Man accused of pointing gun at student inside exclusive school

**glenn_duke** · September 21st, 2012 10:00 PM

Ang pinaka mahirap na situation ay kung hindi mo alam na binubully na pala anak mo. Normally ang bata hindi yan nagsusumbong, either dala ng takot o hiya. Then one day pag nag snap yan, manununtok na yan at mananaksak. Kaya dapat ang school susiin mabuti na hindi nila tinotolerate ang bullying. Sa situasyun na ito dapat pati yang CSA kalampagin dahil sa kapabayaan nila, i cyber bully din mga rector at admin ng CSA nayan, para ma feel nila kung ano ang na feel ng mga estudyante nilang biktima ng bullying.

**Sweetlucious** · September 22nd, 2012 01:10 AM

Just googled the vlllage where the Bantilles lived, 'coz ngayon ko lang narinig yun name nung village, di naman pala ganun kamahal yun mga bahay dun. Medyo pang middle class lang kaya pala he needs to do the gun pointing himself.

**pop3corn** · September 22nd, 2012 01:28 AM

Originally Posted by macsd

Itong si Bantilles away bata na lang, nagdala pa ng baril at bodyguard. Bakit hindi cya naghakot ng battalion ng sundalo at baka kulang pa silang 2 ng bodyguard nya. Ano palagay nya sa nakaaway ng anak nya, si superboy ?

Maghanap ka ng katapat mo tulad nila Rolito Go, Jason Ivler, at Teehangkee para naman maiputok mo ang dala mo.

Baka nga may superpowers yan kaya napilitan manutok ng baril yun tatay. O pwede din Charmed male witch, kse DBa sa states yun iba na-bubully nag resort to withcraft, kaya nga nauso dun ang vampire look eh

Yun iba naman nag-bubully nagtatayo ng Banda tapos nag-lolong hair. Any student na lumalaki na very odd ang pagporma ang profile ko ng na-bully

Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk

**glenn manikis** · September 22nd, 2012 07:33 AM

Originally Posted by Ry_Tower

I disagree to some extent. Physical yung pagsundot ng tete at puwet. Kung paulit-ulit pa rin kahit sinabihan mo nang STOP, may karapatan ka nang turuan siya ng leksyon.

I already told my son na in cases like this, kung nagsumbong na siya sa teacher at walang nangyari, bigyan niya last warning na tatamaan na kapag hindi tumigil. Kapag umulit pa, karapatan na niya manuntok.

it also happened to my daughter sinusuntok sya paulit ulit on different occasion sa braso nung boy na classmate nya, sinumbong na nya sa teacher paulit ulit pati sa principal pati parent kinausap ko na ganun pa din, kaya i told and teach my daughter if that boy hit him again.. punch him in the chin tinuruan ko pa kung papano sabi ko wag mo papaalam na susuntukin mo pag harap nya banatan mo agad....ayun bagsak yung lalaki, the teacher ask my daughter why she punch the boy? she said sabi ng dad ko suntukin ko na daw at wala naman ginagawa ang school para matigil ang pananakit... kaya ang pinatawag eh yung wife ko nalang.... pero sir maling mali ang ginawa ko at ituro ko sa anak, naging palaban tuloy sya sa classmates nya... dapat pala i asked the school to at least suspend the boy...

**yapoy86** · September 22nd, 2012 09:30 AM

Originally Posted by glenn manikis

it also happened to my daughter sinusuntok sya paulit ulit on different occasion sa braso nung boy na classmate nya, sinumbong na nya sa teacher paulit ulit pati sa principal pati parent kinausap ko na ganun pa din, kaya i told and teach my daughter if that boy hit him again.. punch him in the chin tinuruan ko pa kung papano sabi ko wag mo papaalam na susuntukin mo pag harap nya banatan mo agad....ayun bagsak yung lalaki, the teacher ask my daughter why she punch the boy? she said sabi ng dad ko suntukin ko na daw at wala naman ginagawa ang school para matigil ang pananakit... kaya ang pinatawag eh yung wife ko nalang.... pero sir maling mali ang ginawa ko at ituro ko sa anak, naging palaban tuloy sya sa classmates nya... dapat pala i asked the school to at least suspend the boy...

tama yan... you just taught her self-defense...

**niky** · September 22nd, 2012 11:00 AM

Self defense is when you're being attacked, you fight back.

If you're being teased... poked and prodded, or punched in a playful manner, and you resort to physical violence, that's an over-reaction.

I was bullied in grade school, and I sometimes reacted violently. Looking back on it now, that's not the way.

