How to end an illicit love affair?

[jansky]

6 pages as of today and yet no response from TS. I think TS does not want to end this at all, or just assessing all possibilities , anyway its a universal law they say "Cause and Effect".


so just be ready

Truth hurts but it will set you free my friend

[Airwalk]

^give the guy a break.with all the suggestions you gave, i bet now he is deep in thought exploring all possible options on how to break up with the girl.

but then again..sarap ata ng dalawa ang nagmamahal sa iyo.. di ba TS?

[silver streak]

...sana dalawa ang puso ko....
...ano na ba talaga ang kinahinatnan ng sinulid na ito? tinapos ba ofr ipinagpatuloy na rin? ...kay sarap ng may nagmamahal, asahan mo ang pag-ibig ko'y tunay...

[skyediver]

tell the truth to your lover but don't tell your wife.

ITA with this post. What your wife doesn't know won't hurt her. It's bad enough that you will hurt the other woman's feelings when you tell her the truth, bakit kailangan pati asawa mo, sasaktan mo din? Don't tell her about your affair, just be contrite for what you have done and make a promise to yourself that you will NEVER, EVER do it again.

[emanzano]

She is very beautiful and an amazing person. A very nice and sweet lady. Our age gap is more than 10 years, she is only 23 and im 35...

...She now loves me more than her boyfriend, which she admitted during one of our liaison. She is now considering breaking-up with her boyfried.

I am completely ashamed of what I have done and I don't know how to tell it to her. I guess it is a very cruel thing to do to a wonderful person and I dont know how open it up to her without hurting her so much. I've accepted the fact that she will hate me for my dishonesty.

Dude, you're my new hero!!!

You must feel awful now. But not as awful as never knowing what could have been between the two of you. Can you imagine yourself 5yrs from now, wondering what it would have felt like to kiss her, to hold her, to be intimate with her? Now you know, and you'll never be that guy who will always wonder. You probably felt the most alive in your life when you were with her in your secret liaisons, huh? You playa! Good for you!

You always knew this would happen before you guys started flirting diba? So you feel bad. Take it like a man.

But seriously, it felt good to be alive huh?


"Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't."

[jansky]

ano na kaya ending nito?

[ab_initio]

set the girl free...you are destroying her.

[Flagg]

Dude, you're my new hero!!!

Uh, be very very careful, my friend.

[wren]

di ako pwedeng magpost ng advice dito without feeling hypocritical, so good luck na lang...you'll need it. pray that your wife is understanding, and willing to forgive and forget, and also pray that the other woman is not a psycho chick.

[macsd]

the art of illicit affair or relationship has it's rules or guidelines that need to be followed. stick to the rule and no one get's into trouble.

1. lay down your cards meaning don't hide your marriage or family. starting clean will get you out of trouble at the start. she/he still jump into the relationship, it will be easy to lay down the roles of each or how the relationship should work.

2. ever been caught , never ever confess to a guilty plea. the benefit of the doubt should always be taken into consideration and this will help you to recover or in short, your golden parachute.

3. your illicit partner should understand that in case of emergency, like other half seeing you, he/she would know the script and act as if your just friend bumping on each other. etc...always prepare the script so the dialog will be straight.

4. memorize the number, don't use name. this way you can always use wrong send as an excuse. if ever he/she dials the number, tell your partner to excuse, it was just a wrong send. on the other hand, never forget to delete messages or numbers that will implicate you over ur cp.

5. keep away from being within reach. if you live south, play at north. you got lesser chances of an acquaintance seeing you. never be too showy when in public like holding hands etc.. always keep a distance. after all you can always be skin close when your in privacy.

6. an in any family, an offspring should be planned. this way both aunderstand the role. the best is don't even get into coming up with a product.

these are just some pointers. hope this help our brothers/sister here.

now back to the topic. tell the truth to the girl but never to ur wife. this will keep's u with 1 headache. let her make the decision and just respect what ever she come's up with.

