is physical intimacy important to a relationship?

[devdevlin]

how long is too long for you to wait?

[uls]

of course physical intimacy is important.

how long is too long to wait?

if i really like the girl, i'll wait no matter how long. Just to prove to her im patient...

As for my intimacy needs while waiting... meron ako sideline na di nya alam

hehehe

[IMm29]

Not giving you any? ;)

"How long is too long to wait" really depends on the couple and their maturity for physical intimacy. I don't think there's a hard and fast rule for this, na kung di ka pagbibigyan, hihiwalayan mo na lang siya. She could have her reasons for not wanting it, as you have your reasons for wanting it. Subtly get that information out of her and see what's scaring her.

[uls]

meron kasi mga girl na gusto meron sila bf pero ayaw nila ng ***.

selfish no? hehe

Gusto lang nila mag usap. Mag usap araw araw... mag usap nang matagaaal... mag usap lang... 4 life.

If i have a gf like that, di ko naman i-be-break. Maintain ko lang sya. Buti na yung may kausap lagi kesa wala diba?

Mag hanap nalang ako ng fling para sa intimacy needs ko

haha

[meledson]

Important but it is not the main basis of a relationship.

[boydapa]

pag walang um um wala din treat hehe!

pag walang ganyan ibig sabihin hindi ka tlaga type nun partner mo. mga 1 month matagal na yan. minsan nga pagsinuswerte same day ng sagot deretso biglang liko agad eh hehe

ako din sideline---hanap muna FF

[uls]

haha

dapat may sideline para walang urge pag kasama mo ung main girl mo.

It would make her think super patient and super gentleman and super decent ka.

Di nya alam kaya wala ka urge kasi naubos mo urge mo kay sideline girl

hahaha

[mikey177]

how long is too long for you to wait?

If you were my son or daughter, the advice I would give you is to wait until after you are married before you physically consumate your union. This is because I believe in the sanctity of ***ual intercourse --that it is a sublime expression of the love of a man and woman and of their "becoming one" in the eyes of God.

If you're still dating or engaged, then be content with holding hands and kissing (hindi yung torrid kissing ha)... kissing that will not lead you into temptation.

I proposed three times to my spouse before she said "Yes." I respected her decision and I waited for her because I was sure she was the one and only woman I wanted to share my life with.

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As to the first part of your question, on whether physical intimacy is important in a relationship, the answer is yes. However, intimacy exists on many levels and can be expressed in many ways. A tender hug when your partner is feeling gloomy can lift her spirits more than a quicky in a motel room. A short note or a gift to remind her that you love her will do more to prove your sincerity than going all the way before you are even married.

[baludoy]

Gusto lang nila mag usap. Mag usap araw araw... mag usap nang matagaaal... mag usap lang... 4 life.

namputcha! natawa ako dito! hahaha

[devdevlin]

If you were my son or daughter, the advice I would give you is to wait until after you are married before you physically consumate your union. This is because I believe in the sanctity of ***ual intercourse --that it is a sublime expression of the love of a man and woman and of their "becoming one" in the eyes of God.

If you're still dating or engaged, then be content with holding hands and kissing (hindi yung torrid kissing ha)... kissing that will not lead you into temptation.

I proposed three times to my spouse before she said "Yes." I respected her decision and I waited for her because I was sure she was the one and only woman I wanted to share my life with.

****

As to the first part of your question, on whether physical intimacy is important in a relationship, the answer is yes. However, intimacy exists on many levels and can be expressed in many ways. A tender hug when your partner is feeling gloomy can lift her spirits more than a quicky in a motel room. A short note or a gift to remind her that you love her will do more to prove your sincerity than going all the way before you are even married.

i do not want to contradict your beliefs. but personally i would want intimacy before marriage to determine if we are ***ually compatible with each other. i dont want to come to a realization after marriage that hindi pala ako masaya sa wife ko ***ually then mag hahanap ako ng sideline.

[lugarai]

"*** is an emotion in motion"

[cutedoc]

i agree with mickey177, *** isnt the sole basis of your unity, love is=)

and *** is a sacred thing that a couple should do after they took their vow in front of the church, respect is one of the key to a healthier relationship=)

[mikey177]

i do not want to contradict your beliefs. but personally i would want intimacy before marriage to determine if we are ***ually compatible with each other. i dont want to come to a realization after marriage that hindi pala ako masaya sa wife ko ***ually then mag hahanap ako ng sideline.

Well, you asked, which is the only reason I answered.

Anyway, how would you define "***ual compatibility"? How much weight does it carry with relation to emotional compatibility, life goals compatibility, faith compatibility, and all the other facets that make a relationship work?

Will you still be thinking about ***ual compatibility when you're senior citizens and you're sharing your twilight years together? I'm pushing forty right now, and when I think lovingly about my spouse, I cherish her not because of how well we interface ***ually, but because of how much we have helped each other grow, how we have built a bright future for our children, how we have matured in love and selflessness, and how much brighter and more complete our lives have been because of each other.

I hope that someday everyone will realize that the success of a relationship does not depend on what one can get from it, but on what one contributes to it.

[wewoy_romero]

Important but it is not the main basis of a relationship.

agree ako kay meledson

[gentlebreeze]

If I had a daughter, and the guys who posted their answers here were her suitors/bf, I'll throw in my support for mickey177.

[devdevlin]

the question was based on being a binata with his gf, and not based on having a daughter or son. ok lang ba mga chief na based din sana dun mga answers natin?

[boydapa]

gentlebreeze:

If I had a daughter, and the guys who posted their answers here were her suitors/bf, I'll throw in my support for mickey177.
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eh pano naman po kmi na sumasideline para makaraos lng. hindi ba kmi pwede?




yah dapat based on bf gf point of view

[uls]

i think it's better that u become physically intimate with ur partner early in the relationship so ur mind can go beyond that... then the relationship can move to a deeper level.

As long as u havent done it with her, the thought of doing it with her will remain floating around in ur mind all the time...

And as anticipition builds, so will ur expectations... syempre sa tagal mo naghintay, it better be good.

Then after months of waiting, finally pumayag na sya,

Then after kayo mag do, you say to yourself "Yan lang?!"

"Is this what i've been waiting for all this time?!"

haha

[devdevlin]

i think it's better that u become physically intimate with ur partner early in the relationship so ur mind can go beyond that... then the relationship can move to a deeper level.

As long as u havent done it with her, the thought of doing it with her will remain floating around in ur mind all the time...

And as anticipition builds, so will ur expectations... syempre sa tagal mo naghintay, it better be good.

Then after months of waiting, finally pumayag na sya,

Then after kayo mag do, you say to yourself "Yan lang?!"

"Is this what i've been waiting for all this time?!"

haha

oo nga no? havent really thought about this. how do you deal with this nga ba? lalo na if the anticipation is fueled by the assurance of satisfaction?

[uls]

I guess u just have to lower your expectations.

Or prepare to be disappointed.

That way, no matter how it turns out, you'll be happy.. hehehe

Thing about doing it agad or very early in the relationship is it gets that whole lust/urge thing out of the way and u can focus on deeper stuff...