How to Tell if a Man is Serious or Playing Games?

[uls]

Kwento ko lang uli yung face palm ko on their last meet up na the guy was telling her about his childhood and how his father treated him poorly. She cried then gave him a hug. I said NO NO NO. Why would she cry for him and initiate a hug. The guy wasn't even crying at his own story I thought she said mas gusto siya than mas gusto niya yun guy, but her actions contradict her words.

hahaha

pwede sana ung pabiro na "oh you poor guy lemme give you a hug... ayan ok ka na??"

kung ganun baka matuwa pa ung guy

pero umiyak siya???

wtf ang OA

Hindi kaya na OA yun guy kaya he ghosted her?

pwede

[uls]

cathy ang weird ng friend mo

[_Cathy_]

cathy ang weird ng friend mo

I still can't get over the crying for him part until now.

Gusto pa nga kitain ulit when he resurfaces para matanong na daw niya lahat. WTF. Have some dignity

Honestly, I can't imagine going through what that guy did to her. They've been chatting daily and meeting up consistently for a year and then he suddenly disappears, no argument or conflict. I'd probably suffer a nervous breakdown if a guy did that to me.

[_Cathy_]

The guy messaged just now. What should she do?

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[uls]

Honestly, I can't imagine going through what that guy did to her. They've been chatting daily and meeting up consistently for a year and then he suddenly disappears, no argument or conflict. I'd probably suffer a nervous breakdown if a guy did that to me.

sabi ko nga kahit walang label "relationship" nila parang siya may jowa

ung pag ghost sa kanya... the effect is equivalent to a breakup

Gusto pa nga kitain ulit when he resurfaces para matanong na daw niya lahat.

diba ang boyfriend pag naglaho... ang babae di maka move on... naghahanap ng closure

[uls]

The guy messaged just now. What should she do?

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jump for joy

haha

[_Cathy_]

sabi ko nga kahit walang label "relationship" nila parang siya may jowa

ung pag ghost sa kanya... the effect is equivalent to a breakup

diba ang boyfriend pag naglaho... ang babae di maka move on... naghahanap ng closure

Siguro ma pride ako kasi if that guy did that to me, I'm out na kasi I don't get much din naman

Imagine, one year back seat action/massaging each other and still the guy refuses to define what they are. Then in one of their conversations na she wants a child AYAW ng guy maging "DONOR" the natural way dahil friends sila. Parang ilang beses na nasampal pagkatao niya. No I love yous exchanged between them, dinner, or dates or any other effort.

Anyway, gayahin daw niya ko. I mentioned to her kasi na if a guy goes silent on me and messages again, I don't reply agad until he messages repeatedly OR gives me a good explanation on why he went silent. Ewan ko kung mag effect sa kanya

After everything, she still wants him in her life Naawa daw kasi siya sa past nung guy (just like how naawa siya sa past ko wtf) hahaha

[_Cathy_]

My friend got mad at me when I told her it's disrespectful to hang out at the backseat of the guy's car. She feels respected naman daw

Tapos napunta na sa because I get all the good guys. Wtf.

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[uls]

My friend got mad at me when I told her it's disrespectful to hang out at the backseat of the guy's car. She feels respected naman daw

baka di niya alam what's "disrespectful" sa context na yan

baka pagkaintindi niya basta di siya hinarass, she wasn't disrespected

di niya gets ung a guy who respects her would take her out to dinner or at least have coffee inside a coffee shop

hindi ung nagtatago sa kotse

she can't seem to read signals or interpret actions

the guy prefers they hide in the car and she doesn't wonder why (she doesn't get suspicious like "bakit parang ayaw mo may makakita sa atin")

or why the guy spends so little on her ("you ask me out and you only buy me coconut water? don't i deserve more than that?)

she has no idea she's already being disrespected

your explaining isn't getting thru to her

[uls]

cathy magkaiba kasi experiences niyo

ikaw you've been dating since your teens

meron ka experiences that you use as basis for comparison

like you went out with a guy who opened the car door for you, brought you to a nice resto, was a perfect gentleman throughout the date

you use that as a standard to compare other men you date

you know princess treatment from non-princess treatment

pero si he huang walang ganyan

she has no dating experience

she has no standard which she can use as basis for comparison

di niya alam she's already being treated poorly by a guy

pag may makadate siya dalhin siya sa wolfgang

di siya papayag uli sa car back seat date ni annulment guy

[dr. d]

as the saying goes,
"how do you know black, if you don't know white?"
how do you know you're already being mal-treated, if you don't know what good treatment is?

