should i confront her or not? need some advice

[gabriel knight]

thanks for all your advices and opinions. thank you for taking time reading the long post.

for those who want to know, our age gap is 11years

active pa yung friendster account niya and madalas siya mag login.

up to now hindi ko pa rin maintindihan bakit niya tinago sa akin na may iba pa palang siyang friendster account. the other night, i was helping her with her project and she needs to look up a friend hoping to see what company her friend is working at and she told me to use my friendster coz she had none. she could have use hers...maybe she got careless?

parang impossible na hindi siya gumawa ng account e. the way she looked dun sa picture ay latest niya yun. kaya i'm hurt kung bakit pa siya nakipagdate sa ex niya.

hindi ko alam kung she planned to give me her password para basahin sent folder niya aside from the project. i don't get why she would do that or what she will get out of it.

right now, i'm still very very confuse as whether to talk to her right away or observe things first.

kaya ayaw ko pa siyang iconfront, i don't know how to tell her that i read some of her messages in the sent folder that led me to the friendster account. secondly, the date sa pic ay nung 1st month pa namin and she did admit na she was not into me talaga that time although she gave a different reason. ayaw ko naman sabihin niya sa akin na, don't you see that matagal na yung pic at hindi ko man lang nacoconsider yung mga nagagawa niya ngayon. kaya i'm confused talaga.

lam niyo guys, kung hindi ko nahuli yung ginagawa niya, nafefeel ko na parang sincere naman siya sa mga sinasabi niya sa akin. like she's blessed to have met me. kasi madalas niyang banggitin kung ano mga negative stuff na ginagawa ng ex niya. i'm the complete opposite daw kaya she's very happy with me. we would sometime talk about our future like family and kids but when i found out about her cheating nagkaroon na ako ng 2nd thought and i was hurt big time.

the side of me na gusto siyang iconfront ay dahil ayaw ko nagsasayang ng oras. kung pinaglalaruan lang niya ako and in the end bibitawan rin then might as well end it asap diba?

uls, i'm not that insecure to asked for her email password. i'm helping her with her project, her groupmate is going to email her part to her but my gf is already tired and wants to take a nap. so she asked me to check her email so that when her groupmate email the project i could start already coz she might not wake up on time. and true enough she woke up morning na, buti nalang natapos ko project niya para may ipasa siya.

honestly, i don't get what you mean by i should be man enough and not stoop to guys her age. how can i do that when gf ko na siya and not in the courting stage tapos nakikipag date pa siya sa ex niya while in the relationship at may tinatago pa siyang friendster account. hindi ba parang she's cheating on me? could you please enlighten me.

[maykel]

kausapin mo na lang gf mo, ask her bout dun s friendster nya bakit ex bf nya pa din ang nasa picture w/ her. maybe she doesn't know na may friendster sya and baka yun ex bf nya talaga ang gumawa noon.

but if ma prove mo na niloloko ka nga ng GF mo, relax ka lang.wag ka pahalata na galit ka, mag smile ka lang and gaya ng advice ng karamihan dito, use her then drop her na lang, laman tiyan din yan. madami pa mas matinong pwede maging GF dyan sa tabi tabi

[outmap]

posible din namang di sya ang gumawa nung friendster account na yun.

[oldblue]

mahirap talaga ma-inlove sa tramp

[gabriel knight]

di pa niya ako pinapakilala sa parents niya dahil traditional and strict ang parents niya.

according to her, natatakot siya dahil pinagbawalan na daw siya magchat ng parents niya dahil ayaw nilang may nakikilala siya sa chat much more maging BF pa. ang alam ng parents niya ay school-to-house lang siya lage kaya magtataka kung san ako nakilala. ayaw niya humantong na malaman ng parents niya about us tapos ipaghihiwalay kami. kaya she's taking time daw for the right time na pwede na niya ako ipakilala maybe kapag may work na siya. dahil up to now bata pa rin turing sa kanya and she can't go out whenever she want.

on my part, napakilala ko siya sa dad ko, sa bro ko, sa ilan friends ko dahil seryoso ako sa kanya. i even had a heart to heart talk with my mom about this girl kasi ayaw ng mom ko sa inter-racial relationship. kaya seryoso talaga ako sa gf ko kaya kinausap ko mom ko. di siya ganon kasang-ayon but she's letting me be dahil buhay ko naman ito at gusto ko naman daw yun girl.

