on MARRIAGE

[uls]

legally, she's untouchable.
morally, it will depend completely on her conscience.

yep

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[_Cathy_]

We were talking about Filipino's obsession with light skin over lunch, tapos napunta na sa how white my Dad is, biniro namin si Mommy na mahusay siya pumili because she got a husband that's maputi AND tall, then another one said at magaling magluto. Then my Mom was giddy and laughing na "malas niya sakin, I don't cook, but he knew that when he married me". How I wish I got my Mom's giddiness on cam. Pwede naman pag aralan pagluluto but my Mom never tried.

Anyway, it's really hard to fall in love romantically when I have such a high benchmark (my Dad). Those naman with the same qualities as my Dad are married na

[Ry_Tower]

We were talking about Filipino's obsession with light skin over lunch, tapos napunta na sa how white my Dad is, biniro namin si Mommy na mahusay siya pumili because she got a husband that's maputi AND tall, then another one said at magaling magluto. Then my Mom was giddy and laughing na "malas niya sakin, I don't cook, but he knew that when he married me". How I wish I got my Mom's giddiness on cam. Pwede naman pag aralan pagluluto but my Mom never tried.

Anyway, it's really hard to fall in love romantically when I have such a high benchmark (my Dad). Those naman with the same qualities as my Dad are married na

Baka naman pwede babaan by a few notch yung standard.

Huwag lang kagalingan level.

[_Cathy_]

Baka naman pwede babaan by a few notch yung standard.

Huwag lang kagalingan level.

Physically hindi ako high standards, I have preferences only. I've dated guys nga na unattractive by society's standards.

Yung character ang mahirap kasi I like a guy with a strong personality, yung titiklop ako. Sobrang well rounded kasi ng Dad ko and I am attracted to guys like that din.

Nung matanda na ko na realize ko totoo talaga yung saying na men marry their "mothers" and women marry their "fathers".

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[_Cathy_]

As I grow older, I am getting disillusioned na with marriage. How I wish I didn't have to hear or experience about sham marriages and just live in the bubble of my parents or grandparents marriage, or time stopped at young and innocent love without the responsibility of ageing, marriage and children.

I am appalled at some men (and women) who get married and treat their spouse like crap or are ready to walk away as soon as someone "better" comes along. May napapanood ako na minsan yung ginagastos sa "GF/BF" pera pa ng asawa. WOW!

[bugsmobile]

As I grow older, I am getting disillusioned na with marriage. How I wish I didn't have to hear or experience about sham marriages and just live in the bubble of my parents or grandparents marriage, or time stopped at young and innocent love without the responsibility of ageing, marriage and children.

I am appalled at some men (and women) who get married and treat their spouse like crap or are ready to walk away as soon as someone "better" comes along. May napapanood ako na minsan yung ginagastos sa "GF/BF" pera pa ng asawa. WOW!

Yup. It’s not all fairy tales & roses. Welcome to the real world.


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[uls]

marriage = "this person will be the last person you're gonna have s3x with for the rest of your life"

older gen "of course"

younger gen "di ko kaya yan"

[_Cathy_]

My parents are baby boomers and my Mom told me I should prepare myself in case my husband strays. I should keep my composure and not be scandalosa because it's a man's nature. All I can do is pray that he does not cheat.

PERO pag ang babae ang nangaliwa, ibang usapan. Double standards I know pero ang sagwa talaga pag babae. I could forgive my Dad cheating on my Mom but NEVER my Mom cheating on my Dad.

[_Cathy_]

Just glad up until my adulthood na my Dad talks proudly of my Mom's accomplishment to others (without my Mom present) and my Mom does the same for my Dad. I really wish I would have a successful marriage like my parents.

Weird that I had a happy childhood and a loving 2 parent household but all my relationships are failures. Minsan yung mga broken family pa daw ang mas successful ang relationships because they are scared to experience it again.

[dr. d]

Just glad up until my adulthood na my Dad talks proudly of my Mom's accomplishment to others (without my Mom present) and my Mom does the same for my Dad. I really wish I would have a successful marriage like my parents.

Weird that I had a happy childhood and a loving 2 parent household but all my relationships are failures. Minsan yung mga broken family pa daw ang mas successful ang relationships because they are scared to experience it again.

my 1.12 pesos' worth,

sometimes, it's tough luck, that the choices are not up to snuff.
other times, the choices are good enough, but one (or both) refuses to work on what's available, and still waits for mr/ms perfect.
alas, only rarely, does one encounter the ideal partner.
most of the time, the relationship needs working, from both sides.

