How to Tell if a Man is Serious or Playing Games?

[_Cathy_]

Ang problem nga daw nating nga babae, we are not delusional enough. We don't see our worth, we don't ask for more. Kasi if we elevate our self image, hindi natin tatanggapin yung disrespect and yung low effort.

Pero yung low self esteem wala daw sa edad or sa beauty. Meron mga model levels na mababa ang self worth. Meron naman daw average lang pero ang taas ng self worth that they don't tolerate disrespect.

I think your friend falls dun sa category na low self worth.

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That's true. Marami ngang magaganda na wala din self worth. They say it's mostly those that grew up without a father

Pero friend ko she grew up in a 2 parent household and her parents are still together naman, pero she takes so much BS from men.

Mind blown ako na she still wants to meet the guy. They kissed na and the guy still won't define what they are. Tapos all their meetups hangout in the backseat of his car. That's insulting.

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[Little Missy]

Imagine if women collectively raise our standard and restrict access to us, mapipilitan mga lalaki to get their acts together.

If walang pumapayag sa low effort dates, mapipilitan sila to take women on proper dates.

Eh kaso nga, there are women like He Huang who let themselves be a man's past time. There are pickmesias who shame other women for having standards to get men's approval and get picked. Kinampihan pa yung mga broke men na pabor sa ₱299 engagement ring. These women are agents of the patriarchy and are polluting the dating market. Mabuti pa onlyfans creators they make men pay. Eh yung iba they give themselves for low cost to almost free.

End of rant lol.

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[Little Missy]

That's true. Marami ngang magaganda na wala din self worth. They say it's mostly those that grew up without a father

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True. Kasi diba daughters get princess treatment from their fathers.

Yellow (or red?) flag din daw sa guy if he grew up without a father (or father figure). Walang nagset ng example sa kanya of how to be a man and how to treat a woman.

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[_Cathy_]

Imagine if women collectively raise our standard and restrict access to us, mapipilitan mga lalaki to get their acts together.

If walang pumapayag sa low effort dates, mapipilitan sila to take women on proper dates.

Eh kaso nga, there are women like He Huang who let themselves be a man's past time. There are pickmesias who shame other women for having standards to get men's approval and get picked. Kinampihan pa yung mga broke men na pabor sa ₱299 engagement ring. These women are agents of the patriarchy and are polluting the dating market. Mabuti pa onlyfans creators they make men pay. Eh yung iba they give themselves for low cost to almost free.

End of rant lol.

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Did you see the post shaming the "unattractive" woman for saying na she won't accept a P299 engagement ring tapos they were celebrating the "attractive" girl who said importante mahal siya. Kung sino pa daw pangit yun ang mapili, pero I watched the interview nun "maganda" parang walang self worth naman.

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[uls]

I asked her why they've never gone out for lunch or dinner and she said maybe schedule I said kung gusto may paraan.

haha schedule

ayaw nga ng guy sa loob ng starbucks

what more kung lunch or dinner in a proper resto

it's always buy a drink at Starbucks then tambay sa car

Bakit si He Huang parang ayaw ng guy to be out with her?

baka takot ung guy may makakita (he's married remember?)

o baka nakakahiya kasama si he huang

[_Cathy_]

True. Kasi diba daughters get princess treatment from their fathers.

Yellow (or red?) flag din daw sa guy if he grew up without a father (or father figure). Walang nagset ng example sa kanya of how to be a man and how to treat a woman.

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Dad ko sumobra naman kaya mataas standards ko when it comes to effort

Ang nasabi naman sakin na red flag are men with bad relationships with their mothers, as women with their fathers.

haha schedule

ayaw nga ng guy sa loob ng starbucks

what more kung lunch or dinner in a proper resto







baka takot ung guy may makakita (he's married remember?)

o baka nakakahiya kasama si he huang

I really don't get why they can't hangout sa Starbucks. Also, one year seeing each other and no lunch or dinner.