[emanzano]

the art of illicit affair or relationship has it's rules or guidelines that need to be followed. stick to the rule and no one get's into trouble.

1. lay down your cards meaning don't hide your marriage or family. starting clean will get you out of trouble at the start. she/he still jump into the relationship, it will be easy to lay down the roles of each or how the relationship should work.

2. ever been caught , never ever confess to a guilty plea. the benefit of the doubt should always be taken into consideration and this will help you to recover or in short, your golden parachute.

3. your illicit partner should understand that in case of emergency, like other half seeing you, he/she would know the script and act as if your just friend bumping on each other. etc...always prepare the script so the dialog will be straight.

4. memorize the number, don't use name. this way you can always use wrong send as an excuse. if ever he/she dials the number, tell your partner to excuse, it was just a wrong send. on the other hand, never forget to delete messages or numbers that will implicate you over ur cp.

5. keep away from being within reach. if you live south, play at north. you got lesser chances of an acquaintance seeing you. never be too showy when in public like holding hands etc.. always keep a distance. after all you can always be skin close when your in privacy.

6. an in any family, an offspring should be planned. this way both aunderstand the role. the best is don't even get into coming up with a product.

these are just some pointers. hope this help our brothers/sister here.

now back to the topic. tell the truth to the girl but never to ur wife. this will keep's u with 1 headache. let her make the decision and just respect what ever she come's up with.

Pare, ang lupit mo! But thanks for keeping it real.

[mackoto]

Pare, ang lupit mo! But thanks for keeping it real.

+1
you'Re the man of the hour!

[trapped]

i have a cheating husband and its killing me softly..he maybe like you..he wanted to keep a family and just content to have an illicit affair.I*m not a nagger type..i kept my pain all alone..i just cry and pray..pray and cry but most of the time i get tired and wished that God would take my life and end my sufferings. I am a good wife and my life revolves around him and my children..but he said its not really my fault..that there is nothing i missed to do or failed to do..men are just like that..but how could i say it hurts me so deeply.I hope you guys realize that there is nothing right you can get from having an illicit affair..You just mistake it for love but its a actually a desire or a thought satisfaction that you could still get a girl, Until now i cant understand why men cant have satisfaction despite the wife does evrything to make a happy home..why having good children couldnt be enough..why despite the fact the being blessed of evry good things others would wish to have they could not repay God by being a responsible father and a faithful husband.I could not understand why they think thats it's enough that they provide the needs of the family.
i hope you free yourself from that and give your girl a decent life while the chance is still there..Be considerate to ur wife's feelings and the girl's future as well please!

