LIVING-IN OR MARRIAGE

[gretzy]

which do you prefer?

do u believe in testing the water first before marriage??? do u think this will insure that ull have a better marriage? no separations?

[confused%@]

ok lang living in pag wala pang kids tsaka wala kayong problema sa finances.....

now if u wanted to invest on a house or house and lot....that's another story coz if u want to combine ur finances, loan officer would need ur marriage certificate as a requirement........

[mantoy]

as long as you love the guy/girl, live-in arrangement is okay if ur reason of not jumping into marriage is purely for financial reasons. but if ur reason is to have an easy way out when things don't go as you want, then i don't approve of it.

my 2 centavos. :wink:

[wreckless]

morally speaking..
marriage...

[pajerokid]

TRY BEFORE YOU BUY!!!!! :mrgreen:

[Kennon_road]

check mo muna kung productive baka baog he he,
just kidding, marriage siyempre, lalo na pag sa babae, sila lagi talo sa ganyang situation:mrgreen:

[sHoCkAbSoRbEr]

marriage of course

[zero]

marriage, para may blessings.
maraming benefits pa ito.

[Ungas]

My vote goes for live-in first. Though this won't guarantee a successful marriage after 10 years. Mas mabuti na yung nakikilala mong mabuti yung makakasama mo. Dun mo lang naman makikta ang tunay na ugali if you have been living with each other for quite sometime.

[happiman]

wag lang siguro gagawa ng baby ay pwede na din siguro sa, panahon ngayon, ang living-in. kung after three years of living-in ay gusto nyo pa din mag sama, dapat pakasal na kayo para you can start na contributing to human race :D

kasi after three na nag sasama kayo sa isang kama ....eerrr... sa isang bubong eh labas na lahat ang ugali nyo, masama man o mabuti. at saka makilala nyo na din ng husto mga ugali ng mga in-laws nyo kung dapat nga ba silang maging kapamilya mo o hindi. :roll:

at saka mahirap ang matagal na living-in. kasi baka pag naisipan nyo na hind pala kayo sa isa't isa eh lusyang na yung babae at tuyot naman si lalake. paano na yung susunod na gustong tumotoo sa inyo??? :mrgreen:

pero hindi guarantee na no separations kapag nag living-in ng three years or more :|

[_Cathy_]

This thread was started in 2003, almost 2 decades ago and I am glad that 90% of the response from male members are NOT in favor of living in because it's the girl that is at a disadvantage. I wonder 20 years after if the values of members remain the same.

I decided to post because my friend told me that the foreigner couple vlogger that moved to Manila a few years ago broke up already. I have not watched their vlogs for a long time so when I checked out their vlog explaining their break up I found out that they lived together for 14 yrs!!! I used to think they were such a great couple and an example that living in can work, but apparently you really don't know what happens behind the camera

I am SO AFFECTED and feel for the girl. I did a little research and found out that the girl was 21 when they got together and now she's 35. She spent her whole PEAK YOUTH and BEAUTY with her BF and now that she's 35, just when a woman's marketability in the dating market and fertility goes on a nose dive they break up?!? I don't think she had a college education, and the guy was her life since she was legally an adult. I'd probably want to die if that happened to me. How is she supposed to earn money aside from starting her own vlog? Money aside, it's your life revolving around one person and suddenly losing that person. It would have been better if they had a child together. I do hope she finds another guy SOON and he marries her. Honestly, 14 yrs and the guy never married her is already suspect. She looks older than her age now and thought she was 38 or 39 nga (caucasians age like milk)

Living in, the girl always has the shorter end of the stick

[dr. d]

may kilala kami,
living in and with child even.
kapwa ayaw mag-asawa sa isa't isa..
"what are you waiting for, guys!"

[dr. d]

THonestly, 14 yrs and the guy never married her is already suspect. :

what are you suspecting?

[_Cathy_]

may kilala kami,
living in and with child even.
kapwa ayaw mag-asawa sa isa't isa..
"what are you waiting for, guys!"

if they have a child together and been together for so long, it's for the protection and benefit of the partner and child to get married (benefits (SSS/GSIS), inheritance, insurance etc)

what are you suspecting?

I meant suspect as in doubtful. Hindi niya pinakasalan in 14 yrs, nakakaduda na yung love or commitment niya for the girl

[dr. d]

if they have a child together and been together for so long, it's for the protection and benefit of the partner and child to get married (benefits (SSS/GSIS), inheritance, insurance etc)


l

alas,
wisdom comes with age...

[ghosthunter]

pros & cons without morals thrown in...

live-in.

[Karding]

as long as you love the guy/girl, live-in arrangement is okay if ur reason of not jumping into marriage is purely for financial reasons. but if ur reason is to have an easy way out when things don't go as you want, then i don't approve of it.

my 2 centavos. :wink:

very well said mantoy 8)

[kuroy]

The Bible says we should marry so that we don't sin in this regard.

Tough one, but it's the right thing to do.

[jaspi11]

kasal muna, una kaslanan ang live-in, pangalawa kawawa naman ang girl kung gagawin testingan

[gretzy]

as long as you love the guy/girl, live-in arrangement is okay if ur reason of not jumping into marriage is purely for financial reasons. but if ur reason is to have an easy way out when things don't go as you want, then i don't approve of it.

my 2 centavos. :wink:

very well said mantoy 8)

agree din ako, and living in is indeed a good way of getting to know ur partner.