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[madball]

Why do some people get everything they want it their life? Their dream guy/girl, success, good health, family, luck and then there's us na lahat ng pain sa buhay sinalo na. I don't understand it at all. I am not a bad person naman.

Because they worked hard for it and used their brain.

[_Cathy_]

Because they worked hard for it and used their brain.

so I don't work hard and I don't use my brain?

Then how so you explain people who eat healthy and exercise regularly who get cancer or worse suddenly drop dead? That is their fault also?

I don't have siblings. Is that my fault or my parents fault?

I can't have my true love. Is that my fault also o agawin ko ba dapat siya?

[MR_BIG18]

so I don't work hard and I don't use my brain?

Then how so you explain people who eat healthy and exercise regularly who get cancer or worse suddenly drop dead? That is their fault also?

I don't have siblings. Is that my fault or my parents fault?

I can't have my true love. Is that my fault also o agawin ko ba dapat siya?

Cancer.....like doc said, genetics plays a big role..im also an only child..reason we were poor and i was sickly from asthma..they cant afford to have another child that is sickly...plus my mother needed to work abroad...that is nobody's fault ...only circumstances...

[_Cathy_]

First will be last....Last, first. Remember? Be a blessing instead of seeking it.[emoji120]

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I don't understand. I'm not asking for more blessings. I'm just wondering my life is full of pain and disappointments.

You just see the positivity in other people and all the negativity in you..
We have ups and downs on our journey,. It all boils down on how we deal with it.

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If you knew my life story, you would feel sorry for me. I don't talk about it because I don't want people to pity me. Naisip ko lang bata pa lang ako quota na ko sa mga pasakit sa buhay, but how come it does not stop? Diba they say, after the storm comes the sun? My sun never came. It's a never ending storm.

I saw sun when I met crush. But why did I meet my true love if I can't have him? Is it life adding insult to injury?

baka kelangan mo lang maging bad

I won't compromise my values just to get what I want.

Happiness is a choice. Maybe there are other things na meant for you. Dami nga dyan sa ilalim lang ng tulay nakatira.

We are still lucky pa nga compare to others.

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Yung mga nakatira sa ilalim ng tunay, pwedeng happy sila. A comfortable life does not necessarily equate to happiness naman.

I've lost hope na talaga. I doubt that I will meet another man that I will love as much as crush. Naawa na ko sa sarili ko, 18 mos and still cannot move on. I WANT to move on but I can't. I want this pain to end na. Natakot ako lalo magmahal dahil sa nangyari sakin. So might as well, wag na lang. I give up on trying to make things better. I'll just go through the motions. I think won't make it to 50 ys old anyway.

^ in my opinion even they happy and they get everything, on the other side hand there is Also a sadness and failure in their live's �� . Pero kawawa nga yung mga ibang tao na they can't feel the comfort of life [emoji853]

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Perfectly describes my life - failure.

[_Cathy_]

Yup true on genetics. May mga tao din na salaula sa katawan (puro bisyo pero haba ng buhay)

I was supposed to have 3 older brothers. Ang saya siguro kung buhay silang lahat.

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[papi smith]

Stay strong Cathy, we love you!

[minicarph]

I can't have my true love. Is that my fault also o agawin ko ba dapat siya?

nakasubok ka na ba ng albularyo, bat di mo pa gayuma

[Trippin]

Yup true on genetics. May mga tao din na salaula sa katawan (puro bisyo pero haba ng buhay)

I was supposed to have 3 older brothers. Ang saya siguro kung buhay silang lahat.

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In addition to what your other friends here have said, I suggest you get yourself an outlet like a hobby involving physical activity that you'd look forward to be doing.

I've had rough days at work and life too, but going to the gym and working out gave me a breather and have a more balanced view of what I can and cannot do in the situations that I've been in.

It is cliché but just walking or running help regulate one's hormones and mental activity, and can help you sleep better. Doing it the first few times is the hardest, but the rewards are immense and totally worth it. Doesn't have to be long, too, 15 minutes to half an hour already does wonders.

Joining groups (e.g., cross fit or spinning classes) will be more enjoyable and can make you forget the quandaries you're facing like they didn't matter.

I know I'd think of myself as miserable if I didn't work out, trust me it does help keep things in perspective.

