Do You Believe in Spanking Children?

[_Cathy_]

Swerte ka lang shadow. Unfortunately most people never outgrow being a brat. I know some that are already grandmothers but are still brats (stubborn and needs to get what they want at all costs). Kawawa din parents pag spoiled ang anak. Just like what happened to my Uncle and Aunt. They cannot make decisions at home because it is my cousin that runs the house, parang takot sila sa anak nila

[Manilablock]

Ung mga experts daw na nagsasabing wag papaluin ang bata ay lumaki din naman na pinalo sila, hindi sila magiging disiplinado kung kundi sila napalo.

pansin ko lan, na ngayon mas madami ang physcologist na ang pasyente ay mga bata na hindi na ma control ng magulang.

[CVT]

"Mata mo lang ang walang latay".....




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[Ry_Tower]

"Mata mo lang ang walang latay".....




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Teka, hinay-hinay lang.

[_Cathy_]

Meron din yan "Tatamaan ka sakin" :nerves:

[testament11]

Spanking? For me, yees pero hindi yun spank na papatayin mo na sa gulpi. Kung tutuusin nga, mas nadidisiplina ang bata kung napapalo kahit paano.

[_Cathy_]

Ano yang tingalay nganga?

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[CLAVEL3699]

pinatutulog ako nang nanay ko sa ilalim nang kama tapos silent treatment...

[niky]

Meh.

Speaking as one who was spanked, a lot, and as one who studied childhood development, psychology and developmental disorders, spanking can either work or not work.

Children don't know right from wrong. Spanking doesn't teach them what is right or what is wrong, and doesn't teach them why what they did was wrong. All it teaches them is that adults are ****ing scary.

Well, that's not true. Spanking teaches kids that it's okay to hit people who are weaker then they are. Kids who are spanked grow up into adults who spank.

What's funny is that kids who get spanked a lot are spanked a lot typically because their parents have a psychological profile that includes aggressive tendencies, poor frustration tolerance and poor social skills (hence, parents get fed up easily and spank a lot), so it's difficult to prove whether the spanking or the psychosocial disorder comes first.

I got spanked a lot. Didn't teach me anything. Spanking does nothing for ADD, because it doesn't address the root of the problem.

[ADAA73]

Meh.

Speaking as one who was spanked, a lot, and as one who studied childhood development, psychology and developmental disorders, spanking can either work or not work.

Children don't know right from wrong. Spanking doesn't teach them what is right or what is wrong, and doesn't teach them why what they did was wrong. All it teaches them is that adults are ****ing scary.

Well, that's not true. Spanking teaches kids that it's okay to hit people who are weaker then they are. Kids who are spanked grow up into adults who spank.

What's funny is that kids who get spanked a lot are spanked a lot typically because their parents have a psychological profile that includes aggressive tendencies, poor frustration tolerance and poor social skills (hence, parents get fed up easily and spank a lot), so it's difficult to prove whether the spanking or the psychosocial disorder comes first.

I got spanked a lot. Didn't teach me anything. Spanking does nothing for ADD, because it doesn't address the root of the problem.

that is why you should explain why you hit them before and after...and issue warnings prior to it. they should know the reason.

as badkuk (di ako marunong mag multiple quotes e, sorry) mentioned raising children isn't a democracy

...and yes, different strokes for different folks might also be applicable here.

in application to our society, one of my mentors told me before that we filipinos aren't ready for the kind of freedom we have now. first we should have discipline so we can handle our freedom responsibly.

[marg]

The problem with spanking is some parents do not know when to stop.

I have seen some of my classmates before with marks from excessive punishment.

Anti-spanking laws were developed because of this very reason.

[robot.sonic]

Wala pa ako anak pero pinapalo ko yung pamangkin ko na sobrang walang disiplina.

Nag abroad both parents nila kaya iniwan sa amin for 3 months. Kailangan ko disiplinahin talaga.

For 1 month ata pinapalo ko sya. Pero after explaining kung ano ang mali nya. Di rin kaagad agad kasi baka mapalakas at masaktan ko talaga. Kung kalmado na ako, saka lang ako papalo.

Pagdating ng tatay nya, balik ulit ugali. Pero pag sa akin, talagang behave. Isang sabi lang sunod kaagad. Minsan nga di ko na kailangan magsalita. Titingnan ko lang sya. Na establish ko lang siguro na ako ang authority.

