Article: Generation who refuse to grow up...

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isn't that normal na pagtapos ng college, bahala ka na how to make money?

[uls]

Nakita mo na naman ako. Sa article nga saka sa replies marami naman na still living with parents in their 30s.

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hindi living with your parents ang point ko

it's your emotional maturity vs. your physical maturity

[_Cathy_]

isn't that normal na pagtapos ng college, bahala ka na how to make money?

Apparently hindi. Marami pa rin tambay.

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ahh ok. yung tambay ako for about 2 years dati I still made money for my personal needs. kung baga, may racket pa rin pero hindi ikakayaman.

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isn't that normal na pagtapos ng college, bahala ka na how to make money?

well that's the plan

too bad for many parents things didnt go according to plan hehe

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baka kasi masyado masarap ang buhay na-provide ng parents

may sariling room, kompleto ang gamit, may car pa...

so wala motivation gumawa ng paraan para i-ahon ang sarili (at pamilya) sa hirap

di nakakaranas ng hirap eh

[_Cathy_]

well that's the plan

too bad for many parents things didnt go according to plan hehe

Detrimental talaga for children to grow up spoiled.

[uls]

kita niyo mga nakaranas ng hirap mas masipag pa kesa sa mga lumaki sa ginhawa

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true, meron ako cousins na hindi kasing palad namin pero now they are vice presidents, board members, and thriving businesses. While I'm just starting now. haha.

[wezz_zzew]

baka kasi masyado masarap ang buhay na-provide ng parents
may sariling room, kompleto ang gamit, may car pa...
so wala motivation gumawa ng paraan para i-ahon ang sarili (at pamilya) sa hirap
di nakakaranas ng hirap eh

Parang ako un ah. may sariling room, kompleto ang gamit, may car pa...
Fortunately, naging inspiration pa nga sa akin ung naranasan ko sa buhay eh. Ang goal ko ngayon is malampasan pa ung narating ng mga parents ko. Nung nagsisimula pa lang kasi sila, talagang zero. When they got married, bumukod na sila although sobrang hirap ung pinagdaanan nila dahil nasa entry level pa lang ang work ni erpat. Galing ni erpat magpaikot ng pera, hindi sila naging maluho kahit mejo nakaka-angat na, ang ginawa, nag business.

[uls]

Detrimental talaga for children to grow up spoiled.

the kids grow up unable to stand on their own coz they're used to their parents protecting them, bailing them out, etc

tamad mag trabaho coz they're used to getting things by just asking so why the hell do they have to work in order to buy stuff?

[Retz]

nasa tao talaga yan. kung ano ang goal niya sa buhay gagawa siya ng ways to achieve it. kung walang goal edi bum na lang siya.

[jansky]

pag isang tao nakita natin na tambay

- walang natapos na edukasyon
- may natapos pero tamad mag work..walang iniisip na kinabukasan tutal andyan naman si ermat at erpat bahala na sila sa kakailanganin ko
- may natapos pero maraming pera (sarap nito noh)



eh yung mga nagtatrabaho everyday.. just to keep the lifestyles, gusto may mararating,maging mayaman at sa trabaho natin .. competition is very high pag hindi mapag iiwanan ka naman so ang kapalit nito eh stress ka, walang oras sa ibang bagay

[fitdrive]

My parents are like anybody else's. nakapag-pundar naman kahit konti and I can feel that they want me to do the same as well. I can't blame them bec yun ang naging buhay nila eh but I dont want to follow their footsteps. What I do is whenever there are artists/concerts here from their time, automatic I buy them tickets. Pag walang concert, either watching a movie or a hotel buffet. at times, I treat them sa mga discounted local hotels w/ buffets. My future plans are international travel.

What we have is a generation gap. parents trying to enforce authority that if we dont work like them, we will fail or we will be kawawa. What i do i remove that paranoia by making them experience the 21st century.

As sons and daughters, what we should do is improve/continue what they have started, not start from scratch (as they wished) If they worked hard all their lives and stayed at home saving endlessly for the future, then it's just fair to remove all those worries/fears that they have accumulated all their lives. They worry about our future but what really is the future? Can anybody control or predict what's really in store for each and everyone of us ?

Basta ito lang ang iniisip ko, I owe it to them that I am what I am today. i have a car, i have savings and i am educated. What I do with what i earn now is my own decision. so if I spend it in fun / non-traditional / new generation stuff then that is my every right to do so. just share the kind of life you have now with your parents para naman maging updated sila sa generation natin.

