How to get over work phobia

[_Cathy_]

I found a job already. I am really thankful for that but for some reason I find myself really unhappy.

When I left my previous job 5 years ago, I felt liberated from it's highly structured culture. I thought my long break would give me a renewed enthusiasm for work but the opposite happened considering that I have less responsibility. I guess this stems from the fact that if I didn't leave my previous job I'd be getting double of what I am getting now. I couldn't demand for a higher pay despit my MBA degree because of my long work gap. But the more compelling reason why I am dissatisfied is that I do not want structure anymore. I want a job that gives me the luxury of planning my own schedule. Imagine being sick and instead of worrying about yourself, you worry about how your boss might react when you take a leave. I work with numbers the whole day and I don't even know what they represent. I cannot even go to the gym anymore. Another thing is dealing with difficult officemates. And the politics.

My option is to teach in a college or university but I think I'm still not qualified because I don't have educ or phd units. I guess I'd be happier there even with lower pay. I was thinking that I could also use this as leverage when I apply for work residency abroad. I never thought I would say that (consider leaving Manila) but all my friends are leaving na rin naman.

I am also considering a job in research but I haven't heard from them yet. I heard you could learn a lot of things and you could even take a leave for 2 months! Wow! That would be nice.

I am also considering blogging. Do you guys have any idea how much I could earn from that?

Do you guys have any other suggestions on jobs that has freedom of time and less structure? BTW I hate sales.

I placed my lotto bet a while ago. I am that desperate. Maybe I'd win and I'd be able to put up my dream gym business already. I love the thought of staying in the gym the whole day, socializing with the members and getting feedback on my business.

[mact_tors]

just want to share this from rocky balboa. he said to his son when his son kept on complaining.....
"Let me tell you something you already know.
The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows.
It is a very mean and nasty place,
and I don't care how tough you are,
it will beat you to your knees and keep
you there permanently if you let it.
You, me or nobody is going to hit as hard as life.
But it ain't about how hard you hit,
it is about how hard you can get hit
and keep moving forward,
how much can you take and keep moving forward.
That's how winning is done! Now,
if you know what you're worth,
then go out and get what you're worth.
But you gotta be willing to take the hit,
and not pointing fingers saying you ain't
where you are because of him, or her,
or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain't you.
You're better than that!
I'm always gonna love you, no matter what.
No matter what happens. You're my son,
you're my blood. You're the best thing
in my life. But until you start believing
in yourself, you ain't gonna have a life."

[CVT]

just want to share this from rocky balboa. he said to his son when his son kept on complaining.....
"Let me tell you something you already know.
The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows.
It is a very mean and nasty place,
and I don't care how tough you are,
it will beat you to your knees and keep
you there permanently if you let it.
You, me or nobody is going to hit as hard as life.
But it ain't about how hard you hit,
it is about how hard you can get hit
and keep moving forward,
how much can you take and keep moving forward.
That's how winning is done! Now,
if you know what you're worth,
then go out and get what you're worth.
But you gotta be willing to take the hit,
and not pointing fingers saying you ain't
where you are because of him, or her,
or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain't you.
You're better than that!
I'm always gonna love you, no matter what.
No matter what happens. You're my son,
you're my blood. You're the best thing
in my life. But until you start believing
in yourself, you ain't gonna have a life."

Thanks for sharing bro.,- really inspiring!

7505:bravo:

[CVT]

Sis, no work is perfect... Take my case as an example. I may not be totally happy with what I am doing now, but it provides food for my family, sends my kids to school and gives us a more or less comfortable life. When I feel wasted, I've always thought of the people in our team, who are depending on me for their family's sustenance. They're my second families after all.

I also think of possible worse work conditions in other companies.

And, most importantly, "work is dignity". Isn't this enough motivation?

7505:bravo:

[ab_initio]

^^^ That is one thing that I should have done.

I'm scared kasi that if I suddenly die, I do not want my parents to be burdened with the responsibility of paying off whatever debt that I have. I guess I'd just have to increase my insurance when I do get a job to cover for whatever loans that I will get in the future.

this is not true...when you die, the creditors would go after your estate...anything not covered by your estate dies with you.

even in some housing loans, the amortizations just go with you six feet under. just try to look for this term. the house and lot, forms part of your estate when you die but the lending institution doesn't have to take this back coz death automatically makes the prop a part of your estate.

[ab_initio]

I finished updating my CV. hehe. I hope I get a good job coz my parents aren't getting and younger and I want them to enjoy their money and not to spend on me anymore.

masarap din sa pakiramdam na ikaw ang gumastos para sa parents mo...even if my parents could well afford their medical check up needs, i did spend for it even if it would mean that i wouldn't be buying the gadgets that i had in mind...it's always a precious opportunity to give to your parents something that would give them that bliss and pride...

