everyday and call me using his cell phone. I slept early then and he goes home late so he'd just let me hear his bike (dulo pa lang kasi ng kanto pa lang kasi rinig na). He said just passing by our house is enough for him (nabola naman ako)

I couldn't forget that guy because I think it was only the chase that he wanted. I think when he noticed that I liked him already after just 2 months so he started to lose interest. He's good looking pala. I think I was lethargic for a week after that happened. First time I wanted to break my rules and that was what I got. Lesson learned for me. Never again. So now I am wary of guys that are too "perfect".

TUnay nga na ang pinaghihirapan pinagiingatan.

How sure are you that it was the chase that he was after? Guys who are very proficient at making "bola" typically will chase after any girl who seems likely to give in to what they want/like. If they feel they are not getting any more ahead with the girl, they will just move on to the next one on their phone list.

Guys like those can really be attuned to the things you casually say. They use those as a basis to get you even more attracted. Like if you mention things you like, they will do some effort to give you some gift somewhat related to what you mentioned.

Actually doing such things, like listening to what the girl is saying is also what most siutors should be doing but others excel more than others. Honestly I am not that well in listening... or rather I don't remember as well things that have been mentioned in a casual conversation as well especially specifics like names, etc.

BTW, what you might be looking for might be something like a saint of a boyfriend. And in that sense, you must also make sure you are worth your own bf "requirements". Low self esteem reveals itself easy enough and its not a "plus-factor" for a future potential gf.

[_Cathy_]

How sure are you that it was the chase that he was after? Guys who are very proficient at making "bola" typically will chase after any girl who seems likely to give in to what they want/like. If they feel they are not getting any more ahead with the girl, they will just move on to the next one on their phone list.

Guys like those can really be attuned to the things you casually say. They use those as a basis to get you even more attracted. Like if you mention things you like, they will do some effort to give you some gift somewhat related to what you mentioned.

Actually doing such things, like listening to what the girl is saying is also what most siutors should be doing but others excel more than others. Honestly I am not that well in listening... or rather I don't remember as well things that have been mentioned in a casual conversation as well especially specifics like names, etc.

BTW, what you might be looking for might be something like a saint of a boyfriend. And in that sense, you must also make sure you are worth your own bf "requirements". Low self esteem reveals itself easy enough and its not a "plus-factor" for a future potential gf.

Are you saying that he wanted something physical? I think he knew from the start that I don't play around so I never thought of it that way.

I don't think I am asking too much for a BF. I just want a chivalrous guy who could take care of me and whose values is the same as mine. Anyway I don't mind being single, before my last BF, I was single for 4 years. He could have been perfect expect but he was jobless.

[ab_initio]

a wedding organizer with free taste test 1st

no need. i'm gonna operate on a money back guarantee scheme. with that if you're not satisfied with what i just delivered, say so...your earnest money will be yours in a second.

[ab_initio]

because, accept it or not, you have to advertize to increase your chance of hooking up with your ideal guy that is somewhere out there. . .nothing wrong with exhibiting yourself for others to see as long as it is done in a decent manner and, besides, it's a natural thing. . .plants, long ago, invented sweet-smelling and colorful flowers to attract pollinators. . .

just be confident about and not be too hard on yourself, ab_initio's earlier post is worth repeating

“If I have lost confidence in myself, I have the universe against me.”
-ralph waldo emerson


c'mon, girl, chin up =)

^^thank you, Sir.

it's about maintaining a niche in the market...making yourself afloat in an already congested venue. the law of attraction simply tells you to know what you want and direct your energy to getting it, this time under your terms. you can always change the course of your destiny...coz everything in life is a product of making our choices deliberate. there's no accident. choice.

[ab_initio]

Chick Boy pala si Gen Miting e I think the proper way is for the lady to offer her cheek then the man would respond accordingly.

although this forms part of the so called social grace, but i opted not to practice beso with men...i do beso only with female and gay friends. i just extend my right hand for a hand shake and kung medyo manyakis or gusto lang magpa introduce at di ko gusto kartada niya, wave lang sabay, HI!...beso no.

[ghosthunter]

Are you saying that he wanted something physical? I think he knew from the start that I don't play around so I never thought of it that way.

some girls who play "innocent" are sometimes the best to "corrupt".

I don't think I am asking too much for a BF. I just want a chivalrous guy who could take care of me and whose values is the same as mine. Anyway I don't mind being single, before my last BF, I was single for 4 years.

And in a four more years how old would you be? Its not that I am trying to alarm you or anything but sometimes we dont get what we want and have to settle for something a little less than ideal.

You might end up waiting in your tower for your prince that would never come.

[_Cathy_]

some girls who play "innocent" are sometimes the best to "corrupt".

So I guess he found out that I wasn't just playing innocent. Although I have to admit that part of his appeal is his being adventurous and always pushing me to try things I wouldn't normally do. (He taught me how to punch) hehe

And in a four more years how old would you be? Its not that I am trying to alarm you or anything but sometimes we dont get what we want and have to settle for something a little less than ideal.

You might end up waiting in your tower for your prince that would never come.

In my 30s na! hehe. I am not really looking for the ideal guy, it's just that there are some things that I am not willing to compromise. As long as he's okay with that then I think it could work out.

[ghosthunter]

So I guess he found out that I wasn't just playing innocent. Although I have to admit that part of his appeal is his being adventurous and always pushing me to try things I wouldn't normally do. (He taught me how to punch) hehe

Sounds like a gf I once had... she was the shyest girl I have met and that was part of her charm that initially attracted me. Even when we were bf/gf, getting her to kiss me goodnight after a date was like a secret operation at the gate of her place. I also ended up "pushing" her to try new things she wouldn't normally do including meeting my family over dinner.

In my 30s na! hehe. I am not really looking for the ideal guy, it's just that there are some things that I am not willing to compromise. As long as he's okay with that then I think it could work out.

Coincidentally my ex-gf would also be around the same age (early 30s) by now. I am kinda regretting my decision many years ago. Thats 20/20 hindsight for you. Although its not that I didn't try contacting her recently though. And what she said was pretty clear that she has moved on with her life.

[ab_initio]

^^ ano na kaya update nito...hmmmm...isa lang yung nagpa enlist, meaning...llamado na? kaya isinara? hehehe...just thinking out loud...

[ghosthunter]

...just thinking out loud...

Maybe a touch too loud.

[_Cathy_]

My ex called me last night (after 3 weeks) and he sounded like nothing happened at all. Hay.

[uls]

so is he still your ex?

[Lucius]

Be thankful he called