8 Signs Your Marriage Was Doomed From The Start

[kagalingan]

yan ang problema pag tingin sa life eh marriage magcocomplete sa kanila.

usually mga nag-iisip na dapat mag-asawa at mag-anak para may mag-alaga sa kanila pag tanda.

[BratPAQ]

I'm just wondering how could 2 people that married, had s3x and had children hate each other so much after separation.

I watched and read about tons of couple that separated and it's always na one person parang diring diri sa other. after the separation. I'm thinking how could it reach that point when they had s3x countless of times before things fell apart UNLESS one person settled lang talaga? I have a lot of friends that settled (admittedly). They chose the guy that they are not "in love" with but gave them stability and security, not financial, yung "mas mahal sila than mahal nila".

Even in real life, I know people that are hiwalay na parang sinusunog just hearing the name of the other. It's hard to imagine na at one point they were so in love with each other. Siguro I will only feel that way if my partner cheated on me with my sister (which I don't have) or best friend or relative.

Some people marry without really seeing the real personality of the person they are marrying. Puro maganda pinapa kita nila sa isa't isa. Then nung na "secure" na yung partner through marriage, saka lalabas tunay na ugali. Nung makilala nila kung ano talaga pinakasalan nila eh sukang suka sila sa tao na yun.

[uls]

yeah it not necessarily what your husband/wife did that made you hate him/her so much

like nag cheat

it's not that

it's more like discovering what kind of person you married pero tiniis mo nalang

then it builds up thru the years and you explode

[_Qwerty_]

that means hindi talaga nila mahal ang isat isa.. kung mahal nila.. they will make it work.. kahit ano pang pagkukulang ang makita nila..

[uls]

if you married someone like amber heard you're not gonna try to make it work hehe

[dr. d]

"i'll marry him, and i'm sure he'll change for the better."
nope.
it don't work.

[boybi]

Kaya siguro mas maganda ang bond ng magasawang magkakilala na since childhood? Alam mo talaga ugali from the very beginning. Wala maitatago from one another. You know each one's friends, relatives, etc.

[uls]

Kaya siguro mas maganda ang bond ng magasawang magkakilala na since childhood? Alam mo talaga ugali from the very beginning. Wala maitatago from one another. You know each one's friends, relatives, etc.

or even from the same high school

kahit hindi kayo magsyota noong HS, kahit di kayo close, magkakilala lang...

and you met again after college and start dating

it's likely the relationship will work coz pareho kayo background and very likely pareho values

[_Cathy_]

Some people marry without really seeing the real personality of the person they are marrying. Puro maganda pinapa kita nila sa isa't isa. Then nung na "secure" na yung partner through marriage, saka lalabas tunay na ugali. Nung makilala nila kung ano talaga pinakasalan nila eh sukang suka sila sa tao na yun.

Yun nga napansin ko yung sukang suka HAHAHAH! I am speaking from personal experience, sa relatives ko, s as in plural. Hindi hiwalay pero I have Aunties that can't stand their husbands. Aminado naman sila na they are together to avoid the complications of a hiwalayan, tiis tiis na lang. I only found out about this when I was an adult na. I guess my Aunts felt I was mature enough na they can make comments about their marriage na.

BUT BUT BUT I now understand why there are children that prefer their parents divorce kasi away ng away nung naranasan ko tumira sa Uncle and Aunt ko. They looked picture perfect outside pero sa bahay nanliliit ako sa away. I even got mad at my Mom for not warning me about it kasi hindi ako sanay sa ganun na environment

Kaya siguro mas maganda ang bond ng magasawang magkakilala na since childhood? Alam mo talaga ugali from the very beginning. Wala maitatago from one another. You know each one's friends, relatives, etc.

I guess extremes kasi I know a few (surprisingly mga kapatid ng friends ko) na HS sweethearts, biglang sumama sa iba yung isa after many years of marriage. Yung Kuya ng friend ko, ang masaklap yung babae sumama sa ibang lalaki at iniwan ang mga anak sa Kuya ng friend ko. I was shocked kasi ang cool ng Kuya ng friend ko and I GREW UP seeing them as a couple, I was a kid, mag BF GF na yun e.

Pero totoo yung mas okay na kilala mo from way back kasi you know the background/history.

I know a lot of people say na don't sh1t on your own backyard (no to office romance) pero sa office kitang kita mo din tunay na ugali ng tao.

[dr. d]

at times,
one is shocked at the outcome,
because one was not aware of the courtship.