[ab_initio]

ang ginagawa ko, hanap ng work, tapos pag meron asungot at talagang inde ko makayanan ang ginagawang trato sa akin then i start looking for another job then move out...

mahirap na nga ang buhay pati ba sa trabaho may pasakit pa rin..

good luck, i'm sure you will find a job that you will like and enjoy and at the same time make money...marami dyan.. hanap hanap lang...

...mga difficult personalities sa office, i included them in my prayers...minsan sign na rin yun to find employment somewhere...the next job, just gave me a grazing land that's greener than my previous one...

indicator ko minsan kung ang passion ko ba nakapagpapasaya pa ba sakin? baka kasi ako lang ang passionate at ang environment di na bagay sa kakayahan ko...whenever i make a decision to leave, nakahain na yung mga options ko...so far sa awa ng Diyos masaya naman ako sa mga ginagawa ko...

Miss Cath, don't be overwhelmed with fear...dapat options ang mas marami sau, katakot takot na lakas ng loob, matatag na pananampalataya (hay, my favorite tagalog term)...lahat naman sa buhay, there's this element of SUNTOK SA BUWAN!

[jeDi13]

your dreams to have your own business should be enough. add to that your will to help your parents and to give them something in return for their love for you. our parents won't be here with us for the rest of our lives. grab this opportunity and take advantage of it to show them how grateful you are for what they have done for you.

[badkuk]

the best way really is to just to out there, find a job, and work B) nabakante rin ako for about 4 months after resigning from my first job; had i stayed jobless longer, malamang wala pa rin akong trabaho ngayon.

few are the ones who are lucky enough to have a job they really like -- hence the reason why it's called "work". as for the usual b.s. that goes on with work -- bossy bosses, deadbeat coworkers, etc. ...unless you won yesterday's lotto, wala ka talagang choice but to grin and bear it.

for me i just try to remember that i'm doing this for my parents; they matter enough to me to take the usual b.s. i get from work. count to 10, think nasty thoughts, beat the hell out of that punching bag at the gym, whatever it takes -- because family matters ;)

on the other hand, of course there are extreme cases like the one you mentioned. pag ako yun malamang umalis na rin ako, at baka makapatay pa ako ng tao B) just don't make the same mistake i did, i.e. resigning before looking for a job ba malilipatan. and kung me balak ka nga magresign, medyo mag ipon ka konti para me buffer.

[_Cathy_]

masarap din sa pakiramdam na ikaw ang gumastos para sa parents mo ... it's always a precious opportunity to give to your parents something that would give them that bliss and pride...

This is the only reason keeping me from leaving my job. I could see that my Mom is really happy whenever I treat her out for dinner or when I pay for her purchases.

I know that my Mom knows that I am unhappy with my job. Psychosomatic kasi ako. When I am unhappy it manifests physically.

[_Cathy_]

...mga difficult personalities sa office, i included them in my prayers...minsan sign na rin yun to find employment somewhere...the next job, just gave me a grazing land that's greener than my previous one...

indicator ko minsan kung ang passion ko ba nakapagpapasaya pa ba sakin? baka kasi ako lang ang passionate at ang environment di na bagay sa kakayahan ko...whenever i make a decision to leave, nakahain na yung mga options ko...so far sa awa ng Diyos masaya naman ako sa mga ginagawa ko...

Miss Cath, don't be overwhelmed with fear...dapat options ang mas marami sau, katakot takot na lakas ng loob, matatag na pananampalataya (hay, my favorite tagalog term)...lahat naman sa buhay, there's this element of SUNTOK SA BUWAN!

Thanks ab for the very kind words. Sometimes I hate myself for being such a weakling. I have suffered great loss in my childhood which caused me massive psychological damage. At the same time I refuse to talk about it and some people cannot understand that. My ex always says that it's hard to get through me if people do not know my story. I am just blessed with good friends who understand. Sadly, isa isa silang umaalis. I am just praying that soon I find my peace.

[_Cathy_]

your dreams to have your own business should be enough. add to that your will to help your parents and to give them something in return for their love for you. our parents won't be here with us for the rest of our lives. grab this opportunity and take advantage of it to show them how grateful you are for what they have done for you.

How I wish I could put up that gym soon. We have a second house in Makati and we are trying to sell it but no takers yet. My Mom told me that I can use it as collateral to borrow money so I could put up my dream gym. What do you guys think? Say for example the house is worth 1 million, how much could I get for it? Sabi kasi nila the most successul business owners know how to take reasonable risk and they take advantage of leverage. I am thinking of making that big leap from being a risk averse person.

[_Cathy_]

on the other hand, of course there are extreme cases like the one you mentioned. pag ako yun malamang umalis na rin ako, at baka makapatay pa ako ng tao B) just don't make the same mistake i did, i.e. resigning before looking for a job ba malilipatan. and kung me balak ka nga magresign, medyo mag ipon ka konti para me buffer.