Also, challenge yourself, try something different, don't fixate on people or things what you think will make you happy.
People leave. All the time. If by now you don't know that yet you're in for a big heartbreak. Only you can make you happy.

[MR_BIG18]

nakasubok ka na ba ng albularyo, bat di mo pa gayuma

Kailangan ng buhok sa batok at pawis na nakuha before 12noon for it to be effective

[minicarph]

ganun kuya big, dba pwede buhok na lang sa binti

[_Cathy_]

In addition to what your other friends here have said, I suggest you get yourself an outlet like a hobby involving physical activity that you'd look forward to be doing.

I've had rough days at work and life too, but going to the gym and working out gave me a breather and have a more balanced view of what I can and cannot do in the situations that I've been in.

It is cliché but just walking or running help regulate one's hormones and mental activity, and can help you sleep better. Doing it the first few times is the hardest, but the rewards are immense and totally worth it. Doesn't have to be long, too, 15 minutes to half an hour already does wonders.

Joining groups (e.g., cross fit or spinning classes) will be more enjoyable and can make you forget the quandaries you're facing like they didn't matter.

I know I'd think of myself as miserable if I didn't work out, trust me it does help keep things in perspective.

Also, challenge yourself, try something different, don't fixate on people or things what you think will make you happy.
People leave. All the time. If by now you don't know that yet you're in for a big heartbreak. Only you can make you happy.

That's why I am very guarded with my feelings and it hurts so much when a person I trusted leaves me. I find it so hard to function when I am depressed

I'm feeling double the sadness because my new crush who is my sounding board re crush, he is ignoring me for over a week now. I sent him two messages (which is effort me since I don't like making habol) asking him what is up with him, but he just ignored. I don't even know what I did wrong! I made him promise not to disappear on me, but just like crush, it looks like it's the same thing all over again.

Went out with my friends tonight and last night but my mind is on him. I feel so bad when I am rejected and ignored, it triggers my anxiety. Now I am trying to work to forget, but still my chest feels so heavy. Why are people so cruel

[minicarph]

pangit ka ba cathy sa totoo buhay? kasi lagi ka iniiwan eh, yun naman iba kwento mo dito mabait lang sayo pag may kelangan sayo pati German boss ginagamit ka lang para matapos project, tapos yun huli inutusan ka pa magbunot sa ilalim ng table ng plug kasi ayaw nya madumihan

ang napansin ko kasi may sarile ka interpretation sa mga acts and gestures mo sa every male na nakakaharap mo, pero sa point of view namin para wala naman eh, ikaw lang ata nagbibigay ng meaning and maybe there is where the problem lies, akala mo meron connection kayo pero it's just as it is, inutusan ka lang, sabay lang kayo kumain sa labas walang malisya walang chemistry

[_Cathy_]

pangit ka ba cathy sa totoo buhay? kasi lagi ka iniiwan eh, yun naman iba kwento mo dito mabait lang sayo pag may kelangan sayo pati German boss ginagamit ka lang para matapos project, tapos yun huli inutusan ka pa magbunot sa ilalim ng table ng plug kasi ayaw nya madumihan

ang napansin ko kasi may sarile ka interpretation sa mga acts and gestures mo sa every male na nakakaharap mo, pero sa point of view namin para wala naman eh, ikaw lang ata nagbibigay ng meaning and maybe there is where the problem lies, akala mo meron connection kayo pero it's just as it is, inutusan ka lang, sabay lang kayo kumain sa labas walang malisya walang chemistry

Yup pangit ako. Sino bang male ang parati kong nababanggit ditto? It's only crush, SO, office buddy and my boss. Minsan yun manyak ko na officemate.

I broke up with crush, the problem is he just accepted it, I thought he would fight for our relationship. Yung new crush ko, yun ang hindi ko alam bakit bigla na lang naglaho, kaya sobrang sakit sakin, I'm not used to people leaving me actually.

Yung German boss ko, wala naman kaming romantic relationship e Though he did tell me once, verbatim "what we have is special" I know he means we are friends and not just colleagues, kasi otherwise walang attachment boss ko sa mga staff niya. And I do know that he goes beyond his comfort zone for me (when needed). Last time we had to part ways, he rested his head on me and then we held hands, until it broke off kasi paalis na siya. Parang scene sa movie kasi umiiyak talaga ako. Ayoko ng mag justify dahil sa office kung ano ano ng naririnig ko sa mga kaibigan ko.