Pati pagkain ng gulay wala syang magawa. Pag sinabi na maligo sunod kaagad. Di rin naman sya takot sa akin.

Pero sana di kailangang umabot sa paluan. Dapat bata pa lang alam nya na kung sino authority. May mga non violent ways naman pero mukhang di na effective sa pamangkin ko.

Pinapalo din sya ng tatay nya. Mas malakas pa nga. Pero di talaga sya sinusunod.

[niky]

Those are signs, basically, that it isn't working.

All you've taught the kid is to be scared of you. Ergo... he behaves only because he's afraid of punishment.

Doesn't work for the father because his spanking is harder and possibly not as measured as yours. Ergo... the punishment doesn't feel connected to the crime, so he doesn't see why he's being punished.

Effective discipline makes a child behave wherever they are and whoever is with them One good example is Montessori training. It doesn't rely on reward and punishment, but rather structure... which makes children used to order, regulating their behavior without the use of physical violence.

[dr. d]

nope.
maong lang po (nang walang tao sa loob) ang pinapalo..

[badkuk]

Kanya kanyang diskarte na lang depending on the situation, but generally speaking, kids don't know right from wrong, so you can't do parenting as if it's a democracy. Tsaka mabuti nang mapabait mo yung bata habang bata pa.

Kung madala sa pakiusap, sermon, etc. then lucky you; pag hindi...

i read this email once, di ko alam kung chain mail/hoax/urban legend lang: there's this kid na sobrang likot, di madala sa kahit anong palo. So ginawa ng nanay, sinusugatan ang sarili pag me ginawang kalokohan yung bata.
Bumait naman daw siya.

i wouldn't recommend this though, baka mag backfire :D

[foifoi05]

seriously, i was expecting a different kind of spanking.

anyway, di naman ako na palo ng magulang, yung ex ko lang, carino brutal eh, lumaki siguro napapalo ng magulang

[CLAVEL3699]

I hate spanking... grabe kasi nanay ko kung mamalo walang sinasanto...

May point nga na yung payong na mahaba wasak na wasak sa akin bago kami nakarating sa bahay namin kasi sundo't hatid nya ako sa school nung grade 3 ako. nahuli kasi akong noisy sa class at nalaman nang nanay ko nilagyan ako nang tape sa bibig. Hayun habang pauwi yung payong na dala hampas nang hampas sa akin habang naglalakad.

Meron ngang time nilaga yung libro ko sa school kasi hindi ako nakikinig sa pagtuturo nya. Pinahigop talaga sa akin yung sabaw.

The problem with her also after ka nya paluin may silent treatment pa yun kasunod. walang explain explain kung bakit ka napalo. Takot na lang ang mararamdaman mo na pag umulit ka masakit ang kakahinatnan mo.

Pero hindi ako nagrebelde sa kanya dahil ewan ko kasi hindi ko type magrebelde. Pero may time na nasabi ko sa kanyan yun nung bata ako kung may choice lang ako maging nanay sya ayaw ko dahil masakit sya magtrato.

[robot.sonic]

Violence pa din naman yung ganon. Mas disturbing pa nga kesa sa palo.

[xwangbu]

nung gred wan ako sinunturon ko ung clasmate ko.
sya daw si superman eh di sinubukan namin.

btt: 2 or 3 times ko lang napalo anak ko - sa kamay lang.
mas effective sa kanya kausapin ng maayos kesa
mapalo.madalas e timeout lang sa isang corner ang pnapagawa
ni misis pero me kasamang paliwanag.

lumaki ako sa palo ni erpats. pero ayoko gawin sa anak ko yung ganunl

[jansky]

my elementary days.. kaming magkakapatid pag nagkaharutan at may nasaktan.. galit na galit nanay at tatay ko.. lahat kami papaluin hihiga kami sa papag na nakahilera tapos kunin ng nanay ko ung mahabang pamalo nya.. eh nilalagyan namin ng karton ung pwet namin kasi di naman binababa ang salawal hahahaah. sabay tatawa pag pinapalo kami .

but now.. my kids.. napapalo ko rin sila ng sinturon pero di naman ung todong palo.. pero before na mangyari yan nag issue muna ako ng warning sa kanila.. kaya tumitigil din agad.. pag napalo naman after nyan yayakapin din agad.. at explain ulit sa kanila..

but now.. pag nagkaharutan sila and narinig nila boses ko mejo mataaas.. tumitigil din agad..