[BratPAQ]

Just curious yung mga married dito or will get married. Ano setup nyo sa finance? Especially sa couples that both have income? Separate accounts then joint accounts? Separate accounts no joint accounts pero shared bills?

There are people who are saying that if you are not ready to combine your accounts then it means you are not ready to get married.

Of course labas sa usapan na ito nag prenup. I

[makelovenotwar]

Just curious yung mga married dito or will get married. Ano setup nyo sa finance? Especially sa couples that both have income? Separate accounts then joint accounts? Separate accounts no joint accounts pero shared bills?

There are people who are saying that if you are not ready to combine your accounts then it means you are not ready to get married.

Of course labas sa usapan na ito nag prenup. I

May joint accounts kami na ang laman ay ang expenses (house, cars, kids, leisure etc.), savings and investments.
Tapos may separate accounts kami na ang laman ay individual money.
Rule namin na bawal namin pakialaman kung saan man napupunta yung individual money namin.
Ganyan yung nag-work samin na setup.

Nasubukan namin before yung "toka-toka" budgeting pero hindi naging okay para sa amin.
Ex. Ako sa grocery, si misis sa kids.
Meron at meron kasing expenses na nago-overlap at subject to debate pa ang classification.

Tsaka minsan ay nagkaka-ipitan.
Ex. Ako ang in-charge sa leisure expenses. So kukuriputin ko yun para maraming matira na pera sa akin. Hehehe.

[Ry_Tower]

Just curious yung mga married dito or will get married. Ano setup nyo sa finance? Especially sa couples that both have income? Separate accounts then joint accounts? Separate accounts no joint accounts pero shared bills?

There are people who are saying that if you are not ready to combine your accounts then it means you are not ready to get married.

Of course labas sa usapan na ito nag prenup. I

Separate accounts, no joint account but my wife knows my ATM and CP password anyway. I don't know hers.

Never really had an argument about my "splurges" though she doesn't check my CC statement thouroughly so maybe thta's why there's never an argument.
Minsan lang sasabihi na tama na yan.

[Mask Rider Blac]

Just curious yung mga married dito or will get married. Ano setup nyo sa finance? Especially sa couples that both have income? Separate accounts then joint accounts? Separate accounts no joint accounts pero shared bills?

There are people who are saying that if you are not ready to combine your accounts then it means you are not ready to get married.

Of course labas sa usapan na ito nag prenup. I

Nung single pa ako, nag-monitor ako ng inflows and outflows. Then nung nagka-gf, in-adopt niya. Nung nag-asawa kami, nag-merge na kami ng monitoring. Ako taga-lista, then send sa kanya at month-end..hati kami sa lahat. Pero dumadami anak di na namin nagagawa ‘to. Sa ngayon, sa akin groceries (ako namamalengke), household expenses/utilities, fuel/maintenance, etc. Si misis nagmomonitor ng school fees, opportunities, etc.. Separate accounts kami..pero annually, gumagawa kami ng consolidated financials.

[dr. d]

Just curious yung mga married dito or will get married. Ano setup nyo sa finance? Especially sa couples that both have income? Separate accounts then joint accounts? Separate accounts no joint accounts pero shared bills?

There are people who are saying that if you are not ready to combine your accounts then it means you are not ready to get married.

Of course labas sa usapan na ito nag prenup. I

separate accounts.
it's more convenient to have separate accounts, so that we each may more easily track our ins and outs.
sa bayaran, unahan na lang nang bunot nang pitaka.
we do not quarrel over who pays what. what is important, is may nabunot na salapi.

[yubby24]

We have our own accounts also. Both of us parehong working. I pay for the utilities, si misis sa pagkaen.

[xwangbu]

Ako tiga-remit lang.
[emoji16]

We have a joint and separate bank accounts.
Me separate cards din.

[dreamur]

You mean you guys get to see your payslip and bank accounts???

Happy hearts day! [emoji3590] [emoji170] [emoji171] [emoji178] [emoji175] [emoji180]

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[Little Missy]

You mean you guys get to see your payslip and bank accounts???

Happy hearts day! [emoji3590] [emoji170] [emoji171] [emoji178] [emoji175] [emoji180]

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Diba yung wife mo accountant din but she didn't work so she can be a full time house wife? Tama ba recollection ko?

[dreamur]

Diba yung wife mo accountant din but she didn't work so she can be a full time house wife? Tama ba recollection ko?

Exactly. So she collects all the receipts, audits the books and reconciles the bank balances. I only get a monthly allowance. [emoji28]

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