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[_Cathy_]

i have never laid hands on my wife, its funny when we talk about it now...its easy to shrugged it off, she is less than 5 feet...its easy to make conclusions if it hasnt happen to you, but the first thing i asked myself was, did i deserve it? yes i did, kulang pa yun...i just took it like a man and moved on, btw, that was years ago, after that we had conselling, then we joined a cell group of couples with similiar experiences...now para uli kaming new couple, trials like that when you go through it will make you better...

I don't think you are the type naman talaga who would hurt a woman. But I could definitely say that I am not capable of hurting my BF or husband. I have experienced abuse in my first relationship. I never fought back. It's just not me.

I think the most that I could do would be a slap on the face pero di ako marunong manuntok. My Mom even gets mad at me when I raise my voice on my BF or when I am being pushy. hehe.

[MR_BIG18]

Yes, that's why I said nothing personal. Cuz i don't know the whole story and it was only based your posts.

I'm thinking now, I guess the biggest mistake I would do to hurt the wife is probably to sire children from other women.




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i know bro, like what i said, we have a group right now, sharing our experiences helps others, may tinutulungan nga kami ngayon, the girl is a lawyer and her husband, yung girl ang naki usap sakin to talk to her husband, i just told her, pabayaan mo muna, if i talked to him, he'll just get mad at you, if its just libido, he'll come back, if may feelings envolve, no amount of counscelling will help, just hope for the best...

[MR_BIG18]

I don't think you are the type naman talaga who would hurt a woman. But I could definitely say that I am not capable of hurting my BF or husband. I have experienced abuse in my first relationship. I never fought back. It's just not me.

I think the most that I could do would be a slap on the face pero di ako marunong manuntok. My Mom even gets mad at me when I raise my voice on my BF or when I am being pushy. hehe.

kaw naman, my wife is less than 5 feet 120lbs, that time i was 250lb at 6 feet, slapping me wont get any response

[MR_BIG18]

i know bro, like what i said, we have a group right now, sharing our experiences helps others, may tinutulungan nga kami ngayon, the girl is a lawyer and her husband, yung girl ang naki usap sakin to talk to her husband, i just told her, pabayaan mo muna, if i talked to him, he'll just get mad at you, if its just libido, he'll come back, if may feelings envolve, no amount of counscelling will help, just hope for the best...

just to add, ok na sila ngayon, saw then at chruch last sunday...

[minicarph]

Im also with cathy and shadow, wives who are physical scare the sh!t out of me. Baka minsan pag gising mo putol na.

I think you should consider finding someone new


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If you are right, turn left.

[MR_BIG18]

Im also with cathy and shadow, wives who are physical scare the sh!t out of me. Baka minsan pag gising mo putol na.

I think you should consider finding someone new


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hell no, and replace my bussines manager that can cook also

[Jun aka Pekto]

Wow if me wife did the same thing I bet she have a brand new husband now.

Back then? I can't really blame my mom. My dad didn't exactly have a singing voice either. My dad seemed to take it well although I didn't know much of the politics at home because I spent most of my time outside.

My mom is very physical. She's pretty good with a machete and had killed a number of snakes that took refuge in our property (rainy season). No fear at all.

[_Cathy_]

It seems like ang tatapang ng mga asawa o nanay ng mga tsikoteers

[Jun aka Pekto]

Im also with cathy and shadow, wives who are physical scare the sh!t out of me. Baka minsan pag gising mo putol na.

I think you should consider finding someone new

Too late for me. Besides, I don't know if I really would want to marry a woman who was used to having a maid all her life. My mom wasn't and neither is my wife. My wife had to take care of her family's properties up in the mountains and forests. Not an easy life.

When we still lived in New York, there were a surprising number of Filipinas who lived in the rural areas. Their husbands tended to go hunting and fishing and/or farmed. Filipinas back then had a reputation for being very hardy. They didn't flinch at the sight of blood or the handling of disemboweled animals because they were food.

[_Cathy_]

Too late for me. Besides, I don't know if I really would want to marry a woman who was used to having a maid all her life. My mom wasn't and neither is my wife. My wife had to take care of her family's properties up in the mountains and forests. Not an easy life.

My Mom doesn't know how to cook or wash and iron clothes. My dad doesn't seem to mind, only my Lola does (dad's mom) hahaha


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[Jun aka Pekto]

My Mom doesn't know how to cook or wash and iron clothes. My dad doesn't seem to mind, only my Lola does (dad's mom) hahaha

That's to be expected. One side of Philippine society is the very comfy life. The other side is the more common and difficult. When I first moved to the PH, I had to adjust because I wasn't used to having a maid. It reminded me of slavery. So, I never really gotten used to it.

"What do you mean you're going to wash my butt? No thanks. I'll do it myself."

[_Cathy_]

You would be surprised that some homeowners are afraid of their helpers. Because they do not want to lose them they just let them get their way.

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[Jun aka Pekto]

You would be surprised that some homeowners are afraid of their helpers. Because they do not want to lose them they just let them get their way.

I don't know enough about hired help over there aside from my own experiences. My mom treated ours well. She had her own self-contained quarters/bathroom along with a TV and radio plus whatever she brought with her. She got time off for her own stuff. The one thing my mom didn't allow was bringing friends over. She can have friends outside. But, no one except her and her immediate family were allowed inside the property and that's only because my mom trusted them.

