how do you get over a broken heart?

[dreamur]

For you Cathy...

Les Miserables - Samantha Barks - On My Own (lyrics) (Full Verison) - YouTube

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[thenightcrawler]

Thanks for being so kind to me always. I absolutely have no idea how he is right now. Had zero contact since we broke up in April 2017.

There's a possibility he has not replaced me yet because of the combination na is quite picky and he has a deal breaker that not a lot of women by his standards will compromise on (but I changed my rules for him and I don't want to expound on that)

Nahihirapan na rin ako because I tried my best to forget about him, tried to move on, tried to date other men. I had superficial crushes like I did with Dr Cutie and a new crush, but I always go back to him. Kaya naisip ko true love ko talaga siya. Everyday in my rosary, I still pray for him. I love him that much...

Saka physically, it's only him I want. I can't imagine myself getting intimate with any other guy, nagui guilty ako na it feels dirty. I want him to be my first and only.

Last year palang pala kayo nagbreak.. Sorry, I thought sobrang tagal na.. Kaya naman pala now I understand.. Fresh pa yan anu baa! (Sorry guys.. LOL!)

But If that's the case na you feel he has not replaced you yet, why are you scared that he might reject you? Call him up!

Praying is good but not enough to get what you want.. You have to do your part.





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[_Cathy_]

For you Cathy...

Les Miserables - Samantha Barks - On My Own (lyrics) (Full Verison) - YouTube

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That is such a sad song. Kahit hindi pa ako brokenhearted when I first heard it, it was so so sad to listen to.

[thenightcrawler]

ive been wrong sometimes. but the question should be. is he single? married? separated? living in with awoman?

She wouldn't hope or wait for him na kung ganyan status.

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[_Cathy_]

Last year palang pala kayo nagbreak.. Sorry, I thought sobrang tagal na.. Kaya naman pala now I understand.. Fresh pa yan anu baa! (Sorry guys.. LOL!)

But If that's the case na you feel he has not replaced you yet, why are you scared that he might reject you? Call him up!

Praying is good but not enough to get what you want.. You have to do your part.


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Probably because men get over women faster that's why the guys are irritated that it's taking so long for me to move on And it's not easy for me to fall in love, but when I do I fall hard.

I am deathly afraid of rejection, I might suffer a nervous breakdown if he does (I have a history). Pero yung emotional, intellectual and physical connection, it was spectacular. I really can't imagine myself being with any other guy, I tried so hard, saka yung physical/s3xual attraction ko sa kanya, it's out of this world. I used to be so judgmental of couples who engage is PMS but now I understand why fornication happens, I've never been so in love to feel that it translated physically. Kaya alam ko, malalim pagmamahal ko. It's a good thing crush has self control (he really respected me)

[ray_noel]

Thanks for being so kind to me always. I absolutely have no idea how he is right now. Had zero contact since we broke up in April 2017.

There's a possibility he has not replaced me yet because of the combination na is quite picky and he has a deal breaker that not a lot of women by his standards will compromise on (but I changed my rules for him and I don't want to expound on that)

Nahihirapan na rin ako because I tried my best to forget about him, tried to move on, tried to date other men. I had superficial crushes like I did with Dr Cutie and a new crush, but I always go back to him. Kaya naisip ko true love ko talaga siya. Everyday in my rosary, I still pray for him. I love him that much...

Saka physically, it's only him I want. I can't imagine myself getting intimate with any other guy, nagui guilty ako na it feels dirty. I want him to be my first and only.

Ka swerte naman ng guy! Wohoo!

I can relate, but i have moved on... sana maka move on ka na ms cath... sayang panahon... [emoji4] dami mo na siguro na miss sa life dahil sa kanya... hehehe...

Also, always remember JAPAN!


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[_Cathy_]

Ka swerte naman ng guy! Wohoo!

I can relate, but i have moved on... sana maka move on ka na ms cath... sayang panahon... [emoji4] dami mo na siguro na miss sa life dahil sa kanya... hehehe...

Also, always remember JAPAN!


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I don't think he sees himself as lucky that I'm in love with him

I did try to like other men but nobody can compare to him. Sometimes I would hope na magising ako with absolutely no feelings for him na so I can finally move on. But when that day happens, he'd have lost me permanently.

He made me experience things for the first time kasi, that's why it's so hard to forget.

[thenightcrawler]

Probably because men get over women faster that's why the guys are irritated that it's taking so long for me to move on And it's not easy for me to fall in love, but when I do I fall hard.

