HELP: Married but in a dilemma

[GasJunkie]

Just fap it off.



:fly:

[shadow]

there's nothing to think about, you're married, she's married, kahit na anong problema pa niya meron siya sa marriage niya hinde reason yun for to be together...., before ka maawa sa kanya dahil sa problema niya sa asawa niya maawa ka muna sa asawa, you said that womanizer and husband niya, then if you go on to have a relationship with her, your no difference to her husband...

kahit anong pang sabihin mone you were forced to marry your wife the fact remains na kasal ka pa rin sa kanya....

I think you need see a marriage counselor....

[valskie01]

Bro, i think you need first to fix your relationship with your wife. Tama si wavecxs Love is a decision. Everyday you need to decide to love your wife and kids. At times you don't feel inlove w/ your wife and that's normal pero if you decide to love her no matter what gagawa ka ng paraan para ma inlove ka uli. Tell to your friend to do the same.

[shadow]

to thre3adstarter: how old are you? based on your post parang kang highschool na kinikilig sa mga text and emails niya nagtatanong kana meron bang meaning ang mga one liner niya? , for pete's sake grow up!!!

[creepy]

IMO, the story is one-sided. Well, you have mentioned everything about you and the girl, but you failed to mention about your WIFE and your kids. You are talking about your future. How about theirs? You failed to mention the AFTERLIFE of the other people involved in the story. Please consider that their (your family) involvement in this story is a result of your decision before you got married.

Well said.

To real_life, I hope you came here looking for honest, candid advice and not to seek rationalizations for what you are tempted to do.

Good luck.

[oliver1013]

Bro, i think you need first to fix your relationship with your wife. Tama si wavecxs Love is a decision. Everyday you need to decide to love your wife and kids. At times you don't feel inlove w/ your wife and that's normal pero if you decide to love her no matter what gagawa ka ng paraan para ma inlove ka uli. Tell to your friend to do the same.

Pasok na pasok to. Love is a decision, many people think its an emotion. Karamihan ng desisyon na emosyon ang ginamit sablay..think about it.

[mbeige]

If you're having a dilemma, so will your wife and kids. Remember, once you get married, "you" always includes you and your wife, and any children you have. That's why it's a union. So if you have a dilemma, remember this, your wife and kids will, too.

Move on and realize what you have.

[Hanren]

We often empathize (or sympathize) with people with these kinds of problems but surely, it will not make things better for all those around them. You can go all the way but the consequences will be messy such that the effects will continue to haunt you all through your life.

It's not called temptation for nothing. Secrets cannot always be hidden. Eto na lang isipin mo. Watch the movie 'Unfaithful' and you will see the consequences. It's not bad to love. The timing may not always be right.

[greenlyt]

Hindi na pinagiisipan yan.

You are already married. Be a man and stick with your wife.

Amen! you cant solve a problem by creating another

[FrankDrebin]

to thre3adstarter: how old are you? based on your post parang kang highschool na kinikilig sa mga text and emails niya nagtatanong kana meron bang meaning ang mga one liner niya? , for pete's sake grow up!!!

Ganun talaga Bossing Shadow kapag in-love ang isang tao. Kinikilig sa simpleng bagay. Hehehe. :D

[Jun aka Pekto]

Just fap it off.:fly:

Thank goodness you're not a marriage counselor. j/k........

[praktikal]

knock, knock mr "Real Life"... nasaan ka na?

perhaps nasisilaw ka lang sa "opportunity" na nakaabang... feelings can always be refreshed and can bring back the old times but be very careful sa bawat hakbang mo... like the majority of comments here, consequence, consequence.

don't be selfish.

if you really love her, try to help her fix her life first. that way may mas pogi points ka k Lord kesa pa pogi points mo sa old friend mo. isama mo sya sa prayers mo na nawa'y maayos na relationship nila at ang sa iyo din. you're facing a test of faith now, kaya be sensetive enough in dealing with it.

two broken families... imagine that.

you can PM me if medyo shy ka...

[shadow]

Ganun talaga Bossing Shadow kapag in-love ang isang tao. Kinikilig sa simpleng bagay. Hehehe. :D

yeah maybe when your in highschool and young, pero kung married ka na anaman and your older and wiser (I hope) tapos kinikilig ka pa sa mga texts eh ewan ko na lang...hehehhe

[BlueBimmer]

Executive lang sagot dyan :evillaugh

[GasJunkie]

Thank goodness you're not a marriage counselor. j/k........