This is so true.

[ab_initio]

^^sometimes our visions get fuzzy, even if you don't know where you're going just continue to give your best even if you're always left unrecognized...time will always vindicate you in your favor...

i was once a hazing victim sa highschool pmt pero ni minsan di ko inisip na i curse yung mga taong gumawa nun at mas lalong di ko naging option ang mag quit...sobra lang akong matatag. actually napag initan ako kasi bestfriend ko nag quit, kaya ayaw din nila na nandun ako kasi kapag naging officer ako, may privilege na ako to bring my bestfriend sa training. until one day, an officer noticed me tanong niya lang sakin kung marunong ako kumanta, siyempre kumanta ako...since then, during the training, kumanta lang ako na parang auto shuffle...i got the post which is usually handled by men.

what i am saying is, in the midst of the difficulties, just continue fighting having in mind that you'll conquer the world soon. there's no way for you to win if you won't be too daring at daybreak...

[Gen. Miting]

business don't be so sure. i have been chasing my dream business since 2k6. i think I lost more than 2M already. this Feb, i have like 310K to pay to suppliers and other business-related expenses. and up to now, wala pa ako sa 30% sa nakacollect ka

[_Cathy_]

5 years pass by so quickly! It feels good to look back and see that I was able to overcome my work phobia. I've been with the same company since I finished grad school (4 years) and the problem is I've lost my enthusiasm for work already. I feel very lucky that I love my job, my boss and my coworkers. My boss and coworkers make me look forward to going to the office. However, I am now very unhappy with my salary. I have a lot of friends that moved to other companies is order to increase their salary. Our company is currently cost cutting and the increase and bonus that we had for this year is extremely disappointing. We predict that it will only get worse. In the end our salaries will not reflect our real market value.

My dilemma is if a higher salary is worth having the risk of having a bad job, boss and coworkers? My boss is really really great. He's the type who would never pass on the blame to his staff, he gives more than enough time for reports, he never lets me report for work on a holiday, he sometimes does my work pa :inlove: My coworkers are very nice to me too, parati ako pinagbibigyan Also, all the difficult people at work are gone na and I am surrounded by people that are good to me My workload is not heavy so I still have time to do other things. Everything is perfect except for the salary.

Would you take the risk?

[stickers]

Almost same situation, except the boss. She's quite a pain in the ass. Would be better if she'll kick me out and pay me what i'm due.

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Would you take the risk?

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[111prez]

5 years pass by so quickly! It feels good to look back and see that I was able to overcome my work phobia. I've been with the same company since I finished grad school (4 years) and the problem is I've lost my enthusiasm for work already. I feel very lucky that I love my job, my boss and my coworkers. My boss and coworkers make me look forward to going to the office. However, I am now very unhappy with my salary. I have a lot of friends that moved to other companies is order to increase their salary. Our company is currently cost cutting and the increase and bonus that we had for this year is extremely disappointing. We predict that it will only get worse. In the end our salaries will not reflect our real market value.

My dilemma is if a higher salary is worth having the risk of having a bad job, boss and coworkers? My boss is really really great. He's the type who would never pass on the blame to his staff, he gives more than enough time for reports, he never lets me report for work on a holiday, he sometimes does my work pa :inlove: My coworkers are very nice to me too, parati ako pinagbibigyan Also, all the difficult people at work are gone na and I am surrounded by people that are good to me My workload is not heavy so I still have time to do other things. Everything is perfect except for the salary.

Would you take the risk?

So long as the pay is decent, i.e. not horrendously and exploitatively low, then compensation is not just about the money.

It is also about the work environment, the co-workers, the atmosphere.

It will not serve you any benefit to be paid say Php1M a month but everytime you report for work it is mental, physical and emotional torture and risk. Your medical bills here will most likely wipe out all your earnings.

Unless the company is very likely to belly up, stick with it. Perhaps the cost cutting is for the better in the long run. But in this case, the owners/management should open up a dialogue with the employees and allay all those apprehensions.

[yebo]

all employees have the right to ask what is the present status of the company, where the company is going, what its plans are. you do not stay on a ship if there is a hole in the hull, or not knowing where it's headed. tell your boss that you are not comfortable with the cost cutting and the miserable benefits and compensation adjustment, tell him/her you need to know from upper management what is in store for the future.

we just had a meeting last week with our company CEO. some of the questions we asked were "the salary adjustment last year was not to our expectations, will there be a substantial adjustment this year? some key people have moved, is there anything they know that we don't? what are the future plans of the company? is this company for sale? if it is who are the prospective buyers?" na-ihi yata sa pantalon si mokong hahaha!