MEN: Social Class and Education NOT a Factor in Choosing a GF/Wife?

[_Cathy_]

^hahaha

I am so frustrated with my friend. She doesn't know what "straw that broke the camel's back" means. She thought it was my own words and to make things worse, understood the meaning wrong. I had to explain to her what the figure of speech means. Now I am wondering how much of our conversations ang mali intindi niya

[uls]

tapos target niya top school haha

pag intelligent guy tapos ganyan kausap ma-t-turn-off yun

[Verbl Kint]

^hahaha

I am so frustrated with my friend. She doesn't know what "straw that broke the camel's back" means. She thought it was my own words and to make things worse, understood the meaning wrong. I had to explain to her what the figure of speech means. Now I am wondering how much of our conversations ang mali intindi niya

Poor language skills is a turn off. Someone with a lack of comprehension on idioms or figures of speech is good for laughs every now and then but you wouldn't want to hang out with her daily (unless she is THAT hot that you wouldn't care, i.e. starlets).

Single men who went to the green or blue schools are not looking for someone who reads Tennyson or Keats, mind you (kakaibang trip naman yan). But a lady you'd want to be with all the time must be able to relate to what one says and understand how one talks.

Another aspect to consider here, is that there are subtle differences in standards for men who went to the blue or green HIGH SCHOOLS and GRADE SCHOOLS compared to those who only went to these colors for college/university.

Note, however, the age of these potential gentlemen callers will also play a factor on the type of women they want to date, more so on those they want to marry. ;)

[_Cathy_]

I've been ranting about it a lot on the board on how I get so frustrated that I can't use figures of speech with her because I always have to explain. I thought I could use "the straw that broke the camel's back" because it's one of the commonly used figures of speech. She doesn't know common colloquial terms such as make out. She thought it means s3x. She doesn't know the bases (first, second and third) She doesn't know what a true Blue Atenean is (but she wants an Atenean BF). She isn't familiar with the high schools and residential areas in Makati. There's so much more.

I think it's because we've been chatting almost daily since the pandemic kaya she's getting on my nerves na. I just don't have the patience to explain and filter my words anymore.

BUT I still love her and feel blessed that she's in my life. No relationship is perfect naman. Sometimes I miss UF but she's going through something now and I understand why things are different now and she can't be there for me as often as she used to.

[dreamur]

At the end of the day, it all boils down to how good the s3x is, not how good she communicates.

In marriage (which is the topic of this thread), men appreciate more if the wife doesnt talk much.

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[uls]

pero di umaabot sa marriage proposal ung mga nakikilala niya sa dating app

di nga umaabot sa ligawan

di pala umaabot sa meetup

ilan chat lang nawawalan ng gana mga lalake

haha

ang dami hurdles kailangan ma-overcome

keep a guy interested enough to ask her out --> meet up --> hope the guy will court her --> hope the relationship gets serious enough to talk about marriage --> get married

step 1 palang fail na

haha

[uls]

tingin ko malaking chance single for life yan

pero habang may buhay may pag asa

hwaiting!

[_Cathy_]

She has self deprecating sense of humour naman 🤣Seriously, it's nice that she still finds humour in the situation.

Mind blown pa rin ako why she can't keep men interested and not a single one asked for a date. I am in such disbelief I signed up in the app to see for myself, I think yung men ang problema. I met True blue and True Green naman within 24 hrs and I think they're great

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[_Cathy_]

So I told my friend that someone accused me of having narcissistic personality disorder and her reaction was is there such a thing and did that person invent those terms LOL. I almost literally faced palm. Hindi ko alam kung macutean or mainis ako sa innocence niya. I told her no, those are real terms. Galit na galit dun sa person and said "dami niyang alam' at baka siya daw may "saltik" Honestly, I've known those terms way too long na rin LOL. Napa google daw siya and said I have none of those traits except that I don't like rejection BUT I have so much empathy daw She's never heard of borderline personality disorder and does not know Amber Heard. She will not google na daw because she's sure I don't have it

I'm a bit surprised na hindi pala common knowledge yung personality disorders? Kasi when I talk to my close friends we mostly classify people according to disorder LOL

[uls]

"more than one person has told me that i have NPD and/or BPD but i don't believe them"

good friend who isn't very bright and who has never even heard of those terms: "no you don't! they're wrong!!"

"oh thank you! i knew it! i shouldn't listen to those people"

[_Cathy_]

SMALL WORLD!!! I swear, in Metro Manila everyone is somehow connected.

