Do you believe in second chances?

[misseksaherada]

I am getting mixed signals because he makes time to call me. So he just likes to talk to me?

Another problem is I TRIED SO HARD to like other men in those 3 yrs, pero wala talaga. I am so fixated on him

Ma'am Cathy, nalilito na ako kung ano po gusto nyo mangyari.. I support you sa feelings mo kay crush pero at the same time it makes you sad din.. Based sa description mo kay crush, slight naiinis na ako sa kanya.. Sya yung isang version ng guy na ayaw ko..
Yung guy na too nice sa lahat ng tao dahil craving sya lagi na maganda tingin sa kanya ng tao.. Lahat na lang tutulungan kahit wala na sa lugar.. Nakakainis! Dahil sa kabaitan na yan parang na misled ka.. Kung di niya mareciprocate yung "I miss you" mo isa lang ibig sabihin niyan.. Mabait sya ayaw nya sabihin directly na hindi kayo same ng feelings kaya tinatawanan ka lang.. Ayaw ka lang nya magalit.. Pero di ba mas nakakalungkot na di mo alam kung ano ibig sabihin vs. kung naging honest na lang sya..
Tsaka kung alpha sya Ma"am Cathy.. I"ll be honest po.. Harsh na kung harsh.. Yung past nyo po past na yun sa kanya.. Once na nag move on na alpha there's no going back.. Natuto na sya sa experience na yun bakit niya pa babalikan..
Ito na lang po huling advice ko.. Iwan mo na yang lingering feelings na yan.. Instead hope for someone na mamahalin ka for what you deserve.. Hindi siya worth it.. Ang dami naman dyan na alpha din naman na tingin ko interested din na mahalin ka.. Natural sa atin na mga babae ang madevelop sa taong nagki-care satin.. Kaya look for a guy na head over heels sayo not the other way around.. Masyado mo lang iniisip na good catch si crush.. Pero ikaw good catch ka din naman.. Kaya move on ka na lang.. Bahala sya pinakawalan ka pa niya ulet.. Kapag nag move on ka hinabol ka nya then dun ka na lang mag-isip ulet..
Move on and be happy.. Dahil hindi ka na mabibigo sa expectations na habang tumatagal nagapahirap at nagpapalungkot sayo.. Napaka ikli ng buhay para mag focus sa bagay na parang walang patutunguhan.. Wag ka na umiyak Ms. Cathy... Ayoko umiiyak ka ng dahil lang kay crush.. Ang tagal na nyan.. Di ka ba napapagod?

[EQAddict]

I want to make amends but I am not sure if he will let me. I don't want to have what ifs lang in my life, that I did not even try to win him back

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Cathy. You keep saying you WANT. You Want him. You want to make amends. You want him to try. Etc.

But hanggang dyan na lang. WANTING is not a strategy. Same way that Hope isnt a strategy.

You arent doing anything except pining away on these forums and with your friends. The only result that will give you is a big fat zero.

Do something. You are adults. And as you say he is the most alpha male ever. So he shouldnt be cowering in fear if you ask him out for lunch. Yes restaurants are opening next week. Be brave. Dont find an excuse not to do anything and then come crying here in the boards all wistful and lonesome.

Doing nothing gets you nothing. As your recent resurgence of communication with him has proven. Yeah he talks to u. Yeah he helps you. But there is no magic, no passion, no intimacy, no promises of the future. Its friendzone or pityzone.

And you havent answered Jut703's question. What is the root cause analysis ? What did u both possess 3 yrs ago? Do u still have it? Does he still recognize it? Have things changed? Etc. What are you gonna do about it? Answer those questions.

Personally i cant believe the super hero greek god adonis elon musk roger federer michael jordan keannu reves that you paint him to be still has no GF or partner at his life stage. Sorry. If he is all that, he probably has one already and isnt man enough to tell you cause he feels sorry for you and your situation. And if he doesnt have one....then Alpha my a$$.

Eh lahat kami dito , we are nowhere near that level of achievement or greatness or uberness or alphaness or manliness or bossingness but we all have life partners . And more are trying to knock on our doors pa! Hehehhehehe.







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[ninjababez]

payo tayo ng payo kay cathy na go for it, tell him na etc.
pano kung biglang kumanta si alpha ng "you say it best, when you say nothing at all"


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[misseksaherada]

Do something. You are adults. And as you say he is the most alpha male ever. So he shouldnt be cowering in fear if you ask him out for lunch. Yes restaurants are opening next week. Be brave. Dont find an excuse not to do anything

Agree ako dito Sir EQ.. For important matters mas maganda talaga personal nag-uusap saklap nga lang tumama sa qurantine at meron veerus..
At the same time, naiinis na ako dun sa crush nababagalan ako sa kanya as adult na madami na experience (sorry na na judge ko na sya).. Kung totoong alpha sya, sa tagal ng pag reach out ni Ms. Cathy.. Obviously, malakas tama sa kanya.. I doubt na hindi niya ramdam lahat nung efforts na yun.. Pero pa-fall.. Sa situation na yan hindi dapat kindness papairalin mo kung alpha ka.. Unless gusto nya mag take advantage dahil gusto nya merong nagpapalaki ng ego nya.. Sorry, kung yan na naging impression ko.. Basta I don't agree sa ganyang klase ng kindness.. may mga babaeng napapa-asa ng ganyan..

payo tayo ng payo kay cathy na go for it, tell him na etc.
pano kung biglang kumanta si alpha ng "you say it best, when you say nothing at all"

Hahahahahaha boyzone talaga.. [emoji23] naimagine ko kasi with actions pa.. ala musical na movie..