You teach your child to hit back every time they're harrassed... then what?They start thinking that this is the way you respond to all setbacks in life.with your fists. When a jeepney driver hits your car, you answer. With your fists. When they swerve and almost hit your car, you answer with your fists. When they stop in the middle of the road, you answer with your fists. When an MMDA enforcer tells you off for doing something wrong...

I've almost gotten into fist-fights on the road when I was younger... kasi yan yung natuto ko sa school. I'm not proud of that. Would you be?

Don't make your child resort to violence. This doesn't teach them justice, just violence. It's your responsibility to go to the school and demand that the teacher do something, or you'll pull your child from the school.

This is not to say you should not teach them self-defense. Just that you should not teach them to practice offense.

**yapoy86** · September 22nd, 2012 11:23 AM

Originally Posted by niky

Self defense is when you're being attacked, you fight back.

If you're being teased... poked and prodded, or punched in a playful manner, and you resort to physical violence, that's an over-reaction.

When can you say "it is still in a playful manner"?? i didn't know that bullies are playful...

i don't think the kid was playing with those bullies... if you're poked once just because they are playful, i can let it pass and say "hey, i don't like that and its not funny" but if its becoming a habit, then i think you deserve my fist...

you don't need to respond everytime with your fist.. there are just times you just need to....

you teach you're child to become patient and draw the line when it is becoming too much that even if you exhausted all the means....

**CoDer** · September 22nd, 2012 11:29 AM

^^Turo ko sa mga anak kong babae eh... Upakan mo sa mata pag ayaw tumigil ang bully mong ka klase then takbo ka sa guidance at sumbong mo.

Isa lang naman ang paraan para ma tame ang bully eh... Gulpe.

**dg1110** · September 22nd, 2012 11:49 AM

Its really hard to say what is right in this situation... Kung pinoprovoke na ang child mo with all the bullying. Kung yung anak mo ayaw na pumasok. Kung ang admin won't admit that your child is being bullied. What can you do? Move to a new school? Kung ganun na naman... move again? Kawawa yung bata. They might feel that they are too weak.

I think you should teach your child to stand up for themselves. Hindi naman yung tipong hit now ask later. Just teach them to push back if needed.

Any child psychologist here to enlighten us

**jon777** · September 22nd, 2012 11:54 AM

Originally Posted by niky

Self defense is when you're being attacked, you fight back.

If you're being teased... poked and prodded, or punched in a playful manner, and you resort to physical violence, that's an over-reaction.

I was bullied in grade school, and I sometimes reacted violently. Looking back on it now, that's not the way.

You teach your child to hit back every time they're harrassed... then what?They start thinking that this is the way you respond to all setbacks in life.with your fists. When a jeepney driver hits your car, you answer. With your fists. When they swerve and almost hit your car, you answer with your fists. When they stop in the middle of the road, you answer with your fists. When an MMDA enforcer tells you off for doing something wrong...

I've almost gotten into fist-fights on the road when I was younger... kasi yan yung natuto ko sa school. I'm not proud of that. Would you be?

Don't make your child resort to violence. This doesn't teach them justice, just violence. It's your responsibility to go to the school and demand that the teacher do something, or you'll pull your child from the school.

This is not to say you should not teach them self-defense. Just that you should not teach them to practice offense.

Madaling sabihin yang dont resort to violence. Ang daling sabihin..... Not until it's your daughter being hit REPEATEDLY by a boy as Glenn manikis wrote EVEN AFTER complaining to the teacher, principal and parents already

im sure glenn's daughter knows the difference of being punched playfully or not.

sa traffic situation you can EASILY avoid controntation by stopping or re-routing. Mag-coffee ka muna sa nearest coffee shop to cool yourself. Paano kung start pa lang ng classes, binu-bully na anak mo? then you complain pero wala pa din? papa-hintuin mo ng isang taon ang anak mo? kahit ilipat pa ng section anak mo, madali pa rin siyang hanapin nung mga nagbu-bully sa kanya..... ang layo naman ng example mo

are you actually going to take the chance that your daughter may have a long term psychological/psychiatric impact which could resort to suicide due to prolong bullying?

ikaw na din ang nagsabi ng self defense. What glenn did in my opinion is correct. hitting back in self defense is one way to release steam and to avoid further bullying. this act indirectly states that: "Im hitting back because i want this bullying to end" and this would have a positive psychological effect on the one being bullied

Bullies have a herd mentality. If other bullies sees that one is weak, they will join the herd