need advice and tips regarding "pakikipagbalikan with ex"

[iRevoLution_mo]

guys..

sobrang need ko talaga advice nyo..

here's the story:


last october 31, thats wednesday. i was drunk.. sobra..
and all of my friends inuulanan ako ng pambabatikos against my girlfriend..
and sobrang pinipilit nila ako na makipag break with her, sa akin din ganon na din naiisip ko gawin kasi medyo pundi na ko kakaselos sa mga friends niya na lalake, and nung time din na yun actual na nakita ko sya with her friends some place then tinext ko siya kung nasaan sya, instead answering my question, binalik pa sa akin yung tanong ko.. it all sum up.. kaya bigla ko siya na text nun in the midst ng inuman na "break na kami" humihingi siya ng dahilan and mag eexplain daw xa, i remember sabi ko " i dont need your explanation anymore" pumayag ka muna makipag break then I’ll tell you after kung bakit.. naghesitate pa din siya, up till sa pangungulit ko pumayag siya.. last text nya "sana maging masaya ka".. kinabukasan.. i thought im feeling well, na ok na.. masarap na pakiramdam na di nagseselos, nagaalala, naiinis and any frustrations... after a few days.. i felt sobrang lonely without her, without her text and thoughts, anything from her, hindi ako makanood ng movies at makapag mall kasi siya lang naman lagi at gusto kasama sa mga ganon na lakad eh... then i texted her para mangamusta.. nag reply naman siya na ok naman daw pero kitang kita ko sa text nya pa lang na sobrang cold dating niya.. then came up na nag sorry na ko sa kanya, and told her to my realization na hindi ko pala kaya na wala siya, inaamin ko na mali ko lahat, di ko man lang siya pinag explain to hear her side kasi sobrang frustrated that time, alam din nya na may mali siya.. tapos I asked her kung pwede niya pa ba ko pagbigyan, sagot nya "huwag na lang siguro" tinanong ko kung bakit sagot niya "hindi na kaya eh". then tinanong ko siya"hindi mo na pala ko mahal?" then sagot niya "mahal pa kita pero hindi na talaga kaya" tinanong ko ulit siya kung bakit?. She answered "ayaw niya daw kasi na dumating ulit sa point na maulit yung nangyari at mag iba na daw tingin niya sa akin". natahimik ako and answered her "kaya nga last chance eh, i wont ever allow na mangyari pa ulit yun hindi na ko makikinig sa sulsol ng mga tropa ko". natahimik lang siya.. then answered me na hindi madali mag palamig dahil sa nangyari, so i understand na di ko muna siya tatawagan or whatever means of bothering and give her such time to cool off. after a day bigla siya nag text ng "missing you so" hindi ako nag reply kasi baka masira yung moment ng pagpapalamig niya. Then 4 days after nakausap ko siya sabi ko sobrang miss ko na siya, sabi nya pati din daw siya. Then i asked her na sabihin na lang sa akin na hindi niya ko mahal para matahimik na ko at hindi na umasa pa. sabi niya hindi niya daw kaya gawin at sabihin un. Ayun. hindi ko lalo naintindihan. at hindi ko na alam anu gagawin ko...

[safeorigin]

hmmm... reminds me of the "how to tame a bengal tiger" story.

well, if you really do want to be with her again, why not "tame" her in a way that would let your relationship's scars to heal. masyado bang malallim or i'm just not normal again?

[iRevoLution_mo]

hmmm... reminds me of the "how to tame a bengal tiger" story.

well, if you really do want to be with her again, why not "tame" her in a way that would let your relationship's scars to heal. masyado bang malallim or i'm just not normal again?

i think "i'm just not normal again" kc kung malalim siguro di na nagrereply at magsasabi ng miss na nya ko atbp..

uhm anu po ba paraan to "tame" her again and which will heal the scar of our relationship??..

cenxa na po ah.. mejo nagaalangan na ko sa mga naiicp ko gawin e. bka kc mali yung mga naiicp ko gawin..

thanks po.

[chua_riwap]

i-Revolution Mo.........

Kasalanan mo yan, damuho ka! Uli-uli, hwag kang padadala sa sulsol ng ibang tao. Hwag ka ring magti-txt nang kung anu-ano pag lasing ka. Tingnan mo, nagsisisi ka na ngayon sa ginawa mo.

He-he-he! Seriously speaking, mahal ka pa niyan. Puntahan mo siya. Ipakita mong nami-miss mo at mahal mo pa rin siya. Hwag mong daanin sa txt lang. Mamuhunan ka, konting gastos. Talagang ganyan, sinaktan mo siya, tiyaga ka sa pag-aamo sa kaniya ngayon.Bwe-he-he!

