How to end an illicit love affair?

[gearhead]

So has the TS decided how to end it? Based on all the feedback.

Assumption here is that the TS genuinely wants to end it. Has the TS decided to make a clean breast of things (no pun intended).

[Bogeyman]

For all of his attempts at defending his paramour, the TS obviously doesn't know her any better than the rest of us. Kasi kung naniniwala talaga siya that the girl is "all that" i.e. smart, nice, malambing, understanding etc, eh hindi na siya mag-aatubiling sabihin yung totoo. Since gumawa pa siya ng thread, ibig sabihin lang eh hindi rin niya sigurado ang ugali ng kabit niya.

Sinabi na rin naman ni TS na illicit yung pinasukan niya. If it's illicit, then it's wrong. If it's wrong, eh hindi na dapat pinatatagal yan. It's bad enough that he didn't tell his 'lady friend' the truth at the outset; bawat minuto na hindi pa niya sinasabi yung katotohanan eh lalong lumalabo yung chances niya na matahimik ang konsensya (teka, gusto na nga ba niyang matahimik? Maybe he's still enjoying her affections).

[_Cathy_]

It's bad luck to have/be a mistress (an understatement). I know someone who became a mistress and she's been having a string of bad luck ever since she took that role. At any angle (superstitious or rational), nothing good comes out of having an affair. It's just exciting, sweaty, heart raising and explosive *** which is followed by guilt afterwards (?) or worse - death -

http://health.asiaone.com/Health/New...203-39336.html

ILLICIT *** COULD BE BAD FOR HEALTH

OUT of 5,529 heart attack deaths in Asia , 34 happened during ***. Of that number, 27 were having illicit ***, reported Berita Minggu on Sunday.

This figure showed that illicit *** could be stressful to the heart, which could also lead to sudden death...

[shadow]

It's bad luck to have a mistress

on the contrary....hehehhe :barmy: hhhmmm if you get caught?

I know someone who became a mistress and she's been having a string of bad luck ever since she took that role.

maybe what you meant was, it is bad luck to be a mistress?

[lugarai]

Agree with H1Tman and MC,- tell the truth and breakup with your lover, but do not tell your wife. And, hope to high heavens that she will not find out. But, be ready.

Do not look back,- just move on with your life, together with your wife (and kid/s?). And, have the steadfast resolve to never do it again.

IMO, most importantly,- you have to confess this to a [SIZE=5]Priest.[/SIZE]

Good luck bro.

6303:fetch:

Try to contact the priests of Alabangerz and seek advice to them. Pag ganyang mga illicit affair expertise nila yun...

CVT bigay mo nalang dun sa humihingi ng advice yung mga priests na frens natin...

[_Cathy_]

Yung kilala ko na mistress na parang Maria Clara magdamit at magsalita eh araw araw pa na nagsisimba pero mas matapang pa sa tunay na asawa

[gearhead]

Sinabi na rin naman ni TS na illicit yung pinasukan niya. If it's illicit, then it's wrong. If it's wrong, eh hindi na dapat pinatatagal yan. It's bad enough that he didn't tell his 'lady friend' the truth at the outset; bawat minuto na hindi pa niya sinasabi yung katotohanan eh lalong lumalabo yung chances niya na matahimik ang konsensya (teka, gusto na nga ba niyang matahimik? Maybe he's still enjoying her affections).

There is a point there.

Wonder if he is still enjoying some southern delight.

[Flagg]

Why stop at all?

[gearhead]

Why stop at all?

So you can step in. Kawawa kasi ang girl afterwards. And at least you will have no qualms about it.

[Flagg]

So you can step in. Kawawa kasi ang girl afterwards. And at least you will have no qualms about it.

I think what maverick really needed was the assurance that there are those who condone and not condemn his activities.

[oliver1013]

Kaya naniniwala ako na mas ok na sabihin palang from the start kung may asawa para kung sakali man na tumuloy parin yung girl at least alam niya kung san lulugar

[_Cathy_]

^^^ I think only REALLY good looking, successful, intelligent and charming guys would be confident enough to think that they could get away with that "arrangement"

[silver streak]

^^^ I think only REALLY good looking, successful, intelligent and charming guys would be confident enough to think that they could get away with that "arrangement"

e naman...you haven't heard of not-so-goodlooking, not as successful, not as intelligent and not so charming guys who are into such relationships? meron din sa tulad nilang mga guys...

by the way, after 6 pages and 112 exchanges of views, has the illicit relationship ended? or relationship has gone stronger? balita naman dyan para naman meron kami lessons learned.

