Parents here, help me!

[gretzy]

Yesterday, i got a job offer to be the asst manager of a Resto/Bar, its Red Door at Pasig. I was so excited to tell my parents about it coz di pa nga ko graduate but then the owners trusted me to handle the position. When i told my parents about it, i was so disappointed with their reaction, they dont want me to work there kc may mga nag-iinuman daw dun! Iba pa kc ang idea nila about Bars, kala ata nila parang beer house un, samantalang it's a very descent Bar, it's like Bagaberde, sossy n kinda pricey coz they get good bands n performers like Paolo Santos, Barbie's Cradle, Jay-r and others. I also told them that resto/bar is the current trend

I tried very hard to explain it to them but they are very narrow-minded, im pissed off, di ko tuloy sila pinapansin

[TEAL]

Don't give up. Give your parents a copy of Red Door's company profile kung kinakailangan para ma convince sila na descent place naman yon.

E di pag nalaman pala nila na may inuman sa EB di ka rin papayagan?

[benchph1]

Im not a parent but like teal said you can't blame them for being like that....the best that you can do is bring them to the place. this is to show them that red door is not merely a beerhouse..but a decent bar/resto.

[gretzy]

i might not be able to attend the EB becoz of this work nga eh, it's a saturday, busy day un sa bar!

ang kulit kc nila, no matter how hard i try to explain they wont change their mind, they are very opinionated this time!

[TEAL]

Yes to that benchph1, to prove to them that the Red Door is NOT a Red House! Bakit naman kasi Red Door ang name ng place, e kung ako rin parents ni Gretzy, magdadalawang isip ako, pero I'll trust pa rin my daughter's judgement.

[1D4LV]

parents are really like that. kung ano alam nilang makakabuti sa iyo, yun ang dapat. afterall, nasa area of responsibility ka pa nila. sa kanila ka pa nakatira, sa kanila ka pa umaasa. so they expect you to play by their rules...

what you can do is to let them know that the place is ok. better if you can take them to that place before you start work so they know what kind of work environment you are expecting to work with. tapos, assure them na everything will be ok, ok na yun. yun lang ang kailangan nila... assurance mo na everything will be fine.

communication is the key there. tell them also that this could be an opportunity and a chance for you to earn money by yourself, responsibly that you can use for your school needs. at least, matutulungan mo sila sa mga school expenses mo or at least, sa mga siblings mo.

good luck.

[TEAL]

Originally posted by gretzy
i might not be able to attend the EB becoz of this work nga eh, it's a saturday, busy day un sa bar!

ang kulit kc nila, no matter how hard i try to explain they wont change their mind, they are very opinionated this time!

...so, nag start ka na pala! I salute you gretz! follow your heart and be happy.... pero ingat din ha.

[gretzy]

not yet, they will orient me with the job on saturday.

kc ive made a decision, n paninidigan ko na talaga un. i know it's for my own growth

ang ganda nga di ba management position kagad kahit student pa lang ako. im really after the experience.

ang pangit lang dun sa place eh malapit sa street of motels sa pasig baka makita pa un ng parents ko! yikes!!!

but when we went there for a gimik i noticed that the crowd r mostly yuppies, the place is big n maganda interiors plus the music is good, kaya nga lang pricey

[TEAL]

E di OK pala dyan mag EB. Teka, lapit lang yan sa Pioneer Center di ba?

[gretzy]

malapit, pero mejo kulang ang parking space eh. dami ko ngang isasuggest sa owner eh

guys if pupunta/pumunta kau sa mga motels sa pasig, daan na din kaung red door para magparty.hehehe

[ownertype]

Parents will always be parents. Iniisip nila siyempre pano ka uuwi from Pasig to your Dorm. Panigurado uwi mo niyan eh mga 2-3 ng madaling araw. Paano studies mo...baka mapabayaan mo. Sometimes its really hard to argue with parents kasi once they say "no" tapos na ang usapan. Before I wanted to work as service crew sa Jollibee nung college. Pasado na ako sa interview as in ready to start na. Unfortunately di pa ako nagpapaalam nun. And nung sinabi ko na magwork na ko sa jollibee ayun fatay na ang aking fast food career. Sabi ba naman ng tatay ko sa akin, bakit nagugutom ka na ba at kailangan mo na magtrabaho. Sama ng loob ko nun pero sempre lumipas din.

Di naman ako nagsisi kasi nakapag focus ako sa studies ko, focus sa gimmick ng barakada, etc. Nung pagka graduate I got a good job.

[RafRaf]

IMHO, I think they would just want you to get your education done first and foremost. It's not the place nor the position (pinapalabas lang nila na ganun). They don't want you to be put in the position na you would have to decide between the job and studies (and choose the job). That is an asst manager position, the responsibility will be demanding at times (trust me). Kapag nalagay ka sa ganun situwayson, ano ang choice mo? You have to answer this question first before you go back and negotiate with your parents.

Good luck!

[RafRaf]

Oh, and another thing. When you're in, you're in. Commitment ang kailangan sa trabaho na malaki ang responsibility. How do you plan to get out when it comes down to the choice I metioned above... it's not as easy as "I quit." Give or take an additional 1-3 months before you are really out (unless you have someone to take care of it for you... hint.. hint).

This is something you should think about and prepare for. Ok? Again, kailangan pag-usapan ito kapa bumalik ka sa negotiation with your parents.

[boybi]

good point RafRaf, baka kasi kapag nagustuhan mo na ang job mo, mapabayaan mo ang education mo. baka pumasok sa utak mo na why study when i already have a decent job? yan din malamang ang iniisip ng parents mo.

[ian_rex]

i'd say if you think you know what is right and tingin mo naman kaya mo, why not. i'd say it wasn't rebellion, just proving to them that you can be trusted with serious decisions. part of growing up! =>

good luck!

[the_wildthing]

Bat di mo sila papuntahin one time para makita nila yung place? Baka nga they have the alternative (old) perception about the word "bar" and the associated meanings.

Kung di pa ako nag Maynila nung kolehiyo ang intindi ko sa "bar" ay inuman ng mga basag-ulo. Mapatingin ka lang ng konti suntukan na. :D Probinsiyano kasi ako. Hehehe.

[torque]

yup tama si wildthing, one time isama mo parents mo dun sa bar para makita din nila dba...

[empy]

sounds like you have very conservative parents.

in your shoes, i would emphasize to them what this will do for your future career, especially if you're in HRA or Tourism.....tell them it's not often that a college student gets a chance to have this meaningful of a work experience before they even graduate.

trust me on this - i've done college recruiting for years and there are tons of students out there with great grades and school activities. not too many with good grades plus experience managing people and dealing with customers

[gretzy]

i really believe na kaya kong pagsabayin acads n work, im proud to say that i am good in managing my time. though, i have thesis n feasibility studies next sem, sa tingin ko e magaan naman load ko coz 4 remaining subjects na lang,

dami ko na din racket during college, ive been a tutor, a theater arts instructor, events organizer at kung anu-ano pa!

fyi po, im an HRIM student graduating this october

[gretzy]

about my parents, they are in the province. well educated, not so conservative, that's why i wasnt prepared with their reaction, they are usually considerate as long as there is no guy involved.hehe

i i know that they are just being protective this time.

problema ko lang, i sumtyms get addicted to work