Married pero may iba na ata yung wife. Hindi naman super nakakahiya level si He Huang [emoji23]

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[LRTan]

Sorry for being blunt ha.. but if she's able to tell you that they've french kissed and massages each other inside the car... imagine what she's not telling you so you don't judge her too much. A married guy with experience and has access those those things won't be content with just massages and kissing... He's ghosting her now because he's probably found the next victim

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[dr. d]

I really don't get why they can't hangout sa Starbucks.

i can think of only one reason.
it is detrimental to someone of the two, if they were seen together in SB or Figaro or Mario or... even the mall!

[uls]

i can think of only one reason.
it is detrimental to someone of the two, if they were seen together in SB or Figaro or Mario or... even the mall!

yan din theory ko

ayaw ng guy may makakita

wala naman problema dun sa girl coz she's single

the guy's married (ongoing annulment daw... really huh?)

[_Cathy_]

Sorry for being blunt ha.. but if she's able to tell you that they've french kissed and massages each other inside the car... imagine what she's not telling you so you don't judge her too much. A married guy with experience and has access those those things won't be content with just massages and kissing... He's ghosting her now because he's probably found the next victim

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I suspect that too because she knows I am against premarital s3x. I hope they did not go beyond kissing kasi she is not a player naman. She's only had one BF in her entire life.

i can think of only one reason.
it is detrimental to someone of the two, if they were seen together in SB or Figaro or Mario or... even the mall!

yan din theory ko

ayaw ng guy may makakita

wala naman problema dun sa girl coz she's single

the guy's married (ongoing annulment daw... really huh?)

I asked her again if she thinks the guy is really hiwalay and she said may mutual friend sila on FB and the guy said before that she could always ask the mutual. She never did, but I told her she should find out para naman it's easier for her to cut him off. Kasi parang balak pa niya kausapin if he resurfaces, which I am sure he would.

She's not ugly naman para ikahiya to be seen out with

[uls]

^^^

you always talk about cutting him off

di madali para kay he huang

it's not raining men sa buhay niya

that guy is the only one who asked her out, the only guy she sees regularly

parang siya may jowa na walang label

cutting him off is like breaking up

mahirap para sa kanya yun

[_Cathy_]

^^^

you always talk about cutting him off

di madali para kay he huang

it's not raining men sa buhay niya

that guy is the only one who asked her out, the only guy she sees regularly

parang siya may jowa na walang label

cutting him off is like breaking up

mahirap para sa kanya yun

I'm shocked she stuck around even after she asked him what's the score (since they've been massaging each other for months) and he dodged it. I told her kasi to set boundaries, that if he can't define, then no more massages and hanging out at the back of his car. What happened instead was he french kissed her since they won't be "touching" each other anymore. WTF talaga. Ano yun last hurrah? BUT they still continued with the meet up and hanging out sa car

I also told her I asked the car guys what they think about her situation. Nung una kasi she gave me permission to ask (kaya I made a thread about her dilemma) but now she told me do NOT post na daw. I said hindi niyo naman siya kilala pero she is ashamed of her situation PLUS meron na daw siya new boylet/match Binata, walang anak, own business and 38 yo. I don't know lang how long they will last

BTW MR ANNULMENT IS SUCH A BETA. Apparently, the wife has a kid na with another man and they are living as husband and wife. Hindi pa rin niya inasikaso annulment. Its been over a decade. WHAT IS WRONG WITH HIM? Kuya ko nga walang third party pero inasikaso agad annulment, also the legal and financial implications. Unless walang assets yung guy? If I were a guy I would annul that woman so fast, she wouldn't know what hit her.

2 things:

1. He is so irresponsible/passive so pinapabayaan lang niya married status niya without thinking of the consequences
2. He just wants to stayed married

Who would want a guy like that?

When I tried out Bumble, I matched with a guy who was obviously for a modest background, but he got an annulment FAST. He caught his wife cheating and did not want anything to do with her. He set a portion of his salary and saved up for it. Honestly, that guy has my RESPECT.

