HELP: Married but in a dilemma

[prinsipe]

What I'm trying to say is, marraige doesn't equate to happiness. Meron ngang hindi kasal na mas masaya pa at nagmamahalan e, that doesn't make them any less human just because they didn't follow the normal path of marraige. Hindi ba mas important yun mahal mo yun partner mo kaysa yun wedding certificate na hawak nyo. Eh kung di na kayo nagmamahalan bakit kailangan pilitin na mag sama. Syempre, you can't neglect your kids. Any rational kid would understand why you need to find love and happiness coz they'll end up doing the same thing as they grow old.

with all due respect, for me true love is not about my happiness, it's all about my family's happiness. sabi nga ng prof ko sa theology - true love is giving all you can give, until it hurts. para daw yang pritong isda kahit tinik ka na lang gusto mo pa ring magbigay.

[bad driver]

Ego at Libog lang yan. May kasalanan ba ang asawa mo para gawin mo yan?

tama, malamang libog lang yan tol. be a man and not make excuses or reasons pa. If you want to Cheat, bahala ka, basta wag ka na magdahilan kesyo nagiging sour ang relations nyo or enumerate her faults.

[chuaed]

[SIZE="5"]your already old enough to know what is right and what is wrong... so its up to you do whatever you want...[/SIZE]

[SIZE="5"]Just keep in mind that KARMA is just a text away...[/SIZE]

[cablespy]

can you post of picture of both women so we can compare?

[Bogeyman]

I don't think that this is a question of temptation. Sa akin lang, we only live once and we can die tomorrow, so anything that will make me happy today, i'll take it. Of course I'll have to guage the consequences but in any case, life is a pursuit of happiness. Kung di na kayo masaya sa mga partners nyo then what's the point? The thing is if haven't tried to work out the marraige with your wife then you might as well do that first, pero kung wala na talaga, you need to let your wife find her happiness too. And ikaw, dun ka na sa old flame mo, at least your happy and she's happy, and tomorrow you could die or you could remain happy with her. Another thing is that, sa tingin mo ba masaya pa yun asawa mo sayo? Your partner's happiness should at least be taken into considertaion pero kung pareho kayong di na masaya, mas mabuti pang maghiwalay na.

Again, where's the children's side in all of this? And his wife, what does she have to say about it? How about the woman's husband, what does he think of all this as well?

Madali talaga magsalita e, pero think about it, one life to live...

Indeed, one life to live. Don't waste precious time and effort making worse mistakes than the ones already committed, starting with his decision to enter a marriage that he was opposed to in the first place.

Any rational kid would understand why you need to find love and happiness coz they'll end up doing the same thing as they grow old.

Simply another way of saying that an irresponsible parent will inevitably end up having irresponsible children, who will continue the same cycle of selfishness when they themselves come of age. That's immaturity by example for you. If children can't trust their parents to keep their word, who can they trust?

[antoncrl]

Think Think And Think Then Decide. If You're No Longer Happy With Your (real Wife) Why Are You Going To Sacrifice With The Rest Of Your Life. Di Ba Sabi Nga Sa Atin " Kung Saan Ka Masaya Suportahan Ta Ka". If You're Really Happy With The Present One Go For It. But Are You Sure Na Happy Ka Nga? O Baka L...b G Lang Yan, Kung Kati Lang Lilipas Din Samantalahin Mo O Tigilan Mo Habang Maaga Pa.

[AnuVaYan]

Any rational kid would understand why you need to find love and happiness coz they'll end up doing the same thing as they grow old.

IMO, its too much for a parent to ask a child to be rational and unselfish, if the parent is not rational and is selfish.

Any rational parent will think of the whole family first. Not just his/her own happiness.

[BlueBimmer]

kung talagang you need something 'new' or nagsasawa ka sa wife mo, or kung mambabae ka man, walang emotional attachment dapat. have your 'short time' then go back to your wife. love only your wife.

at least that way walang masasagasaan.

wag lang magpapahuli

[shadow]

it seems you already made up your mind, kesyo di mo na mahal asawa mo, meron kayong problema, then why don't you try to fix it first? commiting a new mistake won't correct the old mistake, then what's the sense in asking opinion here?, majority here said na huwag mo ituloy, but then you have every reason para ijustify yun gagawin mo, parang gusto mo lang marinig na may magsabi na ituloy mo,

so ituloy mo yan, iwanan mo asawa mo at anak mo, sumama ka sa babae mo, tutal buhay mo yan, watch your family breakapart....then update ka na lang kung anong nangyari huwag ka na magtanong ituloy mo na lang, bilisan mo at baka makahanap ng iba yun babae mo, ikaw din.....don't forget update ha?

and another thing, tell your wife na maghanap na rin siya ng ibang lalake, tutal meron naman pala kyong problema eh. diba? bilisan na rin niya at baka maubusan din siya....update ulit ha...


reallife bilisan mo!!!! huwag babagal bagal, nasasayan lang oras mo mag post dito ng problema mo, tuloy mo na!!! bilis!!!! instead na makarami ka, pos tka pa dito eh, munahan ka ng iba sige ka....GO reallife!!!!!

