Marrying a Single Mom

[Jun aka Pekto]

I like to keep my life simple so avoid going into complicated relationships. I have nothing against single dads or widowers but I don't think I could handle being a step mom that is why I applaud step moms that do a good job in both raising both their own and step children.

I do not believe in remarrying because my heart will forever belong to the one that I will marry. If I become a widow early then I would just have to work doubly hard to raise my children alone. I will just focus all my time and energy in taking care of my children. Honestly, I also cannot imagine making love to another guy other than the father of my children (even after death).

Meh. That's what virgins and those who have no inkling of real life think.

I told my wife if I died, I expect her to re-marry (hopefully someone filthy rich) and not dwell on memories of me. Live a full life for the sake of the kids. They don't deserve to be without a father.

[badsekktor]

^^^ i agree.

[_Cathy_]

I've had my share of hardships but I do not want to have a step father/mother. I don't need a "replacement" parent. And besides nobody remarries in our family and so far it has worked well. Mas mahirap for the one left behind but less complicated.

[CVT]

I like to keep my life simple so avoid going into complicated relationships. I have nothing against single dads or widowers but I don't think I could handle being a step mom that is why I applaud step moms that do a good job in both raising both their own and step children.

I do not believe in remarrying because my heart will forever belong to the one that I will marry. If I become a widow early then I would just have to work doubly hard to raise my children alone. I will just focus all my time and energy in taking care of my children. Honestly, I also cannot imagine making love to another guy other than the father of my children (even after death).

OT: Sis, if that's your belief,- (and related to your other thread), the more that you should work hard in being self-reliant (profitable and stable job or business). You have your wings,- fly high and cast your own shadow.

It's a tough one but that's how we have to be nowadays....

6110:pepsi:

[b1rken5tock]

if you dont mind extra baggage, then go ahead...

my dad remarried when my mom died, i was 8 yrs old at that time..
i can say it was difficult for my step mom to raise 3 stubborn boys and they are not even her own kids. it was probably the love between her and my dad that kept them together..true love...

she never regret marrying a widow and she can only say she was very lucky.. we grew up, got good jobs and supported our your half sisters.. and we helped my step mom whenever she needed help.. she introduce us as her sons.... and we call her our NANAY...

[webmiester]

I like to keep my life simple so avoid going into complicated relationships. I have nothing against single dads or widowers but I don't think I could handle being a step mom that is why I applaud step moms that do a good job in both raising both their own and step children.

Yes, keeping it simple is practical. It's one reason why I havent entertained single moms yet either. I presume that you will consider taking the resonsibility of raising his children as your own, as this is one of the things which will complicate the relationship.

I do not believe in remarrying because my heart will forever belong to the one that I will marry. If I become a widow early then I would just have to work doubly hard to raise my children alone. I will just focus all my time and energy in taking care of my children. Honestly, I also cannot imagine making love to another guy other than the father of my children (even after death).

Beliefs and imaginations can change. Many single mom first believe they found true love with the guy who eventually left them. They also never imagined themselves becoming a single mom.

[_Cathy_]

Beliefs and imaginations can change. Many single mom first believe they found true love with the guy who eventually left them. They also never imagined themselves becoming a single mom.

There's a whole world of difference between a single mom who is separated or was left by her huband from a single mom who was widowed. It's a tale of two wives. I say this because widows (in general) loved their husbands until the end and their husbands loved them until death - In that situation I won't consider remarrying.

[webmiester]

There's a whole world of difference between a single mom who is separated or was left by her huband from a single mom who was widowed. It's a tale of two wives. I say this because widows (in general) loved their husbands until the end and their husbands loved them until death - In that situation I won't consider remarrying.

Yes, I agree. For widows who truly loved their partners (I cant generalize that they all did), it might be harder conceptualizing the thought of loving someone else, but it isnt impossible.

On the other hand, the opposite spectrum also exists. Some single moms out of wedlock would not marry because of the trauma they got from their guy. They wouldnt want to repeat it anymore.

In either case, The presence of the right person and conditions can help the stage.

[uls]

Originally Posted by thenightcrawler

I can't stand the thought too. however it's his past na, don't we all have one? Mas importante sa akin, if ever the relationship moves to another level, ako na ang last. And I'll gladly return the favor and make sure he won't regret doing it for me. [emoji4]

Super Nakakaturn on kaya sa girls yung sila lng maganda at ***y sa mata ng bf nila. And the gesture is immediately rewarded pag ganun.