It's free, you can do it anywhere, anytime and most importantly you could even name both your hand. Ultimate pastime I tell you. :hysterical:








Edit rumour is it could also cure stupidity....:spider: ==> :rofl01:

[Jun aka Pekto]

It's free, you can do it anywhere, anytime and most importantly you could even name both your hand. Ultimate pastime I tell you. :hysterical:

Wish you three the best of luck then..... and I thought I had it bad when I was younger....

Peace.

[toyboxph]

real_life: i guess you got the same replies from us, don't take it as bashing. I can feel for you. good thing we are not on your situation. madaling magsalita o magbigay ng advice pero alam ko mahirap ang situation mo. pero most of the replies are for your own good, and especially for your family. hope you take time to absorb all the good advices. obedience lang to God ang dapat gawin mo and He will help you out. Trust Him. don't expect Him to help you if you go against His will.
all of us married people go through different temptations, that's a FACT. pero when i think of my kids.... NAH IT'S NOT WORTH IT!

[GasJunkie]

Wish you three the best of luck then..... and I thought I had it bad when I was younger....

Peace.

What's the peace for????





:fly:


Edit real life don't prove to your children how stupid you are. credibility > all

[mbeige]

real_life: i guess you got the same replies from us, don't take it as bashing. I can feel for you. good thing we are not on your situation. madaling magsalita o magbigay ng advice pero alam ko mahirap ang situation mo. pero most of the replies are for your own good, and especially for your family. hope you take time to absorb all the good advices. obedience lang to God ang dapat gawin mo and He will help you out. Trust Him. don't expect Him to help you if you go against His will.
all of us married people go through different temptations, that's a FACT. pero when i think of my kids.... NAH IT'S NOT WORTH IT!

In addition to this, if you're really committed, you wouldn't even think twice about this.

[5Speed]

Dont do it..... LIBOG lang yan.....

dumarating talaga sa buhay ng may asawa ang mga pagsubok na kagaya nyan, whether its an old flame, a ***y intimate officemate, an older flirtatious ala Angelina Jolie kind of girl.....etc.... you will ask WHY???

Its one of these reasons:
-->too much familiarity with each other (I mean YOU and UR Spouse, not with the Angelina Jolie look alike mate.... )

--> a routine and well predicted day to day life that makes you wonder and crave for some new action/challenges....as if you want to try different things for now because you're already consigned to yourself that same thing will happen for the next 100 yrs regarding your family life.....including your bedtime play...(hmmmm you need to make an additional alternative to that helicopter position you're doing w/ your partner for ages mate....how about that pendulum swing style for a change....hehehehe)

-->you sometimes get annoyed with the situation regarding your family and wish that you could have a perfect family life, and you are starting to compare your wife or probably your kids with other woman or family.....(hmmm comparing your married life to Beckham and his lovely wife and cute kids sounds like fun including the truckloads of money they have.......hey wake up dude....ur dreaming too heavy....hehehe) Come to think of these....maybe the woman or the family that you are comparing are not perfect after all, maybe they also wish that they have the life that you have right now..... and the new lady that you want to be with? (yes mate that Angelina Jolie look alike......hehehe now I got your attention huh!!) she maybe more of a bitch than your present partner, you cannot say for now that she will be better since you havent been with her long enough to see the real her, just a couple of date and probably an overnight or two at cuddling together Tagaytay will not be a gauge of what she is....... (hmmmm if its Angelina Jolie....maybe two nights will not be enough anyway... )

--> this is getting long I agree to the advice of some of our friends here on not to pursue this....think of your kids, the consequences what is the wrongdoing or probably the things that your wife doesnt do for her to deserve this kind of predicament? Maybe it is you who's to blame and not your wife and family.....DONT DO IT, mag-adidas ka na lang...(lame joke yata yon.....)
and I want to re-iterate....from the first sentence or so......LIBOG LANG YAN....

you might say sana me genie where I can have a wish.....

well bro meron ngang GENIE!!!!! nasa me Sta. Lucia yan sa Cainta, Rizal........


and you can have a wish as well.......(hmmm that Angelina Jolie look alike is enticing prospect....) punta ka don and make a wish and probably solve na yang LIBOG na yan....HARHARHARHARHAR!!!!!