Backstabbers: What To Do With Them

[[r]ichkri3g]

Well if they're online buddies, have you all met personally? Or parating online pa rin? That changes everything - because whatever you say or do online can be misinterpreted by anybody. If you've met them and it's still like that, then I guess those are their true selves. If not, then maybe they're putting up a front possibly as a defensive mechanism (to be somebody else online). It happens.

Worse comes to worst, set them to your ignore list.

yup i've met them in person. they used to hang out at my place, damn i treated them as royalty! super asikaso sa lahat ng bagay.

nakakainis is pag talikod ko, ang dami nang pinagsasabi.

Para ka lang naka-apak ng t*e, watch out next time (sorry for the bad analogy, it's late and I'm supposed to be sleeping hehe)

hehehe nice analogy bro, i kinda liked it.

Good luck...

thanks man.

[moe]

you seem to be the kind of person who wants to please everybody. hmmmm. reminds me a little of myself 5 years ago. simply put, i wanted everybody to like me and i'd really be concerned if somebody didn't. all that changed one day when i decided that i didn't need the approval. i guess you should do the same. being thin skinned is getting old dude. if they start saying nasty stuff about you, confront them if you can or simply leave them. you will never win with friends like them.

[drey]

Hehehe... 18 years of my life. I thought they were real or even good friends. Backstabber pala yun! Dami na po... Cant count them all. :cry:

This year, no talking to them. I'd stay mysterious and silent nalang. Don't care! Basta I will live a life of being kind, good and helper to others.

[[r]ichkri3g]

you will never win with friends like them.

matagal ko nang sila nilaglag as friends, probably since the day i found out what they were really up to.

Basta I will live a life of being kind, good and helper to others.

im trying to live this kind of life, the bad thing is when i try to help out someone i often get accused of just doing it to promote myself.

[mbeige]

you seem to be the kind of person who wants to please everybody. hmmmm. reminds me a little of myself 5 years ago. simply put, i wanted everybody to like me and i'd really be concerned if somebody didn't. all that changed one day when i decided that i didn't need the approval. i guess you should do the same. being thin skinned is getting old dude. if they start saying nasty stuff about you, confront them if you can or simply leave them. you will never win with friends like them.

Likewise, I am the same. Could never please anybody, so what? That's their problem, at least I tried. Don't change, just change your friends. It's good to have that kind of personality, just with the right people. It may not be as genuine as others might think, but everybody has their own defense mechanism right?

[moe]

oh well, to each his own. i just realized one day that the whole thing was pointless. as i see it, there's no point in pleasing people and seeking approval. being yourself and doing the right thing is a better alternative IMO. if they don't like me then fine. i can be friendly, i can go out of my way to do a good deed but .... i won't kiss ass and try my hardest to make them like me.

[mbeige]

oh well, to each his own. i just realized one day that the whole thing was pointless. as i see it, there's no point in pleasing people and seeking approval. being yourself and doing the right thing is a better alternative IMO. if they don't like me then fine. i can be friendly, i can go out of my way to do a good deed but .... i won't kiss ass and try my hardest to make them like me.

I meant it's good to have a pleasing others personality, but do without the seeking approval.

[moe]

mbeige, duly noted.

anyways, shouldn't you be off to dreamland? hehe

[Jun aka Pekto]

Interesting talk about smooching behinds. I'm no superkiss myself, being content to be myself and have people either like me or not like me. My feelings on the matter is, "You don't like me? Fine. You go your own way. What do I care?" That's just the way I am

My uncle on the other hand......... I consider my uncle to be very wise. But, one advice he gave me was "It's okay to smooch behinds so long as they're the right people". Of course, I've never followed that line of thought. But, I suppose it could work for some people.

[drey]

im trying to live this kind of life, the bad thing is when i try to help out someone i often get accused of just doing it to promote myself.

It cannot be avoided because people are free to think. If they think that way, let it be. Mamatay din sila diba? But if you continue to mind, I guess you are really thinking about promoting yourself because you think that it was no good.

Somewhere out there, people might soon see our pure intentions.

[[r]ichkri3g]

It cannot be avoided because people are free to think. If they think that way, let it be. Mamatay din sila diba? But if you continue to mind, I guess you are really thinking about promoting yourself because you think that it was no good.

majority of my real friends (yung mga friends ko na since dati pa) are saying na wag ko patulan. waste of time daw pumatol sa mga losers. i also realized na pilit nila ako hinihila pababa, so is it safe to assume na they acknowledge that i am indeed angat sa kanila? am i right?

Somewhere out there, people might soon see our pure intentions.

i feel you bro.

a couple of years ago, i met this lady whom i had a vey interesting conversation. sabi niya, pag pure & good ang intentions mo marami talagang magiging road block.

[drey]

*[r]ichkri3g

That's true... Ang answer kasi dyan will come from the question which is more rampant in the world. Good or bad? Which is harder? being good or bad?

Let me guess, this lady is your gf?

[[r]ichkri3g]

*[r]ichkri3g

That's true... Ang answer kasi dyan will come from the question which is more rampant in the world. Good or bad? Which is harder? being good or bad?

ummm for me, being bad is harder. i can't see myself as this someone who is matapobre & nang aapi ng kapwa.

Let me guess, this lady is your gf?

nope. just a lady i met somewhere, kinda had an interesting conversation with her.

[drey]

ummm for me, being bad is harder. i can't see myself as this someone who is matapobre & nang aapi ng kapwa.

Hehehe... It's actually simple. Being good gives you a lot of hesitation. For example, do you answer directly a yes whenever an old woman is on the street and you want to guide her? Do you pick-up the trash directly whenever you see one in the street?

You might remember doing these things but in a whole man's life, some of them have said no most of the time. Carrying the worlds responsibility is also hard. Recycling? Preventing global warming? Promoting clean air act?

You want to be a model which is good. But it's hard to be like that. I don't mean to offend anyone but my opinion says if you are not going to be a model, you are considered negative which is something neutral or bad.

[[r]ichkri3g]

excellent thoughts dude.

[drey]

I am actually meeting my so-called friends today.

SILENT MODE! ::shhh::

[[r]ichkri3g]

*drey

so ano nangyari with your meeting? hehe

guys, if someone backstabbed you and kinda crossed the line, what would you do? still ignore it and pretend you didn't hear anything?