Do You Believe in Spanking Children?

[badkuk]

Kanya kanyang diskarte na lang depending on the situation, but generally speaking, kids don't know right from wrong, so you can't do parenting as if it's a democracy. Tsaka mabuti nang mapabait mo yung bata habang bata pa.

Kung madala sa pakiusap, sermon, etc. then lucky you; pag hindi...

i read this email once, di ko alam kung chain mail/hoax/urban legend lang: there's this kid na sobrang likot, di madala sa kahit anong palo. So ginawa ng nanay, sinusugatan ang sarili pag me ginawang kalokohan yung bata.
Bumait naman daw siya.

i wouldn't recommend this though, baka mag backfire :D

[robot.sonic]

Violence pa din naman yung ganon. Mas disturbing pa nga kesa sa palo.

[ADAA73]

Meh.

Speaking as one who was spanked, a lot, and as one who studied childhood development, psychology and developmental disorders, spanking can either work or not work.

Children don't know right from wrong. Spanking doesn't teach them what is right or what is wrong, and doesn't teach them why what they did was wrong. All it teaches them is that adults are ****ing scary.

Well, that's not true. Spanking teaches kids that it's okay to hit people who are weaker then they are. Kids who are spanked grow up into adults who spank.

What's funny is that kids who get spanked a lot are spanked a lot typically because their parents have a psychological profile that includes aggressive tendencies, poor frustration tolerance and poor social skills (hence, parents get fed up easily and spank a lot), so it's difficult to prove whether the spanking or the psychosocial disorder comes first.

I got spanked a lot. Didn't teach me anything. Spanking does nothing for ADD, because it doesn't address the root of the problem.

that is why you should explain why you hit them before and after...and issue warnings prior to it. they should know the reason.

as badkuk (di ako marunong mag multiple quotes e, sorry) mentioned raising children isn't a democracy

...and yes, different strokes for different folks might also be applicable here.

in application to our society, one of my mentors told me before that we filipinos aren't ready for the kind of freedom we have now. first we should have discipline so we can handle our freedom responsibly.

[marg]

The problem with spanking is some parents do not know when to stop.

I have seen some of my classmates before with marks from excessive punishment.

Anti-spanking laws were developed because of this very reason.

[badkuk]

me mga sayad na yung mga ganyan. The beating meted out is more out of psychological/emotional/mental instability rather than discipline.

Just to quantify my answer: i'm not saying that spanking should be a "regular" thing. Ideally it should be the last resort, when you feel that certain lines have been crossed -- e.g. sinipa ang yaya sa mukha, binastos yung lolo't lola, nanakit ng kapatid/kaibigan, etc.

Banggit ko lang: while some parent don't spank their kids, grabe din yung iba kung magmura ng bata...naikwento ko na dati dito sa tsikot yung firsthand experience ko, this old lady yelling "put_ng ina, put_ng ina" at a 3-4yo, just because he tripped. Andami ding pagkakataon pag sakay ako ng jeep, ganun din ang mura sa mga bata.

That kind of verbal abuse to me is just as or even more destructive than the occassional spanking. Mas gustuhin ko pa na paluin mo minsan, kesa naman day in day out sinisigawan ang bata.

Agree 100% that you should explain afterwards why the punishment was meted out.

Disclaimer: don't have any kids ;)

[xwangbu]

nung gred wan ako sinunturon ko ung clasmate ko.
sya daw si superman eh di sinubukan namin.

btt: 2 or 3 times ko lang napalo anak ko - sa kamay lang.
mas effective sa kanya kausapin ng maayos kesa
mapalo.madalas e timeout lang sa isang corner ang pnapagawa
ni misis pero me kasamang paliwanag.

lumaki ako sa palo ni erpats. pero ayoko gawin sa anak ko yung ganunl

[jansky]

my elementary days.. kaming magkakapatid pag nagkaharutan at may nasaktan.. galit na galit nanay at tatay ko.. lahat kami papaluin hihiga kami sa papag na nakahilera tapos kunin ng nanay ko ung mahabang pamalo nya.. eh nilalagyan namin ng karton ung pwet namin kasi di naman binababa ang salawal hahahaah. sabay tatawa pag pinapalo kami .

but now.. my kids.. napapalo ko rin sila ng sinturon pero di naman ung todong palo.. pero before na mangyari yan nag issue muna ako ng warning sa kanila.. kaya tumitigil din agad.. pag napalo naman after nyan yayakapin din agad.. at explain ulit sa kanila..

but now.. pag nagkaharutan sila and narinig nila boses ko mejo mataaas.. tumitigil din agad..

[lowslowbenz]

I love spankin ..... :naughty2:

[_Cathy_]

Why not use your hands directly instead. Gastos pa yan :bwahaha:

[lowslowbenz]

^
Lets just say, some women have a collection of "toys" that they would love to use on themselves.

Not that i'm complaining ....