I asked my wife about her plans for the PH if we do move there. She plans to have hired help. But, they will be relatives who she will put through HS and college. They'll help around the house. But, they'll be more like family (which they are) who can come and go once their chores are done. I like that system better.

[minicarph]

hell no, and replace my bussines manager that can cook also

I can prepare/ cook my own food.
I have studied every emotional blackmail that women can hurl at us men,

I personally blame women why we men became weak and the entire society as a whole. There is no honor among women. I hope you remember this as you go along with your life and others here. there is no honor among women, this is the one that's gonna kill you later in life when you lost all that opportunity to be all that you can be.


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If you are right, turn left.

[CVT]

I don't think you are the type naman talaga who would hurt a woman. But I could definitely say that I am not capable of hurting my BF or husband. I have experienced abuse in my first relationship. I never fought back. It's just not me.
I think the most that I could do would be a slap on the face pero di ako marunong manuntok. My Mom even gets mad at me when I raise my voice on my BF or when I am being pushy. hehe.

Honestly,- you'll never know what you are capable of, until you're in that situation...

Kapag inu-ulol at dinedenggoy ka na ng asawa mo,- siguradong maghahalo ang balat sa tinalupan.... Tawagin na niya ang lahat ng santo at siguradong mata lang niya ang walang latay....

Agree though,- if you do not know how to punch,- don't. You will just hurt yourself....

Kick,- that is better and hits the point hard... And you should know where to hit....

i have never laid hands on my wife, its funny when we talk about it now...its easy to shrugged it off, she is less than 5 feet...its easy to make conclusions if it hasnt happen to you, but the first thing i asked myself was, did i deserve it? yes i did, kulang pa yun...i just took it like a man and moved on, btw, that was years ago, after that we had conselling, then we joined a cell group of couples with similiar experiences...now para uli kaming new couple, trials like that when you go through it will make you better...

I do not know your story bro,- but then from what I read from your posts, IMO, yes, I think you deserved it.

We marry with our Partners.

Our wife is our Partner In Life.

Wives do not play second fiddle.

It is good that she gave you another chance.

I hope you don't get mad at but I'm with shadow that nothing could ever justify physical violence. Kahit makabuntis pa ng ibang babae or mag uwi ng anak sa labas yung husband. And I know women who experienced those and never got physical with the husband.
Your wife is lucky to have such a patient and understanding husband

Aba, iba nang usapan kung nakabuntis na... It adds a different flavor and level of complexity in the situation/ relationship....

That is why wives should be very understanding if guys would spend countless time with the cars in their garage (note, nasa bahay lang at hinihimas ang mga sasakyan)... Dahil hindi sila mabubuntis.... for as long as the activity is not a family wealth pit....

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[MR_BIG18]

I can prepare/ cook my own food.
I have studied every emotional blackmail that women can hurl at us men,

I personally blame women why we men became weak and the entire society as a whole. There is no honor among women. I hope you remember this as you go along with your life and others here. there is no honor among women, this is the one that's gonna kill you later in life when you lost all that opportunity to be all that you can be.


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If you are wrong, turn right.
If you are right, turn left.

its obvious you dont backread, its was years ago and after counselling, we became councillors ourselves, our experience has helped countless of others...

[MR_BIG18]

Honestly,- you'll never know what you are capable of, until you're in that situation...

Kapag inu-ulol at dinedenggoy ka na ng asawa mo,- siguradong maghahalo ang balat sa tinalupan.... Tawagin na niya ang lahat ng santo at siguradong mata lang niya ang walang latay....

Agree though,- if you do not know how to punch,- don't. You will just hurt yourself....

Kick,- that is better and hits the point hard... And you should know where to hit....




I do not know your story bro,- but then from what I read from your posts, IMO, yes, I think you deserved it.

We marry with our Partners.

Our wife is our Partner In Life.

Wives do not play second fiddle.

It is good that she gave you another chance.




Aba, iba nang usapan kung nakabuntis na... It adds a different flavor and level of complexity in the situation/ relationship....

That is why wives should be very understanding if guys would spend countless time with the cars in their garage (note, nasa bahay lang at hinihimas ang mga sasakyan)... Dahil hindi sila mabubuntis.... for as long as the activity is not a family wealth pit....

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deserved is an understatement...another chance? its multiple chances...we share our experiences with others...couples at the end of their rope, most of them turned out ok in the long run...

[CVT]

deserved is an understatement...another chance? its multiple chances...we share our experiences with others...couples at the end of their rope, most of them turned out ok in the long run...

Bro.- and I guess, almost all of them were due to wayward husbands, right?

So, whatever happened if the wife were wayward? Or, such do not reach counseling at all?

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[Wh1stl3r2]

Forgiveness is hard enough on its own, trusting the person again is much more difficult. If physical abuse were all it took to forgive me I would've taken it too.

[shadow]

What I do if there's temptation. I'd put myself in the roomies place and see howd i feel if she's the one who'll go stray.

That will always brings be back and walk away.

Another thing just think about the sacrifes your roomies made, the fact they agreed to spend rest of their life with you is the biggest sacrifice they've done.

If I think about it. I wouldn't go out with someone like myself more so spend rest of my life with me.




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