At definitely, hindi ako feeling maganda. Realistic naman ako sa looks ko

[minicarph]

oh well wala na tayo magagawa kung ganun na nga. kasi andali naman namin makuha mga guys, maganda ka, ***y ka, di ka na magtatagal na single, kung nag-commute ka naman, pwede din maging future husband mo nakasabay mo sa UV express

o kaya naman sa Toyota Casa pag pa service ka, kung maganda ka, maging pantasya ka ng service advisor or mekaniko. o pag nag-gym ka, may magpapakilala talaga sayo

so walang talaga na-experience ka na ganun sa buong buhay mo? have you ever been courted? in college, at least man lang nagkarun ka sana ng 4-5 suitors. one for every year or every class, kasi pag isa lang buong 4 years eh pangit ka nga

nahahabag naman ako sayo, para tuloy naalala ko yun hinihiraman ko parati ng CD nun college, parang ako lang ata guy nag-approach sa kanya nun. teka nga mahanap nga sa FB ko at ma-check ang profile nya

[minicarph]

I just checked, shucks single pa din sya, and she's still wearing eyeglasses. pero at least, yun last picture nya nasa sleeper train sya sa Europe with like 2 girlfriends. ni-like ko nga eh, kaya lang yari ako kasi parang last July pa yun pic, baka naman isipin nya nag-stalk ako , mali ata hayz. na notify kaya siya, baka pwede ko in unlike pa

[12vdc]

^^ Wala naman yan sa pangit o maganda, nasa pag uugali yan. Malaymo kahit pangit sya, masaya naman sya.

Ang sagwa din ng maganda dahil pinagpapantasyahan. Sabi nga ni Eddie Garcia kanina sa Ang Probinsyano, kapag nakita ng mga lalaking hayok sa laman ay dadami ang ipis.

[_Cathy_]

oh well wala na tayo magagawa kung ganun na nga. kasi andali naman namin makuha mga guys, maganda ka, ***y ka, di ka na magtatagal na single, kung nag-commute ka naman, pwede din maging future husband mo nakasabay mo sa UV express

o kaya naman sa Toyota Casa pag pa service ka, kung maganda ka, maging pantasya ka ng service advisor or mekaniko. o pag nag-gym ka, may magpapakilala talaga sayo

so walang talaga na-experience ka na ganun sa buong buhay mo? have you ever been courted? in college, at least man lang nagkarun ka sana ng 4-5 suitors. one for every year or every class, kasi pag isa lang buong 4 years eh pangit ka nga

nahahabag naman ako sayo, para tuloy naalala ko yun hinihiraman ko parati ng CD nun college, parang ako lang ata guy nag-approach sa kanya nun. teka nga mahanap nga sa FB ko at ma-check ang profile nya

I had long term relationships and I dated a lot in my teens up until my early 20s pero lahat FAIL. And that's one reason why I am so frustrated. Bakit may mga tao na they marry their first BF or GF, that was what I wanted for myself. I'm tired of all the heartaches.

Wala akong magagawa kung tingin mo sakin pangit. mataba at walang nanliligaw .

[minicarph]

kasi nga only anak ka, samin kasi mga guys pag nalaman namin yun automatic may apprehensions na kami and it becomes self-fulfilling prophecy.

tapos sabi mo nga hinde ka pa maganda, parang wala man lang pros. puro cons.

wag ka magalit ha, im just being blunt and direct kas

[_Cathy_]

kasi nga only anak ka, samin kasi mga guys pag nalaman namin yun automatic may apprehensions na kami and it becomes self-fulfilling prophecy.

tapos sabi mo nga hinde ka pa maganda, parang wala man lang pros. puro cons.

wag ka magalit ha, im just being blunt and direct kas

It's okay, mag enjoy ka lang putting me down if that makes you happy.

I don't think finding a partner is all about looks. If that that's the only basis, bakit ang daming pangit na may asawa?

Also, I can name several girls that are really good looking that are still single in their 30s, nakita na ni ULS yung isa and he agreed na maganda nga. Yung UF ko, who comes from a family known for their looks, mid 30s na when she had her first BF. So I don't believe that EVERYTHING has to do with looks.

[dr. d]

for carpy, everything is all about looks.
heh heh.