Need Legal advise or to those who have experienced this

[sauman]

how old na ba ang tatay mo? siguro mas mahabang pasensya pa kailangan mo kung talagang matanda na siya. Baka naman kulang kayo ng communication sa bahay niyo kaya nagiging ganyan ang attitude ng tatay mo sa inyo. Tama lahat ang sabi ng ibang tsikoteers dito, the best thing to do is mag -usap kayong lahat sa household niyo better yet mag invite kayo ng isa pang "elderly' na kamag-anak at mag -hingahan kayo ng sama ng loob sa isa't isa. Bago kayo mag-decide ng brother mo on legal matters ay pag isipan niyo munang mabuti pag ginawa niyo ito magiging -irreversible na lalabas ang away-away niyo sa bahay niyo at pag nagkataon you might regret making such a decision. After ng lahat ng ito Mag Open-Up kayo lagi sa tatay niyo para di na lumala pa ulit ang sitwasyon sa bahay niyo.

[pnay_fickle_minded]

yes better have an open-forum sa inyo.... nasasabi lang ng father mo yun, but deep inside di cguro totoo yun...ika nga tulak ng bibig kabig ng dibdib... Eversince ba pati nung mga kids pa kayo ganyan na sya? Cguro naiinsecure lang yun for some reasons... yung father kasi ng friend ko ganun, masyado pakielamero and insecure, wala kasi magawa sa bahay, hanggat sa napuno na ang pamilya, iniwan for awhile, pero naayos naman bandang huli. Maybe kelangan lang nga cguro bigyan ng space at ma-realized nya mga pagkakamali nya

[yebo]

Djerms,

i've been reading your posts and what i'm going to say is on one extreme of the problem, so please read with an open mind...

imho, i don't think talking will do any good. it will only invite more harsh words from your father, and posiibly even physical violence. there are such people who have so much hatred in them that they no longer think that other people are important too. i think your dad is one of them.

you, your siblings, and your mom better get out of the house before something worse happens. like fratricide. please pardon my directness, but families have been known to kill each other. it does not take much for verbal abuse to turn to physical violence.

your father needs to be left alone for him to realise that he is not the "god" of your family. when he feels the loneliness of living alone then and only then will he stop terrorizing your family. also he needs to know that all of you can live independent of him. it is entirely possible that he considers all of you as dependent on himself, that is why he considers himself as having the "right" or "karapatan" to treat you as he does. by declaring yourselves independent from him then this "power" that he feels over you will vanish. the only way to humble a king is to take away his kingdom so to speak.

i suppose you would not consider living in the province where the rent is much cheaper than in MManila since your siblings are in school. there are "old" apartments still available that rent cheap though. kung hindi knaman kayo masyado maselan then maybe this is the way to go until such time that you can sell the house and buy a new one. it's summer time so your brothers are on vacation. this will be the best time to move.

[1D4LV]

Originally posted by Djerms
Hindi ba pwede kasuhan kahit na hindi physical attack ang basis? Di ba pwede na un?

agree with yebo dun sa legal separation muna. definitely, your mom cannot sell the property without your dad's consent, if they are still married.

[artpogi]

me & Yebo share the same thought.

With all due respect Djerms, but the way you described your father and the situation, I think talking to him is not the best solution right now.

I still think that the best immediate solution to your problem is for you and your siblings to get out of there and get your own place before it turns ugly, especially now na nagsimula na umalma ang brother mo.

Sort of like cooling down period muna. Then once everybody has cooled down, then maybe you can all start talking about the problem/situation.

But I still hope that you and your family will be able to sort things out in the end.

Peace

[Djerms]

Yebo,
No offense taken sir. Actually, I appreciate your suggestions.

Artpogi, Happy, & Yebo:
It would really be easier for us to just get out of the house. The problem is the financial capabilities ng mom ko. Kaya naman siguro niya but nakakapanghinayang kung kakastos kami for paying rent.

Anyway, my mom already made an appointment with a lawyer nxt week. Ayaw na namin kausapin ang dad ko. Its up to his brother nalang siguro. Kung gusto niya umalis then that would be better. Kung ayaw niya, sa korte nalang siguro mag-usapusap.

Thanks po.

[pajerokid]

Sad to hear what's going on with your family life Nico..... no comments about the case though. Parang irerecommend lang kayo ng korte sa baranggay or sa counseling.

[OTEP]

Try solving this in the most positive way.

Medyo may hidwaan din sa aking family (though not with my nuclear family). Ang problema diyan is minsan ang mga ganyang away nag nakakaabot sa mga next generations.

Ngayon galit ang mga pinsan ko sa U.S. saken. Ni wala naman akong ginagawa. Nanahimik lang ako sa Pinas.

[wildthing]

Otep inggit sila sa pagiging Mr. Suave mo...he,he,he ...joke lang sir.

back to the topic...Djerms, sa totoo lang ganyan kahirap magpalaki ng magulang....that's the same reason why I bailed out of our home, the first time I got the chance...since that time I make my own house rules and my life was way much better.

mahirap kumontra kasi with out him, wala ka rin naman dito sa mundo....

IMO may psychological problem ang dad ninyo (could be work related) and kayo ang kanyang escape goat....kasi kayo lang ang kaya-kayanin ninya....if you can't take the heat...you've got to leave....else pati kayo magkakaroon na ng malaking psychological problem.

my 2 cents. peace.

[gretzy]

that's too bad, i cant imagine myself in the same situation actually.

you've mentioned "whenever your dad is around" , where does he go?

do u think ur mom will approve if u tell her to be legally separated from ur dad?