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If just for say, the person is now reformed because he saw the error in his colorful past. Would you accept him?

Remember, a persons attutude right now is due to their past experiences and upbringing. No one is born pure and everyone commit mistakes.

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sa girl din

to some or many guys it matters who and how many BFs a girl had

lalo pag may anak na ang girl

but there are guys who can see past that

[thenightcrawler]

sa girl din

to some or many guys it matters who and how many BFs a girl had

lalo pag may anak na ang girl

but there are guys who can see past that

Which made me wonder, Bakit nga pag yung mga single mom medyo challenging na makahanap ng partner?

Pag yung guy naman ang may anak na madalas nagiging asset pa nila yun.



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[uls]

Which made me wonder, Bakit nga pag yung mga single mom medyo challenging na makahanap ng partner?

Pag yung guy naman ang may anak na madalas nagiging asset pa nila yun.



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kasi para sa madami lalake (sa society natin) single moms are not as desirable as single girls na wala pa anak

it's already 2018 but a lot of pinoy men still see single moms as damaged goods

[chronicle]

Which made me wonder, Bakit nga pag yung mga single mom medyo challenging na makahanap ng partner?

Pag yung guy naman ang may anak na madalas nagiging asset pa nila yun.



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Kita ko lang na meme. Hehe

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[thenightcrawler]

kasi para sa madami lalake (sa society natin) single moms are not as desirable as single girls na wala pa anak

it's already 2018 but a lot of pinoy men still see single moms as damaged goods

That's just sad. Whatever the reason maybe, they didn't choose to be in that situation.

Again, my respect and admiration goes to the guys who are man enough to take on/accept such responsibility. It just shows how much they love each other pag ganun. Challenge din kase talaga pasukin yung ganun situation.

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[thenightcrawler]

Sums of my life too perfectly. - Imgur

Kita ko lang na meme. Hehe

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Kawawa naman gumawa ng meme na yan. Haha

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[uls]

That's just sad. Whatever the reason maybe, they didn't choose to be in that situation.

Again, my respect and admiration goes to the guys who are man enough to take on/accept such responsibility. It just shows how much they love each other pag ganun. Challenge din kase talaga pasukin yung ganun situation.

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yes mahirap nga

nagiging dealbreaker

even if a guy likes the girl, he may not be willing to be the father of another guy's kid/kids

[_Cathy_]

kasi para sa madami lalake (sa society natin) single moms are not as desirable as single girls na wala pa anak

it's already 2018 but a lot of pinoy men still see single moms as damaged goods

Even in the US that is supposed to be a more liberal society, in some forums they see men who go for single Moms as Omega.

Sample replies from a US based forum:

To be honest I wouldn't waste my time dating a single mom. Not to be selfish, but at this point in my life I would never raise a help child that wasn't my own. Or deal with any of the drama single moms usually come with

Single moms usually come with a lot of problems and resentment from past relationships that fuked her up mentally. She will take out all of her frustrations of shattered dreams and blame you for mistakes she makes in life. She will constantly compare you to the kids father as well and you will always be second to her kid.

[uls]

Kawawa naman gumawa ng meme na yan. Haha

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pero it's kinda true

ung pananaw

first choice kasi ng guy syempre is single girl na wala anak

kung wala pumapatol, then mag coconsider siya ng single mom

[uls]

and for guys it's a pride thing

the thinking is "inayawan ng ibang lalake tapos ako pupulot?"

a lot of men can't do that

kaya may pananaw na desperado mga pumapatol sa single mom

[chronicle]

and for guys it's a pride thing

the thinking is "inayawan ng ibang lalake tapos ako pupulot?"

a lot of men can't do that

kaya may pananaw na desperado mga pumapatol sa single mom

True.
Pride sa harap ng barkada at parents.

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[thenightcrawler]

and for guys it's a pride thing

the thinking is "inayawan ng ibang lalake tapos ako pupulot?"

a lot of men can't do that

kaya may pananaw na desperado mga pumapatol sa single mom

Orrrr you can be this girl's knight and shinning armor. Kase what if the guy was an asshole naman kaya she decided to be single mom or ndi nipanindigan? Would you still have the same perception towards the girl?

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