It's SO's birthday and a girl posted a collage of his photos on his wall with the caption Happy Birthday Mr Handsome I got curious and checked on the girl's profile and found her so pretty. We come from the same school and she is also from Makati. We have mutual friends and she feels familiar BUT she has a generic chinita pretty face kasi. She LOOKS late 20s to early 30s but when I stalked her Linkedin (kaya I DO not want linked in), based on her work experience we are about the same age (explains the mutual friends) Chinitas are like vampires, they defy ageing.

Anyway, my friends and I were talking about SO's new girl and for some reason it was only after I told True Green her name when I realized that she has the same uncommon name as my NEW relationship manager, so I checked my email and SHE IS MY NEW RM!!! O.M.G. small world ! I was planning on meeting my new RM to give her a gift because she has been so helpful and accommodating.

Can you just imagine how weird that is? We dated the same guy pala

This is NOT the first small world incident, in fact, I can't even count the number of times na. Funny because SO dated so many girls from my school. He says education is not a factor e halos lahat din may post grad degree, this recent one studied at AIM pa and manager for a large bank. LOL. I find her so hot and looks very sophisticated, sa bagay front liner hindi talaga pwede pangit

No wonder SO is not in a rush to settle, there's no shortage of 30 somethings and older na DALAGA (no previous marriage or kids) and good specs.

[_Qwerty_]

teka so may work ka na?? congratulations!

SMALL WORLD!!! I swear, in Metro Manila everyone is somehow connected.

It's SO's birthday and a girl posted a collage of his photos on his wall with the caption Happy Birthday Mr Handsome I got curious and checked on the girl's profile and found her so pretty. We come from the same school and she is also from Makati. We have mutual friends and she feels familiar BUT she has a generic chinita pretty face kasi. She LOOKS late 20s to early 30s but when I stalked her Linkedin (kaya I DO not want linked in), based on her work experience we are about the same age (explains the mutual friends) Chinitas are like vampires, they defy ageing.

Anyway, my friends and I were talking about SO's new girl and for some reason it was only after I told True Green her name when I realized that she has the same uncommon name as my NEW relationship manager, so I checked my email and SHE IS MY NEW RM!!! O.M.G. small world ! I was planning on meeting my new RM to give her a gift because she has been so helpful and accommodating.

Can you just imagine how weird that is? We dated the same guy pala

This is NOT the first small world incident, in fact, I can't even count the number of times na. Funny because SO dated so many girls from my school. He says education is not a factor e halos lahat din may post grad degree, this recent one studied at AIM pa and manager for a large bank. LOL. I find her so hot and looks very sophisticated, sa bagay front liner hindi talaga pwede pangit

No wonder SO is not in a rush to settle, there's no shortage of 30 somethings and older na DALAGA (no previous marriage or kids) and good specs.

[Ry_Tower]

^ hehe oo nga ano. Congrats and enjoy your new work Cathy.

[uls]

ung relationship manager?

having a RM means she's a customer

hindi "manager" sa work

[_Qwerty_]

kala ko regional manager

[dr. d]

Can you just imagine how weird that is? We dated the same guy pala

personally,
... i am not sure i would be elated, if i found out my workplace co-inhabitant dated the same person i used to date...
heh heh.

so,
you have a job!
congratulations!
that explains why you appear to be less visible here nowadays.

[_Qwerty_]

we thought wrong..

personally,
... i am not sure i would be elated, if i found out my workplace co-inhabitant dated the same person i used to date...
heh heh.

so,
you have a job!
that explains why you appear to be less visible here nowadays.

[_Cathy_]

teka so may work ka na?? congratulations!

Wala pa. Relationship manager ko sa bank where I have an account

^ hehe oo nga ano. Congrats and enjoy your new work Cathy.

I hope it will happen soon

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[dr. d]

Wala pa. Relationship manager ko sa bank where I have an account

ah!
wrong RM.
apologies.

[_Cathy_]

kala ko regional manager

Hahaha pero sana nga mag dilang anghel kayong lahat na magka work na ko [emoji4]

personally,
... i am not sure i would be elated, if i found out my workplace co-inhabitant dated the same person i used to date...
heh heh.

so,
you have a job!
congratulations!
that explains why you appear to be less visible here nowadays.

That would be so awkard BUT there are instances na where I dated guys in my teens na kilala pala ng colleagues ko from their HS or College. I was a serial dater in my youth

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