What is letting go

[uls]

just stop seeing each other.

dont text, dont reply sa text nya,

dont call, wag sagutin tawag nya,

dont email, dont open email from the person, wag mo i-check friendster nya hehe

as in wala.

ewan ko, pero mas madali sakin ang ganun.

Coz my thinking is --- the reason why ur CLOSE to each other is coz u know what's going on in each other's daily life.

kwento nyo to each other ano nangyari sa work, co-workers, boss, friends etc...

basically u are each other's diary diba?

So to become UN-CLOSE, u deprive each other of that daily diary thing.

so if u let 1 or 2 weeks pass... maybe up to a month, u don't know what the hell is going on with the other person.

U sort of turn that person who used to be close to you into a stranger.

yun lang.

[nostalgia]

magawa nya yan sir uls.. but seriously, ako whenever nasa ganitong process ako, i just made myself busy and try to go out and meet new friends, and go out on a date..

[uls]

ya syempre, alangan naman mag mokmok ka sa bahay...

Ur day job palang occupied na 1/3 ng araw mo...

then sa gabi lakwacha

pero hindi ung pilit...

hindi ung "i have to get busy now, i have to get a new hobby to forget her"

just the usual daily stuff minus the other person..

the hole left by the other person can easily be filled. (with someone else or something u always wanted to do but had no time to do)

Once u get the hang of it, u will actually ask urself

"pano kung naging kami ulit? pano ko sya i-iskedule sa buhay ko? wala na space"

[nostalgia]

usually what ifs are best left unanswered for us to totally move on

[rileyrider]

i do respect and understand all your opinions. maybe its a case to case basis.
sometimes things are easier said than doing it. cguro it's all up to you kung
kailan and how will you let go of someone.

sabi nga nila "time will come...this too shall pass". tama ba ako mga bro?

[ab_initio]

IMO/POST BREAK UP VIEWS

exposing yourself to many options makes letting go easier...

i thought i wouldn't be able to love another person with the same intensity that i was giving to a person who called it quits. soon after the break up, i went back to the dating tracks...i was dating indiscriminately....(in the province, having coffee is already dating) that i got confined for three days for gastroenteritis secondary to excessive intake of coffee...

soon enough, i bumped into someone who has helped me forget how painful the break-up was.

everything just fell into place...i didn't need to ask him to meet his family...it just happened so quickly before i got the idea that meeting his clan would be a great starter in knowing the man i am exclusively dating...

letting go means clearing yourself up with residual rage and accepting that one came to help you get by excitingly the humdrum routine.... i am happier now...and more loving, i guess. i feel i am getting the most love...surely, i am not on the rebound.

there is no timetable for letting go...but mine happened before three months (as against someone who has not gotten over an ex for 5 years) after the break up because i dared to embark on a roller coaster while i was embracing the pain. the good thing about being in the roller coaster while embracing pain is you will never know your limits...you will hardly notice how enduring you have become.

the pain may have killed me had i realized that it was enormous....i thank God i got out of love alive.

i am now reviving the dreams i put in abeyance while i was still with an ex...at least for now, the guy i am exclusively dating has the same penchant for post grad education. as i grow older the men i bumped into just keep getting better...but i know, i have to commit one day to a one true love.

meantime, enjoy the sparks...watch exuberantly the fireworks display as if u were in a loveapalooza...

sa lahat ng malalamig ang pasko, MERRY Christmas!!! just don't wear your sweaters so someone would offer his...hehehe...

LET'S DEVIATE A LITTLE...

i don't bring umbrella so someone would give me his jacket to shield me from the drizzle...or if no one will offer, i will rent one offered by the street kids...or if i feel like it, i will soak myself in and cry in the rain...if thunderstorms accomapny it, i would even shout at the top of my voice sending my gripes to the heavens...that's how my life had been within two weeks after the break-up...

now, i just laugh at how silly i was...

[_Cathy_]

just stop seeing each other.

dont text, dont reply sa text nya,

dont call, wag sagutin tawag nya,

dont email, dont open email from the person, wag mo i-check friendster nya hehe

as in wala.

ewan ko, pero mas madali sakin ang ganun.

