your thoughts?

[ihateyouandme]

situation:
Bf got married last dec 30 with a gal he got pregnant.
He offered to support the child but the gal and her family threatened him.
They said that they will go after him and it might cause him to be disbarred from being a lawyer.
The child will be born on July 30, 2006.
He wants me around. He said he loves me. He is from tsikot.com also.
He hasn't fought for me at all.
What will you do to him?What will you make him do?
What are the test that you are going to give him to be sure that he is saying the truth?

[just4u]

i'm sorry to hear your predicament but for me it's better to just turn your back on him.... you're fighting a losing battle... he already made a choice and now he's married... please make yourself forget him... busy yourself.... go out and have fun.....okay lang magmukmok for a few days or months (?) but still you need to go out later on....easy for me to say 'no pero ganun yata ang tama eh... in the long run everything will fall into place.... lastly, take it easy .... don't forget to pray....

[MXFX]

i'm sorry to hear your predicament but for me it's better to just turn your back on him.... you're fighting a losing battle... he already made a choice and now he's married... please make yourself forget him... busy yourself.... go out and have fun.....okay lang magmukmok for a few days or months (?) but still you need to go out later on....easy for me to say 'no pero ganun yata ang tama eh... in the long run everything will fall into place.... lastly, take it easy .... don't forget to pray....

tough situation. i agree, just get out of it. easy to say, hard to do. the best thing that can happen is that he has you when he needs you (for any good/bad reason) as a guy, we say anything we can to get to your ... you know what i mean. maybe he wanted to do the right thing by marrying the gal, but regardless, it is unfair for him to still want to keep a relationship with you. he made a choice, you make yours. just my opinion.

maybe time to spend more time with your ride (detail, mod, etc)?

[the_wildthing]

You were his girlfriend and he knocked someone else up?! This guy's not worth your time, dear. That's two-timing. It doesn't make one a man.

Of course he wants you around. All men want more women around them.

I'm sorry, if the guy is also from Tsikot, I will have to side with the girl on this one.

[umzzzzz]

kakalungkot naman itong thread. i pity the guy. siguro napilitan lang sya na pakasalan yung girl if what he said is true. pero it's his fault eh. in the first place, he shouldn't have had another affair if you're the one he really loves. or baka naman nagkaroon kayo ng gap kaya sya na-urge to find another girl...pero hindi pa rin enough yung reason na ito no matter how hard it is for the both of you if he really loves you. oo masakit para sa iyo iyan. pero isipin mo na lang: mangyayari ulit yan kung ikaw ang napili nyang maging kasama habang buhay. hindi pa nga kayo mag asawa, ganyan na.





it's still your call...malay natin, mas mahal mo pala sya kesa sa pagmamahal nya sa 'yo.

[wren]

he made his choice, time to let him go. as you said, he didn't fight for you, why would you fight for him? don't let this thing drag on, because if you do, you'll look back and realize what a collosal waste of time it was waiting for him. he only not cheated on you, but he also cheated you out of your precious time. good luck...

[Jun aka Pekto]

situation:
Bf got married last dec 30 with a gal he got pregnant.
He offered to support the child but the gal and her family threatened him.
They said that they will go after him and it might cause him to be disbarred from being a lawyer.
The child will be born on July 30, 2006.
He wants me around. He said he loves me. He is from tsikot.com also.
He hasn't fought for me at all.
What will you do to him?What will you make him do?
What are the test that you are going to give him to be sure that he is saying the truth?

The less you're around him, the more he can face up to his obligations as man, husband, and eventually father. He put himself in his situation. He's only fooling himself if he thinks he can be married with a family and still keep you around. It'll be unfair for his wife, his kid, and you. I would leave them in peace and move on.

Painful as it is, You have to distance yourself and start over. Give yourself time to heal by hanging out with those you love (family, old chums). Don't let this one experience make you a man-hater. I'm sure there are many decent guys out there.

I don't really know what other advice I can give. Being a guy, I've had my share of frustrations in love. I am a nice guy and that saying, "Nice guys finish last" never seemed so truer as in my case. I didn't get married until I was 31. But get married I eventually did, and to a wonderful Pinay who has kept me happy to this day.....

Hope this helps......

[ihateyouandme]

to the man: well you fellow tsikoteers have spoken. don't you think it's time to move on?
My question is: how are you going to prove your love to me now that everything is too late? I've asked you not to get married and just support the child but it seems im talking to deaf person.

