Wedding Etiquettes

[Ms Homer]

kung formal, so PAGNAG-IMBETA KA siguraduhin mo na lang na ang iimbetahan mo ay mga formal guests nga. alam mo na iimbeta ka ba ng formal kung alam mong kahit barong di kaya nung tao. i doubt na gagawin mo yun.

can't blame the guest din naman kung di mo inindicate sa invitation mo ang gusto mo mangyari.

pero bakit guest ang pagtutuunan mo? its you and your better half's moment kaya enjoy na lang at pasalamat ka marami kang guest.

ngayon kung ikaw naman ang inimbeta, eh kung ano yung naka saad doon sa invitation card eh dapat sundin mo otherwise padala mo na lang gift mo [perang naka envelope] at di na lang dadalo but let them know na di ka makadalo.

[jnglzl9498]

Some of your responses are funny. Can't blame you guys for trying to stick with your imposed rules. Pero sana to those who will be married soon or plan to get married some time in the future, give your guests some slack. I had my reception at Shangri-la Makati and I saw some of my guests not wearing the proper attire, from my side and my bride's. May naka-maong, naka-hiphop (no offense to hiphops)etc... But I didn't care. Ang habol ko lang ay masaya ang lahat. Maraming glitch kasi nga wala ako sa pinas at pina-asikaso ko lang sa ate ko ang preparations sa wedding. Ang request ko lang sa guests ay walang mahihiya. Pag sinabing sayawan na, punta agad sa dance floor! Pag kailangan ng contestant, takbo agad sa gitna. Overall, It was the best night of my life!
OT: Ugali ng pinoy na magdaldalan o at di makinig pag may kumakanta o may speech, saka naglalabasan pagtapos kumain, kahit na di pa tapos ang program. O well, pinoy din ako kaya...what're you gonna do!

[MAXBUWAYA]

After all It's not about having the perfect wedding

But its about starting a new life. (which has ups and downs)

[_Qwerty_]

have had some friends na nag pakasal dito pero based sila sa abroad.. so sa invites nila nakalagay din yung instead of gifts eh money na lang kasi di naman nila madadala sa abroad yung mga gifts na ibibigay.. you just have to word it properly para hindi naman mukhang pera ang dating..

parang something like..

Your presence at our wedding is present enough.
But if we're honored with a gift from you,
A gift of money would certainly do.

OR

Cash or Kind -
We would prefer the former for we will
be migrating to Australia after our wedding.

OR parang poem

Our home is quite complete now, we've been together long
So please consider our request and do not take us wrong.

A delicate request it is, we hope you understand.
Please play along as it will give our married life a hand.

The tradition of a wishing well is one that's known by all,
Go to the well, toss a coin and as the coin does fall,
Make a wish upon that coin and careful as you do.
Cause as the well tradition goes your wishes will come true.

So on this special day of ours, the day that we are wed.
Don't hunt for special gifts for us but give money in its stead.
And as you drop the envelope with money great and small,
Remember, make your wish as you watch your money fall.

[mhelskie]

i had also experienced some of the things mentioned in this thread, July of last year lang kami kinasal and after the wedding, dami din kaming natutunan haha. 1st, Filipino tends to underdress a lot, so kung strictly formal ang nakalagay sa invitation, may mga dadating na naka semi formal, and worst, naka casual attire lang...and guess kung cno ang madalas hindi sumusunod sa dress code...yup, relatives! hehe, coz they think that they could get away with it dahil relative nman sila ng ikakasal, not thinking na they represent the families of the couple, nakakahiya kung inobliga mo ung mga guest mo to wear formal attires, tapos makikita lang nila ung kamag-anak ng bride or groom na naka maong.

It's also unethical that you will only attend the reception kahit kaya mong pumunta sa church...its frustrating sa couple na ang kinuha nilang church is good for 300 people pero pagdating ng ceremony e wala pa sa kalahati ung laman ng church. tapos dadating sila sa reception, and makikita nilang may mga nakaupo na at kumakain, tapos iisipin ng couple na parang hindi sila nagpunta sa church...kung tlagang hindi kaya umabot sa church, inform the couple personally, kse kayo din ang lalabas na parang unethical

[Galactus]

Originally Posted by Sarsi
this was what we did exactly during our wedding. at the bottom portion of the invitation, we put that phrase, also, we include " instead of gifts, we prefer monetary support from our guests to help us for our new beginning as a couple".

er... no offense po pero it's medyo frowned upon to put that it in the invitation.

Yup, I guess this is now the trend. Yung mga barkada ko at officemates na kinasal the past 2 years, may nakalagay na din na ganito.

Pasaway talaga ang mga Pinoy. I haven't attended a wedding na walang kasamang bata ang mga parents (guests), even if bringing of kids is specifically not allowed dun sa invitation. Once nga, may 2 tables akong nakita puro mga teens at bata. Seriously. Turns out, iisang pamilya lang pala yun. Sabi nung groom (officemate ko dati), ang inimbitahan niya lang is yung lalake (pinsan ng erpat niya), pero dinala lahat ng buong angkan! Although close daw yung lalaki at erpat niya (uncle nga ba dapat ang tawag niya dun?), parang di yata tama na pati yata apo sa tuhod eh sinama.

It becomes a major problem if you're working on a tight budget, tapos may unforeseen circumstances na ganito.

[mayana]

Dapende yan sa lugar.

Sa probinsiya namin (up north), ano'ng "wedding ettiquette"? Wala yan........ Magugulat ka na lang, yung mga tao nagsisidating di mo na kilala. Kahit sa malayong barrio, dumarayo. Basta nakarinig ng baboy na kinakatay sa madling araw, "music to their ears" yun! Maaga pa lang dagsa na tao. He-he!

Hahaha! Parehas pala satin sir chua eh. Hindi mo na kailangang mang-imbita dahil mga tao na mismo ang lalapit.

[cutedoc]

in chinese tradition or any other in the philippines, RSVP doesnt really apply

what beter thing to do is, contact your guest and ask or impose how many should atten the wedding, this way it would be more personal.

the attire depends on the venue of the church and the restaurant, dress appropriately, if it be a restaurant like a chinese lauriat style, smart casual is ok, on hotels, bigger and better hotel, like shangrila makati deserves a more formal attire.

[fourtheboys96]

bakit kasi yung guest ang pinagtutuunan mo ng pansin? ang bida sa kasal ay ang bride and groom, all others are just there as witnesses. ano ba kung dumating sila na hindi formal ang attire (malay mo di nakabili ng damit kasi bumili ng bonggang regalo para sa newly weds), or madami sila at wala sila maupuan kasi reserved ang seats for so many guests lang (malay mo naman sobra tuwa nila na ikakasal ka na at gusto nila maki-share sa hapiness nyo), or hindi dumating (nahihiya kasi wala sila regalo o pambili ng formal attyre na gusto mo, or sobra dami ng gusto pumunta kaya di na lang at baka magalit ka). basta yung ikakasal e happy, nothing else matters di ba.

eto din yung sinabi ko kay esmi days before kami ikasal.

wala na kami pake sa bisita basta ok at masaya kami.

isang ang hinayang ko. sana hinayaan ko na lang mag imbita nang mag imbita ang nanay ko kasi dami vacant seats.

[Flagg]

bakit kasi yung guest ang pinagtutuunan mo ng pansin? ang bida sa kasal ay ang bride and groom, all others are just there as witnesses...

Pasensya na bossing, pero yung topic, IMHO, is etiquette, not kung sino ang bida.