HELP: Married but in a dilemma

[mbeige]

Compromise ang mabibigay ko sayo kung talagang ayaw mo na sa asawa mo. Divorce her, but provide support for your child.

But find somebody else (who is also single) aside from your special friend. If you mingle with her, you'll also have to confront her husband sooner or later.

[Eismann]

Does anybody else see the irony that this advice is coming from someone calling themselves Saint Benedict?

:lolabove: :lolabove: :lolabove:

Yeah baby yeah...............


Pare post a picture of your friend...then I can give you my advice.

[ozcity]

nakoo parekoy..mahirap yan..nangyari na sa akin yan...at in the end talo ka..
meron akong GF before for 7 years..pinagpalit ko sya sa childhood sweetheart ko..alam mo halos pareho lang tayo ng sitwasyon..pinagkaiba lang hindi ko pa asawa..yung childhood sweetheart ko after 12 years bago kami nagkita ulit..kasi nung bata pa kami..trip na trip ko talaga sya..then ayun iniwan ko GF ko just for her.....at ano nangyari? after 3 months naghiwalay kami ...mahabang kwento pero ang payo ko sa iyo..wag mo ng ituloy...focus mo na lang sarili mo sa pamilya mo...nasasabi mo lang sigurong
hindi mo na mahal asawa mo kasi nandyan yung kaibigan mo..gising pare!!

[Yoda]

Much has already been said. Sana mapansin mo na halos iisa lang ang tema ng mga tao dito.

To be very frank, I don't think you're looking for advice. Remember the old cliche, "Kung gusto, may paraan. Kung ayaw, may dahilan." If the other forum "bashed" you because of this, frankly, you deserve it.

Was that harsh? Maybe. The truth hurts, after all.

The world doesn't need another broken family.

[Alpha_One]

Real_Life:

I think you're just looking for justification on what you're about to do (or have done) sa forum na ito.

When something is wrong, it's wrong. Period.

Are you being pressured to commit? Why don't you cool off a bit and tell you're friend, na this is wrong.

Unless your wife have done something really stupid, I don't think you should even consider this.

Much has already been said. Sana mapansin mo na halos iisa lang ang tema ng mga tao dito.

To be very frank, I don't think you're looking for advice. Remember the old cliche, "Kung gusto, may paraan. Kung ayaw, may dahilan." If the other forum "bashed" you because of this, frankly, you deserve it.

Was that harsh? Maybe. The truth hurts, after all.

The world doesn't need another broken family.

The above posts describe exactly what I think about it.

[uls]

lately i've been hearing a lot about married men and women hooking up.

I mean married men preferring married women and married women preferring married men. Not to mention swingers which is another topic.

what the hell is happening to our society?

Here's the troubling thing... married women who get pregnant could be having the other guy's child... and the real husband doesnt have a clue.

[oliver1013]

Tingin ko si topic starter talagang desidido na. Kahit anong sabihin natin idedepensa niya yung desisyon niya kasi yun yung gusto niya. Naalala ko yung isang barkada ko na may anak na, chickboy at workaholic...kahit anong sabihin namin re sa time with the family, etc dinedepensa parin niya gusto niya. Sabi pa nga pag laki nga anak ko maiintindihan din niya yung ginagawa ko. ...Ang tao pag gusto may paraan pag ayaw may dahilan...

[CVT]

Sad state of affairs. Sabi nga sa kanta nina England Dan and John Ford Coley,- "What's Forever For?"

I've been looking at people
And how they change with the times
And lately all I've been seeing are people
Throwing love away and losing their minds

Maybe it's me who's gone crazy
But I can't understand why
All these lovers keep hurting each other
When good love is so hard to come by

So what's the glory in living
Doesn't anybody ever stay together anymore
And if love never lasts forever
Tell me what's forever for

And I see love-hungry people
Tryin' their best to survive
When right there in their hands
Is a dying romance
And they're not even trying to keep it alive

So, what's the glory in living
Doesn't anybody ever stay together anymore
And if love never lasts forever
Tell me what's forever for

So what's the glory in living
Doesn't anybody ever stay together anymore
And if love never lasts forever
Tell me what's forever for

:beam:

[empy]

aba senti mode si CVT ah :bwahaha:

[wavecxs]

I'm not in a position to make an advise but...

