My wife found out about my affair

[OldSchoolHack]

Do people deserve to be forgiven when they make a mistake? Yes. Sana magmahalan kayo ulit.

[twistedmind]

hi peeps. this coming friday birthday ng bunso ko, he's turning 5. may party sa classroom nila and pupunta wife ko. I'm planning to go there too kayalang fear of how my wife will react when she see's me. Lately I get to go out with the kids everyweek and see them often. It's not a problem anymore kasi pumapayag na wife ko, pero sinabi nya this doesn't change anything between us and wag ako umasa na magkakabalikan pa kami dahil ayaw na nya tlga.


I know with regards to the kids, its a big improvement pero between us same pa din. I'm not happy and contented dahil gusto ko pa din magkasama kami lahat. I can sense how sad the kids are too. kayalang pinapagalitan daw sila ni mommy whenever they tell her sana magbati na kayo ni daddy. My bunso told me gusto ko daddy mommy ahya together sa birthday party ko.

[aNthraxx]

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[aNthraxx]

The Day Nov.11, after 3 long months that my wife finally allowed me to spend time with my kids for an afternoon, After I brought them home, I went to hear mass to thank God. I only have 10min. to be with my 8 yr old during his lunch break and I hug him always telling him i love them so much. My 4 yr old everytime I will hug him and say goodbye he will start to cry, he said he's afraid that might be the last time we will see each other coz mom always says will bring them to the states. "Paano na daddy hindi na kita makikita sa states na daw kami sleep gabi gabi." They told me their Christmas wish is "sana mabuo ulit family natin and bati na kayo ni mommy."

Just last wednesday, while he was crying, he told me, " daddy, hirapan ako, tagal mo na hindi uwi house, gusto ko together family, sad ako sobra, daddy gusto ko na pakamatay." I told him dont say that, kasi love ka namin ng mommy sobra and bata ka pa kaya hindi mo maintindihan nangyayari.Pero I will visit you in school always.

Yesterday I started to look for a child psychologist, I can't believe the rate was 3T for an hour consultation and i have to wait till next year to be accomodated. Another doctor said 1500 but will have to wait till december. Awhile ago was able to talk to another psychologist and she said I have to convince my wife to allow me to bring my 4 yr old with me so she can observe my son.

This is all my fault and now my children are affected emotionally. I go to mass everyday praying that my wife will find forgiveness in her heart and to help my kids. It really breaks my heart seeing how my 4 yr old cries, he is really so sad.

Anyone can recommend a child psychologist? ty.

i still havent finished this thread but my god its breakingmy heart! particularly your above story i suggest if you have not brought him yet to a child psychiatrist/psychologist to do so in earnest. Problems at this stage of development have a LASTING impact on a childs psyche.. i cant stress that enough!!

[aNthraxx]

hi peeps. this coming friday birthday ng bunso ko, he's turning 5. may party sa classroom nila and pupunta wife ko. I'm planning to go there too kayalang fear of how my wife will react when she see's me. Lately I get to go out with the kids everyweek and see them often. It's not a problem anymore kasi pumapayag na wife ko, pero sinabi nya this doesn't change anything between us and wag ako umasa na magkakabalikan pa kami dahil ayaw na nya tlga.


I know with regards to the kids, its a big improvement pero between us same pa din. I'm not happy and contented dahil gusto ko pa din magkasama kami lahat. I can sense how sad the kids are too. kayalang pinapagalitan daw sila ni mommy whenever they tell her sana magbati na kayo ni daddy. My bunso told me gusto ko daddy mommy ahya together sa birthday party ko.

You can inform her beforehand that your coming...also try to get her "take" on the situation if its ok or what..pakiramdaman mo.

[first_light]

I have a friend who have the problem as twisted. Actually, annuled na sila. He also see his kids (girl and boy) every weekends. They go to church and malls. Unfortunately, di na namin siya ma-contact and the last time na nakita siya ay when he's with another girl. Few men would really sacrifice for their love and marriage. Hope twisted will be one of them. His love with his wife will be tested with time. I believe his wife still loves him but she's just afraid that his hubby will repeat the matter. So, what he needs to do is to be patient and believe that nothing is impossible as long as he will do his best to save their marriage. Tip ko lang kay twisted: tuwing magkikita kayo, make sure na pogi at look young ka para ma-in-love uli sa iyo misis mo. Gbu.

[TurboBoost]

Twistedmind,

Katulad mo, nagkamali rin ako a long time ago, ang pinagkaiba lang natin is napatawad ako ni mrs eventually and buo ulit ang pamilya ko ngayon. Pero hindi na ako napatawad ng in-laws ko (at ng buong aklan ni mrs) hanggang ngayon.

They say that once you pick up a stick, you also pick up the other end. Ganyan talaga, tayo ang nagkamali e. Mahalaga is natuto tayo at huwag nang ulitin. Raise it up to the Lord. In His perfect time, things will be all right.

Alam ko kung gaano kasakit ang nararamdaman mo. Don't forget to always ask the Lord to give you strength and guidance in this difficult trial.

[lowslowbenz]

I made the same mistake too... not once... not twice... but FIVE times...

But in the end... It was me who cleaned up my act... and made a promise to the GUY upstairs...

[afrasay]

Putek bro ang lupet mo, pero alam ko hindi dahil sa babae yan, sa limang MBs mo !!! :D

[lowslowbenz]

Putek bro ang lupet mo, pero alam ko hindi dahil sa babae yan, sa limang MBs mo !!! :D

totoo yun... 5 nga...

teka... pati ba naman dito.. nahuli mo pa ako??...