I am deathly afraid of rejection, I might suffer a nervous breakdown if he does (I have a history). Pero yung emotional, intellectual and physical connection, it was spectacular. I really can't imagine myself being with any other guy, I tried so hard, saka yung physical/s3xual attraction ko sa kanya, it's out of this world. I used to be so judgmental of couples who engage is PMS but now I understand why fornication happens, I've never been so in love to feel that it translated physically. Kaya alam ko, malalim pagmamahal ko. It's a good thing crush has self control (he really respected me)

Aww tsk. You've already described it the best way possible how much you truly want him..

Haven't you thought about what if Kung hindi ka nya ireject? Possibility of ending your misery.. And Why would you think he would reject you in the first place?

Just think about mas masakit pag nalaman mo may gf or committed na sya.. Kaya don't waste your time before it's too late.

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[benchph1]

I salute your ex for having good self control. I bet you he always had stomach cramps. Thats what happens to us if we try to control it.


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[_Cathy_]

Aww tsk. You've already described it the best way possible how much you truly want him..

Haven't you thought about what if Kung hindi ka nya ireject? Possibility of ending your misery.. And Why would you think he would reject you in the first place?

Just think about mas masakit pag nalaman mo may gf or committed na sya.. Kaya don't waste your time before it's too late.

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Kasi naniniwala ako na pag gusto talaga ng lalaki ang babae, they will make a move. May mga tampuhan na rin kami ni crush before but he would always initiate contact with me. Yung last, hindi na, kaya I interpret that as he is done with me. Pag ang lalaki umayaw, I believe that there is no fixing things.

In all my relationships, I really let the guy pursue and initiate, kung ayaw niya, hindi na ko hahabol. I made the mistake ONCE, yung heartbreak ko before crush and it did not turn out well. Si heartbreaker, told me "you can't handle having a normal relationship" pero ako pinilit ko pa rin to fix things, but things weren't as it used to be, he rarely initiated call or texts, stopped wanting to see me, didn't offer to help anymore when I was in trouble. This frustrated me more because he used to be so attentive and I wanted things the way it was before. I just ended up losing my dignity in the process. I almost suffered a nervous breakdown - I did not eat, sleep or take a bath for several days. I survived on water and a piece of apple. All I did was CRY. It was when my family was going to take me to the hospital, na nahimasmasan ako. I don't want to repeat that mistake anymore, kaya all I can do is wait and hope that crush will come back to me. That way, I know that he really wants me.

I guess ignorance is bliss, I won't be able to handle hearing from him na pinaltan na niya ko. Sobrang sakit nun.

I salute your ex for having good self control. I bet you he always had stomach cramps. Thats what happens to us if we try to control it.

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Not just self control but he is also very consistent and disciplined. He really has his sh1t together that's why my feelings for him goes beyond love - it's respect and great admiration as well.

Funny nga kasi, I was the aggressor between the two of us. LOL! I find it so hard to control myself around him, considering I used to be prude before I met him My exs would be shocked and probably won't believe if they knew of my "turn around"

[benchph1]

Maybe thats the reason he called it quits. Because he was very close to losing his self control [emoji16]

Maybe you do really need a change to forget about him. Just try to change a few things in your routine. Or maybe initiate a major one like a new job.


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[_Cathy_]

Maybe thats the reason he called it quits. Because he was very close to losing his self control [emoji16]

Maybe you do really need a change to forget about him. Just try to change a few things in your routine. Or maybe initiate a major one like a new job.


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I was the one who broke up with him but I did not expect him to just accept it. Also, what's wrong if he lost his self control? We're consenting adults. And I do want him to be my first and only, because like I said, I can't imagine myself being intimate with any other man but him.

I did try my best to forget about him but I always go back to him. I already told my SO that it's really crush that I want and now he is mad at me But I think it's unfair for him if I keep dating him but at the back of my mind it's crush I want to be with

[benchph1]

Losing his self control was meant to be a joke [emoji16]

Let me tell you something that may help. I have friend who’s wife came from a 10 Year relationship before she met him. Those are also her choice of words, she didn’t imagine herself getting intimate with someone else because of the length of her relationship with her ex.
Long story short, they are now happily married and they also have a 4 year old daughter. My point here is just keep trying. (Dating) Who knows, your hubby might just be around you.


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[_Cathy_]

Losing his self control was meant to be a joke [emoji16]

Let me tell you something that may help. I have friend who’s wife came from a 10 Year relationship before she met him. Those are also her choice of words, she didn’t imagine herself getting intimate with someone else because of the length of her relationship with her ex.
Long story short, they are now happily married and they also have a 4 year old daughter. My point here is just keep trying. (Dating) Who knows, your hubby might just be around you.