1) Just to be fair to your wife, if you are really (absolutely, without a doubt) sure that you no longer love your wife. Tell her that TODAY, and start working on things to make the separation legal. Then start persuing your 'other girl'. Lastly, prapare for the consequences.

2) The better advise will be, remember why you chose your wife to be your wife, reminisce, if you must, those happy times when you are courting her, when you still are going out with her, when you are the happiest man in the world that she said 'yes' to you. I want to reiterate that love is a desicion.. you married your wife because, somehow you love her....you decide to love her, you decide that she is the one you will spend the rest of your life with. Think about your daughter, your (happy) family. Don't leave them!

But then if you still are hell bent on leaving your family for this 'other girl'. Do no. 1) and do it NOW. Kawawa naman wife mo pre pa pinatagal mo pa na hanging to, tapos in the end saka ka gagawa ng action.

[j_avonni]

Time Out muna and have some related joke:

Mrs1: Mare pwede ba dito muna ako sa inyo? Lumayas ako sa amin dahil nabuntis ako.

Mrs2: Dapat doon ka pumunta sa taong nakabuntis sa iyo.

Mrs1: Kaya nga ako andito sa inyo. Andyan ba si Pare?


Now back to the topic!

[Bogeyman]

Real_Life:

I think you're just looking for justification on what you're about to do (or have done) sa forum na ito.

When something is wrong, it's wrong. Period.

Word.

real life, kung naghahanap ka ng kukunsinti sa kahibangan mo, you came to the wrong forums. You're better off at MTC since parang single ka pa rin mag-isip.

[m2's kumander]

you made a vow, not only to your wife but to God.

you're the one who made that decision to marry your wife. if from the start di ka naman pala 100% sure..di mo na dapat tinuloy ang kasal.

don't be selfish, do not only think of your own happiness!

me man enough to...ayusin mo yun married life mo.

ask for God's guidance and strength that you may be able to live a faithful life as a husband.

we'll all pray for you.
God bless.

[niwde11]

real life, assume mo di dumating yung "friend" mo sa buhay mo after 15 years. makikipaghiwalay ka ba sa wife mo pa rin? siguro eto muna i-solve mo. wag ka pupunta sa panibagong laban kung di mo pa tinatapos ang kasalukuyan mong laban.hth.

[Imau]

real life, assume mo di dumating yung "friend" mo sa buhay mo after 15 years. makikipaghiwalay ka ba sa wife mo pa rin? siguro eto muna i-solve mo. wag ka pupunta sa panibagong laban kung di mo pa tinatapos ang kasalukuyan mong laban.hth.

+1. It seems kasi na you were more convinced na di mo na mahal ang wife mo when your long time friend suddenly "showed" some interest in you. What if nga na di mo ulit na-meet itong friend mo? maging ganyan ka pa rin kaya katapang na i give-up ang iyong family because you are no longer happy with your marriage? O naging matapang ka lang na makipag hiwalay because you know that you have a "spare tire". I think medyo mas magaan siguro sa wife mo na makita na you left them and opted to be alone because you fall out of love, than dumping her because of someone else.

[HyBrideVo]

One guy can help you with this dysfunction of yours.. it's either Jerry Springer or Xerex Xaviera

[ILuvDetailing]

^^ looks like I've seen this episode in the Jerry Springer show, two girls pinagaagawan ang isang guy. The only difference, the other woman is single.

[cardo]

before you do it... check out the legal implications, and fees - and that does not mean attny fees only... how you will settle properties, and child support too.

I love jerry springer hehehe Jerry! Jerry! Jerry!

[creepy]

To Real_Life -

You probably think your situation now is "different" and that nobody here understands you. Believe me: people here understand your situation more than you think.

[prinsipe]

real life, i'm hoping with all the advice from this forum you'll end up with your family. sana ang sunod na post mo sasabihin mo sa amin na mas pinahalagahan mo ang family mo.