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[SIZE=3]Maverickjazzy,[/SIZE]
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[SIZE=3]Wow, while reading your story I felt like I was sucked in a time machine and it brought me to a place where I used to be back then. A place which I wish I have never been through. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=3] [/SIZE]
[SIZE=3]Just like you, I used to be an adulterer pare. Yup, that’s what you are right now. An adulterer. A man who commits adultery. Still can’t get it? Go to Wikipedia and try to read the definition and keep on reading it till your eyeballs come out and you become sober.[/SIZE]
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[SIZE=3]I made the same mistake that you’re making now. It’s hard to resist the affection and attention coming from a young beautiful woman, lalo na kung may ***. Ang sarap sarap. And while you’re screwing someone else, we are undmindful that our family—our wife and children—our family which we are supposed to be faithful to and working hard for, are quietly waiting for us at the end of the day. Our family which deserves the love of a husband and a father. A family who deserves nothing else than the love and respect of a real man, not someone who thinks he’s a real man because he can easily get inside the pants of a beautiful girl. [/SIZE]
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[SIZE=3]Just like you I found it hard to stop something that was giving so much pleasure and satisfaction. Ang hirap tapusin di ba? Ganyan talaga. So hindi ko tinapos. Bukas na lang, sabi ko sa sarili ko. Tumagal ng tumagal. And then before I knew it, sumabog sa harap ko. Everything happened so fast. I had to leave my job and almost lost my career. My in-laws and the whole clan of my wife hated me like I was Lucifer. No wait a minute, I think they like Lucifer better than me. I lost most of my friends. I almost lost my wife and child. In short, I destroyed my life by being so stupid. [/SIZE]
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[SIZE=3]It’s not too late pare. End it. End it now. Tell your mistress that it’s over. No need to tell her everything or explain anything. Just tell her (sms or letter) that you’re ending the relationship, that you want to break up because—well, you just want to. You have already done a lot of damage to her life, and you are actually doing her a favor by breaking up. Then cut all communication with her. Get a new job. No need to tell your wife anything. Because once she finds out, things will never be the same again, things will be even more complicated. Just start afresh, and start really loving your wife. Be a real man by being a faithful husband and being a responsible, loving father. That’s the definition of a real man. A real man will put the happiness of his wife and children over and above his own happiness. Be a real man, my friend. I wasn’t. But you have a chance to be. [/SIZE]
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[SIZE=3]I wish time machines were real. That way I can turn back time and undo what I have done. I wish I could go back in time and tell that stupid old fellow that was myself back then that hey, you’re about to destroy your life. But time machines aren’t real. All I could do now is face the reality of what I have done, and suffer forever for it. [/SIZE]
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[SIZE=3]You are standing right now on very dangerous grounds, but I guess you still don’t realize it. You are in the midst of a life-changing episode. It’s not too late my friend. End it now and start anew. Don’t end up like me. Be a real man. If you don’t want to listen, it’s really up to you. But get ready to suffer the consequences, and suffer hard you will. [/SIZE]

[dark_akatsuke24]

we are living in democratic country, wala namang batas n ngbabawal mag mahal ng dalawa....

[ghosthunter]

we are living in democratic country, wala namang batas n ngbabawal mag mahal ng dalawa....

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[dark_akatsuke24]

sorry brow...di na poh mauulit nextime...peace

[M68]

You didn't have to end anything if you never started anything in the first place.

Anyway, if I were you I'd end it immediately and not tell my wife. If your conscience is bothering you then by all means confess to her. Kung hindi naman pero grabe ang sisi mo eh di kalasan mo na iyung ka-affair mo and start anew. Just make sure next time to avoid anything that would make you go at it again. Kawawa naman misis mo, pre. Pati na anak niyo.

Keep it in your pants, dude. Keep it for your wife.

[M68]

Iyung mga nagpapatawa kuno diyan eh sana huwag na kayong humirit kung wala ring kuwenta ang advice niyo. Hindi biro ang nangyayari sa TS ha. Kung nangyari na sa inyo iyan alam niyo gaano kahirap ang dinadaan niya. Eh kung babaero kayo at wala kayong pakialam sa mga sinasaktan niyo eh naniniwala naman ako sa karma eh. Be mature please.

[geobac123]

Iyung mga nagpapatawa kuno diyan eh sana huwag na kayong humirit kung wala ring kuwenta ang advice niyo. Hindi biro ang nangyayari sa TS ha. Kung nangyari na sa inyo iyan alam niyo gaano kahirap ang dinadaan niya. Eh kung babaero kayo at wala kayong pakialam sa mga sinasaktan niyo eh naniniwala naman ako sa karma eh. Be mature please.

I was been reading in this forum everyday and almost all the thread i read. First i would like to thanks to all the members for helping and giving advised for those who are in need. Anyway i can't even give advise to our TS because i have a problem that more complicated for what he have. Wish that our TS can move on and seetle down to his family. For you to know its very difficult if your number 2 will become pregnant like what happened to me. anyway i'm an OFW and I would like to thanks again to all the members of tsikoter to please continue giving advised for all the members that need your opinion. thanks and god bless happy new year!!!!!