I just broke up with my BF of almost 4 years two weeks ago and although I've followed this protocol in my past break ups, I have to admit that the first month is SO difficult. I don't wanna elaborate with my friends because I don't wanna end up saying negative things about him. Some don't believe me because they say that I talk about it nonchalantly but they have no idea how much I am hurting right now.

Coz my thinking is --- the reason why ur CLOSE to each other is coz u know what's going on in each other's daily life.

kwento nyo to each other ano nangyari sa work, co-workers, boss, friends etc...

basically u are each other's diary diba?

This is so true. This is also the reason why we stayed together for so long despite us fighting half of the time. He's the only person who knows my thoughts and opinion on a lot of things that I wouldn't normally talk about with other people. It's a good thing that I started working again because at least my mind is preoccupied with work for 8 hours but sometimes I still find myself teary eyed whenever I think about what happened to our relationship. Sayang lang kasi I waited 4 years for him to have some direction in his life but it seems like he has no plans for our future. Makes me wonder if he ever loved me at all. He's been jobless for more than 10 years and the only thing I asked of him was to find an 8 to 5 job but he has all the excuses in the world kesyo it's not his field, the office is too far, he doesn't like the company etc., minsan naiisip ko baka ayaw lang talaga niya mag work. If he wants a future with me, shouldn't he want to provide for his family? I am just thinking that I want him to gain the respect of the people around him because as it is now, I don't think people think highly of him, having been jobless since he finished his masters more than 10 years ago. I was telling him not to let his education go to waste. Sayang lang the money that his parents spent for his education. Minsan naman naiisip ko maybe he's my cross? and "carrying him" would mean providing for him? Kasi my parents took care of me well so maybe it's time that I took care of another person? My only dilemma is that my family and my children might not respect him.

U sort of turn that person who used to be close to you into a stranger.

This is the most heart breaking part.

[uls]

sorry to hear that Cathy

Christmas pa naman

so you're single again

hehe

hey guys, Cathy's available

[ab_initio]

^^ hehehe.

creating a niche and getting a bigger share in the market makes one ultra busy to notice the pain that goes with the feeling of missing the routine.

routine.

[SecretShop]

sorry to hear that Cathy

Christmas pa naman

so you're single again

hehe

hey guys, Cathy's available

Si DeathLance yung naghahanap ng date di ba, baka pwede sila ni Ms. Cathy

regarding letting go, di ko makalimutan yung sinabi ni Joey de Leon on "how to let go and move on"
kung gusto mo daw talaga i-let go, habang patawid kayo sa daan pag may nakita ka mabilis na sasakyan, i-let go mo tapos itulak sabay sigaw na "mauna ka na mag move on sunod ako"

[_Cathy_]

I am not "marketable" anymore. That's why I sacrificed a lot for my ex. I am not capable of moving on anymore because I've grown older, fatter and uglier in the 4 years that we were together. hehe.

[SecretShop]

Some say that girls bloom after a break up because they have more time for themselves. Maybe not right after the break up but after a few weeks or months.

[pink888]

Hehehehe ;)

I super love this thread..

After the break up.. It's kinda difficult.. But, I'm just happy I'm tougher now.. I've moved on.. And, I'm not gonna look back..

[lowslowbenz]

A friend once said:

Tough men/women ... make tough decisions!

[timrev]

kaya pala may uls at c4u

ganun pala love life ni sir uls

pink888 napansin gusto mo yun mga ganitong thread ang dami mo na siguro thread na nabasa

[pink888]

yes po.. im a hopeless romantic gal.. hehe

[timrev]

yes po.. im a hopeless romantic gal.. hehe

parang napanood ko yan hopeless romantic gal sa The Adjustment Bureau

[pink888]

I wasn't able to watch that.. Maganda ba?

[timrev]

I wasn't able to watch that.. Maganda ba?

try to watch it makakarelate ka talaga syempre maganda...hopeless romatic din yun gurl...

[pink888]

i will.. thanks