[uls]

how do you know you're already being mal-treated, if you don't know what good treatment is?

unless the maltreatment is so bad that she'll start feeling offended

like umabot na sa point of indecency

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sa kwento ni cathy the guy and the girl massage each other in the car

*cringe*

kung ako ung babae i'll think...

"coconut water lang nilibre mo tapos hawak-hawakan mo na katawan ko?!"

haha

[_Cathy_]

baka di niya alam what's "disrespectful" sa context na yan

baka pagkaintindi niya basta di siya hinarass, she wasn't disrespected

Ganun na nga, kasi naman siya tina take advantage daw

you know princess treatment from non-princess treatment

pero si he huang walang ganyan

she has no dating experience

she has no standard which she can use as basis for comparison

di niya alam she's already being treated poorly by a guy

Ang nakakadisappoint kasi bakit sakin siya naiinis, may sinabi pa siya verbatim "Lahat ng good men sinalo mo na kasi lahat" I guess it's because I cut off a guy na kaagad pag may hindi ako nagustuhan.

Si annulment guy, hindi nga aabot sakin yan sa meet up kung isuggest niya sakin yan coffee or tambay sa parking. I don't even accept last minute dates, yung tipong I'm in your area, can I pass by your house/pick you up later?

She always says nga pag nag kwento ako what a guy did for me "kung ako yan na inlove na ko". Vday last year the guy got her a small pack of chocolates tuwang tuwa na siya, but with my FRIENDS (not even dating) halos every meet up may little something din naman usually sweets nga

as the saying goes,
"how do you know black, if you don't know white?"
how do you know you're already being mal-treated, if you don't know what good treatment is?

I thought it was common sense, hindi pala

"coconut water lang nilibre mo tapos hawak-hawakan mo na katawan ko?!"

haha

EXACTLY! She needs to restrict access to her body

[_Cathy_]

What blows my mind is she still wants him in her life. He is still MARRIED and has NOT filed annulment. Tignan daw niya kung gagana yung gawain ko na I don't respond when a guy goes silent on me. So she is still manipulating (?) him into liking her. For me kasi these things are natural, it's out of self respect.

[uls]

Ang nakakadisappoint kasi bakit sakin siya naiinis, may sinabi pa siya verbatim "Lahat ng good men sinalo mo na kasi lahat" I guess it's because I cut off a guy na kaagad pag may hindi ako nagustuhan.

the more stories you tell her about how guys give you princess treatment the more envious she gets

kaya naiinis siya sayo

di niya matago ung inis

She always says nga pag nag kwento ako what a guy did for me "kung ako yan na inlove na ko".

kasi she never gets treated the way guys treat you

ikaw sanay ka na so it takes a lot to move you

ung bale wala sayo para sa kanya nakaka in love na

Vday last year the guy got her a small pack of chocolates tuwang tuwa na siya, but with my FRIENDS (not even dating) halos every meet up may little something din naman usually sweets nga

it's not everyday guys give her chocolates

[uls]

What blows my mind is she still wants him in her life.

beggars can't be choosers

[_Cathy_]

So my friend unmatched 5 footer, sakto naman nag resurface si Mr Annulment so magkikita sila later. I told her don't allow physical touching anymore and don't hang out na sa car.

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[uls]

looks like steady na niya si coconut water

kahit mababa ang matches niya sa bumble in 4 yrs, nakatagpo naman siya ng bf (pero walang label)

[_Cathy_]

I wouldn't even call that an MU? The guy did not answer when she asked what they were and when she joked na she wanted a "donor" to get pregnant naturally, the guy straight out said he can't do that to a friend.

Kanina nagkita sila past 12 am na. It's no wonder they could never have dinner and only hang out sa car. 100% of RESTAURANTS at BGC and Makati I know are closed by 12 am, majority are closed by 10 pm, some by 11 pm. Dilemma namin magkakaibigan yan na ever since the pandemic, restos close so early. Starbucks AFAIK, latest na 2 am in some stores.

She also makes herself available so easily. After getting cold for more than a month bigla na lang daw nag back to normal (everyday chat) It makes me wonder what happened in that time period?

Face palm talaga ako why she continues to allow this treatment

[uls]

pero if you look at it from he huang's point of view coconut water guy is the closest thing she has to a boyfriend

sino pa lalake kachat niya?

sino pa lalake kinikita niya regularly (kahit once or 2x a month)

parang shota na niya yan

maari para kay coconut water guy "friends" lang sila (more like side chick or backburner lang si he huang)

pero he's the only one he huang has

Face palm talaga ako why she continues to allow this treatment

because what's the alternative?

lonely siya sa condo

it's either magkita sila ni coconut or she has no physical intimacy

it's biologically driven