panliligaw - need expert advice

[D_rock_777]

well, i do act as myself. problem is, i really do need some coaching because i haven't done it before and the girl is somewhat attached with me for about 5 months. plus, she has a clean plate when it comes to suitors as in busted lahat ng dumaan sa kanya. kaya nga kailangan ko ng matinding coach for this one.

sir baka ma wrong move ka dyan, frends lang siguro at barkada or brother lang trato nya sa'yo. high risk ito sir! pero kung handa ka to take the risk be yourself lang no gimik required....

[chua_riwap]

Bro, SafeO, kung talagang gusto mo yung babae, TIYAGA ang kelangan diyan. Don't rush things. 15 days, gusto mo na siya pasagutin? Hindi sapat na basehan yung porke't 5 months na kayong naging close, eh mapapasagot mo na siya, in a jiffy. He-he!

Pero be ready rin, na one day, baka bigla ka niyang sabihan, "SafeO, I'm really sorry..... (sabay titig sa iyo, straight into your eyes,) pero, friend lang talaga ang turing ko sa iyo...... Let's just be friends na lang and I think, it would be better that way........"

(Patay! Saklap naman......Hayy pag-ibig.)

[claRkEnt]

you mentioned medyo attached na sya sa iyo, the way i understand it, madalas kayo magkasama (everyday?).

dumistansya ka muna bro. dont show up, dont even send text messages until she feels your absence. If you are "someone special" to her, she definitely would notice the absence and worry. if she then make a move to ask you about it, Diretso na yun!

[shadow]

^^^I agree with clark, kung na-miss ka niya then diretsahin mo na...if everything fails cphone load lang katapat niyan...hehehhehe

[Jetjock]

hay naku... if she's worth the risk take it! pag di ka nag try 0% ang chance mo pero pag nag try ka 50-50 ang chance mo... just be yourself at least consistent ka dyan at wag na matakot ma basted, it's her lost! goodluck

[GroundEffex]

Panoorin mo yung movie ni John lloyd at Bea Alonzo.. kidding. Just be a NATURAL at things that you do. Try to weigh things up. The PRO's and CON's of courting her. Are you ready for the consequences that may happen? What if she loves you and what if she's not? Are you ready for rejection or having a new relationship with her? Are you ready of losing the friendship you had with her just in case she dumps you? Are you ready if she gets aloof with you just bcoz you proposed of courting her? There are a lot of things to consider but it's better to take risks than have nothing at all.. Just my 2 cents bro.

[mikaztro]

Safeo, para sa iyo ito:

"The greatest regrets in our lives are the risks we did not take. If u think something will make you happy, then go for it. Remember, we pass this way only once."

"You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore, because only those who risk can tell how far they can go!"

"If she can't accept you at your worst, then she doesn't deserve you at your best."

[madjhal]

safeorigin:

Ilang taon na ba yun girl?
Basta bigay mo lang lahat ng mga gusto niya, pakita mo na napaka importante niya para sa iyo.
Bago ka matulog text mo siya or tawagan, Pag gising mo sa umaga siya agad ang una mong i text.
O kaya try mo na mag simba kayo sa paborito niyong church, tapos doon ka dumiskarte.
About naman sa parents niya, siyempre ligawan mo din mga parents niya para ma feel niya na seryoso ka sa kaniya.
O kaya kung may brother or sister siya, pilitin mo na maging close sa kanila para incase na mag kagalit kayo, meron ka kakampi na tutulong sa iyo na magkabati kayo.
Basta pakita mo kung gaano siya ka importante at magpa katotoo ka lang.
At ang importante sa lahat mag pray ka kay God para swerte.

[Syuryuken]

you mentioned medyo attached na sya sa iyo, the way i understand it, madalas kayo magkasama (everyday?).

dumistansya ka muna bro. dont show up, dont even send text messages until she feels your absence. If you are "someone special" to her, she definitely would notice the absence and worry. if she then make a move to ask you about it, Diretso na yun!

+1

dumistansiya ka muna ng 15 days kung wala siyang pakelam sayo ibig sabihin nun wala siyang nararamdaman sayo

[safeorigin]

grabe, i might not sleep well tonight rethinkin' bout this. mukhang maganda ngang idea yung no contact for some time just to test that hypothesis. deym, very hard naman ang situation na ito. okay, i'll just wait for this relationship to grow in time na lang. maybe love can wait, i think.
regarding our "friendship", kuya ang tingin niya sa akin since sa akin kumukuha ng "payo" regarding her decisions, including the boys she dumped. now i feel kinda guilty. ang kinakatakot ko lang ngayon e kung may nakursunadahan na siya kaya medyo nagiging irrational ako sa 15 days. medyo wierd nga noh?
any initial moves that she might not suspect of as courting?

[shadow]

grabe, i might not sleep well tonight rethinkin' bout this. mukhang maganda ngang idea yung no contact for some time just to test that hypothesis. deym, very hard naman ang situation na ito. okay, i'll just wait for this relationship to grow in time na lang. maybe love can wait, i think.
regarding our "friendship", kuya ang tingin niya sa akin since sa akin kumukuha ng "payo" regarding her decisions, including the boys she dumped. now i feel kinda guilty. ang kinakatakot ko lang ngayon e kung may nakursunadahan na siya kaya medyo nagiging irrational ako sa 15 days. medyo wierd nga noh?
any initial moves that she might not suspect of as courting?

dude, iba naiisip ko sa "no contact" na sinasabi mo,

no communication na lang para malinaw...hehehhe

ito pa pala, if I were you habang maaga sabihin mo na mamaya kasi pag pinatagal mo pa baka magalit pa at sabihin niya nag take advantage ka lang dahil pa friend-friend ka pa then liligaw din pala...

saka balitaan mo kami ha, ang gusto namin next time doon ka na magtatanong sa thread na "is physical intimacy important to a relationship?"....ok good luck hehehhehe

[GroundEffex]

Just be a NATURAL bro. The usual stuff like opening doors for her,showing her that much care and attention(pampering),having those sweet and memorable conversations basta be a gentleman. Hanggang sa mahalata niya and siya na magsabi ng "Are you courting me?" Clarks suggestion maybe good also..

[mikaztro]

At wag mo kami kakalimutan ilibre kapag sinagot ka na. Hahahaha

[safeorigin]

lol, so much for "expert" advice though. ok, i'll update you guys if any real progress happens. keep the suggestions flowing. baka sakaling sagutin rin ako in another 5 months.

[Syuryuken]

dude, iba naiisip ko sa "no contact" na sinasabi mo,

no communication na lang para malinaw...hehehhe

saka balitaan mo kami ha, ang gusto namin next time doon ka na magtatanong sa thread na "is physical intimacy important to a relationship?"....ok good luck hehehhehe

menyek hour ka na naman

[safeorigin]

susmiyo, ala pa kami sa ganoong stage noh?! saka na yun pag kasal na kami, i wish

[mikaztro]

Sakay mo sa kalesa sa maynila sabay bulong sa driver na sabay iliko sa Shhhhhhhh.. :D

[serial_killer]

+2 sa Style ni Clark Kent...then kapag hinanap ka na nya...
yun na ang gagawin mong 1st move....

then kinabukasan...bigyan mo na ng flowers.hehe

[safeorigin]

deym, very high risks and very high rewards at stake. since, wala naman sigurong mawawala kung "no communications" for 2 weeks, ala rin akong mairereport na developtments aside from nightly recon work.

[D_rock_777]

paganda ng paganda ang thread na to ah!

SafeO, pray ka na mabasa ni wifey ko itong thread na to, for sure solve na problema mo