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So your friend doesn't mind being second?

I've been in several long term relationships and I managed to keep myself pure, but with crush, I just don't know that he is the right person. He has everything I want and more - good looks, toned body, deep voice, tall, in charge, knight in shining armour, alpha personality, skills, endurance. Even his position in the company turns me on! He's a wet dream come true

The day he comes back to me will be glorious and I promise NEVER to lose him again.

[sean-archer]

Mam cath, i just want you to be happy, just by reading your posts, grabe ka magmahal. And you definitely deserve someone na makapagbibigay ng love and happiness na yun. Believe me when I say halos lahat ng tsikot members dito na Naka follow sa story mo, indeed want you to finally be really happy.

We are no love doctors here, pero tell us the real score para ma tulungan ka namin. Madami na kami info about how you love him and all, tell us more naman sa side naman ni crush. What the hell is happening with him now. By doing so, baka mas accurate ang magiging advice ng mga ka tsikot natin.

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[minicarph]

I did try my best to forget about him but I always go back to him. I already told my SO that it's really crush that I want and now he is mad at me But I think it's unfair for him if I keep dating him but at the back of my mind it's crush I want to be with

na crush siguro heart ni SO

[benchph1]

So your friend doesn't mind being second?

I've been in several long term relationships and I managed to keep myself pure, but with crush, I just don't know that he is the right person. He has everything I want and more - good looks, toned body, deep voice, tall, in charge, knight in shining armour, alpha personality, skills, endurance. Even his position in the company turns me on! He's a wet dream come true

The day he comes back to me will be glorious and I promise NEVER to lose him again.

Nope not at all. And i can tell that he’s really happy with her.

Of all the guys you dated after him, was there anyone that came close? Problem is with your description of him, the other guys have HUGE shoes to fill. Maybe you can try to lower your expectations.


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[minicarph]

okey siguro sa babae pag syota nya. size 12 or 11, kasi sa payless lagi may stock yun kakarampot na magandang Dexter Memoryfoam Tm

[madball]

So your friend doesn't mind being second?

I've been in several long term relationships and I managed to keep myself pure, but with crush, I just don't know that he is the right person. He has everything I want and more - good looks, toned body, deep voice, tall, in charge, knight in shining armour, alpha personality, skills, endurance. Even his position in the company turns me on! He's a wet dream come true

The day he comes back to me will be glorious and I promise NEVER to lose him again.

I'm sorry if this may sound harsh but I'm going to say it anyway. If your crush is really that alpha as f*ck, there's a high chance that he won't chase again because he has a lot of options. You are also right that it's unfair to still keep your SO when he can never compare to your crush. He will probably be riddled with insecurities over time and it will only lead to more fighting. This is a pretty common scenario.

[_Cathy_]

Mam cath, i just want you to be happy, just by reading your posts, grabe ka magmahal. And you definitely deserve someone na makapagbibigay ng love and happiness na yun. Believe me when I say halos lahat ng tsikot members dito na Naka follow sa story mo, indeed want you to finally be really happy.

We are no love doctors here, pero tell us the real score para ma tulungan ka namin. Madami na kami info about how you love him and all, tell us more naman sa side naman ni crush. What the hell is happening with him now. By doing so, baka mas accurate ang magiging advice ng mga ka tsikot natin.

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Thanks. I fell really hard for crush talaga. I have no contact with him anymore. I don't know his thoughts on what happened between us

Of all the guys you dated after him, was there anyone that came close? Problem is with your description of him, the other guys have HUGE shoes to fill. Maybe you can try to lower your expectations.

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After him NONE. But back in my teens and early 20s, all of them were more or less the same "specs" as crush pero may isang quality na wala. Si crush kasi, he is everything I want and so much more.

Does that mean I have to settle Si SO, he is not that bad, I think other women would think he is a catch but character wise, ang laki ng difference nila ni crush. Crush makes me feel safe and protected, something only my Dad and Kuya can do.

I'm sorry if this may sound harsh but I'm going to say it anyway. If your crush is really that alpha as f*ck, there's a high chance that he won't chase again because he has a lot of options. You are also right that it's unfair to still keep your SO when he can never compare to your crush. He will probably be riddled with insecurities over time and it will only lead to more fighting. This is a pretty common scenario.

Yes, I know he has a lot of options. I may not be in my 20s anymore (ayaw din naman niya ng young enough to be his daughter), but I have a lot to offer him as well.

You're right kasi I can really feel SO's insecurity towards crush. He always brings him up nga.