ginagawa ko part ko as a bf and to show her na i'm really serious about her.

regarding the friendster account, i don't think na bf niya gumawa nun. tsaka granting na bf niya gumawa nung account, yung itsura ng gf ko sa pic ay mukhang latest yun e. yun nga lang pwede magimbento ng date kung kailan nangyari yun. nakalagay na date sa dun ay nagsasabing nakipag date siya sa ex niya ng 1st month namin.

for some reason, di ko siya makuhang iconfront agad. usually, i know na kapag may ganon situation ay magrereact ako agad and confront the person pero for some reason there's something inside me that's stopping me. di ko lang alam kung dahil in denial ako, tanga o tama nararamdaman ko.

[BlueBimmer]

since super seryoso ka sa kanya, i think ang pumipigil sayo magconfront is takot ka maghiwalay kayo at mawala sya sayo.

[uls]

uls, i'm not that insecure to asked for her email password. i'm helping her with her project, her groupmate is going to email her part to her but my gf is already tired and wants to take a nap. so she asked me to check her email so that when her groupmate email the project i could start already coz she might not wake up on time. and true enough she woke up morning na, buti nalang natapos ko project niya para may ipasa siya.

honestly, i don't get what you mean by i should be man enough and not stoop to guys her age. how can i do that when gf ko na siya and not in the courting stage tapos nakikipag date pa siya sa ex niya while in the relationship at may tinatago pa siyang friendster account. hindi ba parang she's cheating on me? could you please enlighten me.

Mr. Knight, first, about the email password. Ok, so she gave it to u for that certain project. U should have stopped there. She didnt think u would snoop around. But u did coz the temptation was too great.

Now that u know what u know, and if u confront her about it, what will it make u look like? definitely not a secure, confident, trustworthy bf.

Instead of learning to love u more, u could be sabotaging her connection with u.

So what if she goes out with her ex. Ok that's cheating. But u know she's not over him yet. You knew that when u were courting her. It's her feelings and she can't turn it off like a switch. There's nothing u can do about it. I know u know that. You should have expected that. She carried her emotional baggage into your relationship.

If u confront her, will her feelings for her ex diminish? U could even push her closer to her ex if u give her emotional stress. Guess who will she call if she gets pissed.

Anyway, about the man thing. It's just my reaction to ur plan to confront her ex. Dont do that. Pagtatawanan ka lang ng ex nya. the guy knows ur gf still loves him. Ur probably older than him. Ur supposed to be more mature, cool and confident. A confrontation with her ex will make u look pathetic.

[MXFX]

seems you really like the girl, but my opinion is that you should move on. even if she end up with you, i bet you will never be sure about her sincerity after everything you found about her. at least on this thread, you get to see a 3rd and manyak point of view

ill say the same "dump her and move on" opinions posted here (and deep inside resisting to suggest the manyak opinion again about backdoor and add dirty sanchez).

you deserve better.

[claRkEnt]

Paging GS (GearSpeed po and not Glennster) !!! hehehe

Your advise badly needed here!

[gregg_g]

Hi Knight,

True Love is a mutual undertaking, and based on your account, you are not having one, she should be doing more, and if she can't, move on... or the least that you can do, confront her...

[GasJunkie]

True love does not equal 2 mos.







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Edit trunk of a car is a good place to.......:spider:

Edit2 all my internet girlfriends last name ends in jpg.....

[creepy]

Sa tingin ko... hiwalayan mo na. Don't think you'll ever be able to trust her.

[roninblade]

i think she's just confused like we all were when we were younger.

*gabriel knight, if you're serious about the relationship and if this situation really bothers you, talk to her. if confronting her is hard for you, give her a little bit of time and maybe she'll come around by herself and be faithful to you. if not, find somebody a little closer to your age, or at least graduate na from school, next time.

[ARB]

serious ka, but what if shes not? if you want to marry her and she said yes and when youre married na you will be the VP of the house in other words under ka sa kanya kase alam niya na takot ka ma wala siya, even if just bf-gf palang kayo takot ka na. you will be miserable the whole time. enjoy ka ba non? always worried ka if where she is if hindi siya naka text, magiging paranoid ka. sa huli ikaw kawawa. lalaki ka boss, show it be strong. enjoy her while you still can and look for another one that deserves you better. baka pang takip butas ka lang nya. then pag nagbalikan sila bye bye.