Sa mga txt niya, mahal ka pa nyan. Konting tiyaga lang. Aral na sa iyo yan Bro. Update mo kami ha, kung ano latest.

[ghosthunter]

guys..

sobrang need ko talaga advice nyo..

here's the story:

last october 31, thats wednesday.. i was drunk.. sobra..
and all of my friends inuulanan ako ng pambabatikos against my girlfriend..
and sobrang pinipilit nila ko na mkpg break up with her, sa akin din ganun na din naiicp ko kc mejo pundi na ko kakaselos sa mga friend nya na lalake, and nung time din na yun actual na nakita ko sya with her friends some place then tinext ko sya kung nasan sya instead answering my question, binalik pa sa akin yung tanong ko.. it all sum up.. kia bigla ko siya natext nun in the midst ng inuman na "break na kami" humihingi siya ng dahilan and mageexplain daw xa, i remember sabi ko " i dont need your explanation anymore" pumayag ka muna mkpg break then il tell you after kung bakit.. hesitate pa din xa, up til sa pangungulit ko pumayag siya.. last txt nya "sana maging masaya ka".. kinabukasan.. i thought im feeling well, na ok na.. masarap na pakiramdam na di nagseselos, nagaalala, naiinis and any frustrations... after a few days.. i felt sobrang lungkot without her, without her text and thoughts, anything from her.. then tinext ko siya para mangamusta.. nagreply naman siya na ok naman daw pero kitang kita ko sa text nya pa lang na sobrang cold na siya.. then came up na nagsorry na ko sa kanya, and told her to my realization na hindi ko pala kaya na wala siya, inaamin ko na mali ko lahat, di ko man lang siya pinag explain to hear her side kasi sobrang frustration dat time, alam din nya na may mali siya.. tapos inask ko siya kung pwede nya pa ba ko pagbgyan, sagot nya "wag na lang cguro" tinanong ko kung bkt sagot nya "di na kaya e".. then nagbgay ako ng remark na "di mo na pala ko mahal" then sagot nya "mahal pa kita pero di na talaga kaya" tinanong ko ulit siya kung bakit eto naman sagot nya "ayaw nya daw kc na dumating ulit sa point na maulit yung mangyari at mag iba na daw tingin nya sa akin".. natahimik ako and answered her "kaya nga last chance e, i wont ever allow na mangyari pa ulit yun di na ko makikinig sa sulsol ng mga tropa ko".. natahimik lang siya.. then answered me na hindi madali magpalamig dahil sa nangyari, so i understand na di ko muna siya itetext and give her such time to cool off.. after a day bigla siya ngtxt ng "missing you so" di ako nagrep kc bka masira yung moment ng pagpapalamig nya.. then 4 days after nkausap ko siya sabi ko sobrang miss ko na siya, sabi nya pati din daw siya.. then i asked her na sabihin na lang sa akin na di nya ko mahal para matahimik na ko at di na umasa pa.. sabi nya di nya daw kaya.. aun.. di ko lalo naintindihan.. at di ko na alam anu gagawin ko..

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[safeorigin]

regarding sa "i'm just not normal again", i was refering to myself. introvert kasi ako minsan

regarding sa "taming" part, well, do everything opposite of what you did nung period na nagbreak kayo. hmmm... let's make it simple then.

1st phase: seclusion phase, make her feel how painful it is for her without you. being cold only means that she felt bad of what happened between you THUS, it also means there's a high possibility of you being together again. the key is that you must be the first person to move on so that thoughts of losing you will echo in her.

2nd phase: okay, bengal tigers like eating whatever is big, fresh and moving. just think of your gf as a tiger that is certainly almost impossible to tame. now, since you already know what she likes since you two have been in a relationship, offer her the right stuff to meet her demands. invite her to some kind of private meeting and impose that it's only a friendship/peace offering dinner, etc. don't talk about your past yet, just say that your sorry about what you did and just say "let's move on, we can't be like this forever ya know". then when you feel your relationship is gradually healing, make up for what you did by doing her some favors or serenade her with the song "Just Once" or "how deep is you love" or any song that's appropriate.

final phase: learn from your mistakes and talk it over with her. tell her what you felt during the time when you were away from her and tell her that you miss her, you made mistakes and losing her is your biggest regret and other BOLA stuff you can think of. and try adding some humor in you conversation.

-over and out

[chua_riwap]

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Oo nga......