To lawyers here: are you really that affected if someone complained or filed a suit against you?

[ihateyouandme]

my test to you : prove to me that the LOVE you are telling me is much more than the pain you've caused me...and it has to be immediately.

[Jun aka Pekto]

Let it go. Turn around and walk away without looking back. Look to your family and closest friends in the real world for support, not here. They alone will understand you and provide teh support you need, not this website. Take a break from here and change your internet handle once you return.

You have to put as much distance as you can and can't dwell on it because it can only lead to disastrous consequences....

Peace

[the_wildthing]

Woah, mag-usap na lang kayo... part of your message seems to be directed at a specific person.

As to the lawyer question, lawsuits aren't something to lose sleep over. That's why there are lawyers. A criminal case might be different if you're guilty.

[wren]

my test to you : prove to me that the LOVE you are telling me is much more than the pain you've caused me...and it has to be immediately.

he had his biggest TEST when he had to choose between you and her.

[MXFX]

the best he can do is apologize for everything and move on.

ihateyouandme, just take it easy for now. spend time with family and friends, go out, etc. you have to take care of you right now.

[ihateyouandme]

this are good suggestions. don't worry guys i am all for your suggestions. I know it is a battle i lost already. Before people get wed in civil weddings they have to do some paperworks and my bf is fully aware of this. At 34 years old he knows what he is doing. I hope you are reading this today. You and I aren't fooling anyone. I can't fool myself thinking you love me. It will only lead you and me to lie more to each other.
I have forgiven you for sleeping with another woman already. It seems that you really want this marriage to happen. It seems unfair to me, to your woman (no matter how repugnant she may be today, but you will learn to like her...by the fact that you were able to sleep with her), and to your kid.
As again our agendas: let's set the record straight for both you and me. Let's have a closure if that is what we both need. Thank you.

[empy]

ummm....what's the guy's username?

[ts1n1ta]

same den thoughts ko with the others...forget him....of course this will happen only in time. I pray that you'd have strength to do this. You'd be doing yourself the favor if you keep your distance from him. I wish you all the best, girl.


Im just wondering...what could be the reason naman para ma dis-bar sha? Could the new wife's family do that??? Just because he knocked up their daughter?? Is that the only reason why he married the woman? ...

[nicolodeon]

...I hope you are reading this today. You and I aren't fooling anyone. I can't fool myself thinking you love me. It will only lead you and me to lie more to each other.
I have forgiven you for sleeping with another woman already. It seems that you really want this marriage to happen. It seems unfair to me, to your woman (no matter how repugnant she may be today, but you will learn to like her...by the fact that you were able to sleep with her), and to your kid.
As again our agendas: let's set the record straight for both you and me. Let's have a closure if that is what we both need. Thank you.

Ma'am, you're one classy lady.

I can relate with your story: same thing happened to me with my first serious girlfriend - she got pregnant. Worse, it was one of my college buddies that got her into that situation. We were both in our early 20's then but hey, she ain't a 12 year at that time so she knew what she was doing when they both took their clothes in his house.

I agree with you that at 34, a person should already know what he/she is doing (unless he/she is a total retard) - matanda na sya eh. Judging from your post, you're one strong and intelligent lady. I bet you'r pretty too. I'm sure you'd be able to find someone worthy of your time, your affection and of your love.

However, pardon me for my unsolicitied advice but don't hate him because I've seen a couple of persons who were in the same situation as you are in right now got eaten up by hatred. Just pray for him that he learns to dance to the music he created like a gentleman.

God bless you.

[IIE]

naku po, tama sila kalimutan mo na lang po. nakakalungkot yan ganyan bagay. but maging busy ka nalang sa work mo, find another person, date-date, etc... daanin mo na lang sa tawa, darating ang panahon at tatawanan mo na lang yan pag-may narinig kang ganitong situation, mangyari na rin yan before sakin, ang i dont know what to do. now, everything is smooth and peaceful. try mo.....

[NightRock]

True or not the guy has to face the responsibilities... Forget him dami pang guys dito sa Tsikot wag kana kukuha ng Lawyer ulit hahaha...Syempre sasabihin nya he loves you and he likes to be with you...(sino ba ayaw ng libreng lunch)....You have to move on malilimutan mo din yan..

[NightRock]

ummm....what's the guy's username?

PM nya sakin M54 Powered daw ang user name heheh