[EQAddict]

Well said miss!


Something doesnt compute .

But am glad he is helping you and kudos to hin for that. I dont wanna punish a good deed or good intentions. However, he cant be THAT blind not to see you are so head over heels for him. He should address that once and for all rather than making you live your tortured existence.

And you should do something as well Cathy. It doesnt absolve you of waiting and doing nothing.

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[ninjababez]

Agree ako dito Sir EQ.. For important matters mas maganda talaga personal nag-uusap saklap nga lang tumama sa qurantine at meron veerus..
At the same time, naiinis na ako dun sa crush nababagalan ako sa kanya as adult na madami na experience (sorry na na judge ko na sya).. Kung totoong alpha sya, sa tagal ng pag reach out ni Ms. Cathy.. Obviously, malakas tama sa kanya.. I doubt na hindi niya ramdam lahat nung efforts na yun.. Pero pa-fall.. Sa situation na yan hindi dapat kindness papairalin mo kung alpha ka.. Unless gusto nya mag take advantage dahil gusto nya merong nagpapalaki ng ego nya.. Sorry, kung yan na naging impression ko.. Basta I don't agree sa ganyang klase ng kindness.. may mga babaeng napapa-asa ng ganyan..

Hahahahahaha boyzone talaga.. [emoji23] naimagine ko kasi with actions pa.. ala musical na movie..

nagamit na sakin yan term na yan LOL
eh pareho lang turing ko sa mga babae, sila lang nagbibigay malisya eh O_o tapos nagagalit sakin

[misseksaherada]

Well said miss!
Something doesnt compute .
But am glad he is helping you and kudos to hin for that. I dont wanna punish a good deed or good intentions. However, he cant be THAT blind not to see you are so head over heels for him. He should address that once and for all rather than making you live your tortured existence.
And you should do something as well Cathy. It doesnt absolve you of waiting and doing nothing.

Yes Sir EQ, ok lang tulungan nya si Ms. Cathy.. Lalo na super capable sya.. Oo nga wag natin bahiran ng kung ano pa yung kindness na yun.. Sorry kung masyado nag take over yung inis ko.. Di ko na na-consider yung good deed..
Pero dapat sa umpisa palang naging direct na sya and clear.. Na walang balikan na magaganap... Ang tagal na kasi... Parang late last year pa ba yun.. Di ko na maalaala basta more than 3 months na.. Ang tagal na nyan kung pinapaasa mo yung babaeng may gusto sayo.. Di na makatarungan ang tanda nya na para sa ganyan.. Unless may motive sya na di maganda or talagang indecisive sya??? Pero kapag leader ka... Sa 3 months na yun.. Sobra sobra na para hindi ma process ng utak mo yung final decision.. Sorry [emoji120] [emoji120] [emoji120] napa-rant na ako.. Nasasaktan na kasi si Ms. Cathy ng napakahabang panahon.. Ako na ang napagod para sa kanya.. Hahahahahaha [emoji23] [emoji23] [emoji23]

[misseksaherada]

nagamit na sakin yan term na yan LOL
eh pareho lang turing ko sa mga babae, sila lang nagbibigay malisya eh O_o tapos nagagalit sakin

Yes, I know ramdam ko nga ganyan ka.. Always ready to offer ng help.. Kaya ka tuloy sinasamantala.. Ok lang yan Sir Ninja may babaeng swak naman sa inyo na hindi issue yan..
Sa akin issue yan.. Hahahahahaha [emoji23] may mga babae kasi na kulang ata sa care, or hindi favorite ng teacher nung estudyante pa, or walang masyadong source ng pagmamahal (joke lang yan walang basis for laughs lang).. Matulungan lang inlove na agad.. Totoo yan Sir Ninja, may mga friends ako na weakness yan.. Yung isa single mom na dahil dyan.. Kaya... Kaya... Be careful din na mag help baka weak si girl may masasaktan ka kahit di mo sadya..

[EQAddict]

Hmmmm maybe thats his intention ---- to make her suffer as he suffered. String her along with sprinkles of kindness, gentlemanlyness, etc.

Just enough so that she has hope...but not too much that he gives everything away.

And suffering she is....


Revenge is a dish best served cold.

Hmm maybe we dont give him enough credit.....

Hey this is only a left field theory of mine.

She still has to do her part and ask him.




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Si Cath, hinde lang ako nakakapnaisn na hinde naman alpha yan crush mo.


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