If I may sir, you may want to consider the Peugeot 3008 on your list as well. It's compact with a lot of extras. But if I were to choose from your list I would give the Audi q5 and the Volvo xc60 since the wife is part of the selection process. The BMW X3 in my opinion is a little bit over priced.

Both these cars are women friendly as my wife would say it.