I think I find it more selfish na mag-pundar tayo ng sarili natin house, car, savings and then after experiencing this we become proud of ourselves and forget them. That's the trap with the traditional setup kase eh. And that is why we see so many broken-hearted parents even if their sons/daughters did well in careers/life.

[fitdrive]

the kids grow up unable to stand on their own coz they're used to their parents protecting them, bailing them out, etc

tamad mag trabaho coz they're used to getting things by just asking so why the hell do they have to work in order to buy stuff?

That is called unconditional love. Anong klase parent ang matitikis maghirap ang anak nila. Kids who had it easy will eventually reach that age / point wherein they will evaluate their lives and realize that they have become weaklings bec they are too dependent on their parents. Who knows it can be peer pressure, a new wife (or wife's family), parents enforcing / meddling too much, or simply a personal realization / urge to face life independently. It will come depende nga lang sa age, some at 20's or maybe some at 40s.

[Ry_Tower]

I envy those rags to riches stories.

nagsikap from being nothing to having everything.

Each of us have their own story to share about their parents success story.

Kadalasan either old rich yung family or nagsikap yun magulang from scratch kaya ngayon well provided ang family

ang ending yung mga anak maginhawa at masarap ang buhay, hindi naman sa dependent ka sa parents mo pero lahat inilatag na para sayo.


Which made me think na its a double edged sword.

Would you rather have a hard life growing up pero natuto ka tumayo, umunlad at maging matatag

ang ending ayaw mo iparanas sa mga anak mo yung buhay mo growing up kaya lahat ng sarap ibibigay mo sa kanila

or ikaw yung anak ng nagsikap and lahat is inilatag at binigay na sayo?

No hard and fast rule here IMHO. The important thing is discipline and character building of your child/children so that whatever happens, they will always strive to be better than their parents. To seek wisdom somewhere & anywhere. It really is up to a persons character and to have high EQ.

[Calistro]

So 30 - 40 year olds, ayos pa un mga tambay. Ano mangyayari sa kanila pag tumagal pa? Pano nakakatagal sa buhay ng ganun lang un mga tambay?

Baka dahil na rin sa environment sa Pinas yan. Hawa hawa ng katamaran, at ung, eh bakit ung anak ni ano ganyan etc syndrome heheh. Kulang siguro sa exposure sa labas ng daily routine? O pinili lang nila na maging ganun. Totoo nga siguro, mahirap maging tambay.

Dami ko kakilala na umaasa lang sa padala, tapos magreretire na un nagpapadala sa Pinas. Di ko lubos maisip ano mangyayari sa kanila, di pa nakapagtapos, tapos choosy pa sa trabaho. Mahirap daw. packing sheet.

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That is called unconditional love. Anong klase parent ang matitikis maghirap ang anak nila. Kids who had it easy will eventually reach that age / point wherein they will evaluate their lives and realize that they have become weaklings bec they are too dependent on their parents. Who knows it can be peer pressure, a new wife (or wife's family), parents enforcing / meddling too much, or simply a personal realization / urge to face life independently. It will come depende nga lang sa age, some at 20's or maybe some at 40s.

well meron mga spoiled brats nakapatay ng tao then bailed out by influential parents

ya sure those brats will grow up someday

[uls]

Dami ko kakilala na umaasa lang sa padala, tapos magreretire na un nagpapadala sa Pinas. Di ko lubos maisip ano mangyayari sa kanila, di pa nakapagtapos, tapos choosy pa sa trabaho. Mahirap daw. packing sheet.

di desperado magkatrabaho eh

may safety net kaya mapili sa trabaho

unlike those wilthout safety net kahit anong trabaho aaplyan

[uls]

That is called unconditional love. Anong klase parent ang matitikis maghirap ang anak nila. Kids who had it easy will eventually reach that age / point wherein they will evaluate their lives and realize that they have become weaklings bec they are too dependent on their parents. Who knows it can be peer pressure, a new wife (or wife's family), parents enforcing / meddling too much, or simply a personal realization / urge to face life independently. It will come depende nga lang sa age, some at 20's or maybe some at 40s.

yung mga naghihintay ng mana...

ya i bet one day they'll say "i'm tired of waiting for my inheritance! i'm gonna go make my own fortune!"

yeah sure