[mclean]

Wheew! Salamat fellow tsikoteers! this thread is really a mind opener... halos parehas kami ng sitwasyon ni reallife...ang difference lang e happy ako with my wife and i think she is happy with her husband too.... sa text at calls kami na talaga (ulit ) ,she is my former gf by the way.Hindi nga lang namin magawa sa actual because of the distance... nasa labas kasi ako..

Text ko sya ngayon na itigil na namin... siguro naman maiintindihan nya...nagising ako... i'm sure di pa huli to correct everything!


Reallife.... sana maliwanagan ka din..

[claRkEnt]

Wheew! Salamat fellow tsikoteers! this thread is really a mind opener... halos parehas kami ng sitwasyon ni reallife...ang difference lang e happy ako with my wife and i think she is happy with her husband too.... sa text at calls kami na talaga (ulit ) ,she is my former gf by the way.Hindi nga lang namin magawa sa actual because of the distance... nasa labas kasi ako..

Text ko sya ngayon na itigil na namin... siguro naman maiintindihan nya...nagising ako... i'm sure di pa huli to correct everything!
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now you can change as well from MCLEAN to I AM CLEAN.

[Eismann]

real life...eto medyo similar case niyo... one of JOE THE MANGO story


TWO ENDS OF THE BRIDGE

Dear Joe,
John and I had been officemates and friends for a long time, having worked in the same company for close to six years now. He used to bug me about a girl friend of mine whom he likes very much, something that sometimes annoys me despite the fact that John and I are quite close.

John didn't report to work on the next couple of days, which caused me to miss him like hell. On the fourth day while I was getting ready to go home, John entered my office. Joe, I wasn't able to control myself, and immediately ran to him and embraced him tight. At that moment, time seemed to have stood still while John and I kissed passionately. We spent hours at the breakwaters near the Army & Navy Club, just talking and cuddling with each other. When I got home just before midnight, I felt like I was stabbed in the heart when I saw Allan sleeping beside our daughter. I have committed a terrible sin against my family, but I can't think of any way to correct it.
John and I continued seeing each other while keeping our relationship a secret from our officemates. Occasionally we would go out on weekends under the excuse that I have to beat some deadlines. We never did IT, if you know what I mean. John said for now he's content with just being alone with me.

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Mga john talaga o...

real life...wag mo gayahin 'tong si john...ibang john ang gayahin mo.

[Jun aka Pekto]

Army and Navy Club? Well, the (US) military life has always been a hotbed of two-timing and flirting, especially when the hubby or the misis is deployed or at sea far away for months at a time.

[jmj74]

as Charlie Brown Quipped; " When i Finally found ALL life's Answers they Changed the Questions! "

[Airwalk]

seems you already have a made up mind. is it worth all the trouble?

if you think it is, then go ahead. just prepare to face the consequences...every last bit of all of 'em.

[shadow]

wala parin update??? ano na real life? meron na ba nahanap na boyfriend asawa mo??? tagal naman...

[empy]

have a man-to-man talk with your new love's husband. tell him you have fallen in love and she has chosen you over him. i'm sure he will do the honorable thing and step aside :bwahaha:

[allenjo]

Reading through all 8 pages of this thread made me feel once more how lucky I am to have a loving wife and a beautiful daughter. Our marriage has it's ups and downs but at the end of the day, seeing my wife and my daughter smile as I reach home from work makes me say "Damn...I'm one lucky SOB!"

I'm texting the wife now to tell her I love her so much and will buy my daughter some pasalubong when I go home.

reallife...I think everyone here has said their peace. It's up to you now. But in deciding...don't be selfish and instead be selfless.

Thanks tsikoteers!

[yuichi]

HUWAG!!!!
tama si blueblimmer, walang strings attached dapat. di nman maiiwasan sa lalake minsan yan, pero dalhin mo ng maayos na wala masasagasaan.
isipin mo lagi mga "anak" mo, kahit wag na misis mo. ayaw mo naman sila siguro lumaki ng wala ka sa tabi nila...
unless di mo sila mahal gaya ng ibang amang nangiiwan ng asawa't anak. at pagkatapos non ng ilang taon lalapit ka sa channel7 sa programang "wish ko lang". matanda na si vicky morales non. tapos hahanapin mo mga naiwang anak mo na 15-20 taon mo nang di nakikita dahil nilayo sila ng asawa mo. tapos iiyakiyak ka sa tv na may kasamang uhog at nagmamakaawa.
maawa naman syo si vicky at hahanapin mga anak mo kasi tumatanda ka na at naghiwalay na rin kayo ng 2nd mo. tapos makikita mo sila na malalaki na, nakapagtapos, magaganda't guwapo, at di ka nila kinikilala (sakit non men!)
tapos hihingihingi ka nga tawad sa kanila at kunyari nagsisisi at humihingi na tanggapin ka (kapal ng mukha ah!)
maaring tanggapin ka nila o hindi pero ang punto ko....."ang pagsisisi laging nasa huli". kaya kung nagyon pa lang pede mo namang ayusin lahat, gawin mo na, magpakalalake ka!

[oldblue]

s vicky morales hottie