[misseksaherada]

Nasasayangan ako sa time ng friend mo Ms. Cathy.. Kung sumubok na lang sya ng sumubok, kahit mag fail sya baka meron pa din sana mas better na dumating.. Grabe, 2 years na..
Parang mas ok pa mag-flirt at mag-fail kaysa 2 years na alam naman nya walang patutunguhan.. [emoji28]
Pero sino ba naman ako para mag-comment.. Time naman nya yung nasasayang.. Ending naman siguro meron sya matutunan..
Sana makakita sya ng lalaking magpapahalaga sa kanya..

[_Cathy_]

Nasasayangan ako sa time ng friend mo Ms. Cathy.. Kung sumubok na lang sya ng sumubok, kahit mag fail sya baka meron pa din sana mas better na dumating.. Grabe, 2 years na..
Parang mas ok pa mag-flirt at mag-fail kaysa 2 years na alam naman nya walang patutunguhan.. [emoji28]
Pero sino ba naman ako para mag-comment.. Time naman nya yung nasasayang.. Ending naman siguro meron sya matutunan..
Sana makakita sya ng lalaking magpapahalaga sa kanya..

Naghahanap pa rin naman siya and still using the dating app while going out with Mr Annulment pero wala lang talaga siyang ibang matches

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[_Cathy_]

Sabi pala ni Engr may fault din si He Huang kasi she allowed the FIRST meet up to go that way (hang out sa car) Tama nga naman, kasi it showed the guy that she tolerates that treatment. Engr calls it "backseat fun" haha. Then all subsequent meet ups for a year puro backseat fun. Personally, I find it disrespectful na hindi man lang ako i lunch or dinner or ipakita sa tao

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[dr. d]

Sabi pala ni Engr may fault din si He Huang kasi she allowed the FIRST meet up to go that way (hang out sa car) Tama nga naman, kasi it showed the guy that she tolerates that treatment. Engr calls it "backseat fun" haha. Then all subsequent meet ups for a year puro backseat fun. Personally, I find it disrespectful na hindi man lang ako i lunch or dinner or ipakita sa tao

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personally,
i find it strange, that the first meet-up be limited to the inside of a car only.
i would probably have walked out of the meet-up, that first time, never to return.

[uls]

PLUS meron na daw siya new boylet/match Binata, walang anak, own business and 38 yo. I don't know lang how long they will last

haha ok let's see if this one will ask her out

[uls]

Sabi pala ni Engr may fault din si He Huang kasi she allowed the FIRST meet up to go that way (hang out sa car) Tama nga naman, kasi it showed the guy that she tolerates that treatment. Engr calls it "backseat fun" haha. Then all subsequent meet ups for a year puro backseat fun. Personally, I find it disrespectful na hindi man lang ako i lunch or dinner or ipakita sa tao

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kaya nga

diba sabi ko he huang has no standards that's why she doesn't get princess treatment

why would a man put more effort into her when she accepts almost zero effort

[uls]

January 14, 2024

haha wtf ang tipid





beggars can't be choosers





yes girls like you na sanay sa princess treatment / who expect princess treatment will be insulted pag ang date sa likod ng kotse

your friend has never experienced princess treatment that's why her bar is set so low

wala siya bar

ganito pag ang babae may standards

[_Cathy_]

personally,
i find it strange, that the first meet-up be limited to the inside of a car only.
i would probably have walked out of the meet-up, that first time, never to return.

doc, I was the one who told her to INSIST on a neutral place like Starbucks. Their first meet up was super late in the evening, past 11 pm. The guy wanted to just hang out at her condo or at his car nga. Buti nakinig naman. She was even willing to go undertime so they could meet earlier

kaya nga

diba sabi ko he huang has no standards that's why she doesn't get princess treatment

why would a man put more effort into her when she accepts almost zero effort

She set a precedent na kasi on the first meet up

Kwento ko lang uli yung face palm ko on their last meet up na the guy was telling her about his childhood and how his father treated him poorly. She cried then gave him a hug. I said NO NO NO. Why would she cry for him and initiate a hug. The guy wasn't even crying at his own story I thought she said mas gusto siya than mas gusto niya yun guy, but her actions contradict her words.

Hindi kaya na OA yun guy kaya he ghosted her?