[iRevoLution_mo]

not gonna happen again mods.

thanks to chua and safeorigin..

na enlighten ako sa mga sinabi nyo.. mga matured persons na nga kayo. unlike me.

share ko sa inyo yung gagawin ko na move:
like what safeorigin said, aun il sure do that. and im planning to go over her house on thursday kasi wala siyang pasok that day, and give her a large bouquet of roses with all different color's and in with the words formed by white roses saying "one last chance?"

okay kaya yun mga bro?

[chua_riwap]

not gonna happen again mods.

thanks to chua and safeorigin..

na enlighten ako sa mga sinabi nyo.. mga matured persons na nga kayo. unlike me.

share ko sa inyo yung gagawin ko na move:
like what safeorigin said, aun il sure do that. and im planning to go over her house on thursday kasi wala siyang pasok that day, and give her a large bouquet of roses with all different color's and in with the words formed by white roses saying "one last chance?"

okay kaya yun mga bro?

Ayos yan Bro.

Ngayon aamuhin mo siya ng husto. Tiyaga lang..........

[Syuryuken]

linsyak kang bata ka sa susunod wag ka ng iinom ha

pinakamagandang gawin mo ngayon ligawan mo ulit ipakita mong taos sa puso mo ang pagsisisi sa nagawa mo, punan mo ang mga araw na hindi mo siya nakita

[iRevoLution_mo]

hindi na po talaga. .

i hope enough na itong nangyayari sa akin to serve as a lesson, kasi sa kanya pa lang ako napaiyak, never encountered na ako umiyak when it comes to this kind of thing.. and i found out na talagang mahal ko siya

yeah mga bro update ko kayo time to time.

thanks ulit

[Lucius]

Get down on your knees

[Amihan]

I hope you and your ex get back together. Sayang naman.

From your account, I get the impression that you have complaints about your girlfriend (in the same way that she has her own complaints about you....hey, that's what relating is all about). My suggestion is for the two of you to take advantage of this opportunity (I'm assuming you will reconcile after much wooing) to talk about your relationship issues. Tingin ko lang, there are problems bubbling under the surface and your break-up was a consequence of perhaps, not communicating enough or, not communicating effectively (though I have to agree with the other posters here that you were reckless in sending those angry text messages).

When you are both calm and ready to talk about what happened, try to hear each other out. When she told you, "di na kaya", mabigat yon!

Lesson learned here is that a break-up is not necessarily, the best solution to relationship issues, especially if you truly love and value each other. You don't have to walk away (or threaten to do so) every time you get into each other's nerves. You may win the argument but lose the woman. Sana, hindi pa huli para sa inyo.

Wooing her back is an important first step in shifting your relationship to a more mature level. I'm glad that you have the courage to admit your part of the blame. You deserve some credit for that, too, kahit damage control mode ka ngayon.

Good luck.

[Lucius]

Bro we're on the same situation. Ako I hear so many things, so what diba. If the girl is yours naman dapat di ka na mag-alala. If she really does things with other guys, just let her. Karma lang yan. But think first, trust your instincts. If feel mo totoo yung mga nasabi sayo, ask her subtle questions first. Dinerecho mo kasi, kahit naman sino masasaktan dun. Dapat nag-consult ka muna samin dati, oh di sana hindi sumasakit puso mo hahahaha

[russpogi]

not gonna happen again mods.

Edit your first post and PM them to me so I can edit your first post. Gets?

[the_wildthing]

First you have to ask yourself is she really worth getting back? Baka naman pag kayo na eh balik nanaman sa dati - selos, mistrust, etc.

Second, this time around, are you serious? Hanggang saan mo ba gustong dalhin yang relationship na yan? I'm asking because you shouldn't spend the next four years of your life stuck in a relationship that is going nowhere. Sayang ang oras.

Are you mature enough to handle a serious relationship as well? If not, I'd say enjoy single life. Meet new people.

[roninblade]

i think "in vino veritas" also applies to one's feelings so pwede din tama instincts mo nung lasing ka.

baka withdrawal symptoms lang yan nararamdaman mo. hanap ka nalang ng kapalit. nothings gets you over the last relationship like the next one.

;)

[VtEC]

Get down on your knees

whoa, bro ganyan kadin ba?

[Lucius]

whoa, bro ganyan kadin ba?

DEINS! Hahaha nagwowork lang yan sa mababait. Di naman ako mabait so bakit ko gagawin. Usually, opposite ang nangyayari if you know what I mean

[VtEC]

DEINS! Hahaha nagwowork lang yan sa mababait. Di naman ako mabait so bakit ko gagawin. Usually, opposite ang nangyayari if you know what I mean

ha ha ha ha ha just what i've thought.

to the TS, to be frank, if 'am the gal, i'll thrash you for good he he he.after mo saktan feelings ko then magmamakaawa ka, ano ka hilo.