[_Cathy_]

e naman...you haven't heard of not-so-goodlooking, not as successful, not as intelligent and not so charming guys who are into such relationships? meron din sa tulad nilang mga guys...

Wala eh. Lakas ng loob at napakatinik na nun if they have "nothing to offer" and yet they'd find someone who'd knowingly take the role of a mistress. hehe.

[silver streak]

Wala eh. Lakas ng loob at napakatinik na nun if they have "nothing to offer" and yet they'd find someone who'd knowingly take the role of a mistress. hehe.

meron ganyan mga pipol na tinaguriang matinik...that is life talaga

[Bogeyman]

Wala eh. Lakas ng loob at napakatinik na nun if they have "nothing to offer" and yet they'd find someone who'd knowingly take the role of a mistress. hehe.

Believe it or not, there are some women who don't mind (and are even eager to take) the role of the "other woman", for several reasons:

- they want to get back at a failed relationship
- they genuinely like the guy, his civil status notwithstanding
- they see it as an adventure, and the sheer danger of it excites them
- they see it as a means to an end, usually material
- they just want to prove a point

I know one such lady who used to get involved with married men before. Fortunately she's now married too, living with her hubby in the US. While she used to make light of her situation before, I hope that she never has to deal with another mistress in her own married life.

[mayhem]

sabi nila katangahan daw ang umamin.. not all the time, basta ba right place and right timing.

OT Lang..bakit parang urban legend ata yung 7 years itch sa married life???

TS, there's no point continuing the affair... you've invested enough with your wife considering you have kids... kahit anu pa man piliin mo pamilya mo bro...

BAD Choice if you choose #2... WHY??? kung sya nga nagawang pagtaksilan ang BF nya, ikaw pa kaya kung sya ang sasamahan mo, sooner or later gagawin nya din sa iyo yun..

If your wife will know about it, tell her the truth... atleast yung guilt mo eh kahit papano eh mabawasan... in the 1st place, getting into such relationships have consequences and all guys know it before hand kaso nga lang ang iba sa atin eh pinapairal ang "bahala na" attitude which later hindi na alam kung panu lulusutan.

Tama din yung sinasabi nila na isusumbat sa iyo ni wifey palagi, it's so irritating talaga but it will come to a point na you'll both get used to it.

It will also be a turning point of your relationship, depende nga lang kung panu ihandle ni wifey.. it takes a lot of guts, pride and understanding on their part but it will be the defining moments of your married life... it will both make your relationship stronger or it'll break you hard enough.. kaya be ready..

sa ating mga guys, it's so easy to move on kung tayo ang may ginawa pero hindi sa lahat ng wife eh ganun ganun lang yun.expect your wife will be paranoid type after, but it's natural.. basta panindigan mo pag binigyan ka ng chance na worth it yung ibinigay na 2nd chance.

natural din sa mga guys na later we'll get tempted again, but we should take into consideration ang emotions ng ating mga maybahay.. what if kung sila ang magloko, kakayanin ba natin???

bottomline... kung nakaya mong pasukan, dapat kayanin mong lusutan!

bro, vagina lang yan you'll soon get fed up and loose taste over #2 i'm sure.

goodluck bro...

[slamtaz]

For now, you may not need this, but in the future, it can be:
Follow the 11th and 12th commandment

11. Wag na wag ka magpapahuli (Thou shall not get caught)
12. Pag nahuli ka, wag na wag ka aamin (If caught, Thou shall not admit)

tagal na pala itong thread at ngayon ko lang nabasa...

hehehe... kapatid na Sarsi, palagay ko ay magkakakilala ang circle of friends natin sa Batangas... eksaktong eksakto eh :evillaugh

parang meron nga yatang 13th... kung mapaamin, mandamay ka na ng iba...

sensya na po kung :offtopic:

[_Cathy_]

I wonder how this story ended.

[silver streak]

I wonder how this story ended.

marahil ay nanaig ang damdamin na ipagpatuloy ang nadaramang kaligayahan sa piling ng ibang nagmamahal. . . . .