Backstabbers: What To Do With Them

[[r]ichkri3g]

i recently found out that a group of people who pretended to be my friends were actually backstabbing me about personal stuff.

have you ever encountered people like them? what do you do?

[wildthing]

Simple lang...

I comfront them directly about the issue... they will often deny it but it does resolve something and it becomes the valid reason for staying away from them (and vise-versa) not being their friends again.

Natural na makameet ng ganyan tao sa buhay lalo na kung confined kayo sa iisang lugar(as in sa office lang lagi).... laging merun social status struggle and one must be on top and the other at the bottom.

Yung mga naging friends ko sa work or plain classmates are never that true friends most of the time.

Not to offend you (or anyone) but do try to evaluate yourself din... baka minsan you tend to have a similar behaviour that is why you get to have friends like that ... as they say "birds of the same feather, flock together".

[VtEC]

madaming ganyan bro.these people lacks attention.that's why you better be careful.never ever tell your darkest secrets to anyone.

[flex]

Bro, iwan mo na yang ganyang mga kaibigan...walang kwenta yang mga yan... I also had a similar experience...I burned my bridges...bakit po pag aaksayahan ng panahon ang mga ganyang tao. Basta important malinis konsensya mo at wala kang nasaktan o nakabanggang tao...yaan mo na sila magsalita ng kng anu ano. At the end of the day lalabas din ang katotohanan

[Lucius]

Pag ganyan? Suntukan na lang.

Pero sa mga gumanyan sa kin dati, ok lang. Inggit lang kasi di ko na lang pinagpapansin.

[Flagg]

Pa-backstab mo din sila... :gayfight:

[claRkEnt]

confront them... at least they would know na nalaman mo ang\d magtaka sila paano mo nalaman. so magkakagulo sila. away-away na!

[[r]ichkri3g]

guys thanks for the replies ah...

forum people din kasi ang mga 'to na kilala ko na for more than a year already. minsan i invite them over to my place for our gatherings. siyempre since it's my place, ako dapat ang mag provide for them since nakakahiya naman na obligahin ko pa sila magdala ng kung ano-ano. it even reached a certain point na pinakilala ko sila sa family ko and sinama ko pa sa isang party namin which is actually party ng eldest sis ko.

at first thankful sila sa akin for being hospitable. tapos nung tumagal, bigla na lang ako inaccuse of being a show-off. before that they kept on insisting that they envy for being like this like that tapos lagi pa pinipuna mga hobbies ko like cars.

the only thing na notice ko is almost all them have their own families na, ako 28yrs. old pa lang pero may gf ako right now. they also kept on saying that they envy me since ang sarap daw ng buhay ko.

ah basta, nakaka bad trip eh.

[Memphis Raines]

I've had my share of this before and it is very sad indeed.

It seems that your so-called "friends" envy your blessings a lot. I bet they covet your goods . My experience before has lead me to believe that it is indeed hard to find the real ones who accept you for what you and not for what you can give them.

But don't worry. People like these do not prosper spiritually. Just be glad that you are not like them

What to do with them? Don't lift a finger nor utter a word to take revenge because it will just give you unneeded anxiety. Simply stay away from them and keep your head up high.

[gearhead]

Make them a source of entertainment. Play a practical joke on them para ma-buko sila. Set them up.

They won't learn their lesson but you will have a good laugh.

[[r]ichkri3g]

bro thanks for the advice, i'll keep that in mind.

nagtataka lang ako, i have friends or acquaintances na mga super hard to reach when it comes to having this & that, pero i never envied them. i just told myself sana someday marating ko din ang narating na nila. i never had any intention to bring them down, i just admired them for their accomplishments.tapos now people like my so-called friends come along, nakaka depress lang malaman na meron palang mga ganitong tao.

iba pa din talaga pag mga matagal mo nang kaibigan, walang backstabbing & stuff like that since you know yung mga likes/dislikes ng bawa't isa.

[impulzz]

dati may isang friend din ako ganyan, pag kaharap mabait, pag iba ang kaharap daming sinasabi about me, eh nakarating sa akin yung sinabi nya, nung tinanong ko sya, wala naman daw sya sinabi, so hinarap ko sa kanya yung nag sabi sa akin, ayun tameme, nag sorry sya biro lang daw yun, pero i told him: "pre pag kelangan mo ng tulong next time sa iba ka na humingi, di na kita kaya tulungan, pasensyahan na lang tayo." pero minsan sa akin pa rin nagpatulong at tinulungan ko pa din.

[Lucius]

Sabi na eh, inggit na naman.

Pabayaan ang mga inggitero! :D

[[r]ichkri3g]

hindi ko talaga alam ang problem ng mga inggitero

sabi ko nga sa ibang friends ko, there are 2 kinds of inggit

the first one is the inggit which can kill a person, too much of this kind of inggit can drive a person nuts & try to bring down the subject of his/her envy

the second one is the inggit which can motivate a person to be better than others, this can be used as a drving force to excel in your chosen field

[Lucius]

the first one is the inggit which can kill a person, too much of this kind of inggit can drive a person nuts & try to bring down the subject of his/her envy

Dyan pasok ang mga yan. Sanayin mo na lang sarili mo bro. Ako bata pa lang dami nang gumaganyan sakin. Di ko na lang pinapatulan kasi I know I'm better.

[russpogi]

I just ignore them. I don't want to waste my time on people like them. BUT, it's actually easier said than done. But hey, that's just me.

[Airwalk]

biktima na din ako ng ganyan. yung tao na sinasabi ko hindi ko nga lang kaibigan, kasama ko lang sa trabaho. ang hilig hilig magkalat ng kung ano ano para lang magmukha siyang "magaling" sa iba.

one time, a friend of mine got a call from this person. nagkataon na magkasama kami nung tinawagan niya. he started saying things about me na ako mismo nakarinig dahil inispeaker phone ng friend ko habang magkausap sila. when my other friend asked him "bakit mo naman nasabi yun?" wala siyang maisagot kundi "basta" daw.

after their conversation, i sent him a text message. tinanong ko ano ang mga basehan niya at nagbitaw siya ng mga salita na ganun about me. he never replied. pag nakikita kami, deadma lang siya at parang walang nangyari. panay bati pa rin na animo kaibigan ko siya. pinabayaan ko na lang.

wala sa edad, trabaho, katayuan sa buhay ang mga tao na ganyan ang ugali. naknakan pa at sobra kakapal ng mukha.

pabayaan mo na lang bro and stop being friends with them. sabi nila, ang chismoso daw sinusunog sa impiyerno.

[[r]ichkri3g]

here's another thing...

they blame me for their frustrations in life. they keep on complaining about the hardships of married life with kids. tapos ako daw ang sarap ng buhay ko, 20 something guy with a gf & enjoying life. para bang bakit sila nahihirapan sa buhay pero ako hinde.

i didn't create this thread to be like my sumbong thread & garner symphaty from you guys, i just want to ask if you had experienced the same thing & how you handled it.

[GerardTagayty]

ignore and forget. those people are definitely just jealous.

[Horsepower]

Don't bother with them, don't get affected by these lowlifes.

Just lead a better life for them to die in envy. hehehe